Category Archives: Women In Real Life

A true heart and a worthy soul can’t be purchased…

???????????????????????????????so are you either born with them or not?

As they are a down payment on forever…

But your perceived power or monetary position on earth will not, cannot, either ‘buy’ or ‘command’ that you have a true heart or a worthy soul…

How you ‘use’ your earthly ‘power’, God-given talents and resources display what kind of a heart and a soul that you possess. It’s not the words that you speak … it’s your actions and behaviors that show the quality of your heart and your soul…

While on earth, we are given the ‘opportunity’ to heal, expand, attain worldly knowledge, be tested, be tried and to display who we are under all sorts of circumstances and trials. And this is done in ‘every’ interaction with our fellowman, not just the ones, that we ‘think’ matter, but in all of them as all are seen by our maker. How we deal with ourselves is known by the ‘Almighty’…

You may ‘think’ that you are getting away with ‘something’ as you sneak around in the dark of night.. but in the light of Heaven it is being seen…

All that we do and all that we experience is imprinted upon our soul and in our heart to carry with us forever…perhaps, even from many past lives into the future … who really knows for sure while being on earth?

Because all of what we do is seen and all of who we are is known… not just some of it.

What if, what we do on earth is a down payment on forever…

What do you have, if you gain the whole world, but lose your soul?

What makes you want to pull out your hair?…

???????????????????????????????What about someone turns you off and away?

What are the major flaws that make you alarmed or even crazed?

What about a friend will make you decide that they are a friend no more?

What is it about a family member that will make you decide that it is better to not ever be around them again? That they are too toxic for words…

What is it about someone that has you pulling out your hair and to finally realize that it is not worth your effort and, maybe, it’s to your harm, even detriment to associate with them any longer?

I am seeing and experiencing that many people these days are cutting their losses with people and cutting people out of their lives that aren’t good for them, are hurting??????????????????????????????? them and who have the potential to even be disastrous to their well-being. Many these days seem to be saying I am not putting up with it any longer… I know I am.

I only want people of like mind, morals, values, ethics and standards in my inner circle. Anyone else is not for me…

Liars, adulterers, cons, bullies, the falsely ‘religious’, the greedy, sociopaths, etc… BA BYE!!!

So what is it that will lead you to make the decision to cut someone out of your life? What are the flaws major or otherwise that you will just plain not tolerate any longer?

What would you say about a psychologist…

???????????????????????????????who did ‘marriage counseling’ and had an affair with a man who was seeing her for marriage counseling? And this ‘psychologist’ had a pattern in her life for having affairs with married men….

What would you say about a married President who had an affair with an intern and had affairs all his married life?

What would you say about any married man or woman who cheats on their partner?

How about that they lack integrity… adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.

So why would anyone ever believe them again? People who do things such as this are not thinking about others, or about what is right, they have no personal integrity. They are morally vapid and they do not change their colors. They just tell you that they have and hope that you will believe them… so that they can keep on being their corrupted selves. They lie about lying and they lie about not lying. They will lie about any and everything. They are corrupted. THEY ARE DISHONEST!!!  They have proven who they are, so believe them…

And what are they showing to their children? What do affairs do to the children in the marriage? Even if the parents don’t ‘think’ that the children know … many times, the children do know on some level or another, and many times they literally find out…

So what is being displayed to our children, when their parents cheat… when professionals cheat… when the President of the United States cheats on his wife? What is being shown to our children regarding integrity?

Because when someone cheats on their husband or wife, they are also cheating on their whole family. It’s a betrayal to them all…

It’s a lack of integrity all around to everyone concerned…

Revealing or Hiding the Truth of ‘Your’ Being…

???????????????????????????????Anyone can pretend to be indifferent, or project an illusion of themselves that hides the truth of their being. It takes a helluva lot more strength and conviction to be real and risk pain than it does to hide and be safe, or rather be what you ‘think’ it safe.

We’ve all been hurt, disappointed, or made mistakes in some way and in varying degrees, but it is how we process that hurt that either clears us, or blocks us further. These are our lessons to be experienced here on earth…

So many of us are walking facades, hiding behind our job, our car, our clothes, our shoes, our title, our anger, our ‘religion’, in addictions, etc…. pretending what we ‘think’ we ‘should’  be…  that word ‘should’.. bad word. And all of this is temporary and of this earth…all we really have is our soul…

I have shared and exposed myself on my site for the purpose of awareness for others. I am an open, giving person and people like me put ourselves out there and sometimes it can be hurtful. Some have attacked and criticized me for my forthrightness and sharing. Instead of seeing the strength and courage it takes to be real, they twist it, in order, to suit their needs…???????????????????????????????

I am an upfront, tell it like it is, woman and sometimes this has gotten me ridiculed even attacked, but I am always true to me and what God guides me to be…It’s as if I was born with this gift, or curse, depending on how one looks at it and what is happening at the time and in any given moment. I have friends who tell me that they come to me when they want the truth. I have been told that I tell it like it is and they like that about me even though it ‘smarts’ at times. This is something that I have grown to be proud of about myself…

When I am not being ‘real’  and true to myself… I feel false and I ‘detest’ that feeling. It feels plain terrible to me…it makes me feel twisted up internally…

Others don’t and won’t stop me from being the real me and hopefully won’t stop you from being the real you… living in your truth. When you can acknowledge who you really are, is when you are set free. It may not be easy, but freedom of the spirit is the only way to really live.

We will always have our blind spots as human beings who live on earth, but the more we can live and be in the truth of what God meant for us to be individually by our genetics, personality and circumstances, the more truthful we will be to ourselves…

Here’s to the courage and conviction of being true to yourself!

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Liars, cheaters, cons, fools, hate, perversion…

???????????????????????????????II Timothy 3:1-5,7  “But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, unloving, unforgiving, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God; holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.”

This passage was brought to my attention recently and one l have referred to in other articles… and I am seeing it more and more in the world today, are you?

Marriage counselors who have affairs with those they are counseling… Politicians who wouldn’t know the truth if it came up and bit them.  ‘Family’ men promoting that image who cheat on their wives.  Babies born without even knowing who their father is… born and used for government pay- outs. Sexual perversions promoted and encouraged. God taken out of  schools. Anti-Christ movement… those with the pretense of ‘Godly intentions’ using them for self-promotion and gain. Bastardizing of scripture to mean what ‘they’ want it to for ‘their’ agenda.

Sisters being hateful to sisters. Family members unable to even hug another as their heart is so cold and hardened.  Possessions more important than people. Hate, jealousy, envy, gluttony… look around you… look at what so many have become and how they are behaving… look at their bodies, their faces, their eyes…

People will turn from truth and only see what they crave for their pleasure…

Alcohol, drugs, entertainment, loud music with vile content (example: Lady GAGA), with escape more important than being and communicating with people. Parents who stare at the TV rather than talk to their children. Children on their hand-held gadgets not communicating with peers and family.  In the end of times, communication will be fast and abundant, but few will be able to hear the truth.

Fathers obsessed with sports and games ignoring their families and loved ones…escape… escape… escape…

Rule, dominate and control are what so many are obsessed with…

Sex without love…

Power and money on earth may equate to nothing on another level, or plane…it’s the soul the matters…

Look into the eyes of those you interact with… is there a soul in there?

Do their lips smile, but their eyes don’t? Are their eyes dead? Are they cold and hard to the touch with no ability to really express love and giving, even as they may ‘talk’ about it?  How a person hugs another can tell you much. And a warm hug, where you can feel the other’s energy, has the potential to heal a wounded heart…

People who think that they are ‘safe’ because of their so-called power, possessions, or money will find that they are not…

Frauds are everywhere… Cain did not kill Abel because he was evil, but because he was good…

The eradication  of good is becoming more and more… Evil can’t stand good…and evil is hiding more and more in the ‘pretense’ of good…

Be aware of whom you associate with and where you may find yourself in your town or city. Look around and be aware…

Guard your heart. Guard your soul. Do not be deceived… as deception becomes more intense… Stand clear and strong in the Lord.

Cattiness! Okay, concerning women who take…

???????????????????????????????jabs at their friends. Ever been around this? No matter what you say, do, achieve, or try, even if you are down in the dumps, this friend takes a ‘jab’ at you…

They aren’t genuinely happy for your successes and not encouraging of your endeavors… they seem to want to pour onto you that you aren’t ‘good’ enough on some level. And it is ‘sneaky’ how they do it. Because it’s a bit of love, and friendliness then wham.. a bit of kindness then wham! It’s a hug, then a punch, then a jab… then a smile, then a snide remark…

Sure, most all women can be catty, at times, but being catty is not in my nature and I don’t pull it out, until I have been punched so often that ‘finally’ I react. And when I finally do react … I can explode either small or large… so watch out….

So, what makes one person ‘think’ that they can treat a friend in this manner? What about one person makes them do the jabbing and the other, ‘the one being jabbed at’, react, or try to ignore it for as long as they can?

Is it ‘the jabbers’ insecurity, their need to control, their need to feel good about who they are, because for some reason they don’t? Is it that they have little awareness of what they say and do? Is it that they don’t respect themselves, so they don’t respect others?

Okay, let’s go deeper here. As I have lived and experienced much, I have come to a realization that ‘equals’ … those of ‘like kind’ usually make ‘better’ friends… in that, if one friend has few resources, the one with less, might be secretly angry at the one with more. And this has become really apparent in this day and time.

Addictive people, alcoholics and druggies don’t mix well with those who do not have these addictions. Liberals don’t usually mix well with conservatives, insecure people feel more comfortable around those who are insecure. Secure people attract to one another… so on and so forth… (And this can bring us to another topic, then why is it ‘promoted’ and are we ‘expected’ to tolerate and ‘like’ everyone as in PC? Because it just doesn’t work.)

I am not saying we shouldn’t leave others alone and let them live as they wish. I am saying, ‘like kind, likes kind’.. this is even stated in the wisdom of the Bible…

“Whoever touches pitch gets dirty, and whoever associates with a proud person becomes like him. Do not lift a weight too heavy for you or associate with someone mightier and richer than you. How can the clay pot associate with the iron kettle? The pot will strike against it and be smashed. Sirach :13…  If you read though Sirach, there is much wisdom concerning things such as this…

But then opposites also attract. I enjoy people from all walks of life. I do not judge someone on appearance, or what they have or own…  I like them for who they are and what their interests are, their heart, or the gleam in their eye… many different things attract…

When I was 12, one of my sisters accidently knocked my two front teeth out with a miniature golf club. At the time, the dentist put silver crowns on my two front teeth. (stupid dentist, but that is another story)… So for a year, I had to endure these sliver things and I also had thick wavy hair. And in that time, it was the blond, straight look that we all wanted. When the weather was humid, my hair took over the world. So, here I was 12 with two silver teeth, thick wavy hair(which I had no idea how to control and there were not products then as we have now) and thin as a rail. I felt like I was the ugliest girl in the world. So, I GET IT and am sensitive to others when I sense that they have low-self esteem, or are going through ‘rough’ times and I would never want to intentionally cause them distress…

Today, I know how to manage my hair, and what I once thought my worst attribute, has become one of my best. Now, my teeth are perfect. So all that was terrible, has turned out fine. But I can recall how badly I felt about myself during that year, that impressionable, insecure year. Kids bullied and laughed at me and some even called me fat when I was thin as a rail. I was a ballet dancer and obsessed about my weight. It was a terrible time in my life. So, again I state that I don’t ever want to intentionally harm another who is going through a rough and insecure time… as we all have them…

I have had resources and I have been completely broke… and it didn’t affect who I was. I was still me. Money does not make you who you are… but some seem to have ‘their identity’ tied to it… and they jab at their friends who have more, or attain some success, or they brag if they have more than others, or they can’t be happy for others when they attain something.

Seems fat people are jabby at the thin and fit. While a thin person is expected to encourage and be kind to an over-weight person (kind of like the race thingy today, whites ‘must’ treat blacks with kid gloves, while blacks ‘apparently’ can treat whites anyway they want).

The less attractive jab at those who are more attractive … calling them ‘narcissistic'(one of the more over-used and misused words today) and this has become rampant from those less fit and less attractive.

Unhappily married people are jabby at those who date and have freedom. Single people jab at those who are married… Some even try to steal spouses.

Some people are continually and always trying to ‘one up’ others, bragging and trying to ‘prove’ (to whom, I don’t know?) that they know more, have more, are more….social climbers, social braggers. It’s all so stupid and inane. Just sit back and observe someone who does this. Don’t get hooked into it, just listen and watch and you will be chuckling in internal amusement at their insecurity and pathetic lack of self-awareness…

Why aren’t more people content where they are and have the self-awareness to see themselves? Sure, we all have our blind sides at times. It’s human and part of the process to growth and it’s self-awareness to uncover deep seated issues. Some are on that journey and some are clueless….And sometimes, the ‘once’ clueless are made aware by life circumstances that change and give them the opportunity to become more … and by more I mean ‘better’ people into the core of their being.

My soul is the most important part of me…I care for my physical self as God gave me a body to live in and to care for… but it’s my heart and soul that matter most, in that, I try to live honorably. I know when I am off my course and it troubles me until I get back on it. Just like I know when I have eaten something, or too much and my body feels out of sorts.

I try to live by the ten commandments and to not be addicted to chemicals that can distort my mind and body… and ultimately my soul…

Are the seven deadly sins running rampant today? Becoming more and more prevalent and intense. Is this what is going on? Is it jealousy, envy, greed, lust, gluttony, etc. Others think, if ‘they’ have it, I want it, too!…And they try to take whatever it is from others and try even to corrupt and to snatch your soul…

Are so many so eaten up inside with evil that they can’t appreciate where they are, the choices that ‘they’ made, the genetics that ‘they’ were given…the circumstances that ‘they’ were born into… that everyone wants to be someone else, or to take from another anything that they can.

I have been jabbed when I was a gawky, insecure child and I have been jabbed when I looked fab and was on top of my game. Just jabbed for different reasons… jabbed because ‘they’ could sense my insecurity then jabbed to take me down a notch…

I have been jabbed by alcoholics because I prefer, at times, to drink water. I have been jabbed for working out by those lazy and overweight. I have been jabbed for not smoking. I have been jabbed for not doing drugs… I have been jabbed by all my sisters, friends, husbands and enemies.

And as painful as it’s all been, I still remain true to myself… and I have even been jabbed for that… as unhappiness loves company… 

I have rambled on a bit… so back to topic… why do some so-called friends ‘jab’ at others? Ha!

So, in your opinion, what is this about? What makes some women so catty?

The look on a woman’s face reveals…

???????????????????????????????“The look on a woman’s face reveals how well she is loved and how she is being treated. This can be the love from a man, her family, her friends, or how she loves and cares for herself. A wise man will both, want and enjoy, seeing his woman glow because when she does, it spills onto him and to all those in her presence then out into the world. This is the magic of the feminine and it can empower the world to joy and peace.” Ann Dillard

This is the mission and goal of

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Friday April 13…watch…

To hear about what it is like to live under the rule of communism… forced to flee in fear of your life and to find freedom…
 
I was on the show with a longtime friend from Russia who has lived in America for 20 years. She shared her experience as did many others who came from communist, dictator- ruled countries. You will find their stories captivating… 

I was one of the few born in America on the show. I used to feel safe in America, but now I am feeling as the people shared on the show about how they felt in the countries that they left.

Our freedoms are being diminished daily, government control is taking over our lives. There is class warfare, race warfare, our media is corrupt. It’s agenda-filled and full of propaganda. We have no journalism. Our children are being brainwashed in school… they are being taught to believe in government and what they are told, instead of how to think for themselves. Capitalism is being vilified. Those who worked for and have success are being vilified.

People are being pented against one another… morals, values and standards being diminished. God is being diminished. Anti-Christ sentiments are infiltrating everything, privacy lost, freedom of speech controlled and agendafied…. all this and more is how a country is taken over with all individual rights taken and all freedoms are destroyed…

Nothing is really redistributed to the people. That is a fallacy that they ‘use’ to con. It is kept under the control of the ‘government’ and those who rule.

Truth is lie and lie is truth…for the purpose of rule, dominate and control by those who are in power….

An exceptional show… full of clear insights, information, and warnings as to what they experienced, and why they escaped to America… and sadly what they see is happening in America right now…

If America falls to socialism/communism… under the rule of a dictatorship… where else is there to go?

The show is Friday, April 13th, 4:00 central time on www.GBTV.com

It’s a must see and a good show to be viewed by those who can’t, won’t, or who are unable to see the truth in all the lies.

Sex Explosion!!!

 Annredchair02Okay, why this over the top focus on sex?

Because anyone who has sex ‘before’, they get to ‘know’ someone is a fool.

It’s my opinion that, ‘before’ you have sex with someone, you should have spent time with them doing many different activities… Dinners, lunches, movies, sports events are fine… but how about grocery shopping, chores, working out, meeting their friends, family, etc.?

If you don’t want to spend time with someone, how about ‘not’  having sex with them. If you don’t want them to meet your friends and family, or ‘you’ don’t want to meet their friends and family, you might not want to have sex with them. Ever think of that?

Having sex ‘before’ knowing someone and spending time with them is putting the cart before the horse… and it usually ends badly…

And this seems to be what way too many are doing these days…

Sex is not something you do on the first date, or in the first few times of interacting. Sex is not just a handshake and oral sex is sex. Oh, yes it is! It really is, Bill Clinton…

Sex is what you advance to, when you want a relationship, a commitment to go to the next level. Anyone who thinks otherwise is fooling themselves, is a player, a sex-driven fool, or even a sex addict who thinks that interacting, male/female, is about sex, instead of feeling, emotions, caring, love, commitment and responsibility.

How about we get back to solid, conservative standards and values in this area. If we do, there will be fewer unwed mothers and ‘baby daddies’ (Geez! I detest that term) in the world, and less dependance on the government by these irresponsible, misled, sex-driven, immature people. And there will be less disease, disappointment and fewer broken hearts…

And why are children even having sex? It’s stupid. They would be better served thinking about school, hobbies, sports, exercise, and developing their talents and their desires for their future. They have plenty of time to be interested in and to focus on sex…so why begin so young?

Self-control is the hallmark of maturity and success on every level… and an out of control, promiscuous sex life is the sign of a weak-willed, emotionally sick, addictive, immoral person and this spills out into society.

Children mimic adults… so the example that you, we, and the world sets is what will be imprinted upon our youth…

Agree or not?….

Blown away by the way ‘some’ men…

Blackwhite24talk to a woman…
Okay… what would you think and do if a man solicited your attention repeatedly to offer his services in a business interaction. And finally, you respond because you ‘think’ that you ‘might’ have an interest in his service. It’s what he is offering you, you did not contact him. He sends you his resume and some samples of his work which appear fine.  

The first conversation with him is informative and interesting. But in the next phone conversation, he makes continual references to your body as being voluptuous. It could ‘sort of’ be excused, in that, you are talking about a character in a book. But he says your body is ‘voluptuous’ about six times and he asks personal questions. (red flags) And then in the next email, he writes that for his ‘pay’, he asks only that you marry him and never leave him… he also writes that you are beautiful and have a certain glow about you…

He also writes in an email that he showed your photo to a kid that lives above him and this kid said that you are ‘hot’.

You write back that this is sweet, but you are only interested in the  business project…besides, why would he show your photo to
anyone?

His reply. “Dear, don’t nag.”

Your reply. “Excuse me?”

His reply. “Excuse you? Why, did you burp?”

Having experienced quite enough, you write back that you are not interested in any association with him and that you don’t appreciate him continually referring to your body.

Indignant, defensive and patronizingly, he replies that he was only being friendly. That you are being arrogant and you need to get over yourself because you are not all that attractive… and that ‘you’ need to apologize to ‘him’…because he was only sharing a ‘story’ about the kid, and that you are being too sensitive. And that you shouldn’t kick a ‘gift horse’ in the mouth.

HA!… soooo…Whew!  Yes… this happened to me and this from a man who has commented repeatedly for months that he enjoys my writing, agrees with me and my site. So, he ‘should’ know what I am about, or he ‘thought’ he did, or he doesn’t know how to conduct business, or he is a stupid oaf, because, if this had occurred in an actual place of business, his words would be considered sexual harassment.

So, over the Internet in a ‘business’ interaction this man disrespects me, comes onto me and when I call him out on it, instead of apologizing… he ‘tries’ to point the finger at me, put me down and patronize me. And he was the one continually talking about my appearance not me…

Also, when he first talked about my body, of course, I was offended, but I let it slide to gather more info, since I am becoming more aware everyday that ‘many’ men are ‘completely ignorant’ about how to talk and interact with a woman. Some seem to think that saying things like this man said to me are ‘compliments’. But what it does is to make a woman feel objectified and this is insulting on every level. Was that his intention? To pull some kind of ‘male dominance.’

Do men these days, because of movies and the way, in some cases, we see women being portrayed and disrespected and the way many women disrespect themselves, ‘think’ that they can interact in this manner?

I have never seen anything like what I am seeing today…sure there have always been the jerks and always will be. But the lack of manners, juvenile behavior, low respect level, and ignorance of ‘some’ men these days, goes beyond the pale… and it blows me away in shame for them. Are they so insecure and needy that they will take any and every opportunity to objectify, try to stick it to and take a woman down to their lowly level?

What do you think? Do you agree or not? And what would you have thought and what would you have done?

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