Are email and text messaging hampering face to face look into the eyes real honest communication?

I think that it is! Not think! I know that it is!

There were studies done, years ago, that revealed that people who used a computer in their work were more likely to objectify human beings. There were also studies done showing that sexual predators, many times, are isolated in their work and in their work use a computer.

I can’t stand to be asked on a date, or lunch with a friend by email or text. I think email and texting can be useful, if used as an additional tool for communication, but when someone uses it, when it would be just as easy to pick up the phone, it appears as an avoidance and a lazy way to communicate. It’s detached communication, a step removed from the voice, and two steps removed from in person.

I like to hear a voice, I like to see a face. I like eyes… intimacy… touching and real in person communication.

Behind a computer, a person can pretend to be anyone. I don’t know how many married men approach me over the internet. These people are weak and insignificant in their essences. They are frauds hiding behind a machine. Trying to make a human connection through a machine, dependant on a machine, hiding behind a machine and lying through a machine.

If you don’t have to reveal yourself, but you can just type out a persona and words that are meaningless, do you diminish, perhaps, even lose the ability to really communicate from your heart and in person?

Communication has always been key to any and all human relations….and is the cause for so much misunderstanding, hurt and break-ups. So now, that so many are focusing using communication by machine, it’s taking real communication to a new low.

Sure, you can communicate faster and with more people, but how about the quality? How meaningful is a text? And do you think that you can really know, or get to know someone communicating by email and by texting? Well, you can’t and you don’t…

We are detaching from the fullness of who we are and from each other. Some may like that as they hide who they really are and their intentions. 

A man can text one woman while having dinner with another… and tell her it’s business…while he’s making or canceling a date…

I like real in person communication…

I have noticed too many times, couples in restaurants, where both are on their  ‘communication’ contraptions and missing, or avoiding the opportunity for real in person communication. 

Perhaps, in the future, classes will be needed concerning how to communicate and interact in person. We needed that as a society even before communication by machine took over…

It takes courage to communicate face to face, eye to eye, person to person. In person, the whole of you is revealed, your facial expressions, your voice tone, your eyes, whether you make eye contact, or not, your vulnerabilities, even if you are really capable of full communication….In person, it’s yourself, YOU, in all of your dimensions.

All this hiding behind this machine driven communication is diminishing real communication and who we are as a people.

My suggestion, use it as a tool, but don’t count on it to do most of your communication (especially personal) and never rely on it and certainly not to make dates especially in the beginning of a courtship. Doing so, might be cutting you off from yourself, and others, even while you ‘think’ that you are communicating more.

Put down your cellphone while eating with friends and family. Put down your cell while driving, turn off your cell while in the movie threatre. And on dates, turn off your phone, or don’t even take it, unless, you are a surgeon and you just preformed surgery and need to keep tabs on your patient.

Be where you are and with the person and people you are with, instead of being distracted, and connecting to others who aren’t there in person.

Observing people in the grocery store, walking across parking lots, and while they are driving, etc. talking on the phone… well, to me, they look like idiots… not actually present, but attached to some machine. It doesn’t make them appear ‘busy’ or ‘popular’.. it makes them appear unorganized, detracted, distracted and pathetic. So desperate to communicate and connect… but are they really? Are they really even capable?

Human interaction and communication in person is fulfulling for a healthy individual. Real human interaction enables a person to be autonomous and to enjoy solitude at times, without the need to be plugged in all the time…

Get what I am communicating here?