What makes a man ‘worthy’ of having sex with a woman?…Ever thought about it? From what I am hearing… not many men are…. and this makes 
me want to EXPLODE!!!
Example: A man has never met a woman and he emails her this…”Here is a question we can discuss on the phone. What are your feelings about being bestfriends in addition to a quality love relationship? That means different things to different people. We can discuss that.”
What??? How can you be lovers if you can’t be friends? This man must be emotionally stunted somewhere in his psyche. He’s an older man and not 16. HA and oh, really!? How presumptuous that he dictates what can be discussed in their ‘first’ conversation. Clearly, a control freak and control freaks aren’t sexy and don’t make good friends or lovers…
Another man inquires in the second hour of a first date. “Are you a good kisser?” Then a bit later asks, “Are you passionate? Then before, she answers, he states, “I can tell that you are.” So, if the guy can tell this, why did he ask?
A really sensuous and passionate man doesn’t need or even think to ‘ask’ these kind of stupid and premature questions. He gets to know the woman and let’s it unfold at her pace… And if he is sensuous, he can sense her as she reveals herself (should she choose to) and this occurs as she gets to know him and feels trust and security are established and this does not occur in the ‘first’ meeting or date. It occurs with time spent together and different experiences and consistency in his attention towards her. Otherwise, a wise woman leaves him in her wake because he’s not worthy of her…
Besides, what would a person answer, when asked, “Are you a good kisser?” NO!?! HA! Why can’t men see how ridiculous these kind of questions are and how useless and stupid.
Men like this are of course, ‘trying’ to turn the direction toward sex… when it is premature and doing it in this manner is a turn off to a sensuous woman. Now maybe, whores, and sexually promiscuous women respond to lame attempts. But that is another topic… or is it? Are some men treating all women like sluts because of the behaviors of ‘some’ or even ‘most’ women these days? And the example shown in movies, the media and on slimy talkshows.. ‘Sex and the City’ has done much to destroy respect for sex…
A man also stated, “I think I ‘should’ kiss you.” to a woman on a first date.What? Ha!.. Interpretation…I ‘want’ to kiss you….and don’t really care if you are interested in kissing me…
again he’s testing the water to see if he can get laid on a ‘first’ date. She responds. “I don’t move this fast.” His come back. “I am in sales. I like to make the close.”
HAHAHA! Well, buddy, she isn’t buying what you are selling… and how insulting was his comment? He came right out and told her that he was trying to close the deal. And he also is showing that it’s not about her, it’s all about him. He is not worthy of having sex with a ‘quality woman’… He has no respect for her or the act of sex… he is about satisfying ‘his selfish and immediate’ needs…
A real man, a ‘gentleman’, will ask if he ‘can’ kiss a woman… not ‘declare’ that he ‘should’…
And any man who
says something like, “You have a really good body” on the first date or meeting… Well, what is this? It’s a man looking to get laid. It’s one thing to say you are pretty or you look fit, but to say, “You have a really good body.” is objectifying and marginalizing a woman for their sexual needs, desires and purposes.
The ‘real war on women’ is led by ‘some’ men.. who think it’s ‘manly’ to focus on sex, or they are so needy that even at mid-age they are still ‘thinking’ with their penis. And men like this are a waste of a ‘real’ woman’s time…
And men like this are not worthy to have sex with a real woman…
Okay women, what sickening things have you heard from a man ‘trying’ to be seductive, to seduce you, or to ‘appear’ sexy?
And men what’s your opinion and why do ‘some’ men say such stupid, tasteless and turn-off comments?
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Great points.
Ann, the “good luck” referenced the probability of a certain proportion of mankind ever changing his stripes, so to speak. Middle Eastern men, most often, are taught that women are property, to be seduced into being owned and treated as chattel thereafter. That approach is not limited to that culture as it exists in many western males because it is a lesson taught by families, not schools. Change? Not much of a chance since it is sufficiently successful that the need for change is not obvious. Only when practices are consistently unsuccessful and spurned will even the thought of change enter the mind. Until then, the non-successful engagements will be considered the fault of the female .
I was a widow twice LOL had a lot of one dates only….especally the divorced guys omg,,, too funny,,,,changed my way of meeting ppl,,went to classes I was interested in,,,,,,etc…met more my type..still have a few for friends….a lot of goof balls out there…
Too true. I have guy friends that ask this kind of junk. Losers!
Looking to get laid.
Sex isnt a priority in any relationship I have ever had at least in the beginning, in fact it was my wife who made the first move on me..and only after we had dated for awhile. I think spending time to get to know someone holds more value by far than trying to get laid on the first date. When you think about it, why would you sleep with someone you didn’t really care about or like all that well…..take the time to see if you are able to care and even love……when it happens it is far better than any “on the first date” will ever be….
Men like this give all men a bad name. Sexual freaks I call them. I saw your article about needy penises. It was great.
Men are clueless and ackward and try anyway they can to get laid. It makes them feel like they accomplished something, I guess. When it’s nothing.
U know where a man’s brain is huh? A knot-hole in a tree would suffice if they couldn’t find a woman. To them a woman is just a convenient usable object detached from feelings.
I feel that Sex is only act by which Man and Woman appear to be doing some thing for God. Like assisting the creator in creation.
Rest of the things one does for self.
Where as entire responsibility of creation&care, bringingup is on Woman,Man is only a pouch of seeds.Today, woman doesn’t even require one for Regeneration.
Highest degree of joy and Pleasure is attached with sex more than any other act
Like food or sleep,so it must be given special treatment and consideration.
Perverts draw pleasure in hurting others.
I always love your articles.. so fun and so dead on for real.
A lot of this starts at middle-age for men. Dating websites feed the beast. Lol.