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The Real War on Women…

ATT00001 The Bible states the Anti-Christ will be without “natural affection for women,” always thought to be a “homosexual”. Well, could be, but some ministers now interpret that it very well could be everything THE KORAN has to say about UNNATURALLY abusing, degrading, punishing, torturing, and beheading of women—–UNNATURAL AFFECTION.  Turkey has purged itself of Christians and is 100% Islamic Muslim. Turkey is a Muslim country friend to Obama, Turkey is NOT a friend to the U.S. 

Muslims are beheading, torturing, enslaving and killing Christians around the world and Obama shows little if any concern.

Islam treats women like chattel lower than goats. Females undergo genitalia mutilation, so they will not be able to enjoy sex. Women are used as breeders. So, do you think Muslim women have any concern or choice over birth control that  Liberal women seem to have such concern over? Muslim women have no choice about anything.  Let this sink in, women are  lower than animals. They are considered chattel.  So not much compatibility for the women’s rights that Liberals, progressives and Democrats fight for… huh? 

What do you think would happen to a woman such as Mylie Cyrus under Sharia Law?

Under Sharia law:
– There is no freedom of religion.
– There is no freedom of speech.
– There is no freedom of thought.
– There is no freedom of artistic expression.
– There is no freedom of press.
– There is no equality of peoples —  a non-Muslim, a Kafir, is never equal to a Muslim.
– There is no equal protection under Sharia for different classes of people.
Justice is dualistic, with one set of laws for Muslims males and different laws for women and non-Muslims.
– There are no equal rights for women.
– Women can be beaten.
– A non-Muslim cannot bear arms.
– There is no democracy. since democracy means that a non-Muslim is equal to a Muslim.
– Our Constitution is a man-made document of ignorance, jahiliyah, that must submit to Sharia.
– Non-Muslims are dhimmis, third-class citizens.
–  All governments must be ruled by Sharia law.
 whitesummer2Radical Muslims think women should not laugh in public, should cover themselves completely,  all but their eyes, are only used for breeding and should have no pleasure during sex and if they are raped, it is the woman’s fault.
Every  woman that you see with her hair covered in the ‘Muslim way’ is under Sharia Law. They are not free… they are under Sharia RULE! They are under the RULE of Muslim men.
Love is not experienced. Love is not there between a  man and woman. Children are not concieved in love but in pain and torture.  Men do not experience the love, compassion, nurturing and kindness that is innate to the feminine because they cut it out, beat it out, stone it out. Hate it out! This practice hates, actually fears the feminine and the joy in a woman and this is from where the aggression and hate derives in  these men and their acts of violence. They know not love or joy because they destroy it. Islam destroys the heart of a woman for their use and destruction of her soul.
They are fearful of women, their desire for her, her sexuality, her beauty, her feminine ways,  so they destroy all that she is… to keep what they ‘think’ is powerful and in charge…
This practice is infiltrating America at rapid rate  under the Obama regime. Mosques are sprouting up everywhere. Mosques are where they prepare for war.  
Islam the real war on women and it is the worse oppression and evil that is on this planet.

I am exploding because the real haters are…

Bushsfault1Obama recently said in one of his usual lame speeches in his fake Southern drawl accent, “Now, don’t you Republicans be a ‘hating’ let’s get some work done.” Then he left for another of his tax-funded expensive vacations.

Who but a teenager, a liberal or a progressive even uses the word ‘hater or ‘be a hating”?  It’s lame.  It’s immature.  What president ever has used such insulting, lame,  juvenile communication? It is laughable were it not so insultingly pathetic.  It’s a well-noted fact, the age when someone becomes addicted, their maturity stops, explains much concerning Obama, and, of course, many others.

Those who call others ‘haters’ are only ‘projecting’ because they are the real ‘haters’. Obama hates Conservatives, Americans, Christians, white ‘folk’.  Obama hates America. Obama stands with those who hate America, namely ‘terrorists’, and he lies, cons, deflects and spins to do so,  while he squanders America’s money on everything he can think of including himself and his indulgent family. Everything Obama does shows what a ‘hater’ he  is of America and her people.  It’s the same con as calling someone a ‘racist’, if they don’t like Obama.

Obama and his ilk play juvenile word games to try and enforce through their creation of what’s ‘politically correct’, or not,  control of American’s thought processes, while it’s they who are the racists and the haters. It’s called brainwashing propaganda. Shaming one group while praising another, when the one being praised is the one that should be shamed. Good is bad. Bad is good. Right is wrong and wrong is right. We are living in the time of Leviathan… the evil that wraps an over abundance of communication in a fog of confusion and deception in which dirty deeds are implemented.

Obama whines if someone is a clown at a rodeo using his persona.  He’s a whiny, thin-skinned dictator. Now that most people see through his lies and con, he calls people haters.  It’s all the perverted, juvenile , crass, deceiver Obama can do, call names like some school-aged child.  While he uses his dog and pony show to deflect and take eyes off of the incredible damage that he is doing to the United States of America and all its people.
For example:  This is overt action by Obama to put the UN in control of the US… It’s called Agenda 21.. NWO to be all under the rule of the UN… http://online.wsj.com/articles/u-s-army-in-europe-to-get-german-chief-of-staff-1406819694

This guy Laubenthal is going to be Chief of Staff (a secretary) to General Campbell,  not a commander of US troops. This about Campbell: http://www.eur.army.mil/leaders/USAREURCommander.htm

This from Army Times (no mention of Hussein): http://www.armytimes.com/article/20140731/NEWS08/307310070/

Obama is weakening our military as fast as he can.

Oprah stated, “All the old white people marinated in racism need to die.” This statement is about as full of hate as any statement could be.

So who are the real haters? Obama and his ilk … all of them are trying to transform America into their image and that my friends is an ugly, ugly thing.  They are weakening, shaming, blaming, lying, deceiving every real America while they suck her resources for themselves or  give them away to our enemies, as they allow illegals, terrorists, and anti-Americans to enter and to govern us.

So I say Obama, Oprah, Pelosi, Reid and the rest of you are the haters
(I can’t believe I am even using this lame juvenile word but the ‘president’ does) who want to destroy America and make it like some form of a ‘hood’, turning us into a ravaged third world country How about getting out of America… you lying, stinkin’ America haters…

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Typical psychopathic behaviors and traits easily seen in Obama…

Psychopaths believe in their own greatness (Obama, ‘the annointed one’)

Psychopaths display arrogance not confidence but arrogance ( Just listen to Obama talk and watch him walk then that cheesy grin)

Psychopaths promise but don’t deliver (Obama has done this his whole reign)

Psychopaths crave excitement and want to live in the fast lane (Obama’s continual vacations, association with Hollywood  and rock/rap types, drugs, smoking, traveling to Saudi Arabia as a college kid with apparently no money)

Psychopaths get a thrill out of having their sex partners in close proximity,  or even to meet,  and even enjoy it if their sex partners fight.( There have been continual rumors of Obama’s sexual liasions, past and present with both sexes. Think of his public flirtations with the blond Danish woman while sitting next to his wife)

Psychopaths are interested in three things: Power, control and sex(Definitely describes Obama)

Psychopaths enjoy the thrill of dangerous sex(Bathhouse Barry)

Psychopaths try to make people feel sorry for them (Obama whining or targeting, when soneone makes fun, insults or disagrees with him)

Psychopaths can’t take criticism (Clearly Obama can’t. He whines and attacks anyone who stands against)

Psychopaths figure out what people want to hear and tell it to them (If you like your healthcare plan, you can keep it)

Psychopaths shower their targets with attention(All his fundraisers and dinners)

Psychopaths talk about “destiny.” (‘Hope and change’ transformation of America)

Psychopaths buy affection (Obama phones, food stamps, etc than ever before, benefits to illegals)

Psychopaths co-opt the target’s support system (Obama’s take over of most the media)

Psychopaths isolate their targets(Obama bad mouthing conservatives instead of working with them)

Psychopaths divide to conquer  (Playing the ‘race card’)

Psychopaths are bullies. They manipulate and threaten (Obama stated  he rewards his friends and punishes his enemies, IRS scandal)

Psychopaths sponge off of other people (Tax paid for vacations, continual fundraising)

Psychopaths ingratiate themselves with others( kissing up to unions, businesses and anyone else Obama can utilize for votes, support for his agenda, and, or for donations)

Psychopaths are great listeners,  in the beginning. They ‘pretend’ to care in the beginning, but can and often become cruel as it plays out

Psychopaths lie to deceive for agenda  and lie even when there is no clear reason(All Obama does is lie)

Psychopaths prey on people’s trust. They manipulate people by their individual human need to trust, to love or have empathy for others(Think the poor illegal children flooding across the border)

Psychopaths feel entitled to do what they want and to have what they want when they want it (Expensive vacations and playing while the world is in chaos)

Psychopaths convince or may even extort and threaten other people to illicit their defense of them (Think Obama and the media and his lame SNL-like spokes persons. He threatened to take Greta’s job if she continued to talk about Bengasi)

Psychopaths are overly nice in the beginning. It’s not until they ‘think’ they have their prey that their true colors are revealed (Obama’s second term, it’s clear he doesn’t care. He is busy playing and fundraising while chaos reigns. Obama is enforcing his agenda as fast and ruthlessly as he can)

Psychopaths will never admit to being wrong or owning up to mistakes and errors in judgment (Obama continually blames, deflects, and spins)
Psychopaths do all this with no remorse because they have no conscience. They only feign empathy and compassion as it suits them.
They mimic real human emotions. They don’t really feel anything. They are actors. (Think Obama and how he slides into talking with a Southern drawl when he thinks it will benefit him)
So when something appears too good to be true and when much is hidden ( as in better healthcare for all with less cost and pass the bill to find out what is in it) you are hearing the words/promises of a psychopath. They prey on the weak, needy and ill-informed.
So when you observe or hear things such as this… reflect, what is it that you are wanting, or needing from them, and is it even a possibility that they can deliver?  Many times, if  you use your intellect and intuition and not get  caught up in emotion, you will be able to see through a psychopath’s con.
Certainly, others on the public stage and  politicians fit this criteria. Hillary and Bill Clinton sure  do.

,Q˜ËŒUse this list on others on the public stage along with  those in your life to evaluate …

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Muslims said they will destroy America from within…

BarackIslam, not the Chinese , the Russians, nor the Mexicans represent the greatest threat to America and the world and might be the fulfillment of the book of Revelation in the Holy Bible. This is very disturbing for a Christian to read, but read it and become aware.

Adapted from Dr. Peter Hammond’s book: Slavery, Terrorism and Islam: The Historical Roots and Contemporary Threat

Islam is not a religion, nor is it a cult. In its fullest form, it is a
complete, total, 100% system of life.

Islam has religious, legal, political, economic, social, and military
components. The religious component is a beard for all of the other
components.

Islamization begins when there are sufficient Muslims in a country to
agitate for their religious privileges.

When politically correct, tolerant, and culturally diverse societies
agree to Muslim demands for their religious privileges, some of the other components tend to creep in as well.

Here’s how it works:

As long as the Muslim population remains around or under 2% in any givencountry, they will be for the most part be regarded as a peace-loving minority, and not as a threat to other citizens. This is the case in:

United States — Muslim 0.6%
Australia — Muslim 1.5%
Canada — Muslim 1.9%
China — Muslim 1.8%
Italy — Muslim 1.5%
Norway — Muslim 1.8%

At 2% to 5%, they begin to proselytize from other ethnic minorities and disaffected groups, often with major recruiting from the jails and among street gangs. This is happening in:

Denmark — Muslim 2%
Germany — Muslim 3.7%
United Kingdom — Muslim 2.7%
Spain — Muslim 4%
Thailand — Muslim 4.6%

From 5% on, they exercise an inordinate influence in proportion to their percentage of the population. For example, they will push for the introduction of halal (clean by Islamic standards) food, thereby securing food preparation jobs for Muslims.
They will increase pressure on supermarket chains to feature halal on
their shelves — along with threats for failure to comply.
This is occurring in:

France — Muslim 8%
Philippines — Muslim 5%
Sweden — Muslim 5%
Switzerland — Muslim 4.3%
The Netherlands — Muslim 5.5%
Trinidad & Tobago — Muslim 5.8%

At this point, they will work to get the ruling government to allow them to rule themselves (within their ghettos) under Sharia, the Islamic Law. The ultimate goal of Islamists is to establish Sharia law over the entire world.

When Muslims approach 10% of the population, they tend to increase lawlessness as a means of complaint about their conditions. In Paris , we are already seeing car-burnings. . Any non-Muslim action offends Islam and results in uprisings and threats, such as in Amsterdam , with opposition to
Mohammed cartoons and films about Islam.
Such tensions are seen daily, particularly in Muslim sections in:

Guyana — Muslim 10%
India — Muslim 13.4%
Israel — Muslim 16%
Kenya — Muslim 10%
Russia — Muslim 15%

After reaching 20%, nations can expect hair-trigger rioting, jihad
militia formations, sporadic killings, and the burnings of Christian
churches and Jewish synagogues, such as in:

Ethiopia — Muslim 32.8%

At 40%, nations experience widespread massacres, chronic terror attacks, and ongoing militia warfare, such as in:

Bosnia — Muslim 40%
Chad — Muslim 53.1%
Lebanon — Muslim 59.7%

From 60%, nations experience unfettered persecution of non-believers of all other religions (including non-conforming Muslims),
sporadic ethnic cleansing (genocide), use of Sharia Law as a weapon, and Jizya, the tax placed on infidels, such as in:

Albania — Muslim 70%
Malaysia — Muslim 60.4%
Qatar — Muslim 77.5%
Sudan — Muslim 70%

After 80%, expect daily intimidation and violent jihad, some State-run ethnic cleansing, and even some genocide, as these nations drive out the infidels, and move toward 100% Muslim, such as has been experienced and is on-going in:

Bangladesh — Muslim 83%
Egypt — Muslim 90%
Gaza — Muslim 98.7%
Indonesia — Muslim 86.1%
Iran — Muslim 98%
Iraq — Muslim 97%
Jordan — Muslim 92%
Morocco — Muslim 98.7%
Pakistan — Muslim 97%
Palestine — Muslim 99%
Syria — Muslim 90%
Tajikistan — Muslim 90%
Turkey — Muslim 99.8%
United Arab Emirates — Muslim 96%

100% will usher in the peace of ‘Dar-es-Salaam’ — the Islamic House of Peace. Here there’s supposed to be peace, because everybody is a Muslim, the Madrasses are the only schools, and the Koran is the only word, such as in:

Afghanistan — Muslim 100%
Saudi Arabia — Muslim 100%
Somalia — Muslim 100%
Yemen — Muslim 100%

Unfortunately, peace is never achieved, as in these 100% states the most radical Muslims intimidate and spew hatred, and satisfy their blood lust by killing less radical Muslims, for a variety of reasons.

‘Before I was nine, I had learned the basic canon of Arab life. It was
me against my brother; me and my brother against our father; my family against my cousins and the clan; the clan against the tribe; the tribe against the world, and all of us against the infidel.
— Leon Uris, ‘The Haj’

It is important to understand that in some countries, with well under
100% Muslim populations, such as France, the minority Muslim
populations live in ghettos, within which they are 100% Muslim, and
within which they live by Sharia Law. The national police do not
even enter these ghettos. There are no national courts, nor schools, nor non-Muslim religious facilities. In such situations, Muslims
do not integrate into the community at large. The children attend
madrasses. They learn only the Koran. To even associate with an
infidel is a crime punishable with death. Therefore, in some areas of
certain nations, Muslim Imams and extremists exercise more
power than the national average would indicate.

Today’s 1.5 billion Muslims make up 22% of the world’s population. But their birth rates are higher than the birth rates of Christians,
Hindus, Buddhists, Jews, and all other believers. Muslims will exceed
50% of the world’s population by the end of this century.

Well, boys and girls, today we are letting the fox guard the henhouse.
The wolves will be herding the sheep!

Devout Muslims being appointed to critical Homeland Security positions? Doesn’t this make you feel safer already?? Obama is placing Muslims in government positions on all levels.

Was it not “Devout Muslim men” that flew planes into U.S. buildings only 10 years ago?

Was it not a Devout Muslim man who killed 13 at Fort Hood ? (He killed “From within”)

Maybe this is why our American Muslims are so quiet and not speaking out about any atrocities. Can a good Muslim be a good American?
This question was forwarded to a friend who worked in Saudi Arabia for 20 years. The following is his reply:

Theologically – no . . .. Because his allegiance is to Allah, The moon
God of Arabia

Religiously – no. Because no other religion is accepted by His Allah
except Islam (Quran, 2:256)(Koran)

Scripturally – no. Because his allegiance is to the five Pillars of
Islam and the Quran.

Geographically – no. Because his allegiance is to Mecca , to which he
turns in prayer five times a day.

Socially – no. Because his allegiance to Islam forbids him to make
friends with Christians or Jews..

Politically – no.Because he must submit to the mullahs (spiritual
leaders), who teach annihilation of Israel and destruction of
America, the great Satan.

ATT00001Domestically – no. Because he is instructed to marry four Women and beat and scourge his wife when she disobeys him (Quran 4:34)

Intellectually – no. Because he cannot accept the American Constitution since it is based on Biblical principles and he believes the Bible to be corrupt.

Philosophically – no. Because Islam, Muhammad, and the Quran do not allow freedom of religion and expression. Democracy and Islam cannot co-exist. Every Muslim government is either dictatorial or autocratic.

Spiritually – no. Because when we declare ‘one nation under God,’ the
Christian’s God is loving and kind, while Allah is NEVER referred
to as Heavenly father, nor is he ever called love in The Quran’s 99
excellent names.

Therefore, after much study and deliberation. Perhaps we should be very suspicious of ALL MUSLIMS in this country. – – –
They obviously cannot be both ‘good’ Muslims and good Americans. Call it what you wish, it’s still the truth. You had better believe it. The more who understand this, the better it will be for our country and our future. The religious war is bigger than we know or understand.

Can a Muslim be a good soldier???

Army Maj. Nidal Malik Hasan, opened fire at Ft. Hood and Killed 13. He is a good Muslim!!!

The Muslims have said they will destroy us from within.

BarackObama stated, ” The future does not belong to those who insult Islam.” Obama’s approval rate with Muslims is 72%. Obama protects terrorists. Obama is allowing illegals, gangs and terrorists to flood our county.  Obama is dismantling our Constitution. Obama lies continually.

“An ignorant people is a blind instrument of its own destruction.” Simon Bolivar

A man leads a relationship….true of false?…

???????????????????????????????And if he is corrupt, crooked, a liar, or weak, he can lead it off its path and onto the road to hell…

Is it even possible for a woman to lead a relationship? Sure there are weak men, but a woman can’t create it on her own and she can’t make a man love her and do the right thing for them both. Sure she can encourage, support and be his cheerleader… but in the final outcome… it is a man who creates a relationship for the good or not….

Agree or not?

Now I understand that a woman can do things that destroy a relationship also…

But in the final result.. there will and can be no relationship if a man doesn’t lead.

Is this why we have so much divorce, broken homes and messed up kids? Because many men these days aren’t up to the challenge and responsibility of a relationship, commitment, and life with responsiblity to another or others….?

I think so…

As a man leads and a woman follows… that’s the basic nature and natural order and when we go against it… it just doesn’t work out as well. Sure it can be done… but the outcome is not sympathico as it is when a man leads and a woman follows..

And saying this, a man needs a woman as much as a woman needs a man. Just because he leads doesn’t make him ‘better’. It makes him have more responsiblity to the woman that he loves….more on his shoulders… that is if he is a real man.

And many men these days just don’t seem to ‘get it’  and their not getting it is causing the downfall of  society.

As a woman, if your man can’t lead, won’t lead, doesn’t lead, find another…. you are better off alone than with a leech, a loser, a con, a follower, a liar, a man without direction, a man who can’t love, a man who is all about himself, or his sports and activities, an addicted man, or a selfish man…


A selfish man does not make a good lover, partner,  friend or father.


Women protect and guard yourselves from a man who can’t lead….and, or one who will lead you and your relationship off the road and into a ditch…. 

I would not want anyone’s life, but my own…

59bday2I am content with who I am, what I have, and the life that I have been given with all the experiences in it. I am an individual created from my environment, genetics and blood lineage from ancestors.

And ladies and gentlemen, I have been through one heck of alot… and only by and with the grace of God landed on my feet and smiling…

I have been so low that I thought I would not survive. My second husband whom I loved dearly was an alcoholic.

When we met, he was an executive with an oil company in the eighties. Then oil crashed, he pared down and got into real-estate, but it was a rough emotional ride. His partner in the oil business committed suicide. While we were dating, I got pregnant and had an abortion (the most difficult and wrong decision of my life) About Abortion…

We sailed at the lake, partied and had a great time while dating. I was building my interior design business. But after we married and life ‘became real’ … his drinking became too much for me to handle. He would lose his car, sleep in his office, and once, when I was helping one of my designers write up an order, while sitting at our dining room table, out of the corner of my eye, I saw my drunk husband wearing his business suit, crawling down the entry hall towards us. It was continual drama and chaos with this man and I detested it.

He promised to stop drinking, tried, failed, then tried again. Finally, I could not handle it any longer and I kicked him out of the house by court order.

Doing this broke my heart … I cried, cried and cried.(think Diane Keaton in ‘Something’s Gotta Give’, but about 10 times more) I sat on the floor of his closet with his perfectly lined up suits, just so many inches apart (Mr. GQ was emphatic they be such) and whaled in my suffering (but even in my intense pain, I had the awarness that I was fortunate to be able to feel and to love so deeply).

I filed for divorce and during this time discovered that I needed emergency surgery to have an ovary removed. I was frightened into the core of my being and wondered if this was punishment for my having an abortion. I did want to have children and….

What should have been a relatively uneventful operation turned into a nightmare. The physician cut an artery and I lost a very large amount of blood. I had not signed a release to be given blood because it was during the time that AIDS was being discovered in the blood reserves. And the doctor told me that I didn’t need to ask my family to donate blood because the operation would not call for it. But it did.

During my recovery, I was so weak that I could barely walk across a room. I was used to being a fit as a fiddle ballet dancer and instructor. And now, I went out for an ice cream cone, it exhausted me. I was weak, going through a divorce and so alone… so alone….so, so, so alone.

During this time, one night, I was lying in bed, feeling as down as I have ever felt in my life, weak, like a failure, too tired to work, looking liked death, thin, pale weak and felt worse than I looked, broken-hearted, aching and wondering what was to become of me.

I don’t recall, if I was reading the Bible, or had it on the bed near me. But resting back on pillows filled with intense pain, I felt a cool breeze blow directly and purposefully through the middle of my chest near my heart. At the same time, I felt love fill me up in such comfort that I can’t put it into words, I jumped up and searched to find where this cool breeze came from…no windows were open and there was no source that could have created this.

I rested back into bed, but felt differently. I felt relieved, comforted, and my energy for life was re-emerging, as much as I was perplexed concerning what had occurred. I had an innate knowing that it was a message from God, my angels, guides, someone of comfort to let me know that all will be okay.

I picked up my Bible and it opened to Psalm 27… The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? … While I read the passage, the knowing of what occurred became anchored solidly into me. It continued to sustain me through my time of healing and even to this day, I have the imprint of this memory as a comfort.. as a sure knowing that I am not alone.

I have written two books. This is a small piece in the story of the second one. The first one I am readying and will be sharing excerpts with you soon….

Some people, these days,seem to want to be someone else. They are envious of the life they ‘think’ others live, instead of being who they are. But no one really knows what goes on in the lives of others no matter how it may appear on the outside.

Your life is yours, an expression of all that you are and will become. It is what makes you individual unto yourself. All that you experience is for the growth and healing of your soul. Be not envious of others. Be glad of who and what God has blessed you with to experience. None of us are the same… we are all unique individuals…and each life has its unique path with blessings, trials and challenges…

(My ex-husband, sobered up, is sober to this day. and we remain friends. He told me that my decision to throw him out, was the wall that slammed him into himself.)

From the shallows to the deep end of desire..

,Q˜ËŒThe thing about crushes is we tend to fill in the blanks regarding what we don’t know about the object of our desire.  To change a crush into  a real relationship that is more fulfilling and enduring, here are some helpful hints:


Off of the Pedestal

Crushes are a combination of fantasy and reality and are fed by internal desires that are place on the person. As you get to know that special someone better, crushes begin to morph into something more substantial by accepting their strengths and weaknesses. As a result, they are no longer on this unattainable pedestal of perfection, but become real people with faults just like everyone else. It is on this equal footing that a real relationship can begin to grow into something mature and lasting.

Testing the Waters

There are subtle signs to give that you are interested in something real and that can  take the relationship to the next level. Flirty secret smiles, prolonged eye contact, and brief physical touches during conversations are just a few ways to let it be known you’re interested in stepping up the intimacy. Planning events—which by their nature call for a certain amount of emotional and spiritual intimacy—is bound to move things along more quickly. For example, a sunset supper on the beach on a balmy summer evening provides a beautiful intimate setting devoid of the noise and chaos of dance clubs and movie theaters. Your aim is to build a closer bond by sharing the deeper parts of your being, thus creating a sense of familiarity built on trust, caring, and acceptance.

From Physical to Emotional

Crushes are often fueled by lust, and stem primarily from a physical attraction, whereas love is an emotional attraction to another person. Feelings of love come from seeing someone for who they are inside and out, as you explore every aspect of each of you and how you fit together as a couple. Physical attraction is a great part of a loving relationship, but it cannot be the only strong feeling you have for him or her.

Selfish or Selfless?

Crushes are often selfish, reflecting your desires for the “perfect man” and usually obscuring the reality of who he actually is, faults and all. True love means putting the person you “love” first, accepting him for who he is and loving him despite his flaws and imperfections. As you get to know him better, you will begin to see him as he truly is, and accepting all sides of him is one of the best ways to prove your love. This also means laying all of your cards on the table, the good with the bad, showing him all of what you are and proving to him that you love him enough to be vulnerable with him.

Fleeting vs. Everlasting

Since crushes are inclined to be built on whimsical desires, as you change, so do your desires. Whereas certain qualities you bestowed upon the idea of him when you first met were once important to you, as your outlook and priorities shift, you may discover you are no longer enamored with these traits and behaviors. Or, as he exhibits certain behaviors which do not live up to your idealized image of him, your crush is likely to diminish. With true and everlasting love, the longer you know him, the more of life you experience together, the more you are impressed with what you see and the deeper love grows.

Love, Lust or Addiction…

Annstairs2bQuestion? Why do I feel so sexually and emotionally tied to a man I’ve been dating for a little over a year (more on than off). He’s with me and then he’s not. He always comes back around to tell me he misses me, and I give in to him. What’s wrong with me? Why am I so addicted to him?

 Response:

In order to understand this dilemma, it’s essential to understand that relationships are formed for the purpose of defining self… And in relationships dealing with pair bonding and mating, the stakes can get very high as biology and ardent physical chemistry take a firm hold. It’s advantageous to know this truth of our reptilian selves, because at the end of the day, instinct drives the species and the fundamentals are always in play.

 

You want this man for a few very basic reasons. First, you’re sexually well matched. Your bodies are in sync on some very sensual levels. This is a potent component indeed. However, it isn’t the only reason you find yourself being so compliant with a man who comes and goes as he pleases. Unfortunately, the fact that he treats you like you’re less than he, is what attracts you. He makes you a lower priority, thus elevating himself which appeals to your biological instincts. After all, it’s the natural objective of the female to mate with a male of superior stock. Not a lesser… Not even an equal. What constitutes that superiority will vary from culture to culture, age to age and woman to woman, but the principal remains the same.

Men are creatures of nature, too, but they don’t really care if a mate is their equal or superior or what. They’re as prone to sleep with one beautiful woman as another, because to them all that really matters is that they capture and subdue their conquests. They will sleep with many and cut most of them loose at once. Yet some, the good ones, they will try to imprint, to keep them around for future mating. This is what your man is doing with you. You’ve been fairly easy prey for him.

Each time you sleep together, you’re being imprinted by him in a territorial cycle. At first, he did it just a little here and there, to test your boundaries. He quickly realized that his game works well with you.

No matter how horrid his behavior, you always take him back and the bedroom door swings wide open. As a sexual predator, he knows that if he was kind to you and stayed with you night after night, he’d lose his allure and that bedroom door would close.

As things are now, you’re his to control. Every time you take him back and give him sex, you hand over your power. If you think there’s any chance for you to change the situation, I’m afraid you’re very much mistaken. The very foundation of your attraction to this man lies in his mistreatment of you.

You can’t really do anything about the fact that you desire men who make themselves aloof and superior. Nature sort of has you cornered there. My only advice for you would be how to avoid this situation in the future.

You can change unwanted patterns by employing a realistic knowledge of yourself. Next time, he comes around, keep the bedroom door shut. Go off him cold turkey, and get him out of your system and get him out of your life. Either that, or embrace the fact that you’re really into having sex with him and accept the relationship for what it is. It’s your choice. Whatever you choose, don’t expect him to change. He won’t!

Women, the power is in you not the man. Men know this, that is why they con, test boundaries and say what women want to hear. When you realize this, your life will change. You decide if and when, you give your wonderful womanly powerover to a man and my advice is to raise yourself above basal nature.

Now a self-actualize man, while still feeling nature’s pull will rise above the basal. So wise women will look for this type of a man and pull away from the lowly predator…

You teach people how to treat you… and predators are always testing…it’s in their nature.

Seven Deadly Sins…

???????????????????????????????“Woe unto them that call evil good and good evil; that put darkness for light and light for darkness.” (Isaiah 5:20)

THE SEVEN DEADLY SINS ARE:

#1 – PRIDE – which makes one feel superior to others, is totally wrong. This sin was Lucifer’s downfall! The Bible says, “Pride goeth before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall”. (Prov. 15:8)

#2 – GREED –  has caused more wars and created more gangsters and promoted more theft than any other sin.

#3 – LUST – is the desire for something not lawfully yours. A sensual desire for the forbidden fruit! It includes an inordinate desire for power, control, sex, substance abuse or wealth. Lust always brings spiritual death.

#4 – ANGER or HATRED – causes high blood pressure, ulcers, violent confrontation and even murder!

#5 – GLUTTONY –  is an over indulgence in eating. A phobia or inordinate desire to eat food, even when one is not hungry. A good rule is: Eat to live, not live to eat! A day of fasting & prayer each week does wonders for us – spiritually & physically!

#6 –ENVY – will also cause the blood pressure to rise and the demons of jealousy and pride to fabricate lies and even fantasies in a person, given over to this wicked sin!

#7 – SLOTH – goes hand in hand with laziness and poverty.

What happens when vice is virtue and virtue is vice?

When people lack morality, honesty and virtue, society crumbles. Great nations are not conquered, they rot from within.

Look at what is being done to and done in America and the world these days.

The 7 deadly sins are being promoted on every front, Hollywood, Entertainment, politically…’They’ are using the 7 deadly sins to corrupt and destroy. The 7 deadly sins are running rampant today… out of control.

Look to yourself, how you live and how you think…it’s your  way to healing…

The Seven Deadly Sins…

Is the difference between good and evil becoming more apparent and pronounced? I have people sharing with me that it is and I have noticed it also. That many are seeing evil intent in those that they once thought were of good intentions. That some people are showing their true colors …. that the seven deadly sins are rearing their evil heads in the clarity and intention of what they are loud and louder in our world. 

Deadly Sin
Opposing Virtue
Brief description
Pride
Humility Seeing ourselves as we are and not comparing ourselves to others is humility. Pride and vanity are competitive. If someone else’s pride really bothers you, you have a lot of pride.
Avarice/Greed Generosity This is about more than money. Generosity means letting others get the credit or praise. It is giving without having expectations of the other person. Greed wants to get its “fair share” or a bit more.
Envy Love “Love is patient, love is kind…” Love actively seeks the good of others for their sake. Envy resents the good others receive or even might receive. Envy is almost indistinguishable from pride at times.
Wrath/Anger Kindness Kindness means taking the tender approach, with patience and compassion. Anger is often our first reaction to the problems of others. Impatience with the faults of others is related to this.
Lust Self control Self control and self mastery prevent pleasure from killing the soul by suffocation. Legitimate pleasures are controlled in the same way an athlete’s muscles are: for maximum efficiency without damage. Lust is the self-destructive drive for pleasure out of proportion to its worth. Sex, power, or image can be used well, but they tend to go out of control.
Gluttony Faith and Temperance Temperance accepts the natural limits of pleasures and preserves this natural balance. This does not pertain only to food, but to entertainment and other legitimate goods, and even the company of others.
Sloth Zeal Zeal is the energetic response of the heart to God’s commands. The other sins work together to deaden the spiritual senses so we first become slow to respond to God and then drift completely into the sleep of complacency.

What is the deadly sin that ‘gets’ you the most? Mine is anger… when I am confronted by phonies, lying, cons, sinning, and duplicity… I tend to flip into blind anger…instead of being able to confront it in myself and the situation in a calm manner. I am working on this…

What are you aware of to work on and to transmute in yourself?