by Ann

So, what if you are bullied! Get over it! Ignore it! Let it slide off your back! Walk away from it!

Stand up to it! Call it out! Address it! But don’t let these energy suckers define, control or harm who you are, or harm us as a society!

Have we become so thin-skinned and weak as a people that we can’t handle those that don’t think like us, like us, or are actually mean and cruel to us?!

When I was growing up, if I was being bullied. I was taught to turn away, and to not look back, or to stand up to it. My parents used this as an opportunity to guide me in how to build my self-esteem and to strengthen my character and resolve. 
 
If I complained to my parents that someone called me a name or was cruel to me. My parents would listen, then say something like. “What someone says about you doesn’t matter. It is who and what you are that matters and what you think of yourself.” Or “Who cares what someone says. Let it roll of your back!”

I learned the bullying lesson before I was ten years old. That bullies can’t hurt me, unless I allow them to. Sure, I have been ‘temporarily’ hurt by bullies, but I look at them and the situation, examine the dynamics, then let it go and become the wiser and stronger for it.

Now, it appears that we are turning into a bully-controlled people…weak, whiny, thin-skinned and easily offended. It’s the weak of spirit that are easily offended. 

I am not advocating bullying, but a bit of it and how it is delt with can build character. And it’s a parent’s job to be aware and to talk to their children about what is real and what isn’t, and to guide children towards a healthy self-esteem. So, that bullies can’t harm them. So, that they won’t be and can’t be controlled by bullying tactics and so they can see through the bully’s agenda.

There have always been bullies and there will always be bullies… so learn to deal with it, because they are in all areas of life and will be in your life for all your life in some form. Bullies can’t be legislated away by government bullies.

Our government has become the biggest bully of all.

Emotional energy manipulators know that the egotist is their bestfriend. They love people who are willing to sell their soul for the price of an ego-stroking. There are few rules and laws that govern emotional energy control and there shouldn’t be. It is up to the individual to learn to set their individual boundaries. It is apart of growing up and becoming self-actualized.Those without ethics or a moral compass can have their way often by bullying. There are physical bullies, economic bullies, social and emotional bullies. Some bullying is clear in intention (like our current government administration) others more underhanded.

So, when you or your children are bullied, it is an opportunity to teach and to build character. Steel yourself against the affects of bullying as it will serve you well your whole life. Learn and know when to turn away, when, and how to stand up to it, and how to recognize what is ‘trying’ to be accomplished or done to you by the bullies.

Years ago, I was in a workout facility. I got off the equipment I was using to get some water. When I returned there was a large, black woman where I had been, She was in the middle of my things and using the equipment I was using just a moment earlier. I said, “Excuse me, I was working out here and these are my things.” To which she replied. “Well, I am here now, you skinny white bitch!” I immediately gathered my belongings and walked out.
 
When the health club called me to ask why I wasn’t working out there any longer. I told them. And they informed me that they had incidents of what occurred to me and that these people had taken thiings from the locker room. Clearly, this woman was trying to provoke and upset me… Why? In order to cause a disturbance to steal or just for her pleasure of doing so? I don’t know why and it didn’t matter. It was not worth my response.

Bullies many times are looking for your response. I exited and never returned. Had I responded to this woman, I would’ve been under the spell of the bully. And nothing ‘good’ would’ve have come of it..

Bullies try to suck energy, to control others in order to make themselves feel better, or to gain money, and, or power. There are all kinds and levels of bullying and all kinds and levels of bullies… the obvious and the not so obvious. Of course, the obvious is the easiest to recognize, react to, or to turn from. The not so obvious, the sneaky, manipulating bullies, are the real dangerous ones… those that can bully your spirit into a place of weakness and submission before you realize what is being done.

Bullies give us the opportunity to define who we are and to create a strong-will and to refine our character. And once again, it can’t be legislated to stop bullying. To do so, is bullying from the government in itself and is detrimental to human interaction and growth.

Thankfully, I was taught early to see clearly what a bully is and how to handle it and the situations occurring from it. I can see through bullies, maybe, not always at first glance, but soon, and always eventually.

And what I see and recognize that is going on in our country is a government bullying its people while ‘trying’ to legislate against bullying… all this ‘political correctness’ is, actually, the government bullying us into submission to be like they want us to be, think like they want us to think, do what they want us to do. So, that they can better control and further bully us in to submission and be more and more under their control.
These government bullies want power over the people!

Learn to recognize bullying, teach children how to handle it, and don’t allow bullying to weaken you.  Bullying is an opportunity to build internal strength. We need to build character back into the world… not legislate politically correct BS, to get us so overly thin-skinned that no one has, or can have an opinion, making us more