another? And if so, why? What country would you rather live in?
And if you don’t want to exchange your country… why do we have this ‘current President’ saying that he wants to ‘change’ our country?
Monthly Archives: March 2011
Blame! Where is responsibility?
I am so sick and disgusted with people placing blame on anyone and everyone, but where the blame actually belongs….
This actually happened to me. I was in a place of business and there were sturdy appearing glass shelves in the room. I placed a baggie holding a sandwich on one of the shelves and the shelf fell. It startled me, but I picked the shelf up and placed it off to the side of the room. Thank God, it didn’t break. Thank God, it didn’t fall on me.
The owner came in and asked what happened? I responded that the shelf fell. He slammed back, “Did you put anything on it and I stated. “Yes, this.” as I held up a baggie holding half a ham sandwich and some napkins.
To which this man responded. “Then it’s your fault because this shelf has been up for a long time.”
To which I replied. ” Why are these shelves here if they can’t hold something that weighs next to nothing? It is dangerous and deceptive. You should remove it?
His reply.”It was fine until you put something on it.”
He never asked if I was hurt, or apologized for this occurring to me. He had no concern for anything, but placing blame on anyone but himself for having a flauty, deceptive piece of furniture in a public place. And there was no sign that said, “DO NOT PUT ANYTHING ON THESE SHELVES.”
This kind of ‘placing blame logic’ is what is ruining our country. It’s sick. It’s twisted! It’s the Obama logic, as in his continual blaming of Bush, Republicans, conservatives, tea partiers, or anyone else that he ‘thinks’ can help to take the eyes off his bad, inept, corrupt self. Of course, this lowly behavior doesn’t work for long and benefits only the one doing the blaming, but only temporarily.
Blaming is a seemingly quick fix and those who do it are trying to hide their own incompetency, ineptness, ignorance, lack of character, and inablity to learn. Being around ‘blaming’ people make me feel sick down into my soul.
Pass the buck, blame anyone that you can, instead of taking responsiblity yourself is the behavior of a person with no character.
We have created one messed up sense of how to live among some today. What a bunch of whimps we have among some in our society. What a bunch of losers! Where are honor, personal awareness that creates responsiblity, the ‘let’s fix it’, ‘are you hurt?’, or ‘can I help’ people with real spirit that made this country great?
And I am going to say it loud and clear most of the time the blame game is being played by minorities and illegal aliens.
In my neighborhood, an East Indian couple dug up all the shrubs in the beds of their townhouse and left them out on their yard in 100 degree heat and all the plants died. Their yard looked like hell and they did nothing about it. This is against the rules of the HOA. Because homeowners must get permission to change landscaping and have it approved by the board. Therefore, this couple was fined and incurred the expense of replacing what they destroyed. Their response, “The only reason that you are doing this to us is because we are foreigners.” No! the reason is because they broke HOA rules and destroyed the property of the HOA.
It is like because they are minorities, or from another country that they don’t think that they need to play by the rules of common sense, decency and the well-being of others. They ‘think’ that they deserve ‘special’ treatment. And I am sick of hearing it and sick of their lame excuses and blaming.
America is being destroyed by its catering to minorities and letting them get away with dishonoring America and its people by their poor pity me. I blame you.
We have an ‘affirmative action’ President ( and this is the only reason this inept man is President, and he is a media creation with a ‘strange’ past and few accomplishments) and what does he do? Plays the blame game while bad mouthing America.
Where is the sense of responsiblity? Where is accountablity? Where is honor? What changed our country into this ‘blaming’ society?
I say catering to minorities that care about no one, but themselves, and care nothing about America even as they want all that America has to offer is going to destroy our great county.
Also the blame game has been contributed to by many of our leaders and those in the public eye with their lack of character on display. They are ruining our country with their lies and blaming of others.
We need to teach and model for our youth that taking responsiblity is better than momentarily getting away with something.
This blame game must stop!!! Because it is a game with no winners.There are only LOSERS in the blame game because it’s only losers that play this game.
How about take responsiblity when you mess up and correct it easily and gently. Apologize and fix it! How about being a person of character instead of a spineless, whimpy blamer.
What makes you HOT???
Okay ladies and gentlemen…
What is that certain chemistry between two people that just creates HOT?
What is it about that certain someone that just curls your toes?
That makes you want to just really get into it! That makes you want to drag them off to the bedroom…and ravish them from head to toe…
That you can’t keep your hands off of them… that you burn with desire just thinking about them… that the anticipation of seeing them creates passion that fills you up to overflowing…and that must be released…
What is it???
Signs that you are dating a sociopath…
by Donna Andersen
We all want to be loved, don’t we?
Well, no. There are people in the world who don’t care about love. They don’t even know what love is. But they do care about power, control and sex.
These people are called sociopaths. The media would have us believe that a sociopath is a deranged serial killer. This isn’t true. Sociopaths know exactly what they are doing, and most of them never kill anyone. But they are social predators, who exploit just about everyone they meet. They have no heart, no conscience and no remorse.
To meet them, however, you’d never know it. They’re fun. Charming. The life of the party. They sweep us off our feet. They specialize in the whirlwind romance. Unfortunately, sooner or later, the whirlwind turns on us.
You’d think that by a certain age, we’ve already seen everything and met every type of person. But it’s possible that we’ve never before been targeted by a sociopath. If we find ourselves widowed or divorced after a long marriage, however, it could happen. All of a sudden, after many years as half of a couple, we’re on our own—perhaps with a home, a business, an inheritance, and a big, fat retirement account.
We are ripe to be plucked. And believe me, because of my website, Lovefraud.com, (http://www.lovefraud.com/ ) I’ve heard some truly heartbreaking stories of newly single women who have given all their assets to beaus who appeared out of nowhere. I’ve been contacted by the adult children of these women, who are positive that the guy is a con artist, but Mom is in love and won’t listen.
We’re especially vulnerable if we’ve had a good marriage. We naturally assume that the next man we meet will be as considerate and reliable as our husband was. It could be a very dangerous assumption.
If your new romantic interest exhibits all or most of the following behaviors, be careful. He might be a sociopath with a hidden agenda—taking you for all you’re worth.
1. Charisma and charm. They’re smooth talkers, always have an answer, never miss a beat. They seem to be very exciting.
2. Enormous ego. They act like the smartest, richest or most successful people around. They may actually come out and tell you that.
3. Overly attentive. They call, text and e-mail constantly. They want to be with you every moment. They resent time you spend with your family and friends.
4. Jekyll and Hyde personality. One minute they love you; the next minute they hate you. Their personality changes like flipping a switch.
5. Blame others. Nothing is ever their fault. They always have an excuse. Someone else causes their problems.
6. Lies and gaps in the story. You ask questions, and the answers are vague. They tell stupid lies. They tell outrageous lies. They lie when they’d make out better telling the truth.
7. Intense eye contact. Call it the predatory stare. If you get a chill down your spine when they look at you, pay attention.
8. Move fast. They quickly proclaim that you’re their true love and soul mate. They want to move in together or get married quickly.
9. Pity play. They appeal to your sympathy. They want you to feel sorry for their abusive childhood, psychotic ex, incurable disease or financial setbacks.
10. Sexual magnetism. If you feel intense attraction, if your physical relationship is unbelievable, it may be their excess testosterone.
Donna Andersen is the author of Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan. (http://lovefraud.com/book/index.php/b/ ) She is also the author of Lovefraud.com, a website that teaches people how to recognize and recover from sociopaths. (http://www.lovefraud.com/)