Hysterical…the stories I hear from women about men…

???????????????????????????????A woman told me that she was interacting with a man over the Internet… and they had communicated for about a month. That he was planning on moving to her area and wanted to meet her. He sounded fairly interesting to her, although physically, not all that attractive, but she was open to meeting him in person to see further.

Several times, during their phone conversations, he said things that she questioned… that came across a bit insulting, or as if he didn’t know how to talk to a woman and she wasn’t sure why. So, she confronted him and he would say he didn’t mean it, or ‘she’ took it the wrong way, that she didn’t understand his sense of humor, or that he was ‘tired’. At times, he mumbled, talked fast and stepped on her words when she was talking with him…

She asked him if he dated often because he appeared to be working all the time and  seemed to be awkward in his communication and he talked fast almost like he was out of breath, at times … and she wondered if, perhaps, he was just nerdy, nervous, or inexperienced with women. He responded that he dated some… and one person in particular, but that it was ending.

She inquired, “Why is it ending?” While thinking, if he’s dating someone, why is he pursuing me?

His answer, “I don’t trust her and it’s a long, complicated story. I will tell you about it later.”

She then wisely asks, “Are you having sex with her?” He replies, “Yes.”

She: “Why?”

Him: “It’s convenient.”

She continues. “So you are having sex with someone you  are ending it with and don’t trust because it’s convenient, while pursuing me. If we meet and like one another, will you be having convenient sex with this woman, you don’t trust? And does she know you are pursuing others? As she ponders, so this man thinks of sex with a woman as a convenience. How disgusting and he is actually saying this to me…

His response. “She is, too.”

Her come back. “Oh I see. Are you hearing what you are telling me?”

His come back. “I am tired. I don’t do well when I am tired.”

She: “How would you feel and what would you think, if I told you I was having ‘convenient’ sex with someone.”

He: “Umm…. well … that would be your business.”

She: “I don’t have convenient sex. So why don’t you go have your ‘convenient’  sex with that woman you don’t trust. I am going to pass on meeting you.”

What would you think and what would you have done?….

The man is the frame and the woman…

the work of art that fills up the frame…Or the woman is the picture that the frame surrounds and displays…

A frame standing alone is empty and rather uninteresting, isn’t it? But add a piece of art and it shines and is defined….as both are enhanced and displayed…

Of course, it’s nice, if the frame and art complement one another, or actually they may contrast. It all depends on the taste level and desire…  as they define one another in one aspeView of Mount Marseilleveyre and the Isle of Maire, c.1882-85 Giclee Printct or another. The right frame can make a work of art stand out and the right piece of art surrounded by the complementing frame allows the frame be noticed and succeed in what it’s been created for and to become more than it is as it supports, protects, and displays the work of art…when otherwise, it wouldn’t or couldn’t….it would just hang, or sit there empty and not fulfilled, possibly barely noticed….

A picture can stand alone without a frame… but to anchor it to the room, or the environment, it is better protected and displayed surrounded by a complementary frame. The ‘right’ frame can even propel it forward to become all that it is and could ever be….

Alone they are fine, but together they have the opportunity and potential to shine, enhance a space, even to glorify one another….

A frame can be put around a mirror, a work of art, a piece of junk, or a prized possession A modern frame can be around a Renaissance piece and an antique frame can surround a contemporary, or abstract work of art. It all depends on the environment and the desire behind what is to be accomplished in the goal of their mating and partnerships. … it’s a marriage of art and its display.

Now to frame a mirror is quite interesting in that it reflects all that passes before it…

If a frame is cracked, damaged, or becomes weak in its joints and even falls to the ground, the art may be damaged….

But the art can be damaged and if the frame is sturdy, the piece can remain in tact… until, the frame is changed to another more worthy work of art.

A frame can almost be like an accompanying work of art itself, but if it over powers the artwork its purpose will be flawed. Where as a work of art has less of a chance of becoming a frame because that is not its purpose and it might tear it apart, take away from, even destroy its beauty to try to be something that it is not…

Frames are a dime a dozen… a work of art rare… 

When a frame finds its work of art… it is best served to hold it strongly, wisely and with honor… and when a work of art finds its complementing frame … WOW! as there is nothing better than a perfectly frame work of art. It’s magic!  

A man is the frame and the woman is what fills and fulfills the frame. A frame needs its work of art to become and a work of art needs the support of a frame to shine…and just like with a man and a woman, the art is what is more readily observed and admired not the frame…

Ever realized or noticed that people always look to the woman first in a couple and then the man. They first view the woman then look to the man to see if he is worthy of her. Does she have the right frame?…

Think about it…
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(And yes, I understand men that a man can be observed and it can be wondered what is he doing with that woman…)

If you could have anything for Christmas…

what would it be?

For me, it is to enter this house one more time
and to shout, “Dad, it’s me! I am home!” And to hear his voice, “Hi tiger, come on in. I’m in the library.”

Also, Santa, while, I am wishing. Please make it so Obama is not in the White House… that he didn’t ‘win’, ‘rather steal the election’, and Romney won instead… so America could have a better chance to be back on the road to being America again…God, protect our freedoms…

Remember, when you were a child and you had a Santa list a mile long of all the toys, clothes, games and things that you sooo wanted to find under the tree on Christmas morning? Then they would magically be there. How simple life was, magical and fun. Mother reading the ‘Night before Christmas’ and putting cookies and milk out for Santa and carrots for his reindeer. Little things made you so happy, not that they seemed little then… like a doll, a bike, a record player, a Girl Scout watch…they were all that were important in your magical, little world…

This Christmas especially for me is full of the memories of Christmas’s gone by… My ‘personal Santa’, my Dad, is with the Lord this year and while I

miss him terribly, I take comfort in all the wonderful memories he created for me. My Dad loved to give and to make dreams come true and he was really good at it. He wanted me to be happy…
Thank you Daddy for all the Christmas memories, from a red tricycle, to a shiny green bike, to a Mustang car, to diamond earrings, a rare pearl ring, to a big check in my first designer evening purse…Dad was always providing wheels and moving me forward with beautiful gifts…All special filled with love that now create such wonderful memories… But the best gift my Dad gave me is his ‘will’ … his will of steel to overcome. And it’s interesting that since Dad has left the earth, I hear his words of guidance in my sleep, in my dreams, or in a quiet moment… a ‘knowing’ that he is watching over me from above…guiding and giving me strength… Perhaps, his greatest gift of all.

I love you Daddy… Merry Christmas!!!

Except, I feel alone this Christmas without you, Daddy…even as you are instilled in my heart forever,

Christmas time and each and everyday…

As Mother always said, “You are your Daddy’s girl.”

If you could have anything that you ask for, what would that be? Or what are some of your special Christmas memories?

A man is born to take care of a woman…

Abackbed02cSo, ladies make sure you put your head on the right pillow…

Because a man who doesn’t acknowledge this truth is not worth being with…. all the real men know it and act accordingly…

Sure, with youth (there is growth, hope and awareness), but the foolish, self-centered men never grasp this concept and for this they end up the losers in the love and the relationship area… ever searching, always blaming, never really attaining…

Also a man who doesn’t recognize that this is what he was born to do, is not worth much in other ‘real’ men’s eyes (no matter how much they may protest). A man is not worth much in his own eyes, either, if he doesn’t follow the laws of nature and God… causing them their escape, addictions, over-emphasis on sex, violence, objectifying and oppressing the feminine. Because it’s their need and desire of her that they fear…

Men admire other men who provide well and take care of their woman …and families…

In most all instances, the look on a woman’s face will tell you much about the man in her life…

On your rainy day…

???????????????????????????????What are ways you cope?

pray – pull the covers over your head – eat too much – drink wine – sleep – laugh – listen to music – watch TV – read a book -take in a movie – look at fashion magazines – workout??????????????????????????????? talk with friends – wallow in it – fight it – cry – pout – scream – shout – write – talk – act – freeze up – break down – stay strong – fall to weak – cook – not eat – eat chocolate – eat  salty – eat sweet then salty – put on wild music and dance around the house – sing – take a hot bath – take a hot shower – talk to everyone – don’t talk to anyone – get quiet and figure it out…

What do you do? I think I do a bit of it all!!!

And know, the sun will come out tomorrow…

A woman desires to see a reflection of…

???????????????????????????????appreciation in a man’s eyes… and a man desires even ‘needs’ to see a reflection of appreciation in a woman’s…

This is the ultimate balance of the male and female and what most all desire, wish and strive for… to have stimulation, excitement, comfort and wholeness… but most of all appreciation…

When this is achieved and balance is there, at least, most all of the time… respect, trust, peace and a true contentment can be experienced through security of both…

A woman’s ‘base need’ is security and that is achieved through respect and trust.. that she is loved for herself and appreciated and admired for who she is along with her innate nurturing abilities. When she feels secure and appreciated, she is then safe to become more of who she is… to be all and bestow her gifts on her man.

A man’s ‘base need’ is to be ‘the hero’ … a protector, in charge and in control of his life’s direction… and to know that he is appreciated for his efforts. When he does this and feels appreciated, he is then free to achieve and be more of who he is…

As in this balance of the innate male/female needs and desires being achieved …. contentment is not only possible, but from which derives joy and bliss.., and when there, nothing is better …

The feminine and masculine in their highest purpose are the perfect reflection of one another..

Agree or not?

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EXPLODING!!! Do ‘WE’ the people have a choice any longer?

???????????????????????????????Exploding through a smile, clenched teeth or whatever…but exploding none-the-less. Because it’s my opinion that ‘our’ will is not recognized as worthy any longer. The government and the media are out of control, running amuck and doing any and everything against us, to harm, brainwash, to suck rights, choice, money and resources from ‘WE’ the people…

Obama, in dictator fashion, over-rides the constitution at every opportunity and the media backs him. While it’s OUR CONSTITUTION that ‘kept’ and ‘will keep us’ from becoming a dictatorship…

‘Supposedly’ Obama is a ‘constitutional’ lawyer. But how do we really know? We have not seen his school records… but if he is, it is only so, he can dismantle our constitution… in the slimiest attorney-like sneaky way and manner.

Much like a ‘psychologist’ becomes one, ‘only’ to learn how to mess in and manipulate with people’s heads… as some psychologists are the most mentally and emotionally sick, twisted people on the planet.

Some people wanting to ‘control’ others, learn the skills of a ‘certain’ profession or trade in order to better assist them in their agenda and victimization…

So good ole, Obama ‘learns’ about the constitution, in order, to know how to side-step around it and dismantle it. So he can suck all the rights from, and ultimately, the Will from, ‘WE’ the people… As it’s the Will of the People that evil always wants to destroy, capture, dismantle and control…

It’s the tactic of all manipulative sociopaths and psychopaths… learn exactly how to control your prey, in order, to better exploit and take advantage of them…

And with Obama, the American people, their way of life and what they love and stand for… their freedoms are exactly what he wants to destroy… America and its way of life are what Obama wants to destroy…
make no mistake about this… as everything Obama and his ilk do is towards this end…

Obama and his ilk are taking away choice from ‘WE’ the people…by indebting, taxing and enslaving. They are attempting to tell us how to talk, (what words to use, what they mean and even giving words ‘new’, ‘agenda-filled’ meanings of  what’s important or not), how to live, what to buy, how to care for our health, even if we have healthcare, what to like, and how we ‘should’ even ‘feel” about things…

They try to tell us what is right, what is ‘PC’, what is acceptable to do, to think, and how to be on the planet… as the planet is the important thing to them, not ‘WE’ the people. Our feelings and our will is to be ignored… manipulated and ‘changed’ into the image that ‘they’ choose. The ‘will’ and ‘feelings’ of ‘WE’ the people don’t matter, unless, we think and feel as we are ‘told’ to think a
nd to feel…

I watched the movie, GATTACA, the other evening and in this orchestrated, genetically informed, controlled and specifically manipulated and created world… it’s shown that the human will is able to overcome adversity and seemingly handicaps. It’s the will of the individual spirit that is God-given, not man-made, or directed that is the only thing that can overcome. It can’t be measured, contained or quantified as much as evil tries to do so… it can’t be done.

And our feelings are what create our will… our will to survive and to use our God-given gift of individuality, our circumstances and situations that make us who we are … ‘the people’… the human beings on the planet.

God gave human beings dominion over the earth and all its plants and animals not the other way around. We should be good custodians, but ‘we the people’ are what matter… the earth is of service to us… not the reverse as those of evil wish and try to dictate us to believe. Evil walks the earth and has no place in Heaven…

The evil ilk running the show on the planet now, want to diminish the feelings and the will of the people… instead of creating thinking, self-aware, individual beings… they want to orchestrate and create it in ‘their’ image, the image of manipulation, control, immorality, degradation, lies, and depravity and this is all for ‘their’ benefit, instead of God’s….

God gave us freedom of choice. We are given ‘choice’ as our right of birth … not to be in servitude and controlled by of evil…

It’s of the people, by the people, and for the people…’WE’ the people… the will and feelings of the people are the only things that can save our America… 

If we deny our feelings and our will, we deny who we are. And if we do so, we will all be melded down into servitude, loss of will, and denial of our feelings and lead into slavery in every aspect of our lives… until the human race is nothing, but drones lead by a few and only for their benefit…

It’s the WILL of WE the people that matters… not the ‘orders’ and ‘dictates’ of the self-chosen, self-proclaimed few…

This Explosion will not be over until things begin to shift to lift the people up to freedom and choice once more! Smaller and less governance and the Will of ‘WE’ the people…

Agree or not…? What are your feelings and thoughts on this topic?

Can you be too honest?…

 ???????????????????????????????I have a tendency to say what I think. I am, at times, brutally honest about what I feel and what I think. I don’t want or intend to hurt people, but I get tired, even disgusted watching people being lied to and manipulated. It’s one thing to be kind and another to plain out lie and withhold the truth about a person or situation.  It’s my opinion that manipulation is an insult to all who participate.

It appears to me that there is so much lying, con, spin and manipulation these days, that when someone tells the truth, it is shocking to some.

Friends lie to friends… and I always ‘thought’ a ‘real’ friend would tell you the truth.

I have had friends tell me that they come to me when they want the truth because they know I tell it… not that it isn’t difficult to hear at times… but not telling the truth pretty much really causes damage and harms people in the long run.

We have a media that lies to us continually. We have a government that lies to us continually…

Are we losing the meaning and value of truth, of facts, of saying what we really feel, and think? Is most everything said and done for agenda, manipulation, gain and orchestrated outcome?

Now days, can you be too honest because most don’t want to hear it and would rather live in delusions and escape?

But, if we lose honesty… can we have trust? As without honesty, how can there be trust?

A friend of mine once commented, “I only want the truth not the facts.”  ??? Aren’t the facts, the truth? Or they should be, huh!? Or am I missing something.. UMMMM and HAHAHA!…..

What’s your opinion on the topic of truth? Will you tell me the truth?

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Fear…Friend or Foe?

brickorange3Fear can be your friend or your enemy… or both, depending on the time frame and circumstances.

Fear can warn you of impending danger and in that regard it is your friend even a blessing…or it can keep you in a state of confusion that will dull your senses and make you weakened and easy to be taken advantage of, only to be lead further to your destruction…it then becomes your foe working to your disadvantage and against you. It can stop you dead in your tracks in a ‘knowing’ of warning, or freeze you so that you can’t succeed or overcome.  Fear can make you a hero or a victim. The wisdom is to know the difference.

I believe that all our feelings and emotions have their place and one is not better than the other. All of them are appropriate and when we process through, honor what we are feeling, and walk through emotions is when they serve us as God intended. After all, we are sentient (feeling) beings. We are on earth to ‘feel’… and to experience.

Fear is to warn and to protect… but also to spur us on…

What is your greatest fear? Is it fear of death? Fear of public speaking? Fear of the government? Fear of evil? Fear of pain? Fear of being alone? Fear of losing all that you have? Fear of the world ending?

We all have them. Look at whatever fear you have. Walk into it. Imagine what it would be like should it occur… examine all your feelings and emotions about it … Then step out of it and observe…

Years ago, I was an interior designer and I was asked to speak before a large group at a convention on the topic commercial selling. I was in the top ten in the nation and they wanted me to share my knowledge and techniques. Of course, I was honored and I knew my subject inside and out. But right before I was to go on stage… I thought I was going to faint, collapse, have a heart attack and literally die. I was actually shaking…  and wanted to run away and out of the room as fast as I possibly could. But how would that look? I had many in the audience who worked for me and they saw me as their fearless leader…Yeah right! Not in this instance, however…

So, to the woman standing near me I confessed, “I am scared to death.” She graciously took my hands and we prayed, and, of course, that helped.Then I recalled something I had been told… ‘Imagine the worst thing that could happen’. So, I did. Which was I walked up to the microphone then fainted or dropped dead…and  the image of that happening made me chuckle. Because if that would occur … it just would. THEN it was time.. I walked up the stairs one by one and approached the mic and dropped to the floor right then and there.

NO! HA!  I told the audience that I was scared to be talking before so many .. so would they bare with me, if I made a fool of myself. They chuckled in understanding and smiled warmly at me. I took a deep breath, felt relief and smiled back at them. So I began.. and I loved it! In fact, they had to make the cut motion across their necks for me to stop and get off the stage for the next speaker to have their turn. The audience was asking questions and I was on a roll…I was feeling good, competent and not scared at all. I was loving it… TA DA!

Afterwards, everyone complimented me and momentarily, I felt like a ‘star’…

Had I allowed by fear to ‘control’ me … I would have missed the fun, the accomplishment, the feeling of success of conquering my fear.

My intense fear was unfounded… although, public speaking is on the top of the list of things people fear the most.

Obama and others in our current government use fear to ‘control’. It’s the weak, manipulative people who use the ‘threat of fear’… and this is what Obama has done the duration of his ‘rule’. He preys on people’s fears knowing that the weak and lost will buy into it. He wants people weakened and lost. He is our first ‘victim’ president and he appeals to others who wear the ‘mantel of victim’ … as these people are the first to succumb to fear instead of overcoming it … making them easily to be told what to do, what to think and how to behave. We have all been victims at one time or another, but what makes the differences is if we stay in that mindset or not… if we stay in the fear or not. If we allow the fear to overcome us, we remain victimized by it and it

diminishes us.Remember…”A weak man dies a thousand deaths. A man of courage only one.”Or “The coward dies a thousand deaths, the brave but one’…. (The man who first said that) was probably a coward…. He knew a great deal about cowards but nothing about the brave. The brave dies perhaps two thousand deaths if he’s intelligent. He simply doesn’t mention them.”
Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms

Let the fear in your gut serve to warn you, prepare you, sharpen your actions, and reserve, to call on something deep inside yourself to overcome, but not to freeze into your being and stop you from overcoming it.

Fear can be your friend and also your foe…remember the ‘wisdom’ is to know the difference.