by Ann
Make peace by confronting your anger…
Anger is a strong emotion; created by feelings that are oriented toward some real or supposed grievance. Expressing anger as it occurs, by confronting it, helps to release the feelings that create the emotion of anger.

What is your predominate anger style? Do you acknowledge anger? Do you confront it? Do you run away from it?  How do you handle your anger?

 by Ann

So, what if you are bullied! Get over it! Ignore it! Let it slide off your back! Walk away from it!

Stand up to it! Call it out! Address it! But don’t let these energy suckers define, control or harm who you are, or harm us as a society!

Have we become so thin-skinned and weak as a people that we can’t handle those that don’t think like us, like us, or are actually mean and cruel to us?!

When I was growing up, if I was being bullied. I was taught to turn away, and to not look back, or to stand up to it. My parents used this as an opportunity to guide me in how to build my self-esteem and to strengthen my character and resolve. 
 
If I complained to my parents that someone called me a name or was cruel to me. My parents would listen, then say something like. “What someone says about you doesn’t matter. It is who and what you are that matters and what you think of yourself.” Or “Who cares what someone says. Let it roll of your back!”

I learned the bullying lesson before I was ten years old. That bullies can’t hurt me, unless I allow them to. Sure, I have been ‘temporarily’ hurt by bullies, but I look at them and the situation, examine the dynamics, then let it go and become the wiser and stronger for it.

Now, it appears that we are turning into a bully-controlled people…weak, whiny, thin-skinned and easily offended. It’s the weak of spirit that are easily offended. 

I am not advocating bullying, but a bit of it and how it is delt with can build character. And it’s a parent’s job to be aware and to talk to their children about what is real and what isn’t, and to guide children towards a healthy self-esteem. So, that bullies can’t harm them. So, that they won’t be and can’t be controlled by bullying tactics and so they can see through the bully’s agenda.

There have always been bullies and there will always be bullies… so learn to deal with it, because they are in all areas of life and will be in your life for all your life in some form. Bullies can’t be legislated away by government bullies.

Our government has become the biggest bully of all.

Emotional energy manipulators know that the egotist is their bestfriend. They love people who are willing to sell their soul for the price of an ego-stroking. There are few rules and laws that govern emotional energy control and there shouldn’t be. It is up to the individual to learn to set their individual boundaries. It is apart of growing up and becoming self-actualized.Those without ethics or a moral compass can have their way often by bullying. There are physical bullies, economic bullies, social and emotional bullies. Some bullying is clear in intention (like our current government administration) others more underhanded.

So, when you or your children are bullied, it is an opportunity to teach and to build character. Steel yourself against the affects of bullying as it will serve you well your whole life. Learn and know when to turn away, when, and how to stand up to it, and how to recognize what is ‘trying’ to be accomplished or done to you by the bullies.

Years ago, I was in a workout facility. I got off the equipment I was using to get some water. When I returned there was a large, black woman where I had been, She was in the middle of my things and using the equipment I was using just a moment earlier. I said, “Excuse me, I was working out here and these are my things.” To which she replied. “Well, I am here now, you skinny white bitch!” I immediately gathered my belongings and walked out.
 
When the health club called me to ask why I wasn’t working out there any longer. I told them. And they informed me that they had incidents of what occurred to me and that these people had taken thiings from the locker room. Clearly, this woman was trying to provoke and upset me… Why? In order to cause a disturbance to steal or just for her pleasure of doing so? I don’t know why and it didn’t matter. It was not worth my response.

Bullies many times are looking for your response. I exited and never returned. Had I responded to this woman, I would’ve been under the spell of the bully. And nothing ‘good’ would’ve have come of it..

Bullies try to suck energy, to control others in order to make themselves feel better, or to gain money, and, or power. There are all kinds and levels of bullying and all kinds and levels of bullies… the obvious and the not so obvious. Of course, the obvious is the easiest to recognize, react to, or to turn from. The not so obvious, the sneaky, manipulating bullies, are the real dangerous ones… those that can bully your spirit into a place of weakness and submission before you realize what is being done.

Bullies give us the opportunity to define who we are and to create a strong-will and to refine our character. And once again, it can’t be legislated to stop bullying. To do so, is bullying from the government in itself and is detrimental to human interaction and growth.

Thankfully, I was taught early to see clearly what a bully is and how to handle it and the situations occurring from it. I can see through bullies, maybe, not always at first glance, but soon, and always eventually.

And what I see and recognize that is going on in our country is a government bullying its people while ‘trying’ to legislate against bullying… all this ‘political correctness’ is, actually, the government bullying us into submission to be like they want us to be, think like they want us to think, do what they want us to do. So, that they can better control and further bully us in to submission and be more and more under their control.
These government bullies want power over the people!

Learn to recognize bullying, teach children how to handle it, and don’t allow bullying to weaken you.  Bullying is an opportunity to build internal strength. We need to build character back into the world… not legislate politically correct BS, to get us so overly thin-skinned that no one has, or can have an opinion, making us more 

By Ann

It does. Not just stupid, but scary stupid! A male ‘acquaintance ‘ sends me a joke by email. A bit of background on this man. His wife left him. He still cares for her and realizes that he did many things that caused the downfall of their marriage. (at least, that’s a beginning to his awareness, you’d think so, huh?)
                                                                                                            
Then he sends this ‘joke’ to a woman like me.     

The joke:

A New Zealander walks into the bedroom with a sheep on a leash and says…
 “Honey, this is the cow I make love to when you have a headache.”
The wife, lying in the bed reading a book, looks up and says,
 “If you weren’t such an idiot, you’d know that’s a sheep, not a cow.”
The guy replies,
“If you weren’t such a presumptuous bitch, you’d realize I was talking to the sheep.”

SO! Where do I start? It’s an old joke – an insulting joke – a sexist joke – a crude and a crass joke.

And one better left told amongst men, while in a group, playing golf,  at some sporting event, or in the locker room, or while chewing the fat and drinking together…

And this man sends it to me! Yeah! HA HA!

by Ann

FRUSTRATION – a feeling of dissatisfaction, often accompanied by anxiety or depression, resulting from unfulfilled needs or unresolved problems.
 Feeling frustrated long enough and the emotion of anger occurs. If anger is left to fester it may bubble into aggression.

Feelings create emotions…

Anger can have many physical and mental consequences.The external expression of anger is shown by facial expressions, body language, physiological responses, and at times,even in public acts of agression. The internal effects of anger include increased heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline.

We are living in times, where ordinary feelings can move fast into anger. Use common sense and skills to release anger from your body and mind so that you will arrive back at peace and joy.  

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By Ann

THE SWITCH… a movie getting ready to come out starring Jennifer Aniston. It’s premise – a single woman having a party to get pregnant and the sperm gets ‘switched’.  Charming premise or is it mostly disgusting? An insemination party… and this is ‘supposedly’ a comedy. How sick is our society becoming to make light of such a serious subject?! And how irrevelant is this making the part of a male in the creation and life of a child? A man replaced by a turkey baster. And that not knowing who your father is…what? No big deal!

Well, it is a REALLY BIG deal! The example that my father set for me and the security that he provides was and is paramount to who that I am as a person. My father’s love and my knowing who that he is and that he made a committment to my mother and out of their union, based in love, is how I was brought into this world, matters to me.
 
The premise of this movie, THE SWITCH, is a horrible example for our young people. Bringing a child into this world is a serious and profound decision and to make light of it in this manner disgusts me to a level where I am EXPLODING!

Then Aniston makes the comment across the self-promoting airwaves, that a woman does not need a man to get pregnant or to have a child or to rear one. This is a self-serving statement to promote ‘her movie; and is only ‘her’ opinion.  Aniston is a millionaire, divorced actress with no children… who is she to be giving this kind of advice that may be taken to heart by young people?

Sure, single women get pregnant and rear children everyday. But is that a desired state???!!!

This breakdown of traditional family is insidiously breaking down our society and must stop.Seems that Hollywood, the entertainment field and some stars will say and do anything to promote a movie in order to glean popularity and money. Morality and common sense and the message that they are sending seems to matter NOT when greed takes over.

I have volunteered with young, unwed, pregnant girls and to hear one comment, “That Hollywood actresses have children without being married and take care of children alone. So, I can do it, too.” Makes one want to explode. In that, the young woman making this comment in REAL life, hasn’t the means, education or common sense to discern fantasy from reality. She no ability to know how difficult it is to rear a child. She is only thinking ‘how fun it would be to have a baby to love and to have someone love her.’

Sad to say.. really sad to say.. that many think that the message in a movie is one that they can  implement in their lives.. when the ability to do so is practically non-existant. And when a popular actress makes a statement, many think that it is true when it is only their opinion.

What happened to, fall in love, get married, THEN start a family? So that, children can have the security and example of both a male and female in their lives? Sure, there are alternate life styles and families, but the exception is on its way to becoming the rule. This breakdown and disrespect for the process of bringing a child into this world is destructive to us all as a society and is going to backfire on our quality of life. There is a switch going on and it’s the demoralization of our country and the devaluing of that what is precious. The comception and rearing of a human being.

I am boycotting this movie as it is a sad statement and reflection of a distorted view as it diminishes the importance and seriousness of what bringing a child into this world is and really means to both the child and our society.

…DO SO MANY PEOPLE BELIEVE WHAT OTHERS, THE ‘THEY’, SAY IS TRUE, RIGHT, OR  IS THE THING TO DO,  INSTEAD OF BELIEVING WHAT THEY KNOW IN THEIR HEARTS TO BE TRUE?!

This makes me crazy and feel like I want to SCREAM!

 
There are so many gurus. so-called spiritual, New Age, psychics, self-help books, those who are ‘supposed experts’ on everything from what to eat, what to say, what to wear, what to buy, how to think, what to believe… on and on and on. And what is ‘right’ one day, may not be ‘right’ the next. These so-called ‘experts’ opinions change almost daily and at rapid pace.

One of the worst is the what to buy.  ‘They’ tell you at every opportunity what it is that you need to purchase in order to have a better life. And the sheeple just follow along, right off the cliff,  charging up their credit cards up for things that they DO NOT need and could easily live without. In fact, a better way to live is WITHOUT credit card debt. We don’t need half of what they tell us to buy or what we think that we need to buy.

The absolute WORST is when they tell you what to THINK and this is done on a DAILY BASIS…
 
To be easliy led, is to open yourself up to cons on all levels and about everything.  It’s as if  ‘they’ say it on TV, that most believe it to be true. Or if ‘they’ do it in Hollywood, that it must be the thing to do. Or if, on some entertainment show or some talk show, ‘they’ say it, then it is true. If some politician says that it is what our country needs then it should be done and we all know, (or most all of us know) that most politicians are self-serving and out for personal gain and power.

Take Oprah, she has made a great living, telling others how to live, what to do, what to believe, even what book to read and what charity to give to, etc.  This women promotes her own charities continually and even had childen sending her their allowance and saving their change to send to her FOR ‘HER’ CAUSE. NOT THEIR CAUSE BUT HERS!  The big key is that it is HER CAUSE. People were sending their money to her because they believed her.WHY? Why did they believer her? And whoand what of those that believed her benefited most? Well, HER bank account, of course! She has made a great living telling people how to think and what to do. She even promoted THE SECRET and following this practice has caused the death of several people. 

When the media and advertisers promote something, it is for an agenda and for their benefit! Open up your brains and think… is what they are selling  or saying REALLY GOOD FOR ME AND MY LIFE???????????????? If not, how about DON’T FOLLOW IT, DON’T DO IT, AND DON’T BELIEVE IT!

Why can’t people ‘think’ more for themselves? How about STOP believing what others tell you and THINK for YOURSELF!!!!!

Research, ponder, use your God given instincts to discern what is real and what is con….

Joys of Muslim Women
by Nonie Darwish (a woman born in Egypt as a Muslim) 
This is not hearsay and it will scare the life out of you.
 In the Muslim faith, a Muslim man can marry a child as young as 1 year old and have sexual intimacy with this child, consummating the marriage by 9. The dowry is given to the family in exchange for the woman (who becomes his slave) and for the purchase of the private parts of the woman, to use her as a toy. Even though a woman is abused she cannot obtain a divorce.To prove rape, the woman must have (4) male witnesses. Often after a woman has been raped, she is returned to her family and the family must return the dowry. The family has the right to execute her (an honor killing) to restore the honor of the family. Husbands can beat their wives ‘at will’. The husband is permitted to have four wives and a temporary wife (prostitute) at his discretion. Shariah Muslim law controls the private as well as the public life of the woman. 
  
In America, Muslim men are starting to demand Shariah Law, so the wife cannot obtain a divorce and he can have full and complete control of her.  It is amazing and alarming how many of our sisters and daughters attending American Universities are now marrying Muslim men and submitting themselves and their children unsuspectingly to the Shariah law. 
  
Author and lecturer Nonie Darwish says the goal of radical Islamists is to impose Shariah law on the world, ripping Western law and liberty apart.  She recently authored the book, Cruel and Usual Punishment: The Terrifying Global Implications of Islamic Law. 

Darwish was born in Cairo and spent her childhood in Egypt and Gaza  before immigrating to America in 1978, when she was eight years old. Her father died while leading covert attacks on  Israel.  He was a high-ranking Egyptian military officer stationed with his family in Gaza and when he died, he was considered a “shahid” (martyr for jihad). His posthumous status earned the family an elevated position in Muslim society. Darwish questioned the Muslim culture at an early age and as she grew she decided to convert to Christianity.
 
In her latest book, Darwish warns about creeping sharia law. What it is, what it means, and how it is manifested in Islamic countries. She says that radical Islamists are working to impose sharia on the world. If that happens, Western civilization will be destroyed.

Westerners generally assume all religions encourage a respect for the dignity of each individual.  Islamic law (Sharia) teaches that non-Muslims should be subjugated or killed in this world. Peace and prosperity for one’s children is not as important as assuring that Islamic law rules everywhere in the Middle East and eventually in the world. While Westerners tend to think that all religions encourage some form of the golden rule, Sharia teaches two systems of ethics – one for Muslims and another for non-Muslims. Building on tribal practices of the seventh century, Sharia encourages the side of humanity that wants to take from and subjugate others. While Westerners tend to think in terms of religious people developing a personal understanding of and relationship with God, Sharia advocates executing people who ask difficult questions that could be interpreted as criticism. 
  
It’s hard to believe, that in this day and age, Islamic scholars agree that those who criticize Islam or choose to stop being Muslim should be executed. Sadly, while talk of an Islamic reformation is common and even assumed by many in the West, such murmurings in the Middle East are silenced through intimidation.  While Westerners are accustomed to an increase in religious tolerance over time, Darwish explains how petro dollars are being used to grow an extremely intolerant form of political Islam in her native Egypt and elsewhere. 
  
(In twenty years there will be enough Muslim voters in the   U.S. to elect the President by themselves! Rest assured they will do so… You can look at how they have taken over several towns in the USA .. Dearborn Mich. is one… and there are others…) 
  
Some Muslims may be peaceful, but they have an army that is willing to shed blood in the name of Islam – the ‘peaceful’ ones support the warriors with their finances and own kind of patriotism to their religion. While America is getting rid of Christianity from all public sites and erasing God from the lives of children the Muslims are planning a great jihad on America .

Someone made a comment on this and I looked it up. In some parts of Africa, girls in puberty have their breasts flattened to protect them from being raped by men. So, for their own protection, girls are mutilated. Africa is such a backward country and so full of supersition and abhorrent practices.  And of course, as most are aware, they mutilate a woman’s genitalia, so she won’t feel pleasure in the sexual act.

Muslim practices are to cover a woman up. And stone her, among others things, and the African culture mutilates a woman’s body. And this is all done because the males can’t control their sexual impulses and they blame the women for this inability.

More and more men these days are being revealed as having a NEEDY PENIS… 

DEFINITION OF NEEDY PENIS COMPLEX – Men that are NEEDY in their emotions, self-esteem, sexuality, are narcissitic, have little to no ablility to look at their issues, and project issues and problems onto others. They lie and betray, in order, to get their needy penis some attention. They may appear strong and self-assured, but are the exact opposite under their facade. They may and usually do have an accomplished, attractive, even beautiful wife or girlfriend, who may have no idea what this NEEDY PENIS is doing behind her back. Men with this complex often lead several different lives and are adept at lying and covering up.

Many  have a  ‘MASTER OF THE UNIVERSE COMPLEX’ in conjunction with the NEEDY PENIS COMPLEX – thinking because they have money and power that that they can do whatever that they want in life and get away with it. They often act in ways that eventually destroy everything good in their lives. They destroy  families, loved ones, career, and a ‘good’ reputation – even if it was a false one.

Similar traits are: they first lie and believe that they are believed in their lies. They are self-delusional. Only eventually, because of pressure and facts contrary to their lies, they will admit  the truth and apologize. Usually, stating in a pathetic manner, that they will get help.  Oh poor NEEDY PENIS, now caught, feels so bad for their choices.  RIGHT! They just feel bad that they have been caught and revealed as what they really are.  

Most recent NEEDY PENIS AWARD RECEPITANTS:  Al Gore – John Edwards – Tiger Woods – Jesse James, Mel Gibson …

Past NEEDY PENIS AWARD RECEPITIANTS:  Bill Clinton – the man that decided that oral sex wasn’t sex at all… YEAH RIGHT!
and in his cover-up actually stated, “It depends on what  the meaning of IS — is.”  Then there is Jim Bakker…
 
Help me to fill out the lists here… Think back and add your Needy Penis recipitants to the list, both past and present, and as you do think of how they presented themselves before they were found out.
 
Look at and evaluate the traits that they have in common and otherwise. Ask yourself, if they can do whatever it is that they desire to fill their NEEDY PENIS COMPLEX, whatelse is a lie about them? And whatelse are they capable of doing and would they lie about to get whatever it is that they want and need to fill up their empty self-esteem?
 
They may be capable of  STICKING it to everyone who is in their life or anyone that they meet and may have the ability to betray us all.

Become aware of the traits of both these complexes, So, that you may be more astute and avoid interacting, trusting, or having relationships with these characters. Because chances are that they will NOT change or become more self-aware, stop lying, or fill their emotional needs on their own to become a healthy, giving, honest human man.

Sure, you want to give them the benefit of the doubt as that is what the feminine does. This is the expressoin of some of our prominent traits … compassion, empathy, caring and understanding. And the Needy Penis knows and counts on this in the feminine.

 I was once married to a Needy Penis and in my experience, they rarely, if ever, change.

And having written this, of course, there are many men who are great and don’t have these issues. What this is about, are those men who so obviously do, and how they have conned the women in their lives and the public.