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Sex

Vaginas… and other female sexual…

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A man has a penis and testicles, but a woman has a vagina, clitoris, uterus, and breasts… and all are glorious. I know! I am a woman. I have the pleasure of them all.

They can produce intense pleasure and, at times, discomfort, even pain as in menstruation and child birth.

A woman’s  sexual and reproductive organs are more complex than a man’s. Perhaps, that is because a woman is more complex than a man.

Except for her clitoris and breasts, her sexual organs are internal. They are made up of flesh, muscle and nerves. Her breasts and vagina are soft and inviting. Her vagina is soft and moist and if she allows the wrong penis into it, she can contract diseases that can render her infertile, lead to cancer, and life long issues.

A woman allows a man into her body… into her inner sanctum and this privilege should not be entered into lightly by her, or her partner.  A woman gives a man a wonderful gift when she allows him to enter her. And she might want to be very selective concerning to whom she gives this privilege…

Since a man’s sexual organs are outside his body, perhaps, that is one reason that he can separate his emotions and feelings from the sexual act. An emotionally healthy woman will feel a connection to a man that she allows to enter her. It’s innate to her nature.

Some women and it seems more these days try to behave like men and have many sexual partners and behave promiscuously. They ‘ think’ that doing this gives them ‘equal rights’ and sexual freedom. I think it makes them stupid and distances them from their mind, body, heart connection.

Some women experience great sexual pleasure and can experience orgasms in their clitoris, vagina, uterus and also  their nipples. Some, when she feels totally relaxed, and safe with her lover, can achieve pleasure repeatedly in one session.

Life enters the world through a woman’s vagina… it is the sacred canal of birth.

So, sex, while pleasurable, loving, romantic and fun… also can create life. In this knowing, it should be taken with  caution, respect, and reverence as to why it was created and what it creates.

Sex is wonderful!  It is as close as a man and woman can get in the physical and it is an expression of love. It can even be a spiritual experience and a deep connection when shared between two people in love.

Shame on men that con with words and use manipulation to get a woman to open herself up to him for his pleasure with no regard for her feelings and emotions… Some men are so needy and desperate to enter a woman and to experience her inner power that they will lie, rape, manipulate and even pay for it.

And stupid is the woman that allows a man to enter her for reasons other than the affection of two people caring for one another..

Shameful also is a woman that uses the power of her womanhood for false and ill intent to beguile, mislead, and seduce for reasons other than sincere love and affection. And a woman that ‘sells’ her body, I have no kind words for…

It is fun to have pet names for private areas with your partner. But in my opinion, some words used today such a VayJJ and booty call are tacky and common and even disrespectful.

A woman’s body is curvy and mysterious, soft, round and angular! It is to be honored and respected for the work of art that it is…It is one of God’s  most mysterious and beautiful creations…

And having sex with the right man can be heaven on earth! I love being a woman!

What say you?…

Men, Sex

A penis is only as good as the man connected to it…

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???????????????????????????????And what a man does with his penis reveals the kind of man that he is and his innate character…

If a man allows his penis to control him, his actions, and his life, he will end up a loser with a life in destruction.  A man under the control of his penis is a man with no control over his life, who he is, where he is going, or what he becomes. And, of course, morality  is nowhere to be found.

He is being controlled by his sexual urge and he is out of control. How laughable does this make him? HAHAHAHAHA! Very! He is a joke on himself and on his very manhood! He brings shame to his family, children, and anyone that associates with him.

He is a sexual urge driven animal… He contracts diseases and spreads them around. Who would want him?

Just like a person that can’t control their eating urges becomes a fat, bloated, slob… so does the man who allows his penis to control his life.


His life becomes an out of control, urge-driven mess.

A penis is an organ of muscle, ligaments, and flesh… and it should be controlled by the man, if the man is a ‘real’ man. The other way around and he is an out of control ‘penis’. How attractive is a penis without a man to control it? It’s not! It’s pathetic!

A man of class, morals, with his urges under control, with the ability to love, in touch with his emotions, and who connects with a woman in respect and honor for the sexual experience… honors himself and whomever he interacts with and he is a blessing to others and also to himself.

A man running around controlled by his penis is a blight on his family, the world and ultimately himself. A real man is not controlled by his penis!

Any man that thinks his penis is his manhood is a fool. And any woman that engages with a needy penis is a fool, especially if she betrays another woman to do so…

It’s the brain and the heart where two people connect. A man that connects through his heart isn’t owned by his penis.

Sex is an expression of love in the physical and to diminish it to mere ‘sport’ where cheating, betrayal, dishonesty, disrespect, and the heart of others are players and pawns is the sport of fools.

What is happening with so many men these days? These out of control penis controlled slobs! Who would want one?!

Agree or not? Thoughts…

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Women In Real Life

I can relate with Maria Shriver….

 I don’t agree with her politics, but as a woman, I understand the pain that she is going through.

My first husband, whom I met in college, appeared a ‘nice’ and, at that time, a fairly attractive man… (kind of a young Newt Gingrich, big cheesy grin and big head) cheated on me with his plump, ordinary appearing secretary, while he was working for my father’s company.  Everyone knew, but me. I was teaching ballet and doing the ‘wifey’ thing. ‘I’ was a member of a country club and my husband used the membership to play golf. I watched our budget, while he gambled away money on football games…and ‘played’ at being a big shot.

I thought about divorce. I was not happy, but I kept trying to be the ‘good wife.’ I had many opportunities to cheat, but never did, or would. Cheating on someone you love, to me, is the lowest of low. I always wanted to be married and to have a family, but after observing my husband’s drinking, gambling and general behavior, I knew that I didn’t want to have children with him.

It reached critical mass one Saturday. I was sick and he was playing golf at the country club. He came home and I asked him to get me some 7Up and chicken soup from a restaurant that I liked.

While he was gone, the phone rang and a woman asked me, if I recalled who she is, and I didn’t, until she reminded me that she used to be my husband’s secretary.

“Your husband has a son and I am the mother.”

I laughed as I responded, “What?!”, thinking this plain Jane, plump girl … my husband wouldn’t have anything to do with you…

“It’s true.”, she said, “Ask him when he gets home.”

Of course, he denied it.

He told me that she was trying to extort money from him because of my family. He blamed everyone, but himself. But he never blamed me. He told his parents, “If Ann doesn’t get into heaven no one will.”

I tried to believe what he told me. I was in shock for months.

He paid off the secretary to drop her child support charges, and he signed away all rights to the child, to try and get me, to believe that it wasn’t his child, but it was.

Maria ShriverDuring this ordeal, I lost tons of weight.. so stop saying that Maria looks like a scarecrow.. she can barely eat. She is grieving her dream because it has been shattered.

And this secretary was just the tip of the iceberg… as it played out, my husband had affairs, even while we were engaged, with everyone, and I mean everyone. And I never knew it, or even thought this could happen, even as bad as I was realizing he was, I never could’ve imagined how bad!

So, why did he cheat on me while professing to love me? The day I kicked him out of the house with his golf clubs, he was still professing his love for me, as he shouted it out from the front walkway, “I always loved you!”

Was it because I was ugly, not good in bed, my body wasn’t good enough, not a good wife, not a good enough housekeeper? What was it that was so bad about me that this poor guy had to stick his needy penis into everything with a skirt? 

While. the best thing, I can say about his love making is that he was inept and clumsy….And this is one of the reasons that it was difficult for me to believe that he had affairs. He had grown to have a fat belly and was not attractive physically.. while I was a physically fit ballet dancer…

So, why did he cheat, and if he wanted out, why didn’t he ask for a divorce?

The reasons, it was his nature. He is a gambler, a cheater and probably a sociopath. He was using me for his ambitions.  While my intentions in the marriage were honorable, his weren’t. My intellect was more than his, my morals and everything else. He was from the ‘wrong side of the tracks’, as they say, and he should’ve stayed there.
He liked being with women that he ‘felt’ better than.

I should’ve never married this man and I had second thoughts even the night of the rehearsal dinner. I should’ve listened to my instincts and cancelled it all.
 
I diminished myself in order to make him feel good about himself because that is what a ‘good wife’ does, right?

I found out that he told someone before he married me that he was going to marry a girl from a wealthy family. I made him look good. I helped bolster up his low self-esteem, while all he did was tear mine down…

He forced the divorce to court out of his greed and arrogance, but I was awarded the divorce on exteme mental cruelty in a no-fault divorce state. I was awarded all that was left of our property which meant I was left pretty much broke.

Men like my ex-husband are without a moral compass. They only care about their ego needs and satisfaction in the moment.

Also, a week after I kicked him out. I went to the mailbox and there was a card addressed to him. It was from a ‘flight attendant’ he was having an affair with… so even as he was telling me that he wanted to stay married and was telling me how much he loved me, he was having yet another affair…

So, was all this my fault? Is what happend in Maria’s situation her fault? She is attractive, accomplished, talented and from a prominent family.

No! It’s not our fault! It’s the cheater’s actions, lies and corrupt morals that create these situations.

These ego-driven, self-serving child-men are plain losers.  No matter what their accomplishments, if they destroy and hurt their loved ones because of their ego needs, they are plain selfish. There is no excuse. They are liars, sinners and their wives have no fault to bear.

And yes, I understand that there are women who cheat, but I am not one of them.

Cheaters disgust me…What say you?

Self-help

When did you realize that the people you thought…

had the answers, don’t? And not only that, but very possibly, you know as many answers as they do.

When did you realize that the people ‘in charge’ are not all that ‘in charge’, or all that bright, or all that wise, or all that intelligent, or all that good? And that those that ‘act’ like they have all, or most the answers, just may know least of all…

What if you realize that those you thought knew some, or all of the answers, don’t know anymore than you do?

What does it feel like when you realize this…when you see behind the curtain…?

Is this just a part of growing up? Do you think that we all come to this awareness eventually?

Have you come to this realization and if so when?

Or are you still looking to others for the answers?… 

Dating

If you or someone you meet seems to crave a relationship…

is it because of? 

 Desperation…

All people, regardless of gender, can “smell” desperation—and trust me, they’ll run from it. If you get into a relationship quickly with a desperate type, they may turn on you as quickly as they came after you, when they feel like they ‘have’ you.

 Low or No Self-Confidence…

Again, most people pick up on it and don’t want it in their life. Healthy people want a partner, not a project, and having to constantly give approval, or reassurance to someone who has no self-respect, or confidence becomes draining fast. We all have low self-confidence, at times, I am talking about an innate lack that permeates relationships.
 
Commitment Phobia

Oddly enough, it tends to be this type that can’t hold a relationship and who seem to have no idea why. They blame the other person but…When we don’t trust others, and we’re afraid of committing, we’ll not only attract the same in return, but we’ll sabotage good things, usually by nitpicking, or setting unattainable and completely unreasonable standards. Examples: I don’t like the way they dress, they like different things than I do, so we aren’t a match, etc.) These people can’t accept the normal ups and downs in getting to know one another and the normalcy of the times when you don’t feel as connected. It takes an internally secure person to connect with another.

Being able to love and be loved requires first that you love yourself. Otherwise, you’ll become a black hole; no matter how much attention, or care someone pours into you, it’s either never enough, or never from the “right person, or not done right, good enough, or long enough.” I think you get the picture…
 
If you tear yourself into shreds, I can only imagine how harshly you criticize others. Picky people may criticize and ask lots of probing questions, when it’s themselves that they aren’t sure of and don’t know. When you learn to love and accept yourself, you also start seeing the world and other people through different eyes.

Anyone who “needs” to be with someone tends to be in only one of two modes: namely mourning the loss of a relationship, or chasing after one. Neither is the reason to be in a relationship. Plus, you give away all your power, either to those who don’t deserve it, or by creating walls so high that no one can overcome them. The truth is that if you expect the worst, you’ll get it.

Be cautious around those who obviously seem to “need” relationships.

Those who are going person to person and/or move on, or cheat as soon as things become difficult. These people are internally insecure and very well maybe co-dependent. They just appear to be more independent by constantly being with someone new. Either way, the vibe they give off is the same, and a functional, healthy relationship will not come from behaving in any of these ways.

My suggestion would be to surround yourself with honest and caring people, who are preferably drama and mostly baggage free. You can learn from observing them and how they interact with others. 

Ask about how you are perceived and suggestions as to what you can do to overcome the obstacles. Be open to their advice, even though it might sting. Hopefully, you don’t choose friends who want to deliberately hurt you, or don’t care. Good friends and genuine people will be honest. But consider the source for any type of feedback, before you discard a friend, simply because they may have told you something, you didn’t want to hear.

Craving is what an addict does…
NEED is what an addict feels… and this is what drives them..

The more clearly that you see yourself, the more able you will be to love another and more able to create a lasting, enduring relationship.

Self-help

Don’t We All?…

 I was parked in front of the mall wiping off my car. I had just come from the car wash and was waiting for my wife to get out of work. Coming my way from across the parking lot was what society would consider a bum.

From the looks of him, he had no car, no home, no clean clothes, and no money. There are times when you feel generous, but there are other times when you just don’t want to be bothered. This was one of those, “I don’t want to be bothered times.”

“I hope he doesn’t ask me for any money,” I thought. He didn’t. He came and sat on the curb in front of the bus stop, but he didn’t look like he had enough money to even ride the bus. After a few minutes he spoke.

“That’s a very pretty car,” he said. He was unkempt, but he had an air of dignity about him. His blond beard kept more than just his face warm.

I said, “Thanks,” and continued wiping off my car.

He sat there quietly as I worked. The expected plea for money never came. As the silence between us widened something inside said, “Ask him if he needs any help.” I was sure that he would say “yes”, but I held true to the inner voice.

“Do you need any help?” I asked.

He answered in three simple, but profound words that I shall never forget. We often look for wisdom in great men and women. We expect it from those of higher learning and accomplishments. I expected nothing but an outstretched grimy hand. He spoke the three words that shook me.

“Don’t we all?” he said.

I was feeling high and mighty, successful and important, above a bum in the street, until those three words hit me like a twelve gauge shotgun.

Don’t we all?

I needed help. Maybe, not for bus fare, or a place to sleep, but I needed help. I reached in my wallet and gave him not only enough for bus fare, but enough to get a warm meal and shelter for the day.

Those three little words still ring true. No matter how much you have, no matter how much you have accomplished, you need help, too. No matter how little you have, no matter how loaded you are with problems, even without money, or a place to sleep, you can give help. Even if it’s just a compliment, you can give that.

You never know when you may see someone who appears to have it all. They are waiting on you to give them what they don’t have. A different perspective on life, a glimpse at something beautiful, a respite from daily chaos, that perhaps only you can help them see.

Maybe, the man was just a homeless stranger wandering the streets. Maybe, he was more than that. Maybe, he was sent by a power that is great and wise, to minister to a soul too comfortable in himself.

Maybe, God looked down, called an Angel, dressed him like a bum, then said,

“Go minister to that man cleaning the car; that man needs help.”

Don’t we all?

~ The author is Nathaniel Bronner, Jr., who has a daily inspiration “Wings Over The Mountains of Life. ” His website is well worth the visit and is located by clicking… http://www.mountainwings.com

Sex

Trying to find himself through a woman’s body…

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I had a conversation with sixty-year-old man, who after a divorce, has been in the dating world for over a decade.

With a confused look on his face and surprise in his tone, “After women have sex, if the relationship doesn’t work out, they really do get upset, don’t they? They get so emotional about it, even angry.Then with a clueless expression, “Sex is really important to women.”

Thinking, what an imbecile, I respond, “Of course, it is. And sex usually becomes, or should become important on an emotional level to men, as they get older, more emotionally mature, and are able to recognize how deep a connection sex actually is.”

He nods, but his face displays a puzzled expression. 

I continue, “How often do women get upset with you?”

Long pause, “Alot, right after my divorce alot. Now… women, well, women get attached easily don’t they?”

I question, “What do you do to cause this? Do you lead them on?”

He shrugs and with the same clueless expression. “After we have sex, I realize that we have nothing in common.

I inquire. “Why didn’t you, or don’t you get to know the women first, before you have sex with them?”

He shrugs.

Previous to this admission, he told me that he wants to find a real committed relationship and that he is so very tired of dating and wants to settle down even remarry, but for some reason he can’t seem to attain his goal…

What say you and what might you say to him?…

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Women In Real Life

He blew out my candle…

A man took me to dinner on my birthday. After, we enjoyed our entrees, a birthday cake was placed before me. He told me to blow out my candle and when I didn’t do it immediately…he blew and we ended up ‘kind of’ blowing together, and he blew out my candle.

Stunned, I sadly exclaimed. “You blew out my birthday candle!”

His reply. “I’ll pass my wish over to you.”

I thought. ‘Thanks alot buddy but I’d rather have my own wish.’

I have never in all my years had anyone ever blow out my birthday candle. I would’ve thought that he would have had the waiter relight the candle, so that I could blow it out on my own. But no! Then another thought, why did he even blow on the candle? It’s my birthday after all… Plus, he didn’t give me the time to make my own wish…

I blew if off and enjoyed my cake…but…

What are your thoughts… have you ever had anyone blow out your birthday candle? That is past the age of say two years old…

I have never blown out a friend’s, beau’s, or family member’s birthday candle ever! It’s a given that this is for the birthday person to do…

It seems like a little thing, but sometimes small actions have big implications…and are indications of other things.

If someone blew out your candle, how would that make you feel? And, or what would you say, or do? And what do you think are the implications of his action?

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Sidebar… he was 20 minutes late picking me up… he did call to push the time back but he was still 20 minutes later. As I was walking down my stairs, I saw his car in the front of my house and he was sitting in it on the phone. I sat in the living room and waited and waited…
I peeked out the front door and saw him yakking… I waited…then in the excitement of my birthday, I walked outside and waved to him. He smiled and waved but kept on yakking…
I went back inside and waited… thinking, if it weren’t my birthday, I would cancel the evening…
Then he entered and said. “I apologize. I hate being late, but I will tell you about it.”

When he told me … it was nothing that couldn’t have waited….so this is a bit more insight to the kind of person I was dealing with…

Okay go…what’s your take?

EXPLOSIONS, Media, Politics

Media Circus…

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Circus : Portrait of the mime with Royal FlushNothing! But a three ring circus..

Can anyone recall the days when a President would come on and make an announcement, then get off the TV? He was professional, to the point, and served the American people, not a media whore, not  a ‘personality,’ but a respected man, a leader… even if you didn’t agree with all he said, or did, he was respected. Not the ‘I’… ‘me’ …’my’ of Obama… the, ‘me’,’ that in his own, dictator-like, spoken words rewards his friends and punishes his enemies. The ‘I’ am the president as he keeps reminding us to make sure that we know that ‘he’ is the real ring leader… ‘wanna be’ leader of the world…

Agenda-filled politicians label groups and are the ‘racists’ etc.  They want to label and force people to be and do as they deem for their usage. PC is BS! — like Obama has done with many blacks. His administration caused, literally caused, the ignorant blacks to destroy their own town as they try to vilify people like West, Carson and Sheriff Clark who tell the truth.

Hillary+Clinton+caricature+webNow Hillary, a real-life circus freak, trying to use women as the side-players in her circus show. Women I know don’t like or respect her on any level. Everyone I know thinks she and her husband are skanks. So why is anyone paying attention to them? It’s the bought and paid for media pushing the propaganda agenda trying to force the people to think like they want them to think. They vilify Trump for declaring business bankruptcy while the Clintons are raping every American as they spew lies and con taking in money from countries that hate US to line their pockets and create their lifestyle then telling everyone else they should give while all they have ever done is to take. What have the Clintons ever done but live off the people, lie, con, take and pervert? Slick Willy decreed that ‘oral sex’ isn’t sex. 

Recall, the ‘media event’ of the Obama circus the killing of Bin Laden? It is announced forty-five minutes early that ‘the president’ will make an important announcement late in the evening on a Sunday night. I watched as Geraldo… Geraldo! The talk show, Jerry Springer- Geraldo.. builds it up and builds it up. What could it be? What will Obama announce? Could it be this? Could it be that?  Ladies and gentleman, what scary thing will Obama, the ring leader of the circus, announce?

Then finally, Geraldo in ‘barker-like’ style states. “What if they got Bin Laden?” Then in the most unprofessional, unjournalistic way, he says, “This is just my opinion.” The ‘ trying to create anticipation’ look in his eye, takes me back to the dumb show where he opened some vault. Then after making this ‘off the cuff’ statement, Geraldo gets a notification that, indeed, Bin Laden has been killed.

This was a three ring circus set up and staged for effect, the jesters build up for the main performer… the pre-show warm-up orchestrated for Obama to come on and make ‘his’ announcement… and the circus ‘hoped’ this will keep him as the ring leader… the performance that makes sure the circus goes on… with the ability to get bigger tents and more rings kept full and continually spinning.

We are witnessing a set-up, an agenda-filled three ring media circus. This president with the clown-like name, Barack Obama, or Barry Soetero, whichever he chooses to go by, is a media creation, a clown, a puppet, a front man and right now, he is the ring leader of this three ring circus….

This media circus is running and ruining our country, its attitudes and its morality. It is total corruption. This media circus is government propaganda…continually blowing smoke up America’s ass.

While the stories spin and spin and change circus ring to circus ring. Look over here at this one! Now this one! No, now look here! Ladies and gentlemen look, there’s a show over here!

And pay no attention to the people behind the curtain… because they are doing some real underhanded magic, while you are busy viewing the spinning circus show out front…

The American people are being taken on a real roller coaster ride, a ride of, and for their life, by a three ring circus, orchestrated by dictators, puppets of the Illluminati, Bliderbergs, New World Order, anti-Christ, evil, agenda-filled, Soros, elite, bankers, world monetary managers, UN, global masters,…whatever you want to call it or them. And, unless, we leave the mindset of a dumb, mesmorized child, walk out of the circus and come back to adult sanity, we will never be America again!

We will have life long tummy aches from the cotton candy, continue to be mesmerized by the performers and living in a surreal circus-carnival like atmosphere forever.

Yes! Ladies and gentlemen, we are being manipulated by bought and paid for media clowns…ABC, NBC, CNN, FOX, CBS, etc. are involved in this circus performance and it plays daily and is on every minute to brainwash, and brainwash some more. Obama’s mantra, if you repeat it often enough, they will be convinced! Some shows and stations are just more lying, manipulative, intense and deceptive than others! Others are more fair and balanced or ‘pretend’ to be.

And it is quite a caravan of expense when the ring leader takes his show on the road squandering resources for his self-promotion and leisure.

A circus of illusion, not logic! Waste and bloat, with the fat lady in the circus becoming the government side show to the media circus… smoke and mirrors…a three ring circus expanding daily in Leviathan spin and juggling.

As the circus ‘polls’ spin the numbers to con the audience, the masses, and the fools…

I say listen to the candidates NOT the media interpretation. The media is bought and paid for scum.

We can not let this media circus of crap choose our next President like they did the lying  Muslim Obama…

Self-help

Communication…

Is communication by machine hampering, blocking and detracting from real sincere human communication?

Are email and text messaging hampering face to face look into the eyes real honest communication?

I think that it is! Not think! I know that it is!

There were studies done, years ago, that revealed that people who used a computer in their work were more likely to objectify human beings. There were also studies done showing that sexual predators, many times, are isolated in their work and in their work use a computer.

I can’t stand to be asked on a date, or lunch with a friend by email or text. I think email and texting can be useful, if used as an additional tool for communication, but when someone uses it, when it would be just as easy to pick up the phone, it appears as an avoidance and a lazy way to communicate. It’s detached communication, a step removed from the voice, and two steps removed from in person.

I like to hear a voice, I like to see a face. I like eyes… intimacy… touching and real in person communication.

Behind a computer, a person can pretend to be anyone. I don’t know how many married men approach me over the internet. These people are weak and insignificant in their essences. They are frauds hiding behind a machine. Trying to make a human connection through a machine, dependant on a machine, hiding behind a machine and lying through a machine.

If you don’t have to reveal yourself, but you can just type out a persona and words that are meaningless, do you diminish, perhaps, even lose the ability to really communicate from your heart and in person?

Communication has always been key to any and all human relations….and is the cause for so much misunderstanding, hurt and break-ups. So now, that so many are focusing using communication by machine, it’s taking real communication to a new low.

Sure, you can communicate faster and with more people, but how about the quality? How meaningful is a text? And do you think that you can really know, or get to know someone communicating by email and by texting? Well, you can’t and you don’t…

We are detaching from the fullness of who we are and from each other. Some may like that as they hide who they really are and their intentions. 

A man can text one woman while having dinner with another… and tell her it’s business…while he’s making or canceling a date…

I like real in person communication…

I have noticed too many times, couples in restaurants, where both are on their  ‘communication’ contraptions and missing, or avoiding the opportunity for real in person communication. 

Perhaps, in the future, classes will be needed concerning how to communicate and interact in person. We needed that as a society even before communication by machine took over…

Communication is difficult as it is… why add a machine into the mix…?

It takes courage to communicate face to face, eye to eye, person to person. In person, the whole of you is revealed, your facial expressions, your voice tone, your eyes, whether you make eye contact, or not, your vulnerabilities, even if you are really capable of full communication….In person, it’s yourself, YOU, in all of your dimensions.

All this hiding behind this machine driven communication is diminishing real communication and who we are as a people.

My suggestion, use it as a tool, but don’t count on it to do most of your communication (especially personal) and never rely on it and certainly not to make dates especially in the beginning of a courtship. Doing so, might be cutting you off from yourself, and others, even while you ‘think’ that you are communicating more.

Put down your cellphone while eating with friends and family. Put down your cell while driving, turn off your cell while in the movie threatre. And on dates, turn off your phone, or don’t even take it, unless, you are a surgeon and you just preformed surgery and need to keep tabs on your patient.

Be where you are and with the person and people you are with, instead of being distracted, and connecting to others who aren’t there in person.

Observing people in the grocery store, walking across parking lots, and while they are driving, etc. talking on the phone… well, to me, they look like idiots… not actually present, but attached to some machine. It doesn’t make them appear ‘busy’ or ‘popular’.. it makes them appear unorganized, detracted, distracted and pathetic. So desperate to communicate and connect… but are they really? Are they really even capable?

Human interaction and communication in person is fulfulling for a healthy individual. Real human interaction enables a person to be autonomous and to enjoy solitude at times, without the need to be plugged in all the time…

Get what I am communicating here?

Voices and in person are the only way to fully communicate…  
Look me in the eyes and talk with me…