Are we responsible for every choice we make?

How can you make a choice that you don’t know you can make?

We are all psychologically imprinted by our genetics, our family environment, our friends, even acquaintances, our individual situations, the media, our exposure to and experiences in life.

Each of us takes the imprint differently as we are all individual. There can be two people experiencing the same situation and they will be imprinted and react differently because of their individuality.

Example: I had parents who were both functional alcoholics. Our life looked great from the outside, success and everything good… but in the house there was distortion. My Father not drinking was a fine man, but when he drank he was verbally abusive.

I saw what it was, and I detested being around alcohol and rarely, if ever, drank. My family members would laugh at me and call me ‘square’ for not drinking. The others drank and joined in the insanity. It repulsed me and I pulled away from it….

I wanted out of the alcoholic dysfunction and swore that I would never marry an alcoholic… that when I got of my parent’s house … my life would be different — no alcoholics!

I married right out of college and it was soon revealed that my husband was an alcoholic.

So, unknown to me,  I made a choice to marry exactly what I didn’t want… because I had been imprinted with the familiarity of the energy of certain behaviors. Therefore, I was drawn to them, because I couldn’t see clearly at that time. I couldn’t see past what had been imprinted on me.

I learned from that experience. Today I can spot an alcoholic at first glance and I walk away. You can’t have a ‘healthy, fulfilling’ relationship with someone who has an addiction because their relationship is first and foremost with their addiction.

But the first choice I made in marriage, hoping to get away from alcoholism, led me back into the horror of it … because of the imprint of my conditioning, I wasn’t able to choose clearly.

Was I alone responsible for choosing what I didn’t want, or did my parents shoulder that responsibility for imprinting this upon me?

In most cases, we choose what we know… and in that choice, we bear the responsibility of it. But we are not always alone in the responsibility for the choice as we are choosing blinded. I ‘thought’ I was choosing differently, but I was choosing the same.

I bore the pain, the trauma and the responsibility that occurred from my blind choice.
But was I alone in the responsibility of my being blind in my choice?

There is a trend, now to ‘blame’ the victim. My parents told me. “You made the choice to marry that loser, we didn’t” Oh really!?  Their imprint upon me helped make that choice for me. Interesting, that they never took their responsibility for their part in my distorted imprint. They, like most alcoholics or those addicted, avoid the responsibility of self-evaluation and put the ‘blame’ on anyone and everyone, but themselves.

We don’t know until we do know.. until, we become aware of what is driving our choices and if we are wise, it is our responsibility to become aware so that we can choose differently.

That is our individual journey in life to ‘respond’, which equals responsibility, to what we can see clearly, when we can and do see it… and to, therefore, grow and to choose differently.

Responsibility – the state or fact of having a duty to deal with something. The state or fact of being accountable or to blame for something.

Shirking responsibility has become a national pastime. Our leaders and many in the public eye do it continually… and seem not to learn from mistakes…

I have heard people say. “It’s ‘your choice’ to feel that way. How you feel has nothing to do with me.” Well, that can be a real cop out. It’s a psychological ploy to deny ‘their responsibility’ for their participation in it and some people have taken up this ‘ploy’ to project their lack of responsibility onto their victim and to further victimize.

It’s our responsibility and duty to ourselves to learn from our choices… so that the next time, we can choose differently and better and be able to make the choice that we previously didn’t know we could make…

What do you think?….

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I was recently asked this question.

To me, ‘they’ are the government, the entertainment industry, the advertising industry, the legal industry, the prison industry, the ‘religion’ industry, the medical industry, the insurance industry, mental health ‘experts’ … the ‘so-called experts’ in any field, or industry who ‘try’ to sway, manipulate, con, rule, dominate and control the masses into thinking, buying, believing, voting, doing as ‘they’ direct for ‘their’ benefit, either monetarily, for power over the masses, or some other agenda.. even ‘experimentation’ on the masses.

‘They’ can be anyone, or group, that you defer to, instead of dealing and listening to yourself, your God-given instincts, and God-given intuition and using ‘your’ intellect and common sense…

‘They’ use fear, regulations, laws, punishments, penalties, threats, harassment, repetitiveness of their agenda, media, entertainment and ‘their’ rules to become ‘the authority’… ‘the authority’ that governs you and your life.

They prey on ignorance and stupidity and prefer those who can’t think for themselves and those without decency, strength, common sense, morals, values and standards … because ‘they’ want to set your values and standards. ‘They’ want to be your mind and control you in every aspect and possible way for ‘their’ use.

‘They’ want ‘you’ to ‘think’ and ‘believe’ that ‘they’ know better than you do, in order, that ‘they’ have ‘control’ over ‘you’. ‘They’ want to take away your freedom of ‘choice’, so that ‘they’ can ‘control’ you for ‘their’ benefit and not ‘yours’.

‘They’ want ‘you’ to be in a prison of ‘their’ choosing. ‘They’ want you under ‘their’  thumb…

So drink the Koolaid and become dumbed-down, non-thinking masses, OR learn to think and discern for yourself… use the brains, heart and gut instincts that God gave you, in order, to be able toavoid the evil of the ‘they’ on this planet. This is what ‘they’ fear… that ‘you’ will ‘realize’ that you don’t need them, their rules, their advice, their drugs, their lies, their con or their agenda. ‘They’ are afraid that you will realize the power of you and your individualism and not need them any longer. ‘They’ are afraid that ‘you’ will see through ‘them’. So they try to keep you confused and out of your clear heart and mind. That is why ‘they’ want you dependant on them.

Always be clear in the knowing that ‘they’ are only ‘people’ with ‘an agenda’.

Be very careful who you take advice from, listen to, emulate and follow…

Perhaps, the only ‘they’ worth ‘hearing’ are those with little, or nothing to gain from ‘you’ doing as they direct…

https://blog.womenexplode.com/2012/05/09/sociopaths-and-psychopaths-in-the-fields-of-.aspx

Who are ‘they’ to you?

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‘Catfishing’… by now we have all heard about the football player who had a ‘relationship’ over the Inter’net’ for two years, never met her in person, and she died and it was all so sad.

WHAT?! Who has a relationship for two years over the Internet… without meeting someone? Stupidest thing I have ever heard!

First, a relationship isn’t a relationship, unless you are in person, are in their life, know their friends, are at their house and interact almost, if not everyday. A relationship is in REAL LIFE… not on the Inter’net’….

People can hide behind their computers and be anyone that they choose to be.

A fat, pig of a woman can post a photo of a beauty queen and have men flocking to her. A married man can post that he is single and get much interaction… that temporarily takes him out of his miserable life… that he is not brave enough to change in ‘real life’.

People who can’t maintain a relationship in ‘real life’ can have many ‘pretend’ ones over the Inter’net’…

There is so much fraud and con over the ‘Net’… people creating identities, and images that are nothing, but that, ‘their creation’.

I know a man who ‘deems’ himself an ‘inspirational writer’ and writes about love and all sorts of topics and he is a complete fraud. I have known him for many, many years and he lies, steals and lies some more. He has found an outlet that he can ‘hide’ behind to create ‘his image’… a place he can create ‘his con’ and it is the Inter’net’. He has never been married and goes from one woman to the next. He’s pathetic… but he writes about love, and inspirational topics… blah! blah!. He has a photo that hides what he really looks like… which is a fat, depressed slob… but he writes things and gets off on people telling him how ‘nice’ he is… he is not a nice person at all… he is a person looking for energy to suck off of.

When you know who a person is in their ‘real life’ then see what they put out over the Internet… it shows you clearly how easily fraud can be committed using technology.

I have men come onto me daily… from all over the world and until they come to my area and meet me in person… it is nothing to me. If someone
‘appears’ interesting, I may interact for a bit, but if they don’t meet me in person and soon… they are not significant to my life or to me.

I have had a man write to me that ‘we’ are forever and I spoke to this man twice…. I played along with him to see where it would lead… when I could immediately tell by ‘his approach’ that he was throwing out a’ Net’ to see what he could catch. They may ‘appear sincere’ at first glance, but listen to the words not said. Make note of when they call, whether they answer the phone when you call back. Many of these people are married, or in a relationship and are playing games to boost their egos. They are energy vampires…Inter’net’ vampires, hiding behind their computer throwing out a ‘net’ to see what they can catch in order to have something to suck from…

Men who say they want to meet you, but are soo busy, selling a company, blah! blah! Are probably lying and putting restrictions up so that you will think that they are something they are not and they can put you on ‘hold’… think of the power and the ego charge that they get from doing this…

Men want to feel powerful, successful, and vital. Women want to feel beautiful, desired and loved.. and the perfect con for this is the Inter’net’… It can be an ‘ego trip’… and a complete fraud. In real life, in person is where real fulfillment lives not on the ‘NET’.

Over the ‘Net’ they can control the contact… hide it from their real life and create this little dream world and identity… where an unattractive, miserable married man can interact with a woman he would, or could never approach in real life.

There are allot of sick and twisted people in this world today and the ‘Net’ is their playground…

Think of sitting in an airport amongst all the people. How many would you want to really know? HA!… maybe, one, if any… so think of the Inter’net’ in this way, only worse…

Emailing, texting and ‘friends’ on Facebook, etc. are not ‘real relationships’. They are on the ‘Net’… the Web… a spider’s web with intent to capture…

A person who really wants a relationship will meet you quickly in person, if not, they are probably a fraud. But in meeting a person off the ‘Net’ be very cautious… do not give out personal information, meet them in a public place where ‘you’ control the environment.

Sure, it can be fun exchanging thoughts and ideas over the ‘NET’… but it is not a ‘real relationship’… no way and no how!

So, take it for what it is. Don’t waste time dreaming about what will be, who a person is, or believe what you are told until you see it with your own eyes…

A real relationship is in person… not on the ‘Net’…

Also, years ago, I met a very well-known ‘actor’ at a party. Everyone would know who he is. While on the screen, he is attractive and a good actor… and I thought him great, in person, not so much. He asked me out and I declined…

Get real people! ‘Images’ are not who people really are… so don’t fall for an image…

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