…doesn’t mean he isn’t weak…(Okay, right off the bat, I am saying that I ‘know and understand’ that ‘all’ men aren’t this way.) So, I will continue…

Just because a man is bigger than a woman, doesn’t mean that the woman isn’t stronger…

It appears by what I am observing and what I have been told, that many men these days are almost completely ego-driven… and that they have ‘very’ fragile egos…

That they are whiny, complaining, weak, mean, cruel and abusive and all of these behaviors stem from the same origin… a fragile ego.

Is it the economy, the stress and uncertainty that is bringing this more to the surface?

Emotional strength is what makes a person ‘really’ strong… not a strong exterior, or facade. Well, of course, it’s best when the exterior matches the interior… and I guess, that’s what is so disturbing to interact with a big, strong man to realize that he is a baby inside. Myself and many others are seeing many men with strong exteriors, but with interiors that are mush.

Certainly men should(I actually don’t like that word ‘should’) be and are better off, if aware and in touch with their emotions and feelings as that is what makes them ‘hopefully’ able to process them and to ‘really’ be strong. But what ‘seems’ to be happening is that, ‘instead’ of processing emotions… Many are staying stuck in them…

Most all of us know when a man is hurt by a woman that it takes him longer than a woman who is hurt by a man to get over it.

That is, perhaps, because, many men ‘try to deny’ that they are hurting, or that they even feel and have emotions… which causes those emotions to become stronger in them, and then they either ‘explode’, stay, or get even more stuck… hence, so many men being abusive or whiny. Cruelty, abuse, whiny, negating all come from the same place and that place is a ‘fragile ego’ and an inability to process emotions… it’s just comes in different expressions or ‘explosions’…

When a man tells me that he is looking for a ‘strong’ woman … I suspect, or actually ‘know’  that he is an emotionally weak man (looking for a woman to ‘take care’ of him on some level.) As the natural instinct of a ‘real man’ is to take care of a woman.

Women may be smaller, more soft on the exterior, but most are emotionally strong as nails these days… and not just ‘these days’, but they always have been…

I workout all the time and have all my life, lift weights and am in great shape, but I will never be physically stronger than most men… but emotionally, I bet I am stronger than most all.

Women need a soft place to fall… they don’t want to be with a man/child, a whiny wimp, or an ego boasting creep who is ‘trying’ to hide his fears, and who he ‘really is’, behind bragging, a shiny car, his muscles, his job, abuse, his anger, or his ‘over interest’ in some sport, or sports team. It appears too many men are escaping and trying to hide from themselves in these things, etc… also to mention addictions, such as sex, alcohol and drugs…

Some men are escaping into Internet porn and dating sites… even though they are married, or in relationships. They are ‘hiding’ behind computers enjoying the thrill of creating a facade as they flirt and pursue women, when these men really aren’t available. They create this online BS dialogue that makes them temporarily ‘feel’ desired and attractive escaping into the thrill of the chase. Then when the women being pursued pushes to meet, or to have a ‘real’ connection, the men vanish. I hear this all the time from women. And how stupid is this? I say very! It’s actually pathetic.

There is an excellent movie produced and acted in by Kirk Cameron called FIREPROOF… I recommend that all men wanting to learn how to be a better man and a better partner to see this movie.

The below was sent to me by one of my readers, I hear similar things daily… and I agree wholeheartedly:

“The Bible is very clear that a husband should love their wife and provide for and protect her. Somehow some men have seemed to twist ‘submit’ into crush, dominate and control, while pounding their shavened chest yelling, “I am Man, be nice to me, or I will tell my Mommy”…FYI ‘Mommy boys’ are not sexy, sensual or attractive!

Where are the real men? Where are the old fashion commitments? If a man would go back to being a man who takes the true spiritual leadership role in and of the family, women would probably enjoy being a woman in the true sense. By no means am I putting men down, just tired of games and immature men.”

A man is a son, until he takes a wife, a girl is a daughter for the rest of her life….

Okay men, I understand that women have issues also, but if you are a real man with her, her issues will be diminished. Because many women, I know and hear from, are ‘having to’, if not ‘needing to’, or even being forced into taking the role of men in relationships because men aren’t being men. And women are getting really tired of it.

Most men want a feminine woman… not some mannish version… right? So why men do you expect her to take care of you and to act like a man?

We want a man to be stronger, so that we can be softer than…
We want a man to be bigger, so that we can be smaller than…
Most women want to feel that they are protected…

This is the natural and balanced order of male/female…

So, men it’s up to you…