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ANGER! FRUSTRATION!


by Ann

FRUSTRATION – a feeling of dissatisfaction, often accompanied by anxiety or depression, resulting from unfulfilled needs or unresolved problems.
 Feeling frustrated long enough and the emotion of anger
 occurs. If anger is left to fester it may bubble into aggression.

Feelings create emotions… Anger : Couple arguing. Stock Photo

Anger
 can have many physical and mental consequences.The external expression of anger is shown by facial expressions, body language, physiological responses, and at times,even in public acts of agression. The internal effects of anger include increased heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline.

Anger is a completely normal and a healthy expression of an emotion. Except, when it gets out of control and turns destructive, then, it may lead to problems – at work, in personal relationships, and in the overall quality of life. And it can feel as though you are at the mercy of an unpredictable and over-powering emotion.
 

ANGER is important to feel when it serves as a reaction that can be a protection when others try to dominate, manipulate or abuse and it can motivate us to take action. But it’s important to release anger in constructive ways. Otherwise, you’ll be like a pot of boiling water with the lid left on. If the steam doesn’t escape, the water will finally boil over and blow its top! When this happens to you, it’s no fun for anyone. And anger can turn into abuse of self and of others. 

Constructive ways to diffuse anger: 

THINK IT OUT – analyze, ponder, look at both sides…try to figure out the reason that you are frustrated or angry. Identify it. Pull out of your emotions and into your head.

TALK IT OUT
– to friends, a counselor, each other… sometimes, just talking can release it.

WRITE IT OUT – get paper and just write, or type it out…then read what you have written, it will help you process the feelings and bring about awareness to the cause of the anger.
 
LET IT OUT – SCREAM! SHOUT!  KNOCK YOURSELF OUT! LOL! Well, not really and just make sure that you are where no one can hear you or that you are anywhere that you might scare someone.

CHANNEL IT OUT – Listen to music, read a book, or poetry, paint, draw or sing… create. 

CHILL OUT – take a nap, watch TV, go to a movie, sip wine, eat a good meal, cook a meal.

WORK IT OUT  – jog, jump rope, exercise, ride your bike, play tennis, move, jump, get out and about. Dance around the house to soothing music  or boogey around the house to the beat of rockin’ roll.  Movement shifts energy.

Doing the things listed above, will shift the energy and bring you into a new perspective. 

We are living in times, where ordinary feelings can move fast into anger. Use common sense and skills to release anger from your body and mind so that you will arrive back at peace and joy.  

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MAN HATER!


by Ann
Why is it that if a woman doesn’t like what a man says or does, and calls him out on it and holds him accountable, that some men will call her a MAN HATER?
 
Or he may say that she is like a man, or that she needs a weak man, that she can boss around, or that she is too strong-willed. 

Like these are considered some sort of insults that as soon as a woman is called MAN HATER or designated these things, that she should curl up in a ball and shrivel up. Like WHY?

As the person usually a man, stating that she is too strong-willed, is just upset that they can’t manipulate her, in the way and manner, that he wants to. So, I say that’s a good thing.

Some men like a malleable, subservient women that they can manipulate and control. And some women make it a game to play these type of men. There is never any real or honest communication in this type of interaction. It’s mostly all placating, control and manipulation.

Some men deserve to be stood up to and called out for their abusive, manipulative, controlling, hateful actions, words, deeds, and behaviors. And the woman doing this is not a MAN HATER, but a lover of herself and that is a healthy thing. And controlling, manipluating, predators don’t like healthy confident people…they much prefer weak, insecure PREY.

And if or when they can’t beat someone down, they resort to what they ‘think’ are insults or name calling.

The use of name calling to control behaviors and to try and shame others has reached an all time high these days. It is almost laughable, except that those weak in spirit and will, often succumb to this type of obvious behavior modification and allow their behavior to be controlled. It’s as if they are being manipulated and name-called right out of their own beliefs, will, confidence, instincts and even existance.

At times, it’s just fine to be a MAN HATER! Because some men deserve to be hated, at certain times, because of their words, actions and deeds.

I say call me what you want. I know who I am! And if you call me a MAN HATER,  how about look at yourself to see why you think that you are being hated.

That is, if you are a strong enough man to do so…

OR might it be that persons and men that shout MAN HATER are really projecting their hate onto women because, actually, the truth is that they are WOMAN HATERS?  UMMMMM… something to ponder….

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Clairvoyants, Psychics. and Astrologers

by Ann     
 Clairvoyants ‘see’ with the mind’s eye. Clairaudients ‘hear’ information, and clairsentients ‘feel’ things. 

Psychics rely on intuition. They tune into the energy vibrations around the subject to get information.

Psychics are tuning into the probable, not the absolute. Energy may change by choice, others, and timing.


Astrologers give information based on the position of the planets and stars.  In a natal chart, at their exact time of birth, an individual becomes the center of the universe with planets and stars positioned around them.

If you have ever been to one of these seerers of the future, what have been your experiences ? Good? Bad? Interesting? Stupid? Scary? Accurate? Or dead wrong?

Do you think that there is any validity to them or a waste of time or a combination of both?

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Momma Mia! That’s Italia!

By Ann
In my need for ‘comfort’ food, I decided to make a variation of my Mother’s Spaghetti sauce. I recall coming home from school and smelling its fabulous aroma. Makes me hungry and full of warm feelings, just thinking about it.

While shopping for the ingredients, I decide to do it like on a cooking show, or blog and take photos as I go. Others do it, so why can’t I?

So, here goes…

Ingredients:
One pound of Angus ground sirloin
One whole brown onion
Carrots
Zucchini, one yellow and one green – sliced or chopped
Mushrooms – sliced
One 14 ounce can of diced tomatos
One 10 oz can of tomato puree
Lemon juice – splash
Spices:
Garlic salt
Oregano leaves
Basil leaves
Parsley leaves
Whole bay leaves – 2 to 4 – to taste.. I use 4 – love bay leaves…
Dry red wine – appoximately one cup… or more… 

Brown the ground sirloin, chopped onion, and carrots in skillet.  (carrots give it  sweetness)
Pour off grease, if there is any. I use quality meat, so there usually isn’t much.

Add spices to taste. I am generous as I like it Italiano spicey. Put in Bay leaves whole… but make sure to remove before serving. (Bay leaf edges can cut innards) My Mom told me that and I never forgot.

Add a splash of lemon juice, about a cup of red wine and the cans of diced tomatos and tomato puree.  Bring to a bubby simmer then cover and simmer on low for, at least, two hours. So, the spices get all intermingled. I have simmered it as long as all afternoon… the longer the better.


About 30 minutes before serving, add the chopped or sliced zucchini and mushrooms. At this time, I also add a bit more wine and a sprinkling of garlic salt.  Then bring to a boil then back to simmer, then simmer 30 to 45 minutes longer or until the vegetables are soft. There are many varitions, sometimes, I add black olives or artickoke hearts.

Add olive oil to water in a pot and boil spinach noodles, al dente.

 Fini! Serve this delight over the spinach noodles and top with a drizzle of Parmesan cheese, accompanied by crusty, buttered, garlic bread, a light salad and dry red wine.

And you will say…        
Momma Mia! 
That’s Italia!
Serves two very generously or four small servings or six really small servings…adjust quantities as desired. And as leftovers, it tastes even better the next day.

In honor of my Mom. I feel close to her when I cook one of her delicious recipes. She would laugh, because even though, she was a really good cook, she didn’t like to cook. So, it’s interesting that some of my fondest memories of her are around her cooking. “Ah! Oh! Momma Mia! There I go again, how can I forget you!”

A suggestion, on this hot end of the summer weekend, stay inside and make a wonderful dinner… create some kitchen/food memories. So, that someday, when someone, needs some comfort food and memories, they will be there for the taking.

I am EXPLODING about this!

By Ann

THE SWITCH
… a movie getting ready to come out starring Jennifer Aniston. It’s premise – a single woman having a party to get pregnant and the sperm gets ‘switched’.  Charming premise or is it mostly disgusting? An insemination party… and this is ‘supposedly’ a comedy. How sick is our society becoming to make light of such a serious subject?! And how irrevelant is this making the part of a male in the creation and life of a child? A man replaced by a turkey baster. And that not knowing who your father is…what? No big deal!

Well, it is a REALLY BIG deal! The example that my father set for me and the security that he provides was and is paramount to who that I am as a person. My father’s love and my knowing who that he is and that he made a committment to my mother and out of their union, based in love, is how I was brought into this world, matters to me.
 
The premise of this movie, THE SWITCH, is a horrible example for our young people. Bringing a child into this world is a serious and profound decision and to make light of it in this manner disgusts me to a level where I am EXPLODING!

Then Aniston makes the comment across the self-promoting airwaves, that a woman does not need a man to get pregnant or to have a child or to rear one. This is a self-serving statement to promote ‘her movie; and is only ‘her’ opinion.  Aniston is a millionaire, divorced actress with no children… who is she to be giving this kind of advice that may be taken to heart by young people?

Sure, single women get pregnant and rear children everyday. But is that a desired state???!!!

This breakdown of traditional family is insidiously breaking down our society and must stop.Seems that Hollywood, the entertainment field and some stars will say and do anything to promote a movie in order to glean popularity and money. Morality and common sense and the message that they are sending seems to matter NOT when greed takes over.

I have volunteered with young, unwed, pregnant girls and to hear one comment, “That Hollywood actresses have children without being married and take care of children alone. So, I can do it, too.” Makes one want to explode. In that, the young woman making this comment in REAL life, hasn’t the means, education or common sense to discern fantasy from reality. She no ability to know how difficult it is to rear a child. She is only thinking ‘how fun it would be to have a baby to love and to have someone love her.’

Sad to say.. really sad to say.. that many think that the message in a movie is one that they can  implement in their lives.. when the ability to do so is practically non-existant. And when a popular actress makes a statement, many think that it is true when it is only their opinion.

What happened to, fall in love, get married, THEN start a family? So that, children can have the security and example of both a male and female in their lives? Sure, there are alternate life styles and families, but the exception is on its way to becoming the rule. This breakdown and disrespect for the process of bringing a child into this world is destructive to us all as a society and is going to backfire on our quality of life. There is a switch going on and it’s the demoralization of our country and the devaluing of that what is precious. The comception and rearing of a human being.

I am boycotting this movie as it is a sad statement and reflection of a distorted view as it diminishes the importance and seriousness of what bringing a child into this world is and really means to both the child and our society.

What is ‘Fun’?

 By Ann
As
an adjective FUN is defined as amusing, enjoyable, entertaining, pleasurable, etc., its antonym is boring.

FUN as a noun is enjoyment, amusement, excitement pleasure, joy, entertainment, etc. its antonym, boredom.

So, FUN is a feeling or an experience. You hear people saying that they want to have fun. But FUN is different things to different people even as it is often used as a catch all word for so many things.

Work is fun to some. Cleaning is fun to others. Working out is fun to many. But to others, work, cleaning and exercising are boring.

What is boring and tedious even torture to one person may be wonderfully fun to another. FUN can even be a state of mind or an attitude. Some people can make most anything fun, while others seem to suck the fun out of everything.

Amy is always saying that she wants to have some fun. I am usually always having fun. Even working hard, researching something, figuring out something, beating my head against a wall to get something done can be fun for me, but not to others. Challenging can be fun. And fun can depend on mood and timing.  What you may think is fun one day, may not be fun the next. And too much of a good thing and fun can become unfun quickly even morphing into tedious torture.

How do you know when someone is having fun? Is it when they smile or laugh?  Those are pretty good indicators, only a person with furrowed brow deep in concentration may also be having fun. 

FUN encompasses many things and can be so many different things to different people.

Have you ever looked back at at time and thought? ‘That was fun!’ But while you were living or experincing it, you didn’t recognize it as fun. FUNNY thing is …You never know, what you are doing now, even though you might be thinking, it is unfun, when you look back, you may recall it as fun…

I think FUN is what keeps you completely engaged, where time stops and you are focused in and on the moment. Being compleltely engaged with all your senses and you have FUN!!!

What is NOT FUN to you? What is FUN to you? How do you have FUN?… SHARE WITH US! We want to share in FUN with you!
 
NOW THINK about what FUN is to you!  IMAGINE yourself having FUN

NOW, GO DO IT! HAVE SOME FUN!  Do something that lifts your spirit. Then come back and share your fun with us!

Dedicated to Amy
 

Are you afraid of it? Will you fight it?

Happy senior couple hugging eachother on white - Portrait...

By Ann

We ALL begin aging from the moment we are born. As a society, there are now more middle-aged and older than there are youth. Does getting older scare you, or fill you with dread? Are you, or will you, fight it every step of the way, or accept it gracefully?
 
Do you, or will you color your hair, get plastic surgery, etc. or will you let aging gradually and gracefully take its toll on your body and mind? We will ALL age. We will ALL get older. Even the youth, that laugh at those older and THINK that they are invincible, will eventually age.
 
People are living longer and there are many healthy, vigorous, goodlooking and fit who will stay that way into their 70’s, 80’s and even 90’s. It seems to be, not only what they do to take care of themselves, but their mind set and their attitude about life and living. Of course, genetics also plays a part.

But even if you exercise, eat right, and get plastic surgery, AGE will still overcome eventually… that is if you are lucky enough to live long. Taking care of yourself, will certainly keep you looking and feeling better longer and that is a good thing.  

But, will you accept aging as it creeps in and takes its hold or will you hold it at bay? Does it scare you or will you accept it?

There is nothing more beautiful than a person of age whose wisdom, experience and joy shine through their face and eyes and if you add to that a well-maintained body and spirit. What a gift these people are to themselves and to others.

Yet aging marches on ….

Myself?   I am fighting it tooth and nail,  hand and fist.. but, of course, KNOW, that eventually I will need to and will accept it. At times, aging makes me a bit fearful.. but I wonder, as time goes on, will the fear diminish as acceptance takes over?

Is it scary or is it interesting? Are you afraid of it? Or do you accept it?

This Makes Me Want to EXPLODE – I ASK WHY???

…DO SO MANY PEOPLE BELIEVE WHAT OTHERS, THE ‘THEY’, SAY IS TRUE, RIGHT, OR  IS THE THING TO DO,  INSTEAD OF BELIEVING WHAT THEY KNOW IN THEIR HEARTS TO BE TRUE?!

This makes me crazy and feel like I want to SCREAM!

 
There are so many gurus. so-called spiritual, New Age, psychics, self-help books, those who are ‘supposed experts’ on everything from what to eat, what to say, what to wear, what to buy, how to think, what to believe… on and on and on. And what is ‘right’ one day, may not be ‘right’ the next. These so-called ‘experts’ opinions change almost daily and at rapid pace.

One of the worst is the what to buy.  ‘They’ tell you at every opportunity what it is that you need to purchase in order to have a better life. And the sheeple just follow along, right off the cliff,  charging up their credit cards up for things that they DO NOT need and could easily live without. In fact, a better way to live is WITHOUT credit card debt. We don’t need half of what they tell us to buy or what we think that we need to buy.

The absolute WORST is when they tell you what to THINK and this is done on a DAILY BASIS…
 
To be easliy led, is to open yourself up to cons on all levels and about everything.  It’s as if  ‘they’ say it on TV, that most believe it to be true. Or if ‘they’ do it in Hollywood, that it must be the thing to do. Or if, on some entertainment show or some talk show, ‘they’ say it, then it is true. If some politician says that it is what our country needs then it should be done and we all know, (or most all of us know) that most politicians are self-serving and out for personal gain and power.

Take Oprah, she has made a great living, telling others how to live, what to do, what to believe, even what book to read and what charity to give to, etc.  This women promotes her own charities continually and even had childen sending her their allowance and saving their change to send to her FOR ‘HER’ CAUSE. NOT THEIR CAUSE BUT HERS!  The big key is that it is HER CAUSE. People were sending their money to her because they believed her.WHY? Why did they believer her? And whoand what of those that believed her benefited most? Well, HER bank account, of course! She has made a great living telling people how to think and what to do. She even promoted THE SECRET and following this practice has caused the death of several people. 

When the media and advertisers promote something, it is for an agenda and for their benefit! Open up your brains and think… is what they are selling  or saying REALLY GOOD FOR ME AND MY LIFE???????????????? If not, how about DON’T FOLLOW IT, DON’T DO IT, AND DON’T BELIEVE IT!

Why can’t people ‘think’ more for themselves? How about STOP believing what others tell you and THINK for YOURSELF!!!!!

Research, ponder, use your God given instincts to discern what is real and what is con….

Conversation With A Man In The World Of Dating – Part Two

 This MAN made contact with me because he wanted to be interviewed for Women Explode.  I thought that this might be really interesting to have someone so eager to share information.

MAN: Marriage is the ultimate. There are more advantages.

ANN: What are the advantages of being married?

MAN: Financial partnership, setting goals together, like trips that we might want to take.

ANN: So, marriage is for finances?

MAN: Of course, a part of it. Anyone would say that?

ANN: What about the emotional connection?

MAN: Oh that, too. That goes without saying.

ANN : But you mentioned financial first. I would think the emotional connection is most important. That someone cares about you, is there for you.

MAN: Well, sure.

ANN:  Are you successful in your business?

MAN: Yes. I am an EXPERT in what I do.

ANN: Really, an expert. Why do you think that you have been single for 10 years, if you are desiring a committed relationship?

MAN: I just haven’t met the right woman.

ANN: What is the right woman? What attributes are important to you?

MAN: Attractive, intelligent, physically fit, good sense of humor, likes the out of doors, likes nice things, nice dinners…and be adventurous, good at setting goals.

ANN: Do you have these attributes?

MAN: Yes.

ANN: Adventurous, in what way?

MAN: Like, if I wanted to take a trip that she would be ready to go.

ANN: So, you want her to be spontaneous and do what you want to do when you want to do it?

MAN: Umm, yeah, to take trips when I want… and…well, sure when she wants.

ANN: How important is appearance to you?

MAN: Very. And she must be physically fit. I was 75 pounds overweight for five years and all I could meet was FAT women. I am not wanting to be with a FAT woman. Being fat is one reason that I haven’t met anyone.

ANN: Over-weight people meet and fall in love everyday and are happy.

MAN: But, I don’t want a FAT woman. So, I lost weight. I will never be fat again. I didn’t want to lose weight then be stuck with some FAT woman or have to motivate her to lose weight.  How old do you think I look?

ANN: 50ish.

MAN: Most people think I am MUCH younger than my age.

ANN: How about age in a woman?

MAN: I want someone around my age. So that, we have commonalities.  Being with an older woman, would make me feel old. She wouldn’t be able to keep up with me.
 
ANN: What if she was fit, attractive and adventuruous?

MAN: Like Sally Fields?

ANN: Do you know Sally Fields?

MAN: (shakes head)

ANN: There are a lot of ‘older’ women that are great looking, in great shape, and rock. That, perhaps, even you couldn’t keep up with and are more adventurous than you.

MAN: Doubt it.

ANN: Have you heard of this 3 date rule. That sex is expected to occur on or soon after the third date.

MAN: Ridiculous! Because it could occur on the first date.

ANN: The first date?

MAN: Yeah.

ANN: Isn’t that a bit soon? Why do you think these days that sex is expected so early?

MAN: Today, life is lived in sounds bites. If it doesn’t happen fast, it doesn’t happen.

ANN: Sound bites, really. Do you think that there is a spiritual component to sex?

MAN: (ponders) Funny, you should say that. Yeah, body, mind soul connection, sure.
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ANN: And you think this could occur on a first date?

MAN: Well, not… well, it …

ANN: Do you meet women online??

MAN: Yeah, I call it, FLAKES DOT COM… they are all flakes.

ANN: So, why be on there?

MAN: (shrugs)

ANN: What’s chemistry mean to you?

MAN: Touching hands, wanting to touch the other person.  ( he reaches his hand towards mine)

ANN: (I pull back) When you look at your past relationships, what did you do that might have contributed to their demise?

MAN: I was impatient and I sweated the small stuff.

ANN : That was the cause of the endings?
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MAN: Yes. And I was the ONE that ended them, NOT the women.

ANN: Do you have any regrets ending them? SInce, it’s so difficult to meet the ‘right’ one.

MAN: NO.

ANN: Have you ever really been in love?

MAN: Sure…about five or six times.

ANN: Really, that many. What is something that is a deal breaker for you in a relationship? What turns you off?

MAN: If the woman becomes distracted when I am talking to her.

ANN: So, you want her full attention on you?

MAN: (nods)

ANN: Do you feel that you have learned from your past relationships?

MAN: Like if we were dating. (reaches hand across table)

ANN: (pull back) I have enough information. 

MAN: You couldn’t have enough about me. There is much more.

ANN: Really, I do.

MAN: But if…

ANN: Excuse me. I’ll be back in a minute.

I get up to go the restroom. When I come back, he is gone.

What’s your fav special treat indulgence? Mine is…


M&M'sHaagen Daz strawberry ice cream filled with m&m’s put in a waffle cone. Strawberry ice cream in a sugar cone isolated on white background Photo (MEE00696) Sometimes, I add blueberries for the health factor and antioxidant benefit. HA! Yeah, I do! BlueberriesYou know, decadence can have healthy aspects! 

Another one is, four Golden Oreos on a plate, put ice cream on top. For me, it’s strawberry or vanilla, then squirt chocolate syrup over it all, add blueberries and raspberries then top with Chambord Liqueur Royale (raspberry flavored liqueur) and, or cognac.

I also make this with strawberries or put all the berries together and bananas work, also.  YUM! 
      Strawberry : strawberry and fruits on white background Stock Photo                                           Strawberry : picture of strawberry, lips and tongue over white Stock Photo  Sexy touch!

And the GREAT THING is, that since it’s so hot outside, you won’t gain an ounce. Walk out of doors and the fat just melts away. HONESTLY!         Really! It’s true! It does!


   Share your summer treat indulgences with us.
  
   So, we can indulge with you.