Trying to find himself through a woman’s body…

I had a conversation with sixty-year-old man, who after a divorce, has been in the dating world for over a decade.

With a confused look on his face and surprise in his tone, “After women have sex, if the relationship doesn’t work out, they really do get upset, don’t they? They get so emotional about it, even angry.Then with a clueless expression, “Sex is really important to women.”

Thinking, what an imbecile, I respond, “Of course, it is. And sex usually becomes, or should become important on an emotional level to men, as they get older, more emotionally mature, and are able to recognize how deep a connection sex actually is.”

He nods, but his face displays a puzzled expression. 

I continue, “How often do women get upset with you?”

Long pause, “Alot, right after my divorce alot. Now… women, well, women get attached easily don’t they?”

I question, “What do you do to cause this? Do you lead them on?”

He shrugs and with the same clueless expression. “After we have sex, I realize that we have nothing in common.

I inquire. “Why didn’t you, or don’t you get to know the women first, before you have sex with them?”

He shrugs.

Previous to this admission, he told me that he wants to find a real committed relationship and that he is so very tired of dating and wants to settle down even remarry, but for some reason he can’t seem to attain his goal…

What say you and what might you say to him?…

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He blew out my candle…

A man took me to dinner on my birthday. After, we enjoyed our entrees, a birthday cake was placed before me. He told me to blow out my candle and when I didn’t do it immediately…he blew and we ended up ‘kind of’ blowing together, and he blew out my candle.

Stunned, I sadly exclaimed. “You blew out my birthday candle!”

His reply. “I’ll pass my wish over to you.”

I thought. ‘Thanks alot buddy but I’d rather have my own wish.’

I have never in all my years had anyone ever blow out my birthday candle. I would’ve thought that he would have had the waiter relight the candle, so that I could blow it out on my own. But no! Then another thought, why did he even blow on the candle? It’s my birthday after all… Plus, he didn’t give me the time to make my own wish…

I blew if off and enjoyed my cake…but…

What are your thoughts… have you ever had anyone blow out your birthday candle? That is past the age of say two years old…

I have never blown out a friend’s, beau’s, or family member’s birthday candle ever! It’s a given that this is for the birthday person to do…

It seems like a little thing, but sometimes small actions have big implications…and are indications of other things.

If someone blew out your candle, how would that make you feel? And, or what would you say, or do? And what do you think are the implications of his action?

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Sidebar… he was 20 minutes late picking me up… he did call to push the time back but he was still 20 minutes later. As I was walking down my stairs, I saw his car in the front of my house and he was sitting in it on the phone. I sat in the living room and waited and waited…
I peeked out the front door and saw him yakking… I waited…then in the excitement of my birthday, I walked outside and waved to him. He smiled and waved but kept on yakking…
I went back inside and waited… thinking, if it weren’t my birthday, I would cancel the evening…
Then he entered and said. “I apologize. I hate being late, but I will tell you about it.”

When he told me … it was nothing that couldn’t have waited….so this is a bit more insight to the kind of person I was dealing with…

Okay go…what’s your take?

Media Circus…

Circus : Portrait of the mime with Royal FlushNothing! But a three ring circus..

Can anyone recall the days when a President would come on and make an announcement, then get off the TV? He was professional, to the point, and served the American people, not a media whore, not  a ‘personality,’ but a respected man, a leader… even if you didn’t agree with all he said, or did, he was respected. Not the ‘I’… ‘me’ …’my’ of Obama… the, ‘me’,’ that in his own, dictator-like, spoken words rewards his friends and punishes his enemies. The ‘I’ am the president as he keeps reminding us to make sure that we know that ‘he’ is the real ring leader… ‘wanna be’ leader of the world…

Agenda-filled politicians label groups and are the ‘racists’ etc.  They want to label and force people to be and do as they deem for their usage. PC is BS! — like Obama has done with many blacks. His administration caused, literally caused, the ignorant blacks to destroy their own town as they try to vilify people like West, Carson and Sheriff Clark who tell the truth.

Hillary+Clinton+caricature+webNow Hillary, a real-life circus freak, trying to use women as the side-players in her circus show. Women I know don’t like or respect her on any level. Everyone I know thinks she and her husband are skanks. So why is anyone paying attention to them? It’s the bought and paid for media pushing the propaganda agenda trying to force the people to think like they want them to think. They vilify Trump for declaring business bankruptcy while the Clintons are raping every American as they spew lies and con taking in money from countries that hate US to line their pockets and create their lifestyle then telling everyone else they should give while all they have ever done is to take. What have the Clintons ever done but live off the people, lie, con, take and pervert? Slick Willy decreed that ‘oral sex’ isn’t sex. 

Recall, the ‘media event’ of the Obama circus the killing of Bin Laden? It is announced forty-five minutes early that ‘the president’ will make an important announcement late in the evening on a Sunday night. I watched as Geraldo… Geraldo! The talk show, Jerry Springer- Geraldo.. builds it up and builds it up. What could it be? What will Obama announce? Could it be this? Could it be that?  Ladies and gentleman, what scary thing will Obama, the ring leader of the circus, announce?

Then finally, Geraldo in ‘barker-like’ style states. “What if they got Bin Laden?” Then in the most unprofessional, unjournalistic way, he says, “This is just my opinion.” The ‘ trying to create anticipation’ look in his eye, takes me back to the dumb show where he opened some vault. Then after making this ‘off the cuff’ statement, Geraldo gets a notification that, indeed, Bin Laden has been killed.

This was a three ring circus set up and staged for effect, the jesters build up for the main performer… the pre-show warm-up orchestrated for Obama to come on and make ‘his’ announcement… and the circus ‘hoped’ this will keep him as the ring leader… the performance that makes sure the circus goes on… with the ability to get bigger tents and more rings kept full and continually spinning.

We are witnessing a set-up, an agenda-filled three ring media circus. This president with the clown-like name, Barack Obama, or Barry Soetero, whichever he chooses to go by, is a media creation, a clown, a puppet, a front man and right now, he is the ring leader of this three ring circus….

This media circus is running and ruining our country, its attitudes and its morality. It is total corruption. This media circus is government propaganda…continually blowing smoke up America’s ass.

While the stories spin and spin and change circus ring to circus ring. Look over here at this one! Now this one! No, now look here! Ladies and gentlemen look, there’s a show over here!

And pay no attention to the people behind the curtain… because they are doing some real underhanded magic, while you are busy viewing the spinning circus show out front…

The American people are being taken on a real roller coaster ride, a ride of, and for their life, by a three ring circus, orchestrated by dictators, puppets of the Illluminati, Bliderbergs, New World Order, anti-Christ, evil, agenda-filled, Soros, elite, bankers, world monetary managers, UN, global masters,…whatever you want to call it or them. And, unless, we leave the mindset of a dumb, mesmorized child, walk out of the circus and come back to adult sanity, we will never be America again!

We will have life long tummy aches from the cotton candy, continue to be mesmerized by the performers and living in a surreal circus-carnival like atmosphere forever.

Yes! Ladies and gentlemen, we are being manipulated by bought and paid for media clowns…ABC, NBC, CNN, FOX, CBS, etc. are involved in this circus performance and it plays daily and is on every minute to brainwash, and brainwash some more. Obama’s mantra, if you repeat it often enough, they will be convinced! Some shows and stations are just more lying, manipulative, intense and deceptive than others! Others are more fair and balanced or ‘pretend’ to be.

And it is quite a caravan of expense when the ring leader takes his show on the road squandering resources for his self-promotion and leisure.

A circus of illusion, not logic! Waste and bloat, with the fat lady in the circus becoming the government side show to the media circus… smoke and mirrors…a three ring circus expanding daily in Leviathan spin and juggling.

As the circus ‘polls’ spin the numbers to con the audience, the masses, and the fools…

I say listen to the candidates NOT the media interpretation. The media is bought and paid for scum.

We can not let this media circus of crap choose our next President like they did the lying  Muslim Obama…

Communication…

Is communication by machine hampering, blocking and detracting from real sincere human communication?

Are email and text messaging hampering face to face look into the eyes real honest communication?

I think that it is! Not think! I know that it is!

There were studies done, years ago, that revealed that people who used a computer in their work were more likely to objectify human beings. There were also studies done showing that sexual predators, many times, are isolated in their work and in their work use a computer.

I can’t stand to be asked on a date, or lunch with a friend by email or text. I think email and texting can be useful, if used as an additional tool for communication, but when someone uses it, when it would be just as easy to pick up the phone, it appears as an avoidance and a lazy way to communicate. It’s detached communication, a step removed from the voice, and two steps removed from in person.

I like to hear a voice, I like to see a face. I like eyes… intimacy… touching and real in person communication.

Behind a computer, a person can pretend to be anyone. I don’t know how many married men approach me over the internet. These people are weak and insignificant in their essences. They are frauds hiding behind a machine. Trying to make a human connection through a machine, dependant on a machine, hiding behind a machine and lying through a machine.

If you don’t have to reveal yourself, but you can just type out a persona and words that are meaningless, do you diminish, perhaps, even lose the ability to really communicate from your heart and in person?

Communication has always been key to any and all human relations….and is the cause for so much misunderstanding, hurt and break-ups. So now, that so many are focusing using communication by machine, it’s taking real communication to a new low.

Sure, you can communicate faster and with more people, but how about the quality? How meaningful is a text? And do you think that you can really know, or get to know someone communicating by email and by texting? Well, you can’t and you don’t…

We are detaching from the fullness of who we are and from each other. Some may like that as they hide who they really are and their intentions. 

A man can text one woman while having dinner with another… and tell her it’s business…while he’s making or canceling a date…

I like real in person communication…

I have noticed too many times, couples in restaurants, where both are on their  ‘communication’ contraptions and missing, or avoiding the opportunity for real in person communication. 

Perhaps, in the future, classes will be needed concerning how to communicate and interact in person. We needed that as a society even before communication by machine took over…

Communication is difficult as it is… why add a machine into the mix…?

It takes courage to communicate face to face, eye to eye, person to person. In person, the whole of you is revealed, your facial expressions, your voice tone, your eyes, whether you make eye contact, or not, your vulnerabilities, even if you are really capable of full communication….In person, it’s yourself, YOU, in all of your dimensions.

All this hiding behind this machine driven communication is diminishing real communication and who we are as a people.

My suggestion, use it as a tool, but don’t count on it to do most of your communication (especially personal) and never rely on it and certainly not to make dates especially in the beginning of a courtship. Doing so, might be cutting you off from yourself, and others, even while you ‘think’ that you are communicating more.

Put down your cellphone while eating with friends and family. Put down your cell while driving, turn off your cell while in the movie threatre. And on dates, turn off your phone, or don’t even take it, unless, you are a surgeon and you just preformed surgery and need to keep tabs on your patient.

Be where you are and with the person and people you are with, instead of being distracted, and connecting to others who aren’t there in person.

Observing people in the grocery store, walking across parking lots, and while they are driving, etc. talking on the phone… well, to me, they look like idiots… not actually present, but attached to some machine. It doesn’t make them appear ‘busy’ or ‘popular’.. it makes them appear unorganized, detracted, distracted and pathetic. So desperate to communicate and connect… but are they really? Are they really even capable?

Human interaction and communication in person is fulfulling for a healthy individual. Real human interaction enables a person to be autonomous and to enjoy solitude at times, without the need to be plugged in all the time…

Get what I am communicating here?

Voices and in person are the only way to fully communicate…  
Look me in the eyes and talk with me…
  

Do you have a special memory or thought…

that comforts you?

One of mine is, a story my Mom and Dad told me, concerning when I was a new born. That when I was crying, the only place that I could relax and go to sleep, was laying on my Dad’s chest. He is large man, 6’2″ and I was 5 pounds. He could hold me in one hand. We have photos and homemovies of this.
 When I need comfort, I bring up this memory of myself in those photos and I feel so warm and safe. I visualize myself being that tiny infant and laying on my Daddy’s chest.

At times, memories are all we have to sustain and comfort us …

What memory, or thought do you have that comforts you?

Why is there so much ignorance in the world today?…

Ignorance is a state of being uninformed (lack of knowledge). The word “ignorant” is an adjective describing a person in the state of being unaware and is often used as an insult. “Ignoramus” is commonly used in the UK and Ireland as a name of someone who is overwhelmingly ignorant.

Ignorance should be distinguished from stupidity although both can lead to “unwise” acts. Also, if important information is available, one may fail to acquire it due to lack of intelligence (not realizing its importance, or not understanding it). 

Does it seem like there is more ignorance today than there used to be? It does to me…

And is ignorance the reason for the growing lack of common sense?