What do you mean when you refer to a woman as ‘high maintenance’? Is it emotionally, intellectually, financially, sexually, or what…?

And when you refer to a woman in this way, is it, perhaps, because you have a concern, even a fear that you won’t be able to satisfy her on some level?

Do you call her that and put her in that ‘classification’ so that she will feel that something is ‘wrong’ with her for wanting and asking… and this gives you the upper hand. Much like the divorced man who goes on and on about how this ex-wife spent so much money… letting the new woman know that she ‘shouldn’t’ be this way…should even be okay with him not spending money on her…therefore, he is setting up a way to control her for his purposes…

Is this ‘high maintenance’ category being used and slung about to ‘try’ and control women’s expectations, demands and desires… by the men who don’t think that they can and who can’t measure up?

Is it, perhaps, more about the man then the woman?

Men, I know, whom I ‘classify’ as ‘real’ men… want their lady to dress well, be pampered and to be taken care of…
even to be spoiled on some level…and they take great pleasure and pride to be able to do this for her…

Then I know and have met men who appear insecure, angry and who are easily intimidated by women, refer to a woman as being ‘high maintenance’ with such a negative tone in their voice and attitude. When I have heard them say this… it ‘appears’ to me like, perhaps, they feel that they can’t measure up on some level to attain her affections, to keep her, or to satisfy her…

Sure, ‘high maintenance’ is a relative term, in that, what is high maintenance to one, may not be to another.

One man may have his woman living in a mansion who won’t be satisfied, until she has a ski cabin in Aspen. While, another man might consider a woman who wants to be taken out to dinner once a week high maintenance…

So, what does ‘high maintenance’ mean to you and is it necessarily a negative in your opinion?