Empath or narcissist?…

Ann June 18, 2016 -3The more an empath can learn about the personality of a narcissist, the sooner they will spot one with less chance they will have of developing a relationship with one. If a relationship is already underway,  they can  dig deep into their soul and recognize their strengths and capabilities then do everything they can to build the courage and confidence to see it for what it is and walk away.

Because a narcissist lives in their creation of  facade, illusion, delusion and idealization, through deception, projection, control and delusion, narcissists are skilled at twisting reality. They leave you anxious, confused and questioning your own sanity. Learn how to ignore the crazy-making and stand firm in your truth.

Some in the pop psychology culture deem that someone who takes selfies is a narcissist and that is false.  Because some narcissists hate photos of themselves because they hate themselves, when self is really all they have the capability to care about.  They may have illusions and delusions of how they ‘image’ themselves and when a photo doesn’t match that image they can’t stand it.

Narcissism  is a pattern of thinking and behaving which involves infatuation and obsession with ones self to the exclusion of others. It is very different from healthy narcissism which we all possess. The actual meaning of the depiction of Narcissus in Greek mythology looking into the lake and falling in love with his reflection, is that he only has the ability to care about wants and needs of self. He cares for no one, but self. It’s all about him and no one else and actually that comes from the inability to have genuine self-love with authenticity of self on the soul level. Narcissus fell in love with ‘image’ of self, not who he actually is…because he either hates who he is or doesn’t know who he is. Therefore, he tries to create the image that he wants others to see to cover up who he really is. ‘Image’ is all a narcissist has.

Authentic self-love is very different from a narcissistic obsession with self. It takes a person who loves self in the authenticity of who they are, that can truly look into a mirror, see  who they are, their flaws and all, and still accept and  love themselves. And, therefore,  be able to love another selflessly and authentically, able to accept flaws in another, give to and to understand the responsibility of another’s heart. Doesn’t mean that when you look into your mirror that you don’t want to change some things, but you authentically accept and love yourself, until you do.  It’s a type of unconditional self love… it’s what the narcissist craves, but can’t feel or give. So they seek to suck the energy of love and acceptance from others, but when they get it, they eventually turn to criticize, diminish and abuse those giving it.  Partly to  create distance,  partly to have no responsibility for another, partly to feed their own ego, so they can temporarily feel better about their self-lack, and partly because they don’t think they are worthy of the love and acceptance they are being given, and they so desire. So they devalue and destroy it along with the person giving it. This temporarily gives the narcissist the upper hand and a sense of power, of feeling important, and unattainable. But, they always did have the upper hand because most knew they were  disingenuous from the beginning. They can’t live in the reality of  love, harmony, peace and joy because they don’t have these things inside themselves. Our inner world creates the outer.

Add to that, narcissists are threatened by genuine self-confidence and anyone who has authentic self-love, peace and joy, because the narcissist does not have that ability. So they seek out people who can fill them up with what they are lacking, if only temporarily and, of course, it is temporary as the narcissist sooner or later always crashes into reality of self and will try to tear the other person down and keep them off kilter. Giving the narcissist a rush of power in their fragile ego as they control the emotions of another.

Narcissists only care about what they can get from others, be it an  emotional, high, ‘such as falling in love’, excitement, sex, power by association, money, distraction, or just that they feel something, anything to take them out of their non-feeling and self-loathing emptiness.  Narcissists are about what they can ‘get’ instead of what they can ‘give’.

Some narcissists appear to enjoy sex in the beginning; but what they enjoy is the excitement, seduction, and the rush of newness; as the relationship progresses, they may shut down or pull away from their partner sexually. Doing this, serves to give them another sense of power, by withholding what their partner desires. Many narcissists have no authentic connection to their bodies, when it comes to genuinely connecting to another, so sex soon becomes a chore or non-existent or meaningless as they go from one partner to another.

An empath is connected to body, mind and spirit, so sex to them is another expression of love. With a narcissist, sex is a means to an end, a way to control, or a rush to a high that they lose interest in, soon to be on the prowl for another conquest.

Narcissists don’t have the desire or energy to genuinely love anyone but themselves, unless when it serves them to, because suppressing their anger (narcissistic rage) and other emotions that can easily turn into depression (depression is anger turned inward) is all they have the energy for. They remain focused on self on every level. While they long to be fulfilled, they have no understanding that what genuinely fulfills, is to give and to care for another or others. 

Narcissists focus on escape, illusion of perfection, power, great wealth, that the whole world loves and revolves around them, winning the lottery and all sorts of objects and things, etc.  They idealize relationships and their dreams of pleasure and escape can change often and rapidly. They are never satisfied because it’s impossible for them to be, because they aren’t internally satisfied  with self. I am not speaking of ordinary adventures, dreams and ambition that most all of us have.  Because a narcissist is different, in that, they are never satisfied or happy even when they achieve or attain that which they are after,  and  with that realization, they can fall into an even deeper depression.

Their lives can be a roller coaster, a series of being seemingly happy then depression and they have no idea why. Since they idealize relationships, they will devalue what they have, always looking for more, the next shiny thing … on a constant quest, but never finding fulfillment, like a hamster on a treadmill. The grass is always greener in their world, but when reality hits hard, when they realize that it isn’t, they may fall into deeper depression. Remember, they have no ability to accept flaws in others because they can’t accept flaws in self.

Narcissists cannot/do not feel joy,  have flat or shallow  emotions, cannot genuinely love because love takes the ability to give, to be unselfish, compromise and narcissists do not have these abilities, because everything is about them.  In the beginning, when they are trying to achieve their narcissist supply, they can ‘act’ unselfish and giving, but this is only an ‘act’…   nothing is genuine or authentic with them and will not last for long.

 Narcissists are soul sick.

They  may appear controlled in their expressions and words, like an empty  kind of politeness… as if they have to think hard before they speak, so they can phase words just right for their orchestrated-agenda-filled effect – their self-created image. This is because, they aren’t authentic and don’t have genuine intention.  While the rest of us are just being who we are when we talk and move through life. That doesn’t mean that we don’t think about what we say and do, but most of the time it’s effortless. We can error, accept it, correct ourselves, genuinely apologize and continue on. A  narcissist’s apology is the most shallow words you will ever hear.

A narcissist’s  image is overly important to them since they have little to no internal core structure. They freak when their image is threatened as that touches to the base core of their fragile ego.

They, more often than not,  mimic emotions, behaviors, even dialogue and scenes in movies to be able to fit in, move though the world, seduce and to attain their narcissist supply. They may have dead eyes, even when they smile. Their lips smile, their face and eyes don’t. They study people to learn how to respond appropriately and practice how to act, in order, to appear a certain way when they want to be accepted.

Often times, they fall into a deep depression with no ability to feel, until their next shiny thing comes along with which they can pursue their narcissist supply… the rush of pursuit with goal to suck off of another’s emotions.

Narcissistic supply is easily seen in the romantic pursuit of relationships… but the same dance occurs, of course, in all levels, and activities in society.They fall in love as fast as they fall out of love. Since they cannot genuinely love,  they soon lose interest when the first rush of falling in love with all its emotional excitement settles down to reality.  Love is enduring, not just a rush of excitement, shallow, superficial or fake. Narcissists can’t handle the quiet security,  peaceful joy and genuinely getting to know another person, becoming vulnerable to another and living with the everyday challenges, disappointments and joys of life.  This feels mundane to them, while it’s what most all of us strive for. This is because they do not have this internally, so they have no ability to create, express, or experience it externally. Therefore,  they begin relationships again and again for the rush of the challenge and excitement.  Some prefer short monogamous, marriage-like connections, (so they can feel temporarily connected like others) until the relationship  get too real and the other person has needs and requirements that must be met in order to create the balance that sustains a real relationship. When this occurs the narcissist shuts down, rages, abuses, criticizes, falls into depression or someone ends it, because when it isn’t all about them, they are not in control and pulling the strings, they get no rush.

The chance of a narcissist changing is highly unlikely, so we shouldn’t stick around waiting for it to happen. If a narcissist wants to change, then great, but it should never happen at the expense of anyone else. They  can even  keep up their false image to mental health providers when seeking help .

They may or may not be consciously aware of their behavior and the damage it causes to others because in their fake game, they will sacrifice anyone and anything for the gain of their narcissist supply, then escape and not feel pain, except for themselves…. they are the eternal victims. Because they are above all selfish, all about themselves and no one else really matters. They do not have the ability to feel or express empathy, except in a fake, learned mannerly way .

An empath is authentic, genuine and is desperate to live true to their soul’s purpose and will very likely find a relationship with a narcissist a huge lesson, a dodged bullet with a painful awakening.

An empath feels love deeply and genuinely. They feel and honor all their emotions with no need to negate or to fake them. If negative experiences happen, they hurt and may get unhappy or depressed, but it’s situational and they will lift out of it as they work to improve the situation and to heal. An empath wants to heal and to heal others. An empath feels the joy of living and being alive. An empath is genuine to themselves able to have empathy and to love another in authenticity. An empath accepts all emotions and allows them to flow through them in awareness  as they  try to gain growth and a deeper insight into self on their quest to becoming more authentic. This is why narcissists attract to empaths.

Empaths need to be careful of not becoming co-dependent. They can’t ‘fix’ the narcissist. When an empath states, I love you, it is genuine and means the beginning of a life together. When a narcissist says, I love you, it means I love the way I feel when I am with you, or they have claimed their shiny object, can get monetary, or other needs met, or that the chase is over and their narcissist mission has been temporarily accomplished…soon after, the love stops. 

A narcissist struggles to have any connection to their authentic self and will likely walk away from any relationship or situation, once they realize that they have lost their ability to control the empath, or the empath will not accept the narcissist’s behavior and  forces them to become self-aware and to heal. When the narcissist’s fake  game no longer works, is pleasurable, or they can’t suck narcissist supply from their victim, if the narcissist is not able to be in control with ego constantly stroked, feel in charge, they will seek out their next victim, ‘the next shiny thing’, or escape.

Narcissists are full of ego and selfishness, but it’s a fragile ego built on nothing. They flip from feeling less than to feeling more than, instead of just being equal to all others. They are always trying to outsmart others to gain the upper hand. When reality is, they are outsmarting themselves, damaging others and ultimately destroying their chance at authentic fulfillment. Reality is, their ego is so fragile, that they always need fresh pursuits or withdrawal to recharge.

The final act on the stage of life seems to be a pulling back of the curtain to the soul.

As a narcissist ages, they may realize something is wrong with them and fall into an even deeper depression. They can’t genuinely connect to people and certainly not in a love relationship… they may prefer being alone, only coming out of their darkness for their narcissist fix, then going right back in. They may realize how alone they really are, alone inside their distorted mind,  stuck  in their heads only connected to their empty self and their selfish wants and needs.

Narcissism and Depression

Narcissism and depression are believed to oftentimes occur together, probably because the narcissistic personality is incapable of developing true feelings of self-worth or intimacy with others. Genuine relationships with others are what enrich and sustain the lives of empaths because they have a genuine relationship with self, so they value people.

Depression brings with it many physical ailments, aches, pains, headaches, back aches, high blood pressure, heart issues, etc. addictions, and is all about self-absorption… the very thing the narcissist loves… self.

A narcissist has been fractured somewhere in their childhood, and split off from their authentic self to survive, or they were born disconnected from self with their life’s journey  being to reconnect. But it’s a deep soul searching journey to fulfillment and wholeness and most will not attempt or do so. They will just keep playing the game, using the tactics that they know. Some are diabolical, sociopathic monsters and others are wounded souls with little genuine self knowledge. It’s nature versus nurture and there can be a fine line between the two. There may be an inherited disposition to mental illness, or something could have occurred in childhood to trigger it, or both. Genetics  can influence the absence of various brain chemicals that influence how little or much empathy a person has. Personality disordered people struggle with not experiencing, or not having empathy.

Narcissistic need can be compared to that of a toddler. To a toddler everything is mine, mine mine. It’s a normal developmental stage that is usually soon grown out of, as they learn to share, care, and interact with others. But some children at any age can have experiences that fracture them and they stay frozen in that developmental stage. As in a child or teenager who is fearful of growing up and separating from parents and when triggered as an adult, the person digresses back to the developmental age in which they were frozen.  I have literally seen persons with suppressed  emotions, digress right in front of me to somewhere in childhood… as they scream “‘I’ won’t! ‘I’ don’t! ‘I’ll’ do it when ‘I’ am ready!” Their faces and voices becoming child-like, as if they are talking to a parental or authority  figure. A temper tantrum passes for cute in a toddler, but is shockingly and monstrously detestable done by an adult.  Observing one can make you want to gauge your eyes out. It’s hideous.

Parents and the family play a large roll in our psychological development and no ones parents or siblings are perfect. Be alerted if anyone states their mother, father and family were perfect and without flaws. Many times, this kind of denial is part of their fake existence as they try to keep anything negative suppressed to keep their facade intact. Denial is a prominent tool of the narcissist’s existence and assists to keep their fragile self intact. They develop certain beliefs because those beliefs allow them to maintain their  so-called ‘psychological stability’. So any  threat to their beliefs is considered a direct threat to the person’s fragile psychological stability.

Therefore, if they are awakened and acknowledge their parent/family’s flaws then it can make the narcissist feel even more fragile and lost because some  narcissists have an unhealthy connection to one or both parents and hold onto it as if it’s their life line that creates their existence… going from love to hate and back again but never just genuine acceptance.

The most narcissistic people I have known fall into this category. They have created a facade that their family is perfection, when it’s quite the opposite and they have much buried emotional pain, etc. that they have endured as they fragmented themselves trying  to fit in where they didn’t. Therefore, forever or until and if, they decide to dig really deep to heal, they will use much energy suppressing these buried memories and the emotions connected to them which causes depression. 

After all, the issue with narcissism, depression and other mental disorders is an inability to genuinely and authentically process, feel and express emotions.  To be and live in the authentic genuine self, you must have the ability to see things as they really were/are and not as you want them to be. By so doing, you are free to create and live an authentic life, to be loved and to love another, etc.

The romantic relationship is where these deep seated wounds are more easily seen and exposed with have the possibility of being healed because being that close to another is as close as we come to being truly vulnerable, but it takes courage to do this. It’s as close as we get to the child, mother, father connection. Those deep and profound imprints that drive us our whole life in both negative and positive ways, either to our destruction or onto our healing and authentic wholeness.

To love another genuinely, one must become/be the authentic self, or the love will be shallow.

Empaths are giving. They put others before themselves.  A narcissist will only put another before themselves when they are trying to hook the person in to get their narcissist supply.

Narcissists seek me out because of my empathic nature. Many times, I knew I was dealing with coldness and strangeness, with shallow, self-serving emotions, other times, I didn’t know until I did.  Some were overtly abusive and cruel, escaped into alcoholism, gambling, affairs,  others covertly,  fell into depression and excuses for no apparent reason, except for the pursuit of escape, in their fear of being really seen, and known, or when reality became too real and they either had to change to have any semblance of being a genuine feeling human being or escape….

While interacting with them, I began to have stomach aches, or feel ill in some way that was not my usual way of feeling and when I called them on their issues, they tried to project them onto me. Even projecting so much as to call me, for example: a narcissist because I take selfies.  Projection is a key tool of the narcissist and others who are disordered.  They can’t look at self in any authentic way, so have to make it about the other person, when it’s really about them.

Empaths being self-aware with the desire to be caring, empathetic and authentic to self may take on the narcissist’s projections until they wake up and realize that none of it is about them. A narcissist can devastate an empath’s self-esteem, even making them feel mentally and physically ill. Being around pathology can make healthy people ill. 

Recently,  I reconnected with a psychologist, I had gone to years ago after a divorce. She is retired now and we spent much time talking about narcissists and empaths. At my request,  I took some personality tests to affirm what I already knew, that I am predominantly an empath. On one of the empathic/narcissist tests, I scored 90 percent empathic.

A psychologist once said to me : “He USED you! He wanted from you what he didn’t have–you were a challenge. He wanted your high energy, your enthusiasm for life, your kindness towards others, your class, your good-looks–he wanted it all…and then….once he had it, and the challenge was no longer there, it wasn’t fun for him anymore,  and he either had to anti-up or destroy it all to escape and slide right back into his comfortable depressive state where he’s spent most of his miserable life. After all the romance and ‘l love yous’, then to say, “All I am capable of is friendship.” What fucking bullshit to treat you so shabbily and say that shit to you!”

The above  paragraph is the exact and perfect example of the way a narcissist behaves.

A narcissist’s primary goal is to manipulate for self-serving agenda. An empath’s primary goal is to love and to heal.  So a relationship with a narcissist is toxic for an empath.

We all have varying traits that hit on every aspect of the psychological spectrum. It’s when very many are in one, that  a person is deemed to have a personality disorder.

A review of narcissist traits:  shallow emotions, flat or shallow affect, goes from high to low emotions, (range of degree can even be bi-polar), many short term romantic relationships, rarely commits,  cheats, boasts, lives dangerously or on the edge, suppresses anger and other emotions, rage and anger can come out of nowhere,  impatient, bouts of depression, only interested in self, selfish, can go from appearing loving and giving to cold and non-giving in a short span of time, and for no apparent reason,  and many would rather be alone than with people. They don’t actually like people, unless, it’s to get their ‘fix’ for their narcissist supply. They are cold and calculating, whether aware of what they are doing or not and most are aware … and all this has little to nothing to do with taking selfies…

Also, there can be mixed psychological issues, such as narcissist/borderline – narcissist/avoidant disorder, etc. But the bottom line is these people are psychologically disordered and can wreck havoc in the lives of those who live in authenticity with emotions in tact, able to give  and to receive love.  People who  are empaths.

Giving to another in love is the greatest blessing we have on earth. The greatest lesson we may all ever learn, is to love and be loved in return. This is especially true for the narcissistic personality type as they learn to give and for the empath to learn that love is received in return.

“There is only one kind of love, but there are a thousand imitations”.
Francois de La Rochefoucauld

59 thoughts on “Empath or narcissist?…”

  1. That was long but unbelievably dead on accurate and good. WOW! I am keeping it forever and reading it again and again and sharing it.

  2. Ayn, of course you are an empath. Anyone that would call you a narcissist is an blind idiot. Great article! Thank you for sharing your deep and amazing insights with us.

  3. It took me awhile to read this and to comprehend it all. Like you I have had many run ends with narcissists. They are cold snakes. Like you wrote, they attract to beauty, kindness, money. power, any that they aren’t and anything that they want. A woman like you with beauty, kindness and so much more will naturally attract all kinds. Yes. They are very clever in hiding their motives. This is a very good article. I am saving it and will read it many times. Do you know Donna at Love fraud?

  4. Ayn, amazing article. Your honesty is to be admired. For a man to win your heart then step away, he must be mentally ill. I have had other women friends tell me the same thing that happened to you happened to them. Men who love the chase but don’t know what to do once they caught her. These are not men. They are boys playing at being men. Yeah many are mentally it. Narcissism is growing. We see in everywhere. Look at Obama, the Clintons we see it every day on the TV . No accountability for actions while they look for more to feed their empty souls. God bless. I love your site and your writing.

  5. Best explanation. I have ever read between a naricissist and empathic people. I understand things that i did not before. You are so right, we all have traits of narcissism and that is good it’s healthy. It’s the extreme that reveals those who are self serving, cold and calculating evil. I am more empathic too and like you narcissists seek me out. I have been hurt by them many time. Like you wrote I didn’t see it until it was glaring at me because being an empath we think other people are being honest and speaking from truth but narcissists have no truth they are just what they are in the minute to get what they need. Thank you for writing this. I will refer to it often.

  6. Excellent comprehensive explanation of the differences between an empath and a narcissist. Very well done.

  7. WOW! Ayn this was so true that I went blind reading it. Long but true and you emphasized character traits and behaviors in all the right places.

  8. Packed full of excellent and accurate information. Narcissists pick empaths for all the reasons you well stated and some empaths stayed way too long in the destructive pull. If anyone suspects they are in a relationship with a full blown narcissist they need to find a way out because it will only get worse.

  9. After reading this three times, I now get it. For the first time I get it. I see what you are saying. It is not that they look into the mirror and admire their reflection. It’s much more. D— I get it now! Thank you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    It’s healthy to take care of yourself to groom yourself and like to like photos. I GET IT!

  10. I agree with what other commentors said. Best article I have ever read about the differences in an empath and a narsissist. When a narcissist goes to get help and some do not often but they do. they will play the psychologist for their agenda. If in marriage counselging with one I have seen the couserlor and the narcissist join together and gang up on the empath. Psychologists can be narcissists, too. Narcissists live in their illusions in their head. They are evil.

  11. I bookmarked this to come back to read. Glad I did. It is very good, explains well. I just divorced a narcissist. He had me thinking I was crazy. I am on Donna’s site allot and it helps. Ayn your article is helpful mucho so. What is this world coming to ? People are so cruel to each other and lie all the time. Donna says there are more narcissists than ever. What do kind people so in this world?

  12. Great explanation. Well written and well thought out. I think most of us have had encounters with soul less narcissists and most do not have one ounce of empathy for anyone they con or harm.

  13. Ayn, this is all true. Narcisissists are only about themselves. They only give or love anyone if they can get something from them. They are needy and dead in side. They can’t feel joy. They have dead eyes. If you look into their eyes, you can spot them. I worked for a narcissist for years and he screwed people over with no regret or emotion. They are cold hearted sharks. It made me sick when I looked at him. So I quit my job and got another and I feel better and happier. Narcissists suck the life out of people.

  14. This is true , why haven’t I already found this site and not a member of should have been the first public group page I ever joined

  15. Hit the nail on the head. I have been in a relationship with a narcissist and it’s all about them. At first, they seem caring to lure you in then it turns and nothing is about you and it’s all about them. You hit it right on the head and these selfish freaks of nature seek out empaths. Thanks big time!

  16. In depth and comprehensive piece, it’s excellent.Some are very charming and like to draw attention to themselves but it’s fake as you wrote. You have so many excellent articles on this site. You are a very good writer with much wisdom. Keep up the good work.

  17. Have been reading from your website and blog. Very interesting stuff. At times deep but easy to understand. So far I can’t disagree with anything you post.

  18. Pathology is:
    the inability to sustain positive change,
    grow to any meaningful depth, or
    develop insight about how one’s behavior affects others
    …even just some pathology is too much.

    excellent article, Ayn, as usual

  19. I was married to a narcissist and it’s hell. Everything is about them. EVERYTHING! They have no empathy unless it’s pretending to get them something to appear normal. They are sick sick non human things. Run ! Run ! Run! from them.

  20. Had used these words Empath and Narcissist but wasn’t knowing them so deeply . Your article is Psychological as well as Social analysis , and WISDOM !! It is complete.
    To tell you the truth, I tried to evaluate self while I was reading the article with great interest and concentration, WISDOM!! You wouldn’t believe that I found my self jumping
    Sides. Emp-Narci . After reading few more times, may find
    Own position and guidance for future.
    Wow !! What a great article. TUVM

    1. As you have covered all aspects of Life, at all ages and stages, WISDOM!! it’s a complete
      Analysis, only if one can put him/ her properly one would know those aspects of his/her life which remained unexplored but have substantial effect on personality and behavior. It is always a great pleasure to read this article, ever new and fresh.

  21. True ‘WISDOM’. Your detailed article opened my eyes, both qualities exist,Inspiration,Aspiration,Circumstances etc also play role.Being in good company and closeness to Truth are ideal situations but many things matter.UR Guidance can save much.

  22. Ayn, you write truth and thank you for doing so. I have met people like this and they are are you state. Lately, I have noticed lots of projection in the disordered. They have learned to play the game in that way even better since so many are catching onto them. They act like the good guys claiming those around them are bad when it’s them all the time doing the manipulation and harm like in the Democratic party and their tactics. Great article!

  23. This article blew my mind. I have been dating a narcissist and he fits everything on your list. I felt ill much of the time he was in my life and didn’t understand why. Now I do. I went to a counselor and was told just as you have written that pathology in another can make a healthy person ill. Happy to say I am out of the relationship and I feel so much better. I am printing this article out as a reminder of what to look out for. Thank you very much.

  24. This is an excellent article and very clearly describes the difference between a narcissist and and empath. I will be using this in my practice and sharing it with patients.

  25. Ayn,
    Quite a good read , thanks!There is one thing about veracity, there is no denying it. Although narcissist’s and sociopaths may rationalize with their rebuttals . Truth is truth and there is no sidestepping with such. Truth stands alone , there is no competition that can stand up to it!

  26. Ayn, excellent take and explanation on a complex problem, the mentally sick vs the mentally healthy. Your insight is incredible.

  27. One of the best articles I have read. Great explanation on the differences in these personality types. This site is really informative and you are one great looking woman.

  28. Your Article WISDOM!! is psychologically perfect and narrative of Truth. Narcissist and Empathy seemed to be mind boggling till you
    Showed the real picture of both in detail….
    Use AND abuse of children by narcissistic parents—parents who Require the child to give up their own wants and feelings in order to serve the parent’s needs for esteem, Also Use AND abuse in adult relationships Specially for An adult who as a child has been in a relationship with a narcissist likely struggles does not know what constitutes a “normal” relationship.
    In Adult relationships the narcissistic person tends to seek out a successful independent, educated, attractive and empathic partner and creates an abuser and Victim relationship,makes it hard for their partner to leave the increasingly abusive relationship.

    Codependents may voluntarily seek relationships with narcissists.

    The narcissists’ may Initially value the relationship very high followed by devaluation,
    Once the partner has committed to the relationship (e.g., through marriage or a business partnership), the true self of the narcissist will begin to emerge.
    Beginning with belittling comments to contempt, ignoring behavior, adultery, sabotage, and, at times, physical abuse.
    Narcissists do not take responsibility for relationship difficulties and exhibit no feelings of remorse. Instead they believe themselves to be the victim in the relationship by criticising and lowlighting the qualities of Empath proving they are diagonally opposite and what not.
    God Bless Empaths. TUVM

  29. This is a fine and well put article. Excellent explanation of what a narcissist and empaths are and why they connect to the destruction of the empath. Well well done, Ayn

  30. Narcissistic men are controlling and abusive. They feel unworthy and insecure and being cruel gives the a feeling of worth and power. Very good article.

  31. Brilliant article. Exceptional take and explanation in the differences of an empath and a narcissist. Ayn, you blow me away with your insight and wisdom and beauty. You are a truly gifted and blessed woman.

  32. You are no doubt correct, but aren’t politics and entertainment two industries that naturally draw in narcissists? What’s the solution?

  33. Very good in depth article. Narcissists do target empaths. Narcissists can’t love, don’t feel joy and are always looking for something to lift them out of their dark minds. They have no empathy for what they do to others. They can fake it but they don’t feel it. Just like they can fake love but don’t feel it. Ayn you captured the differences in an empath and narcissist great.

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