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Unless you are my granny, don’t call me sweetie, darlin’, or honey, etc…

???????????????????????????????Endearments are only appropiate when intimacy, familiarity, time and experience have developed, otherwise they are insulting, condesending and rude! When people who have never even met me in person, or barely know me  call me “Sweetie”, “Honey”, “Sugar”, “Darlin”, or variations of my name as in, “Annie”, it makes me want to explode! It’s so condescending, rude, presumptuous, over-familiar and crosses personal and respectable boundaries. 

A man who does this to a woman is trying to take control as in you are less than me, I am in control, you “little sweetie”, so do as I wish, like me, love me, have sex with me, go to dinner with me… just plain you are such a “sweetie” that I am going to over power you and get you to do as I want and as I deem.  Many men who do this have insecurity  and control issues and by calling a woman endearments prematurely makes them feel powerful and in control when actually they are weakened, rude and fools.  It shows a lack of respect to refer to someone out of their name that you barely know. It’s way too familiar and crosses personal boundaries.

If a woman calls another woman she doesn’t know well or if they are the same age,  something like ‘sweetie’, it’s nothing but pulling rank as in claiming she is higher up, more important, in charge or knows more.

When I hear premature, unwarranted and unwanted endearments it makes me think of a drunk sitting in a bar referring to female servers  as “sweetie.”  Or some vile, overweight, drunken man sliming around somewhere like Vegas referring to women, he has just met, as “honey, lover, baby, sugar lump”.  Makes me want to gag!

My Mother was from the South where people tend to greet others in this manner… but never someone that you don’t know at all. And men who use these endearments to ‘try’ and be ‘familiar’, in order, to create a false sense of intimacy to ‘get there’, before ‘getting there’ is even on the radar are just plain clueless dummies.  And it’s the biggest turn off. So get a clue, it’s an insult to call people endearments, unless, you are in a real relationship, or you are 20, or more years older than the person … darlin’!

A granny or grandpa calling a little child “sweetie” is endearing… otherwise save all endearments and pet names until a time when it’s acceptable as in, you are in a real relationship with the person and have had the time and experience for endearments and pet names to be developed naturally because then and only then are they acceptable, meaningful and worthy.

So, unless you are my granny, don’t call me sweetie!

The message of a shoe…

Feetondesk6It doesn’t matter if you live in a studio apartment, or a mansion, the way that you sit and carry yourself, along with the way that you respect and treat your furniture, and surroundings reveals volumes about who you are….

Feetondesk5Would you allow someone visiting your house to put their shoes on your furniture? Would you put your shoes on someone’s furniture, while visiting their house?

Feetondesk4No!? Well, me either! But, we have a man in Our White House who does this all the time, showing no respect  for where he is living, the White House, or the American people.

Feetondesk2Hey Obama, didn’t your mother teach you any manners and the correct way to behave?

Whoa! Does he ever sit properly? Here he is with feet up and and leaning back in a chair…

Does he even know how to sit properly?

What a slob and how disrespectful to the men around him. They must get tired of looking at the bottom of his shoes….And look at the expression on his face….
Feetondesk3Yes, Obama is a real piece of work.

He doesn’t know how to do anything but ‘community organize’ and he doesn’t do that well. This man doesn’t even know how to sit properly in a chair.
Feet on deskThe disrespect and arrogance of  this man is over the top outrageous…
He has no awareness of how to care for anything… He only serves himself and his agenda….

Hey Obama didn’t anyone ever tell you? “Shoes off, if you put them on the sofa or bed.” And…

“Never, ever, put your shoes on the furniture!”

Ummm… but don’t shoes have different meanings in different cultures? So, perhaps, Obama is saying much more than just being rude by continually showing us and those around him the bottoms of his shoes. What message is he really sending to whom and why?…

Arab culture: The insult of the shoe:  

Showing the sole of your shoe has long been an insult in Arab culture To hit someone with that shoe – as was tried with President George W. Bush – is seen as even worse.

The shoe is considered dirty because it is on the ground and associated with the foot, the lowest part of the body. Hitting someone with a shoe shows that the victim is regarded as even lower. When Saddam Hussein’s statue was toppled in Baghdad in April 2003, Iraqis swarmed around it, striking it with their shoes.

Shoes are often used to attack the American flag.

As an insult to President George Bush Sr. after, the first Gulf war, a mosaic of his face was laid on the floor of the Al-Rashid Hotel in Baghdad. Anyone who entered the lobby would have to walk over his face to get into the hotel.

The mosaic was subsequently destroyed by American soldiers in 2003 and replaced with an image of Saddam Hussein.

The shoe is such an offensive symbol that it is seen as culturally rude to cross an ankle over a knee and display the sole of the shoe while talking to another person.

The shoe is also considered unclean in the Muslim faith and believers must remove them before prayers.

Wearing shoes in mosques is forbidden.

So what is Obama really saying by continually putting his shoes on furniture and displaying the soles of his shoes to those working around him and for all to see?

Is, perhaps, the message for Obama’s Muslim friends, ‘the Muslim Brotherhood’, as he continually puts the soles of his shoes in our faces to show that he doesn’t have respect for America, or its people?

Obama wrote in his book that should the tides turn, that he will stand with Muslims…

How about Obama, put your feet on the floor, and walk out of the White House into oblivion…. All ‘real Americans’ want to do, is to forget you…

The Bible says to pray for our Leaders. This is my prayer…..Let his days be few; and let another take his office. Psalm 109:8 King James Version….. God bless America!