Do the strongest people have the ….

???????????????????????????????…softest hearts? Is this true? It’s something I have always heard… and recently a dear friend reminded me of this.

Does a hardened-shell, many times, protect a soft interior…?
Is this almost a necessity, in that, a person who has a soft caring heart must become strong, in order, to protect themselves from possible devastating harm? But someone who ‘appears’ and ‘acts’ (with ‘act’ being the operative word) soft and caring might really have a hard, cold heart…and be able to do much damage to others…and it not bother them one bit…

The goal being to be soft and caring, but strong internally and to protect your soft and loving heart… for those who have one..

Are those who really love and love the deepest, the ones, that get hurt the most?

I think so. What do you think…?

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“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.”

???????????????????????????????Is this quote by Anais Nin accurate or not? It sounds plausible. It sounds interesting. BUT! I have only gotten into harms way when I thought people where being as honest and as true as I was. When I saw things as I am, I was WRONG! When I saw things as I am, I, often times, got screwed over.

It wasn’t until I had lived much life with enough experiences to realize that most people are not truthful, honest, or kind. They may ‘appear’ kind, if they are after something.

After enough pain, I woke up to be able to see clearly… both the good and the bad in people. Then my life became even more honest, in that, I could see behind motives into intent. I saw and realized that most people are not as I am.. I saw what was real, not what I hoped it was, or how I idolized it to be…

I could see through the facades…

So my take on that quote is that in many instances, it is BS! NewAge BS…

Like the saying, ‘You attract what you are.’ More BS! Can it be true at times? Sure! But not always…

Psychological projection or projection bias is a psychological defense mechanism where a person subconsciously denies his or her own attributes, thoughts, and emotions, which are then ascribed to the outside world, usually to other people. Thus, projection involves imagining or projecting the belief that others originate those feelings.

So, if you are good you can see others as also being good and be completely wrong… it is not just about the projection of negative traits…as most seem to think.

Projection reduces anxiety by allowing the expression of the unwanted unconscious impulses or desires without letting the conscious mind recognize them. And this usually relates to your negative traits… huh?

According to Sigmund Freud, ‘projection’ is a psychological defense mechanism whereby one “projects” one’s own undesirable thoughts, motivations, desires, and feelings onto someone else.

‘Emotions or excitations which the ego tries to ward off are “split out” and then felt as being outside the ego…perceived in another person’.  It is a common process. The related defense of ‘projective identification differs from projection in that the impulse projected onto an external object does not appear as something alien and distant from the ego because the connection of the self with that projected impulse continues’.

Example: A person might have thoughts of infidelity with respect to a spouse. Instead of dealing with these undesirable thoughts consciously, the subject unconsciously projects these feelings onto the other person, and begins to think that the other has thoughts of infidelity and that the other may be having an affair.

In this way, the subject may obtain ‘acquittal by his ‘conscience’ – if he projects his own impulses to faithlessness on to the partner to whom he owes faith’.  In this sense, projection is related to denial, arguably the only more primitive defense mechanism than projection, which, like all defense mechanisms, provides a function whereby a person can protect the conscious mind from a feeling that is otherwise repulsive.

Projection can also be established as a means of obtaining or justifying certain actions that would normally be found atrocious or heinous. This often means projecting false accusations, information, etc., onto an individual for the sole purpose of maintaining a ‘self-created illusion’.

While engaged in projection, individuals can be unable to access truthful memories, intentions, and experiences, even about their own nature, as is common in deep trauma.

Freud in my opinion has some validity as do many… but…

As you grow and become to see and recognize others’ perceptions, desires and motivations, both the good and the bad… then you can really see who the person is…

What another says or does may or may not have anything to do with you. And it’s wise to see them as they are, not how you ‘perceive; them to be. That way you are more able to protect yourself from harm…

FYI.. I have read a ton of Freud… And I say … BS!  Good try form maybe, back in the dark ages of psychology/psychiatry. In my opinion, we are much more complex than Freud saw or had the ability to figure out. Just how messed up were Freud and Jung? Were they ‘projecting’ who they are onto the world of psychology/psychiatry?

‘Projection’.. is used often times as an excuse when truth is being seen. I have had people tell me that I was ‘projecting’ when I was seeing exactly who they are… and they were ‘trying’ to deflect it away from themselves…

Have you ever had this happen? I am extremely self-reflective… and people who try to ‘claim’ that I am ‘projecting’ usually make me laugh outloud…

What do you think, is this an accurate quote? “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.”

It is all temporary…

sofatownhouseC5I have experienced the lowest of the lows and the highest of the highs…and they are both the same…

I have flown in private jets then have gone hungry… These are both just experiences and only that…

God is there through it all, takes care of us, guides us, prods us, challenges us, and is part of the experiencing of it all.

If you experience all good, you won’t know the bad… if you only experience the bad, you won’t know there is good on the other side…

On earth, it is all temporary…everything is temporary…
Your ‘good’… will not last and neither will your ‘sorrow’…

I have been blessed to experience it all. I hope that you have also. But where ever you are now, know that it is temporary. So genuinely feel where you are in order to experience it fully. This is the purpose and the why of your being where you are…to feel…to experience…to know…

And to understand that whatever it is that it is temporary…

Even your body … it is temporary…

Everlasting is somewhere else for those who know truth and believe…

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What makes you want to pull out your hair?…

???????????????????????????????What about someone turns you off and away?

What are the major flaws that make you alarmed or even crazed?

What about a friend will make you decide that they are a friend no more?

What is it about a family member that will make you decide that it is better to not ever be around them again? That they are too toxic for words…

What is it about someone that has you pulling out your hair and to finally realize that it is not worth your effort and, maybe, it’s to your harm, even detriment to associate with them any longer?

I am seeing and experiencing that many people these days are cutting their losses with people and cutting people out of their lives that aren’t good for them, are hurting??????????????????????????????? them and who have the potential to even be disastrous to their well-being. Many these days seem to be saying I am not putting up with it any longer… I know I am.

I only want people of like mind, morals, values, ethics and standards in my inner circle. Anyone else is not for me…

Liars, adulterers, cons, bullies, the falsely ‘religious’, the greedy, sociopaths, etc… BA BYE!!!

So what is it that will lead you to make the decision to cut someone out of your life? What are the flaws major or otherwise that you will just plain not tolerate any longer?

What if all you had was your soul…

???????????????????????????????What would you have…?
Your soul is your most precious commodity … it is what defines you, holds you together and keeps you sound and solid. It is you.

People today, including the government, some in ‘churches’, businesses, cons, predators, etc. want to capture and collect souls. In fact, it is their goal. And this goal is certainly not for good. It is for evil.

Protect the essence of who you are… protect your soul.

“Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man: But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it
is finished, bringeth forth death.” James 1:13-15

There is a space of time between when a person sins and the time a person does evil. During that time we can stop ourselves from the doing of evil. We cannot live above sin, but we can prevent it from becoming evil.

1. Sinful people can administer justice; evil people cannot administer justice. Asinful man can get forgiveness for his sin and then properly administer justice. A man who is part of a conspiracy, who plans to do evil, who is bent toward doing evil, and plots and prepares to do evil is so torn up by prejudice that he will not be able to administer justice. You cannot be just if you are evil. You can be just if you are sinful.

2. Evil is sin when it is finished. Feelings of anger are sin but when the decision is made to destroy someone with that anger it becomes evil.

The Bible says that “sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.” Allow sin to become evil and it will eventually turn in upon yourself.

When you lose your temper, that is sin; yet, it will not destroy you. When that anger turns into a plot to hurt someone, that becomes evil and will bring forth death to your joy, your testimony, your effectiveness and your blessings. All of this happens when sin becomes evil.

3. Sin left alone will eventually become evil. When you realize that you’ve sinned, confess it and ask God to forgive you, and then forsake that sin. If you leave that sin unconfessed, it will fester and will eventually lead you to evil. That is what happened to Absalom after 40 years.

4. You have a period of time after you sin before you become evil. There is a time between your initial anger at a person and the time you want to hurt him. If you lose your temper and hit somebody, that is sin, but it is not evil. Evil is plotted or planned. Evil will sooner or later come if you do not have that sin forgiven. God allows you an amount of time between the act of sin and the time that sin progresses to evil.

Protect your soul. What would you be without it? And someday it will be all that you have.

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Curses or blessings….

Once upon a time, there was a young boy who lived with his father in a small house. Almost every evening he would hear his father say: “Poor me. I will die a sad old man because you are a fool and will never amount to anything.”

But the boy was not a fool, in fact, he showed a lot of wisdom for his age, and he had a generous heart. One day, after helping a widow stack wood, he was about to go home, when she stopped him, and placed her hand on his head, while speaking these words. “You are a reflection of the face of God. The world is brighter for the joy you have given me this day. I bless you my child.”

The boy stepped back, amazed: “What was that?”

“Why, it was a blessing my child, Haven’t you ever received a blessing before?”

Back at home he asked his father: “Papa? Why do you curse me? Why don’t you bless me instead?”

“Bless you? It is against my nature. Poor me. I will die a sad old man because you are a fool and will never amount to anything.”

“Oh” said the boy, and he felt sorry for his father. That night he decided that no matter how uncomfortable it felt, he would become the kind of person who blessed others. And so he did.

The boy grew to be a man, left his father’s house, and built a home for himself. He had a family of his own. He was still ‘haunted by the curses’ of his father, but he decided to bless. Almost every evening, he would call one of his children to him, lay his hand upon their head and speak these words:

“You are a reflection of the face of God. The world is brighter for the joy you give me this day. I bless you my child.”

One evening, there was a knock on the front door, and as he had raised his children to do, they welcomed in a blind-beggar, and gave him some food to eat. The man walked in and immediately recognized it was his own father, but he chose not to reveal his identity. Instead, he listened to the old man speak. The old man talked about how he had lost his eyesight, and how he’d been forced to beg in a world where life was hard. Then one of the boys spoke up: “Grandfather! You’re welcome to stay here with us!”

“But I have no money to pay you.” said the old man.

“Oh, we don’t need any money; all we ask is that as long as you stay here, you speak only blessings. – What’s the matter?”

“It…it’s against my nature to bless.”

“Grandfather, I can tell by your hands that you have worked hard your whole life. So, begging must be against your nature as well, but see, it has brought you here to us.”

The old man couldn’t argue this point, so he agreed to stay, but it was weeks before he spoke a word – it was so against his nature to bless. And when he finally did, you could hardly hear him: “What’s that Grandfather?”

“I said, bless you for taking an old man in from the cold. I wish my son had turned out like you, but he was a fool and…”

“Ah! Grandfather, remember speak only blessings.”

“Well, I wish my son had turned out like you! Bless you!”

This wasn’t bad for a first blessing. And a week later, he spoke another one and it was a little smoother. Then he began to bless every day — in fact, many times in a day. You could say that blessing became… second nature to him. The more he blessed, the more he smiled. The more he smiled the more his heart softened. And the more his heart softened, the more joy he began to experience; a different kind of joy than he had known before.

They lived happily for years, until one winter the old man fell ill, and was near death. As his breathing grew labored, his son sat on his bedside and asked: “Grandfather, is there anything I can get for you?”

“No one can bring me what I most need at this hour.”

“Please Grandfather, anything! What would you like?”

“I should like to see my own son once more to give him my blessing. As he was growing, I gave him only curses. I told him it was against my nature to bless. And, as you can see, I have learned to bless too late…”

His son leaned closer and whispered: “Papa! Papa it’s me, your son… I am here. It is not too late. God has seen fit to bring us together in these last years. It’s not too late! I’m here… I’m here!” And they embraced. A moment later, the old man straightened up, stretched out a trembling hand, laid it upon his son’s head, and spoke these words:

“You are a reflection of the face of God. Though I cannot see you with my eyes, I see you with my heart and the mercy you have shown me these past years is like a brilliant light, dispelling all shadows as I pass from time into eternity. I will die a happy old man, because I have learned to bless and so…my son… I… bless you.”

With these words, his hand fell back down to his chest and he died with a beautiful smile on his face. Just then the wind became very strong outside and he got up to close the shutter, as he heard an ancient voice: “Eternity shines brighter for the joy you bring me this day. I bless you my child.”

Then the wind died down and everything became peaceful in the countryside and in the heart of the young man. – Author unknown –

The way a parent interacts with their children can/will create the child’s image for the rest of their lives. It’s their legacy that they will carry in their heart forever. A curse can ‘sometimes’ become a blessing as abuse and evil can be turned around by some to become the opposite. But most times, it will create a heavy heart that will lead only to pain and destruction, both internally then externally  into the world.

What do you want/wish to be carried in the hearts and lives of those you love, curses or blessings?…

This is my first Father’s Day without my Daddy…. but I have felt his energy around me allot lately… Happy Father’s Day!!!

Matthew 6…Do Good To Please God…

 ???????????????????????????????Take heed that you do not do your charitable deeds before men, to be seen by them. Otherwise you have no reward from your Father in Heaven. Therefore, when you do a charitable deed, do not sound a trumpet before you as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may have glory from men. Assuredly, I say to you, they have their reward. But when you do a charitable deed, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, that your charitable deed may be in secret; and your Father who sees in secret will Himself reward you openly.
I was at a church service that bastardized this passage up one side and down the other. They bragged, boasted and made excuses for a man whom they ‘claimed’ followed Matthew 6. But had he really, how would they know? Men who really follow Matthew 6 do not reveal it… This ‘church’ was ‘using’ this in ‘their agenda’ to explain why a man of vast resources had squandered much of it away. 

Did this man help others? Yes, and he also did harm. He was a man with his good and bad traits… as we all are. He was a braggadocios, arrogant man who, at times, had a kind heart and, at others, was cruel to his core even abusive. He was an alcoholic, a womanizer, worked hard and played hard. He lied, cheated, gave and took away…

A part of his reason for charity to others was that he liked to feel like the ‘big’ man, the ‘big shot’ and be in control of people…give to someone and most people will feel beholden to you. That gives the giver a degree and feeling of power over someone else…Giving has that aspect to it when it is given in the ‘wrong’ way and that is why Matthew 6 is so relevant and important to remember its true meaning and purpose.

Also, this man was too susceptible to flattery. People would flatter him and he would ‘think’ that they ‘cared’ about him. He was a terrible judge of character, preferring the sinful over those with character, preferring those who lie to him over those who told him the truth.  He didn’t like to be alone and he practically paid people to be around him… as in women… whorish types gravitated to him…. and in business deals in his later years people took advantage of him with promises of grandiosity and great wealth.

Some in this ‘so-called religious’ practice on earth preyed, ‘prayed’ on and used this man for ‘their’ purposes and also took credit personally when it was about Christ and not them. Listening to this service offended me into my core.

It hurts my soul when I experience things such as this…as in Oprah who does good deeds then tells everyone about it, to ‘try’ and ‘prove’ how ‘good’ she is. Who is she trying to convince and why?
There is much evil hiding in ‘so-called’ good these days… one good deed hiding many of another sort…
A pure thought can become easily corrupted by evil for its own agenda and propaganda… Many hiding in the mantle of the church are just that, ‘hiding’, who and what they really are…
The Model Prayer — “And when you pray, you shall not be like the hypocrites. For they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the corners of the streets, that they may be seen by men. Assuredly, I say to you, they have their reward.

But you, when you pray, go into your room, and when you have shut your door, pray to your Father who is in the secret place; and your Father who sees in secret will reward you openly. And when you pray, do not use vain repetitions as the heathen do. For they ‘think’ that they will be heard for their many words.
Therefore, do not be like them. For your Father ‘knows’  what’s in your heart and the things you have need of before you ask Him. In this manner, therefore, pray:

Our Father in Heaven, Hallowed be Your name. Your kingdom come. Your will be done. On earth as it is in Heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, As we forgive our debtors. And do not lead us into temptation, But deliver us from the evil one. For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.

For if you forgive men their trespasses, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
Man is trying to take over the purity of God and make it over in ‘their’ image and for their own agenda of rule, dominate, gain and control. And this is highly apparent today. Look at Rev. Wright, Sharpton, Jackson, etc., the many churches large and small enticing and tantalizing for donations, the televangelists  giving you daily encouragement to ‘give’ to ‘them’. Remember, Jesus threw them out of his church…
Follow God, not man. Any man or church that tries to manipulate for gain and agenda… see it for what it is… usury of the word….

And this is not of God…

Years ago, I went to see a traveling preacher that I was told about by an acquaintance with whom I discussed spirituality.

I was the only white person in the room full of blacks. The man talked, preached, called people up to the front, and put his hands on them as they fell back to the floor, some wailing and others in a trance. Some ran around the room in a frenzy waving their hands, wailing, shouting, and howling to the Lord…

I sat quietly and observed. The preacher then motioned for me to come up to the front along with a few others. So, I did, as I thought…’How weird is this going to be?’

He spoke messages and blessings to the others as they fell back and to the floor then it was my turn. I had the palms of my hands pressedtogether in prayer and my eyes closed. The preacher told me, “You are a true child of God. You do his work when others only pretend. You will write stories that will heal millions. God wants you to know that he sees you. Open your hands to receive.” And I did. “I want you to know this is not from me, is it from the Lord who sees who you are and is watching you.” He placed an envelope in my hands then gently touched my forehead. ‘Bless you, child of God.”

I went back to my seat. My acquaintance and her friends turned to watch as I opened the envelope. In it was money… a lot of money and, at that time, money was something I was short of.

They remarked.”I have never seen anyone give money to anyone other than children or an orphanage.”

I replied, “My gosh! I don’t want to take money from children or money that should go to an orphanage. I’m giving it back.”

They snapped. “No! No! It’s your blessing from God. Receive it! Don’t give it back!”

When they passed the offering plate, I put half in and kept half for myself.

I think of this experience when I am sitting in churches with people who ring so false…

God is in you… not in some church, not in some prophet, not in some preacher in a robe standing at an altar lit by candles, not in rote repetition of words and not in anything, but your own heart and soul… if you will open and allow God in…God sees your heart and knows your deeds…
Beware of wolves in sheeps clothing…they are everywhere these days…

When somebody shows you who they are…

??????????????????????????????? believe them…

What does this statement mean to you?

I know I am continually giving those undeserving of it a second chance and doing so has usually only harmed me further….

When you haven’t believed what was revealed and shown to you by words, actions, behaviors or instincts, has this harmed you in some way even further? Or if you gave someone a second chance has it worked out to be worth it?

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Punished, emotionally tortured and laughed at for ‘wanting to be good’…

???????????????????????????????I think I was born ‘knowing’ how to live morally and what I needed to do to have a healthy body, mind and spirit.

But I have been around alcoholics and put down for not drinking. I have been laughed at, even harassed for not smoking and not wanting to be exposed to cigarette smoke. I have been put down, even laughed at for not trying, or doing drugs and not wanting to ever do drugs.

I have been called ‘naive’ because  I don’t want to be around those who have affairs. I have never had an affair, nor would ever have one. I think cheating is a complete betrayal, actually, a betrayal to self. I respect myself and others. So I would never betray myself, or another in this demeaning way.

I have been treated badly for telling the truth because the people I was around didn’t want to hear, or know the truth.

I have been laughed at for eating healthfully, exercising, and taking care of my body. The body that God gave me to take care of. I have been laughed at for drinking water, instead of alcohol. Sure, I enjoy alcohol, at times, but not all the time and certainly not as an addiction…

I have been laughed at and patronized for being moral and living that way. I have been laughed at because I think think love and sex go together.

I would rather talk to people than watch TV, or play with, or check my phone. I thought I was addicted to chocolate, but a friend who is in the ‘psychology field’ told me that I’m not. That I don’t have an addictive personality. That I ‘choose’ to eat chocolate and I like it, but I could stop in a moment. There is nothing that I crave, except the Lord God and the mercy of Jesus Christ.

It seems to be addicted is the thing to be on earth. Evil wants us all addicted to something…

I believe in God and Jesus Christ, not ‘organized religion’. I have tried all my life to be ‘good’ and to follow the teachings and guidance in the Bible. I have been around and observed those who ‘claim’ to be so ‘religious’, but do much against God, morality, honor and truth and some do so in the name of God. Some of these people are the cruelest and most evil.

I have been to churches and around people who ‘claim’ to be religious who are ‘hateful and immoral’ people. They ‘use the words’ from the Bible in order to manipulate and to hide behind… as they do harm to others with a smile and a prayer.

You know the kind, who say ‘bless you’ often and it rings as false a Satan. They hide behind this facade to disarm their prey so they can suck them in and do harm. I have noticed this becoming more prevalent on earth today.

We must all be vigilant and aware of what is really of good and when it is evil trying to hide in good…

Wolves in sheep’s clothing. I seem to have allot of them around me lately.

A person’s soul shows through their words and facade if you can and will see…and these types don’t like it when you see who they really are… and they will get meaner and meaner…they will do anything to deflect it from themselves.. blame others, lie, project, whine and cry…punish, torture and harass…

Why do the ‘bad’ try to make the good ‘feel bad’?

I have been punished, even emotionally tortured for trying to be good on earth… and this is because evil rules here and evil prefers that we all be down fallen, addicted, immoral, ignorant, controlled, in pain and weak… so that they can suck us into their domain of evil.

The evil ones want to be in ‘control’… some will whine and play ‘oh, poor me’ to achieve this… I had this occur just yesterday… these types are full of manipulative tactics… if they can’t do it out right, and if they know you see who they really are, they will often times use the pity ploy…

He Who Endures To The End … Jesus said, “Now brother will deliver up brother to death, and a father his child; and children will rise up against parents and cause them to be put to death. And you will be hated by all for My name’s sake. But he who endures to the end will be saved” (Matthew 10:21-22).

Hated by All Men – Everyone wants to be liked. However, it is axiomatic that not everyone will be your friend, if for nothing more than just a matter of personality.

This is especially true for those who have real convictions. If you stand for nothing, then you can agree with everyone.

If, on the other hand, you believe the word of God to be the truth and stand for its premises, many will be your enemy. Your very presence will be a constant reminder of their sin. They may try to get you fired from your job. They may threaten your good name. They may make every effort to take what you have.

Jesus said, “These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer. I have overcome the world” (John 16:33).

Have you ever felt that you are being punished on earth for trying to be good?

What would you say about a psychologist…

???????????????????????????????who did ‘marriage counseling’ and had an affair with a man who was seeing her for marriage counseling? And this ‘psychologist’ had a pattern in her life for having affairs with married men….

What would you say about a married President who had an affair with an intern and had affairs all his married life?

What would you say about any married man or woman who cheats on their partner?

How about that they lack integrity… adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.

So why would anyone ever believe them again? People who do things such as this are not thinking about others, or about what is right, they have no personal integrity. They are morally vapid and they do not change their colors. They just tell you that they have and hope that you will believe them… so that they can keep on being their corrupted selves. They lie about lying and they lie about not lying. They will lie about any and everything. They are corrupted. THEY ARE DISHONEST!!!  They have proven who they are, so believe them…

And what are they showing to their children? What do affairs do to the children in the marriage? Even if the parents don’t ‘think’ that the children know … many times, the children do know on some level or another, and many times they literally find out…

So what is being displayed to our children, when their parents cheat… when professionals cheat… when the President of the United States cheats on his wife? What is being shown to our children regarding integrity?

Because when someone cheats on their husband or wife, they are also cheating on their whole family. It’s a betrayal to them all…

It’s a lack of integrity all around to everyone concerned…