trying to fill themselves up – do much damage to self and others. To them the grass is always greener – because they have little to no ability to appreciate where they are, what they have and to water their own grass – they are always looking over the fence to another yard or to attain another shiny object.
They exploit others using sexuality – they lie – they cheat – trying to make themselves feel good about who they are and to stave off and deny their internal self-lack. They are void of self worth continually trying to fill themselves up. Sex is one way, but there are many ways that the empty-vessel-people try to fulfill their desperate need to feel worthy and fulfilled.
They may gorge themselves on food. All those huge swollen bodies in this world stuffed themselves overly full to become that way. Sure, there are a few people with physical disorders that keep them heavy, but for most it’s because they stuff themselves to overly full – way too often. We all may do this occasionally, but it’s not what is done occasionally that does the harm. It’s what is done daily as a habit or obsession that creates the dysfunction of destruction. Then most sit on their butts in front of the TV or computer escaping into whatever it is they can find. Escape – escape- escape is their goal – trying to escape themselves and their self loathing and fear, along with refusal to face self in any solid self-reflection.
Some use drugs or alcohol to escape their self-lack and emptiness. They will do any and everything to avoid facing self and their core issues. They are empty to the core and they will do whatever it takes to make themselves feel full – except to face self and to genuinely heal. They continually are trying to cover their internal wound with one band aid after another, when emotional surgery is what is needed. They have little or no regard for others because they have little to no regard for self.
Some buy or collect things. Some become hoarders – if one is good ten is better mentality. They may collect cars or other objects. But once one object has been purchased and owned – their intense internal lack leads them to immediately desire another. They are never satisfied as they roam about on the hunt for their next momentary high only to have it crash to the ground which stimulates and forces them to search and acquire their next rush. They can’t be genuinely happy or feel fulfilled for long because they do not have the internal means to do so. Some where in their lives they have been fractured – and it’s seemingly easier for them to look outward to things, objects, money, sex, drugs – any addiction rather than to stop and face self – their demons – their inner issues. The grass is always greener in their distorted mind’s view. Something around the next corner or curve they think may be their answer. They may have a beautiful wife, kids and success but they have little to no ability to have appreciation or gratitude for what they have. Their inner empty vessel always desires more – better – younger -newer – the next best shiny thing. If they have a brunette wife, they desire a blond mistress, etc.
They have little ability to be in the moment of thanks and gratitude. They have a restless soul – they are an empty vessel always looking – searching to be filled-up in some way or form. I am not referring to healthy ambition. I am talking a destructive, internal empty vessel self of nothingness that will eventually lead to destruction in some form or another.
It also has to do with spirituality and a connection to God – when there is little to none – destruction of self and others doesn’t matter – because no real ability to feel love – contentment – goodness or joy exists in the individual at the deeper soul level. God – goodness values human life. Evil – satanic has no value for human life, but to capture and destroy… hence its attraction to addictions of all varieties.
The key to having a solid core is to face self straight on and in deep self-reflection. Avoiding self will always lead to a life with broken fragments – ultimately shards of nothingness.
My book – out now … has a process to assist with this kind of intense and inner self-reflection.