is an important element to having the life you want. It’s setting your boundaries. I’m not talking about spewing whatever comes to mind whenever you feel like it, and to whomever you want to, in order, that you get your point across, but, well sometimes… that needs to be done..
Speaking your truth has no attachment to outcome. To speak your truth means to stand in your power and to not allow anyone to take your power away. It has little to do with aggression, manipulation or being stubborn, selfish and mean-spirited, although ‘some’ might take it this way, sometimes it may appear this way and actually sometimes it is this way.
Many people are frightened of truth and feel threatened when someone has the confidence to speak it.
The weak-willed may call confidence, narcissism or arrogance, because they feel threatened by confidence, internal power in others and truth.
But having attachment to someone else’s reaction turns your ‘truth speaking’ into an act of trying to get things your way and changes the focus. To be honest does not mean to be cruel, a bully, manipulative or unkind, but well, sometimes it might. When you state the truth, you don’t care what the other ‘feels’ about it because you have no attachment to the outcome. Truth has no agenda… it is what it is.
People are whatever they are and choose to be. Confronting those who have wronged you, or are still wronging you, will rarely create peace of mind, but…sometimes it does…
Most people are absolutely unwilling to change, or even to see their part in an argument, problem or issue. Most are too busy blaming, deflecting, projecting and side-stepping… anything to avoid looking at self.
Many are threatened by truth and those with the confidence to tell it.
When you set your boundaries and claim your power, it doesn’t matter if a person changes their mind, or point of view, because their action, or reaction does not influence your happiness, or your peace. To stand in your truth will give you peace… and those with inner peace are threatening to many who don’t have the ability to achieve it.
I used to not ‘get’ this. My idea of being honest sometimes backfired, when I would confront a person with their (in my mind) bad attitudes, or unacceptable behaviors. I thought, if I told them and spoke clearly enough that they’d ‘get’ it. But they rarely did… sometimes, but rarely. So, the miscommunication, struggle, fights, or arguments would continue. The more someone would misunderstand or misinterpret me, the more I would attempt to ‘set them straight’. Needless to say, this ‘usually’ failed. In the past, my ‘honesty’ lost a few ‘friends’, made a few enemies, and gave me the feeling of being seen in a completely distorted way, or being treated unfairly. It takes a brave person to speak the truth because many don’t want to hear it.
I am attempting to make a difference in the world. So, I actively pursue being true to my higher self.
Accepting who you are and to stop making excuses for it, will allow you to grow your power and peace of mind; as a permanent state of being. That doesn’t mean you lose the need to self-evaluate… as those of us on the path are always doing this as awareness and growth are our goals.
When you state and live your boundaries consistently, you will find little need to manipulate. In fact to do so and to observe this in others will offend your senses.
It doesn’t matter if someone agrees, or doesn’t, because at the end of the day, it isn’t up to others to validate who you are. This power is yours alone. You know in your soul who you are, or who you are not… that is if you live in your truth. Even in your moments of doubt, at your core, you are still secure and certainly more secure than most.
Living your life with honor, integrity, courage and kindness will attract those who require no explanations. You will find yourself surrounded more often by those who won’t continuously challenge, misinterpret, or suck the life out of you and more by those who do live by and have the same principles. They will not ask why. They will know…
And when you realize someone doesn’t live by honest principles, or has little to no self-awareness, you will more easily let them go. In fact, it will be a pleasure to do so. When I dismiss someone from my life and look back in evaluation… I always see their false living and am thankful to have it out of my world.
The universe has a way of weeding out, as you shift and change, those who no longer belong in your life. So, when you ‘lose’ someone to your newly found ability to live in the power of truth, let them go and know that others will emerge to fill the space.
Living in your truth sets you free… and the more you do, the easier it is to see others who aren’t, can’t, don’t or won’t, for who and what they are…
Truth will eventually be revealed… it is what it is…
So, what’ca think … ? Truth or not?…
(FYI those spots on my nose and face are because of the sun shining through the holes in my hat…it was a hot, and very bright day. I was out of town and had been eating lots…crazy time to take pics, but we did and it’s the truth of that day)