The best things in life are moments filled with feelings, emotions, sensations of being alive, the touch, the smile of someone you love, the embrace, the kiss, the hug. the warmth of someone you love. The feel of the sun on your face. The cool wind on your skin. The sun glistening in the trees. The sound of music. The taste of your favorite food. The best things in life are feelings and emotions triggered by people and experiences that create wonderful memories. The best thing in life is to feel and experience our senses. The best thing in life is communication. God’s gift of being on earth is to experience love and joy… the real connection to self, to others and to the source… our maker.
Sure ‘things’ are part of living on earth, but they are not the reason… they are only to enhance, to give to others, and to make our life easier, and perhaps, fun. Things are tools. Things are sofas to sit on, utensils to eat with.
I once went on a date with a man who loved expensive cars and owned many. On our first date, we had fun, he was attentive. We had a great conversation and dinner at a nice restaurant. I think he was driving a Mercedes that evening, but I didn’t care. I thought him a nice man. On our second date, he arrived in a Ferrari. It was pretty… but I have ridden in and owned many great cars. A car is a car. A car is fun to drive. A car gets you from place to place, but it is a thing. I was chatting as he drove down the tollway to our destination. He did not respond to me, but instead, stared straight at the rode. I thought …’Umm this is bizarre’. He was not the friendly talkative man of our first date.
Turning into the parking lot of the restaurant, another car turned too close to him and he sparked into anger with a comment to match. He parked his Ferrari in a distant parking place to make certain no one could ding it. At dinner, he kept looking out at his car, since we were by the window with view of it.
After dinner, on our way to the movie, he was overly focused on his driving and was not talkative. So, I inquired. “Are you okay? You seem preoccupied?” To which he snapped, when I drive this car, I focus on my driving. It’s my baby. It’s worth thus and so. It’s an investment. I only take it out occasionally.
I responded. “So, why did you drive it tonight, to impress me?”
He, “Sure, did. And I did, didn’t I? I knew you would look great in this car.”
Me, “Actually no. It’s a nice car. But it’s our second date and your focus is on the car and not me. I would rather your attention have been on me, on our getting to know one another, instead of a car,or how I look in your car.”
He, ” Well, well, well…ummm, I thought you would like riding in a Ferrari.”
Me, “We had a great first date. I thought you nice and interesting. I have been in a Ferrari before, in fact, several times.. They are nice cars, but your attention is on it, not me, or us getting to know one another. So, why don’t you and your car continue the date and take me home.”
He, “But I like you. I really like you. You are beautiful, smart and fun.”
Me, “But your attention tonight is on your car. So please take me home and be with your car.”
He asked me out several times after that evening and I declined. This self-centered materialistic man was shocked by my response concerning his ‘car’. He had no idea how to impress much less connect with a woman like me, or really any woman, unless she’s a gold digger and as materialistic a woman as he is a man. And did this fool think so little of women that he thought he could ‘buy’ or ‘lure’ me into liking him with his ‘things’. How little he must think of himself.
As I stated previously, cars are fun, but people are what matter most. When people put things before people, they have a distortion in their spirit, soul and, of course, their life. This man showed me early on that ‘his things’ matter more than interacting with me and in his distorted mind, he thought I would like him, or be impressed with a car so much that I would, what? Like him for and because of his car… Ha! His things defined him. He’s fractured with no real inner core. It’s like people such as this are anchored to a reality defined by their ‘things’… instead of their internal core. People such as this often view people as things and treat them as such… as in the trophy wife… and that is how I felt with him. He liked me because he liked the way I looked in his car. He gave no value to who I am inside only that my exterior fit with his false and fake ‘image’ of self. His concern wasn’t with me, my feelings, my emotions, or getting to really know me… but to show his car off to me. And therefore, show his car and me, off to others… as in ‘his image’ was what was important to him. His image as it related to ‘things’.
It’s one ‘thing’ to enjoy things…quite another to place them where people ought be in your life.
His placement of value was seriously misplaced. I never saw him again and he didn’t understand why. Later, I interacted with some people who knew him, actually who had worked for him. (Funny how that happens.) I learned that even though successful, he was the worst boss they had ever had and one man quit his job because of him. This man of ‘things’ lives in a house worth millions, gated and well-guarded. Has a garage full of expensive, collectible cars and lives alone. He was married once years ago. She had an affair and left him. (He told me this on our first date and poor him, he was so hurt when she did that and he didn’t understand why she did.) He is a hard-hearted money grubbing executive, no one could stand working with, or, for him. He retired early and is alone with his things. Who knows what happened to make this man so inhuman, fractured, unfeeling and cold. What happened to him that he has no self worth, unless it is connected to money and things? And he’s so far gone now, no one could/would care, except a woman just like him or a gold-digger. But he wouldn’t really share his things with her. He’s too selfish and self-centered.
I enjoy things, pretty furniture, antiques, art, jewelry, clothes and yes, cars, too. But nothing comes before people and certainly not before someone I love.
Things are to enhance life, not to replace people, or to become a life.
Excellent as always. Love you, and your words, lady.
Ayn, I was married to a man like this. I divorced him. He parked his cars in inconvenient places to keep them safe. Forget about me that I had to walk further. He was like a thing himself. At first, I thought he was great that he had money and took good care of his things. Then I became one of these things. I was so unhappy in that marriage. Now I am married to a man who has lots of money and things but he puts me first. Love your insight.
This is truth. Well done.
I was married to an image conscious cold woman. All she cared about was what she had and what other’s thought. She pretended in front of others that our marriage was wonderful even when I was talking divorce. I had no love in that marriage. I love to give to those I love. I loved to give to her until I realized that is all she cared about. Ayn, wanna meet? You have it all.
Seriously, you have beauty, brains, a great heart are talented in many areas. You are a dream of a woman. I will email you privately. I do not mean to offend but I have followed your site for years. I like how you write and how you think.
Perfect article and so true it made me shiver. Love love love you Ayn. You are beyond the best~!
Will you marry me, gorgeous?
Well written with excellent words and intent. Another great one from the greatest. Bravo beautiful! Happy Valentines!
True and great smile!
And that’s a GOOD thing! Things break, rot, become useless.
Too true. I have gone out with men like this. All about themselves and their things. They are so boring. Run away from them like you did. Good article!
Amen!
Happy Valentines, beautiful brilliant woman! Who would care about a car being in your presence? Only a fool!
That man is an arrogant, self important pig tied to his things. He probably can’t love. Doesn’t even get what it is. He’s a narcissist and only loves himself and his things. Great article!
Ayn, you have the most beautiful face and smile. Exquisite! You are exquisite, everything about you. Loved running into the other evening. Couldn’t take my eyes off of you.
Values were well taught to you. This article is expressed very well including examples. I commend you for your clarity, common sense and values. You are to be applauded for your teaching others. People first. Things second. As you know people who put things and animals first are damaged goods. They have either been abused or have mental illness and this has led to the sociopathy in our society. The lack of empathy with the focus on self and things along with putting animals before humans. It’s implemented in the liberal mental illness and agenda. Many have been abused, shown no real values and have little to no self-worth so it manifests in child-like and immature ideation. Keep up the great work. I follow and read what you write all the time.
I will add you are also very beautiful with a rockin hot bod.
Ayn, this article is soooooo true! I have gone out with men who are all about their car. They are very boring selfish and selfcentered. I couldn’t wait to get home from the date. What is wrong with people these days? One guy wanted his car parked out in front of the restaurant. I guess it made him feel more important. I thought he was stupid.
Damn! Are you for real? Beautiful incredible brain woman! I am in LOVE!
Well stated.
Ayn, as you know, people who like things more than humans are insecure people and can be afraid of people hurting them. Things they can control. People they can’t. So loving things makes them feel safe. They are stunted emotionally, emotionally week and unhappy. I know many. As you wrote the only reasons for things are people. You express well.
Skank man of nowhere and nothing.
Oh Ayn I have had this kind of experience too. Men like this are selfish pigs and arrogant fools.
How Can I meet you?
Ayn, you are one great lady. I enjoy everything you write and the way that you look at the world. So many people admire you.
Nice article!
Loved his toys than pay attention to his date is a no no. He thought he was it.
Cocky.
Really Materialistc World.
Geez Ayn, that was intense. But in all fairness, I would have brought the car to impress you, to look good for you. But, I would have left it at that. I sure wouldn’t be looking out the window at my car while you were talking to me. Having nice things isn’t worth very much if you have no one to share them with. I feel bad for the guy if I’m honest.
materialistic World has changed the Priorities. Feelings, Emotions Compassion are seemingly Secondary .
A good article that re-enforces how shallow some people can be. I love the shallow women video clips of the gold digger that is impressed with the car the guy is leaning on. He asks her to go for a ride and she agrees and he leads her to the next car which is a Toyota Versa and she walks away!
You are not only beautiful but wise.
Another good from the best.
An excellent read.
Your man is one lucky guy!
Great article!
True words.
Agreeing 100% with you WISDOM!!
” Things are to enhance life, not to replace people, or to become a life. “
Ayn, beautiful inside and out.
Seriously?! I drive a big ass Ford Diesel 4×4 and I would be thrilled to have a date with a lovely girl like the one in this article!! If I did have a date with her I would not be worried about my big honking pick up truck! The first thing I would do is try to get a second date!
Ayn you are the most valuable thing that person had in his car. What a douche!
Great article. Thank you for your thoughts and wisdom. I am sharing this if you don’t mind.
Values
principles
character
integrity
honor duty country:
The Left and criminal illegals have zero zero values, principles, character, integrity, honor, duty, country
It’s all the little things in life that matter the most….
Abundance is not about things. Abundance is
about love and WISDOM!! These things you have in Plenty,
No truer words were ever expressed so well and you use perfect examples. Many in this world have rotted souls, are tied to material things.