Polite and nice to money. Rude otherwise and looks down upon, even shows disdain for those with less than, or in poverty. Judges people by their car, house, clothes, etc. instead of their character. They don’t even know what ‘character’ is because they have none – so they can’t recognize it in others. Will do anything – lie, cheat, steal to achieve the image, position or appearance of control or power over others. Mistakes having power and things as greatness.
Say one thing then they do another. Say words or act in ways to manipulate for their use or gain. Nice, courteous and kind to people when selling something – be it a service or a product but uncaring, dismissive even rude otherwise. try to extract value for self from people, places and things with no regard to what they might do to harm.
Men who tell lies to get a woman into bed. Women who flirt and compliment to make an oaf feel like a king for her gain – doing so, only to manipulate and with ill-intent instead of worthy intentions.
I have observed and become more aware of this kind of behavior in our world today. This is why, in my opinion there is so much depression, anxiety, addiction, harm to self and others. There is a lack of respect for our fellowman and ultimately ourselves.
I am otherwise, I was taught otherwise and choose to live otherwise. My words and behaviors reveal who I am, not only to others but to myself. My word is my honor and my bond. I can be counted on to do what I say, or I don’t say it. So many people these days cannot be counted on for anything much less their word.
What I do in private, matters as much as what I do in public. Of course, I have been known to say what I think – which means, I don’t lie to myself or others. There are these concepts called – truth – honesty – responsibility and accountability.
I try to live by the golden rule. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Do I lose it at times and mess up? Of course! But this serves me also, to become more aware of my behaviors and how they may affect others including myself. It’s called ‘self-reflection’ and ‘self-awareness’. We won’t grow, if we don’t have both in our emotional and mental selves.
If we are not becoming more aware in our lives, then what is it we are actually doing? Accumulating stuff – screwing as many people as we can – and on multiple levels – taking instead of giving? Look into the eyes of people who have done this in their life even for their entire lives with little to no awareness. Oh, then of course, some know exactly what they are doing and these are the evil ones. And these people have dead eyes which reflect their internal selves
Today so many seem to live by the motto – ‘Screw others before they screw me’. They will say or promise thus and so and if they are lying or change their mind and it inconveniences or harms another — so what? Their motto is – ‘It’s ‘me’ that matters, not them’. What value can I extract from another. They are all about self and this is why they are so internally twisted and unhappy, seeking any and every thing to numb out their torment and misery.
We have become in many ways a selfish, narcissistic society. And that is why so many are unhappy, turn to drugs, alcohol, stuff their selves with food, buy too many things, sit on the sofa watching TV or playing computer games, watching porn, having sex with people only for sex, stare at their phones – texting or surfing the internet even when in the company of others. Living behind a facade of cars, clothes, fitness routines – so concerned with ‘image’ – they forget their internal/eternal self – when reality is – nothing is fit or right about them. Or they may live in a fat, unkempt body, wearing ill-fitting sloppy clothing, lazy and slovenly while, thinking nothing matters, including their appearance, while being envious even hating those who appear they are ‘really together’ – but who inside may be also dying.
Those who indulge in these behaviors ‘think’ they are putting something over on everyone else, but what they are really doing is harming themselves, even going as far as to be rotting their soul. Who – they are conning – is themselves. They are choosing to live by no standards, disaplines or morals, but that of self-gratification and all this does is to make a person selfish, self-centered, internally alone, even though they may be surrounded by others – bloated and fat – possibly catch STDS for having sex with many – and because of selfish self-indulgences they lose their ability to love and care for others and therefore, lose their own individual humanity, just for the purpose and sake of their momentary attainment and pleasure of fake power and things. Image is actually nothing. It’s the internal reality that matters.
When you are true to yourself is when you will be true to others. and this has to do with integrity in body, mind and spirit and this comes from continual awareness of self as it relates to others and your relationship with yourself. Self -awareness and self-reflection are keys to happiness.
A book to assist in awareness: