FRUSTRATION – a feeling of dissatisfaction, often accompanied by anxiety or depression, resulting from unfulfilled needs or unresolved problems.
Feeling frustrated long enough and the emotion of anger occurs. If anger is left to fester it may bubble into aggression.
Feelings create emotions…
Anger can have many physical and mental consequences.The external expression of anger is shown by facial expressions, body language, physiological responses, and at times,even in public acts of agression. The internal effects of anger include increased heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline.
Anger is a completely normal and a healthy expression of an emotion. Except, when it gets out of control and turns destructive, then, it may lead to problems – at work, in personal relationships, and in the overall quality of life. And it can feel as though you are at the mercy of an unpredictable and over-powering emotion.
ANGER is important to feel when it serves as a reaction that can be a protection when others try to dominate, manipulate or abuse and it can motivate us to take action. But it’s important to release anger in constructive ways. Otherwise, you’ll be like a pot of boiling water with the lid left on. If the steam doesn’t escape, the water will finally boil over and blow its top! When this happens to you, it’s no fun for anyone. And anger can turn into abuse of self and of others.
Constructive ways to diffuse anger:
THINK IT OUT – analyze, ponder, look at both sides…try to figure out the reason that you are frustrated or angry. Identify it. Pull out of your emotions and into your head.
TALK IT OUT – to friends, a counselor, each other… sometimes, just talking can release it.
WRITE IT OUT – get paper and just write, or type it out…then read what you have written, it will help you process the feelings and bring about awareness to the cause of the anger.
LET IT OUT – SCREAM! SHOUT! KNOCK YOURSELF OUT! LOL! Well, not really and just make sure that you are where no one can hear you or that you are anywhere that you might scare someone.
CHANNEL IT OUT – Listen to music, read a book, or poetry, paint, draw or sing… create.
CHILL OUT – take a nap, watch TV, go to a movie, sip wine, eat a good meal, cook a meal.
WORK IT OUT – jog, jump rope, exercise, ride your bike, play tennis, move, jump, get out and about. Dance around the house to soothing music or boogey around the house to the beat of rockin’ roll. Movement shifts energy.
Doing the things listed above, will shift the energy and bring you into a new perspective.
We are living in times, where ordinary feelings can move fast into anger. Use common sense and skills to release anger from your body and mind so that you will arrive back at peace and joy.
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