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Monthly Archives: April 2013
Aging. Does being called ‘old’ bother you?
I might say to the young girl in the photo on the left, “You are a pretty little girl.” And she might very well snap back,. “I not little. I big!” When we are young, we want to be older. But it seems that many when they are older want to be young.
When you comment to a child or teenager that they are too young to do anything. They will quickly remind you, “I am not that young! I can handle it.” They have an intense desire to be older, so that they can drive, buy beer or whatever?!
But apparently, when one becomes older, it is an insult to state that they are older or ‘heaven forbid’, to state that they are ‘old’. To some this is apparently a grave insult. I ask why?
I nabbed a poem from a friend on FB because it touched me so….
When an old man died in the geriatric ward of a nursing home in an Australian country town, it was believed that he had nothing left of any value. Later, when the nurses were going through his meager possessions, They found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital.One nurse took her copy to Melbourne. The old man’s sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas editions of magazines around the country and is appearing in magazines for ‘mental
health’. A slide presentation has also been made based on his simple, but eloquent, poem.
health’. A slide presentation has also been made based on his simple, but eloquent, poem.
So an old man, with nothing left to give to the world, is now the author of this ‘anonymous’ poem winging across the Internet.
Cranky Old Man
What do you see nurses? . . .. . .What do you see?
What are you thinking .. . when you’re looking at me?
A cranky old man, . . . . . .not very wise,
Uncertain of habit .. . . . . . . .. with faraway eyes?
Who dribbles his food .. . … . . and makes no reply.
When you say in a loud voice . .’I do wish you’d try!’
Who seems not to notice . . .the things that you do.
And forever is losing . . . . . .. . . A sock or shoe?
Who, resisting or not . . . … lets you do as you will,
With bathing and feeding . . . .The long day to fill?
Is that what you’re thinking?. .Is that what you see?
Then open your eyes, nurse .you’re not looking at me.
I’ll tell you who I am . . . . .. As I sit here so still,
As I do at your bidding, .. . . . as I eat at your will.
I’m a small child of Ten . .with a father and mother,
Brothers and sisters .. . . .. . who love one another
A young boy of Sixteen . . . .. with wings on his feet
Dreaming that soon now . . .. . . a lover he’ll meet.
A groom soon at Twenty . . . ..my heart gives a leap.
Remembering, the vows .. .. .that I promised to keep.
At Twenty-Five, now . . . . .I have young of my own.
Who need me to guide . . . And a secure happy home.
A man of Thirty . .. . . . . My young now grown fast,
Bound to each other . . .. With ties that should last.
At Forty, my young sons .. .have grown and are gone,
But my woman is beside me . . to see I don’t mourn.
At Fifty, once more, .. …Babies play ’round my knee,
Again, we know children . . . . My loved one and me.
Dark days are upon me . . . . My wife is now dead.
I look at the future … . . . . I shudder with dread.
For my young are all rearing .. . . young of their own.
And I think of the years . . . And the love that I’ve known.
I’m now an old man . . . . . . .. and nature is cruel.
It’s jest to make old age . . . . . . . look like a fool.
The body, it crumbles .. .. . grace and vigor, depart.
There is now a stone . . . where I once had a heart.
But inside this old carcass . A young man still dwells,
And now and again . . . . . my battered heart swells
I remember the joys . . . . .. . I remember the pain.
And I’m loving and living . . . . . . . life over again.
I think of the years, all too few . . .. gone too fast.
And accept the stark fact . . . that nothing can last.
So open your eyes, people .. . . . .. . . open and see.
Not a cranky old man .
Look closer . . . . see .. .. . .. …. . ME!!Remember this poem when you next meet an older person that you might brush aside without looking at the young soul within. We will all, if we continue living, one day, be there, too. The best and most beautiful things in this world can’t be seen or touched. They must be felt by the heart.
I’m now an old man . . . . . . .. and nature is cruel.
It’s jest to make old age . . . . . . . look like a fool.
The body, it crumbles .. .. . grace and vigor, depart.
There is now a stone . . . where I once had a heart.
But inside this old carcass . A young man still dwells,
And now and again . . . . . my battered heart swells
I remember the joys . . . . .. . I remember the pain.
And I’m loving and living . . . . . . . life over again.
I think of the years, all too few . . .. gone too fast.
And accept the stark fact . . . that nothing can last.
So open your eyes, people .. . . . .. . . open and see.
Not a cranky old man .
Look closer . . . . see .. .. . .. …. . ME!!Remember this poem when you next meet an older person that you might brush aside without looking at the young soul within. We will all, if we continue living, one day, be there, too. The best and most beautiful things in this world can’t be seen or touched. They must be felt by the heart.
All ages have their place, their blessings, their importance.
Birth is not more important than death. Youth is not more important than old age. When you are young, you can’t imagine that you will ever be old, but if fortunate, you will be someday. And being older, aging and then onto ‘old age’, you can well remember being young and still may feel internally like the child that you once were.
What does being old mean to you? What does old-mean? What is it to be old? Why has the word ‘old’ become vilification?
Hey baby! I’m not getting older. I’m getting better!
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It’s all in the energy…
Everything is energy…
Energy – the strength and vitality required for sustained physical or mental activity.
The energy of the soul is what keeps a body moving, functioning and living. It’s the life force of the physical body and the world. We all have a unique and individual energy.Energy is what draws people together or keeps them apart.
Energy can be recognized without it being seen. We can feel someone approaching without turning around. We can sense a phone call about to occur. Some are more sensitive and in-tune with the energy than others. Some can sense the energy of approaching events. Energy precedes every happening.
Energy can be recognized without it being seen. We can feel someone approaching without turning around. We can sense a phone call about to occur. Some are more sensitive and in-tune with the energy than others. Some can sense the energy of approaching events. Energy precedes every happening.
Energy is what you experience when you walk into a room and feel welcomed. Energy is what you experience when you walk into a room and feel unwelcome.
Why is one person attracted to one and not the other? It’s the energy. It’s the energy between people that compels them to be together… the energy of the attraction. And it’s the energy that repels or creates an instant dislike.
It’s soul energy, sexual energy, creative energy, flowing energy, erratic energy, negative energy, positive energy, joyful energy, sad energy, kinetic energy, psychic energy, slow, sluggish energy…
Energy is responsible for that urge, that feeling in your gut, that knowing, that warning, that anticipation, that excitement…
It’s energy that creates sexual attraction and when energies combine can create a human being.
Whatever RPM a person rolls at…it’s the energy that makes one person workout, take care of themselves, feel vital and inspired… while another energy has a person sluggish, uninspired, negative and droll.
The same clothing can be worn on one energy type, but when on another, it appears completely different.
Evil is one kind of energy… good another…
Like kind seeks like kind and opposites attract and they can oftentimes merge together. It’s all in the energy…
One person can walk into a room and lift the energy, another can bring it down without speaking a word. Their energy is transmitted for what it is…
A body is made up of energy… it’s shape, it’s level of activity, how it moves, processes food and the environment.
Movement is energy and the more movement the more energy is created. Thinking is energy. You know that saying? ‘Use it or lose it.’
Everything on earth is energy on some level and form…
Colors are energy, food is energy, light is energy, storms are energy, weather is energy, music is energy…
Prayers are energy. Words carry energy. Love is energy. Affection is energy. Attention is energy. Anger is energy. All emotions are energy and vibrate at a different rate of energy.
Ever think about what you are doing with your energy. Where you are placing it, directing it and doing with it, to yourself and others?
Some energy can be controlled, some not. Some energy is stagnant, other moving and changes rapidly. Some energy has a force of its own and you can either roll with it, adapt, or not.
Some energy can be shifted, transformed, transmuted and changed by thought, action, feelings, emotions, movement, belief, prayer, word and deed…
Creation is energy. God is energy.
Become aware, learn to feel, and read the energy. It may warn, protect, even save your life and that of others…
It’s all about the energy…
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Vulnerablity…what we all want is to be…
accepted and loved for who we are, all that we are, and to be fully seen and understood for being a ‘unique individual’. That someone will see us in our good, our strengths, our bad and our weaknesses, in the fullness of our vulnerability, the wholeness of who we are and love us.
To experience this is what love and acceptance are… and what most all of us desire, want and even crave. To be seen physically, emotionally, intellectually and spiritually naked, open and raw, and to still be loved…
We have the desire to feel and to know that the real us, the whole of us, is indeed lovable and acceptable..
In an intimate relationship when you reveal your weaknesses, fragility, holes and wounds to another, or get close enough, so that they are obvious, is when you are at your most vulnerable. When your vulnerability is revealed, a person with the ability to love and who loves you, will support and protect you and your wounds.
The ability to be vulnerable and to love and be loved are one… There will not be one without the other… to love you must become vulnerable… love and vulnerability go hand in hand…
In the romantic love relationship, when, and if, we are accepted, protected and honored for who we are, all of who we are, in both our weaknesses and strengths is when we have the opportunity to heal our wounds to become more of who we are and are meant to be. This is what relationship is about and for… and sure, it can be in friendship, but the most powerful and intense is the romantic love relationship. And if your love is also your friend … there lies the best of both worlds…
But, if we reveal our inner selves, our soft core and show our vulnerability to the ‘wrong’ kind of person and we are exploited, made fun of, or diminished for being who we are…more wounds can be created and old wounds made deeper. So it’s a risk to reveal your vulnerabilities and it is the predators, the evil, the emotionally unhealthy of this world who will seek to harm others through their vulnerabilities.
Predators and cons will do everything they can and think of to get a person to reveal their vulnerabilities, so that they can come in for the kill.
People who really love you, will support you when you need it, have your back, protect you and will accept and nurture you through your vulnerabilities. Anything else is not love and should be walked away from… and deemed as fraudulent.
Some people can’t love because they are fearful of becoming vulnerable to another… but love can only be fully experienced once vulnerability occurs…
To truly love and be loved, you must become vulnerable. Love is not for the weak or insecure… it is for those brave enough, mature enough, aware enough to allow vulnerability.
At the first sign, when you feel tweaked internally, if someone disrespects you, makes fun of your most vulnerable self, exploits you, abuses you, taunts you, etc., they are not caring of your highest interests and are not good for you. They don’t care about you and certainly don’t or can’t love…
So feel and listen to how you feel internally and be very aware how those who ‘claim’ to care and love treat you.
The most revealing aspect is how someone treats you when you are at your weakest, most needy, or wounded and vulnerable. This will tell you volumes about who they really are and their ability, or inability to love…
It is easy to love when everything is happy, sexy, fun, new and adventuresome… but real love is based on the whole of the person… and the whole of the life experiences revealed through another.
To be truly seen, understood and accepted… is to be loved.
“When over the years someone has seen you at your worst, and knows you with all your strengths and flaws, yet commits him – or herself to you wholly, it is a consummate experience. To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.” – Tim Keller
Take care of you, protect your holes and wounds, protect your soul…
You are a precious child of God. After all, he knows all your vulnerabilities and loves you still and fully, the all of you, the whole of you. God knows and accepts you…
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“It’s a funny thing about life…
if you refuse to accept anything but the ‘best’, you very often get it.”
Somerset Maugham
Do you believe this to be true?
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I am a juicy, sensual, feeling, sexy…
romantic creature. I am a woman…
I am soft, alluring on the outside, but strong and resilient on the inside just enough to be able to protect myself.
A woman’s body is softness and curves… she is about feelings, emotions, nurturing, caring and love…
Show a feminine magnificence the highest of your manly traits and she ‘might’ bestow her feminine gifts on you…
A woman needs a man to be a man and that is strong on the outside with just enough softness on the inside to know compassion, caring and love.
“I am intrigued by glamorous women . . . A vain woman is continually taking out a compact to repair her makeup. A glamorous woman knows she doesn’t need to.” Clark Gable
Hey! And by Gable’s quote, I am glamorous, too. I don’t wear face make-up, so certainly don’t need a compact. Ha!
I am a woman… a glorious woman! And I am capable of an intimate, passionate relationship… Are you?
Abusive men, Muslim men and other oppressive, insecure, immature, hateful and so disposed characters… don’t know what they are missing until and unless they learn how to treat a real w-o-m-a-n… I’ll say it again… Woman!
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Warning! Contains graphic images. Why are human beings so cruel to one another?
Watching Christ be crucified on Sunday night in the presentation of the Bible on the history channel, broke my heart and I cried hard. How did someone even come up with the idea of flogging then nailing someone to a cross until they die?
What kind of a human being stones another, hits another, stabs another, shoots another, rapes another, beheads another? Where does the mindset, thoughts and ability to do this even come from?
What kind of a mind even thinks to torture a human being?
This must come from a place of such evil, of a demented mind and soul, of a rotted soul incased in a human being who can’t love, has no compassion, tolerance and is full of demented
hate for their fellowman.
This is something that I cannot comprehend.
When I read and hear about how Muslims treat people, cutting off hands, noses, maiming, throwing acid on people, hanging people, stoning people, (it’s people who throw the stones. the stones don’t do this, just like it’s a person who shoots a gun.) raping women, having sex with little children and animals. It is like hearing about some foreign Hell on earth …
ISLAMIC LOGIC: Allowing men to look at woman is the same as letting a stranger see a naked picture of your wife. Muslims move into a country that doesn’t believe or think as they do and do what they did to a non-Muslim woman in the photo at right. Muslims have no tolerance f
or anything other than their beliefs. They torture, rape, maim and kill anyone who thinks or believes differently than they do.
Why do some create Hell on earth for themselves and others? Why do some seek to hurt, harm, rape, kill, maim, torment, etc.? What is it for? What do they ‘think’ they are accomplishing or gaining?
Do they not realize that they gain absolutely nothing, but the diminishing of their soul and the destruction of humanity? Or is it that they do not have a soul and they can’t feel or comprehend compassion? Are they the spawn of evil… demons from Hell sent to torment God’s creation… the blessed human being?
Why is so little value placed on human life by some…that they can be so cruel just out of their ability to do so? Are they un-evolved savages?
Jesus commands love, kindness, tolerance, compassion and he was crucified…
Mohammed commands to do harm, maim. rape, that women are less than cattle, to kill all those who do not, will not convert to Is
lam. Why? What is this about, but rule, dominate and control?
Women are killed for being raped, but then Muslim men are told to rape women who are not Muslim. This has got to be the sickest most twisted evil practice ever thought up on earth. They cut off noses, cut out tongues and gauge out eyes as punishments. Who are they to do this to another human being for any reason?
What is in this world exactly that some people have no regard for human life and that includes their own?
People of this ilk gain nothing and lose everything including their soul. They destroy beauty, joy, love, happiness, and physical bodies as they torture and kill in the name of their ‘god’… Allah. It’s absurd!
When you lose or diminish your soul by harming another you lose yourself and everything you are…
Is that what evil wants? To entice some to do harm to others, therefore everyone involved is diminished and destroyed? I think so…
Muslims beheaded a nine year old boy…
More than than 4000 people from police and teachers to monks and children have been killed in the past 7 years by Muslims in southern Thailand, but hardly a word in the mainstream media. In Southern Thailand Muslim gunmen continue killing and threatening innocent citizens. The Muslim insurgents have threatened to kill 20 teachers and have distributed fliers that said, “WANTED: 20 Deaths of Buddhist teachers.” Muslim terrorists object to the education system which teaches Buddhist culture that is not acceptable in Islam. The attacks are intended to force Buddhists to leave the region because Muslims want to create an independent Muslim nation in the three southern provinces.
All evil in these photos was done by Muslims except for the crucifixion of Christ, but the reasoning for this hideous act was the same. They were threatened by freedom of thought, goodness, kindness, tolerance and love. And we are letting this practice of Islam (Sharia Law) into America… Why?
Islam ‘Sharia Law’ moves in and takes over, first by lying, infiltrating and then by violence. They torture, rape, maim and kill anyone who won’t convert and who is not a Muslim. They think that they are above the law anywhere they are. All Muslim women you see with their hair covered are under Sharia Law… it’s the practice that women should not be seen, that they are property, that men can do as they like with them… and this fits in with our Constitution and America, how?
Obama is allowing people who believe in this practice to serve and infiltrate into our country. Obama appoints them to high offices. Muslims are entering into local politics at rapid rate.
How does this as an American make you feel? This is not about freedom of religion. The practice of Islam is political laws… Sharia Law and under it, women have no rights.
Do you have the ability to love truly and deeply?…
Can you love? I am talking romantic love here, the love between a man and woman.There are different kinds and levels of love.. friendship, parental-child, love of God…
But do you know what real love is… the love that can only be experienced between a man and a woman in a romantic bond and enduring love because of the nature of their beings and their respective bodies?
A man gives and a woman receives…
Love is deep affection and caring for another. Love is to care and nurture for the well-being of another. Love is kindness, consideration, respect, trust, compassion, forgiveness, sharing, understanding, tolerance, commitment, awareness of needs and desires.
Love is not sex. Sex is not love. Sex can be and was meant to be an expression of love in the physical body… to bring pleasure and release and in that closeness and release it’s possible that another human being be created. A child created out of love is a blessing from God.
Sex ‘can’ be an expression of love, but sex in itself, is not love.
If you think sex is love, you are lost. Mistaking sex for love can lead to much unhappiness, frustration, loss, pain and despair.
Love endures… being able to dislike the person you love, be irritated by them, argue with them, see them through their ups and downs, help them and, at times, put their needs before yours, is what love is about… but only if this is done in return… as love is a circle.
Love makes you vulnerable and many are too weak to allow themselves to be vulnerable.
When you are emotionally intimate, you share your wounds, your pain, your vulnerabilities and if that love is shared with an equal, one who has the ability to truly love, they will protect you in this regard. But an insecure, weak, immature, manipulative predator will use your vulnerability against you to their advantage and gain.. and this is not love, and should be seen for what it is and gotten away from as quickly as possible.
It’s my opinion, that until a man has a child, he may not even have a real knowing of what love is. Because until then, many men mistake sex for love, and behave accordingly and when the rush of the sex excitement diminishes, or wears off, they think that ‘love’ is gone… when it was never there in the first place.
Then the children born from a love, or children in the home, should not be put before the love between the man and woman. Children learn how to love by observing their parent’s love relationship. The bond is clearly between the two adults with the children being just outside that circle to observe and learn with the reflection of the love bestowed and showered onto the children. This observance is what makes a child feel really loved,secure within and with the knowledge of how to express love, give love and live with another. The parental example and modeling imprints a child for their whole life.
Love really begins to grow when sex takes its proper place and perspective in the relationship…
Love is commitment, honor, respect, trust, enduring, pain, happiness, joy, friendship,
perseverance, growth, communication…And it is not for the immature or insecure because they can’t handle it, nor do they deserve it. Immaturity and insecurity wreck havoc in the love relationship. Love and relationship are for the mature and secure… those with the capacity to become aware, grow, learn, accept and reflect.Love endures. Love is making a life together where both are satisfied and honored with the room to express themselves, together and individually.
A man protects. A woman nurtures.. A man creates a safe place for a woman and she blossoms. Together with their strengths and weaknesses, they thrive in joint effort and creation.
Jesus treated His mother and all women with the deepest respect. We honor all women by showing them the same love and respect that Jesus showed to women.
Women have been abused and put down by men–sometimes very crudely and cruelly. But Jesus is the perfect man, the man God wants every man to emulate. This is the kind of man God wants every woman to know in her life.
The highest reach of what love is on earth ….the merging of the male/female…
Do you agree or believe differently?
Do you have the ability to love truly and deeply? I know I do.
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