Does love blossom from sexual attraction?
Or does sexual attraction blossom from love?
Which comes first?
And can you have one without the other?
Does love blossom from sexual attraction?
Or does sexual attraction blossom from love?
Which comes first?
And can you have one without the other?
By Ann
What might men want to know? Without running the risk of writing a multi-volume encyclopedia, let me hit five major highlights…
1. Sexual appetite in women only increases with age
This is a generalization, but is based on fact in most cases. As women mature, they become more comfortable with their bodies and themselves, adding to the uninhibited behavior that is so attractive in a sex partner. The typical young, “hot” women in sexy attire can just as easily be self-conscious and unadventurous in bed, as the older, less lusty woman can bring real fire and fun into the boudoir.
2. Even independent women are attracted to caring men
Even though she is self-sufficient and enjoys her independence, she still needs to feel protected and provided for on some level. She may be able to maintain a career and lifestyle that requires a great amount of responsibility, but that doesn’t mean she enjoys doing it alone. In this case, she wants to feel taken care of and that she has chosen a mate that is capable of holding down the fort on the days she feels overwhelmed by her responsibilities.
3. With bedroom etiquette, know that while he may be done, she is probably not
It’s a well-known fact that women require more effort in the bedroom. Sexual satisfaction in men is usually a quick fix, while women often require a good amount of TLC in just the right areas. Just because you’ve reached blastoff doesn’t mean she has even fastened her seatbelt. So for optimum lovemaking, it is up to the guy to make sure the journey has been a success for all parties involved.
4. He can’t expect her to be in better shape than he is
Men tend to be more visual than women, who reside more often in an emotional arena, so a woman may be more inclined to forgive her mate’s imperfect physical attributes. Many men set a high priority on their partner’s physical shape and appearance, which is only fair if they can return the favor by offering comparable attractiveness. It also stands to reason that if she is in significantly better shape than him, he should definitely appreciate what he’s got and perhaps view her attributes as inspiration for a new exercise regime.
5. Overwhelm her with compliments in the bedroom
Stereotypically, women need more reassurance in the bedroom than men do. Women tend to nitpick regarding their own bodies and most are never 100% satisfied with their physical appearance. Sharing her naked body with someone makes her feel vulnerable and her guy should treat it like a gift, praising all of her positive attributes. Even some exaggeration here can net a bit payoff, for if she feels beautiful and appreciated, she will be more open and responsive to her lover.
You know the old saying that knowledge is power, and for those men who are genuinely interested in getting and keeping their woman, you just might want to commit a few of these to memory.
Ladies, what other things would you add to this list?
WHAT is it that a man, you are dating, can either say or do that turns you SO OFF that you know, RIGHT THEN that you will never go out with him again, much less become intimate? If married, or in a relationship, what can turn you so off that the mood is completely gone and it may take time to recover to feel affectionate again…if ever?