Men who complain their wife, or girlfriend, isn't into sex...
I hear this lots... as I wonder, if these men are even sexy. In fact, the men that I observe complaining and whining about the lack of sex aren't sexy, sensual, attractive, or even interesting, or fun...
Soooo... no wonder their wife or girlfriend isn't interested in sex....
Men! Just having a penis, or an erection doesn't make you desirable...Just being a male, doesn't make you desirable....
Many men who 'talk' about sex, aren't that good at doing it... is what so many women tell me...
Men who jump from sexual partner to sexual partner looking for that 'sexual high' aren't sexy, or sensual... they are immature and irresponsible. Immaturity and irresponsible are not sexy...
Commitment, responsiblity, maturity and an emotional connection are what is sexy and sensual...
If you had it once, that sexual chemistry, that connection with your lady and it's gone... then maybe, 'you', the man did something wrong... ever think of that, 'your maleness'...? Ever think that it is about 'you' and not her??? So, how about blaming yourself and looking at yourself, instead of her...?
Women thrive on attention, communication, knowing that she is appreciated, cared for and protected. Women thrive on romance...
Now, I understand that some women are cold, or can grow cold for other reasons than what a man may, or may not do... but...
Men... there are excellent videos that you can get, to learn how to really make love to a woman... so that you can satisfy her. (I am not talking porn, I am talking about instructional videos... but they are also sexy. Porn can be a good thing, or a bad... depending...)
The more a woman is satisfied and fulfilled, the more sex she will want. It's not all about you, 'men'. Women have told me that they 'fake' orgasms just to get it over with and to make the man 'feel' good about 'his' performance. And the women finally get tired of faking it... and want no more of it...
There is a great movie called, FIREPROOF, that I recommend... it shows how turned off a man can make his wife without realizing what he is doing. That a male being so obsessed with self will turn the best, most committed woman off...
Guys, if you want great sex.... realize it is about the woman... put her first...
and forget about your ego and your penis needs...
If the sexual chemistry is there in the beginning.. it will always be there, if it is nurtured and developed... learn together about each others' bodies. Women have a more complex sexual make-up than men.
Most women are very sexual beings and as they get older most get even more so...
I have a beautiful friend married for years to a great looking guy and she lies in bed and has sex with herself with him asleep beside her... so hey... what is this saying....?
Men you need to wake up... stop complaining and talking about sex and learn how to do it and how to really please your lady outside of the bedroom...cuddle with her, hold her hand, buy her gifts, flowers, etc... whatever she enjoys... start all over with the romance, every so often... make it fun and exciting... to break-up the pattern of everyday life...
It's not about your car, football, fishing, your job, how much money you make or anything else. It is about how she feels when she is around you... it's about how 'you' make her feel when she interacts with you... if she feels cared for, appreciated seen and heard....
There is so much written about how to please a man and it all centers on his ego. Men's ego needs can weigh heavily on a woman.. a man's ego and keeping him feeling 'good' as a man can exhaust a woman...
feeding that 'fragile male ego' can be a real turn off....
Women get tired of catering to a man's ego.... so they shut down....
and men, if she doesn't want you... she is shut down to you... she is turned off by and to you.... and it very well may be your fault....
Men.. are you still in shape? Do you take care of your personal hygiene? Do you watch sports all day ignoring your lady, then expect her to 'want' you... well, good frigging luck...
It's really not about 'sex' It's about communication. It's about the connection.
Men forget about your needs, your penis, your ego, yourself and focus on your lady...it just may get you all that you could ever desire. Can you even handle it?
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Great article. You hit it right on target everytime. I have met men like that. They tell you right up front that their wife didn't like sex like they expect you to make up for it. They are so stupid and obvious.
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So true! Men always blame the women when it is him.
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Isn't that typical of some men? Look at the Muslim practice.. they blame a woman if she is raped..
Many men can't accept responsiblity. Palyboys are a good example.. they are always looking for the next one.. when what the issue is, is that they can't deal with who they are or their own emtions.. so they go woman to woman for excitement and to avoid looking at self.. they are truly pathetic as as they age really so.. I have met many never married men in their 40's and 50's and they are sad sacks.. empty and they can't and don't get it.. they have no ability to love.
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I agree about the men in their 50’s that no longer have the ability to fall in love. It’s very sad to know they will spend the rest of their lives alone and lonely. Some have been married, divorced and then became the playboy. The get bitter when they get older and when you reject them they really get angry.
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Carol, I agree. Men when hurt shut down faster and stay down longer.. they are so ego driven.. and many don't analyze their part in it.. so they separate even more from self and turn to sex and seduction. And they are soooo pathetic.. I have run into many.. they are empty vessels looking for a place to stick it. Then when they lose their looks and can't attract a woman.. they get mean... and hateful, bitter and plain nasty...
They get angry when rejected.. because as they beat their feeble chest.. they are men.. HA! it's a sad state when a man loses his ability to grow and to self-actualize.
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Ann you are a really pretty lady.
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It's always the mans fault. Men are pigs.
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Mark....I do not think all men are pigs. There are lots of good men out there. I don't like to lump them in a group. There are alot of very well groomed men out there.
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What's the point in complaining, that's not going to make for success...Super size the romance, and you will see change; however, it's very important to realize that passion begins in the morning. You've got to earn her love every day and long before the lights go out. You can't expect passion when you treat a woman with dispassion (and I don't think it's about looks, it's about attitude). A woman cannot turn it on if you don't "turn her on," and that requires tenderness, warmth and true, sincere appreciation. Well, that's how I see it (you have to give to get).
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Agree George, well put!
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Are you available? ...
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Ann this article is genuis. It is about the woman and any real man knows this. Men who are selfish and arrogant aren't worth any woman being around. Women who have sex when they don't want to are only hurting themselves. Men standing there with their penis in their hand are not men they are boys.
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Yes! good article Ann!
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Wonderful article! So right! Men are so into sex and they can't even perform. LOL! Ihad this guy after me for weeks and when I finally was ready he couldn't get it up.
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I had that happen too. They come on real strong then can't get it up.
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Some men focus on sex because they 'think' as men that they should.. but they are really not all that sexy, or sensual or into it..
The best lovers are emotionally aware men..and some men don't understand, cant' handle their own emotions not to mention understanding a woman's. So they focus on sex.. as a man like this gets older .. if her hasn't grown he will get more obsessed and less capable because he doesn't have the ability ...
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Love love love it! Men who whine about not getting sex are usually beer bellied rude pigs.
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Good one!
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Ann this is a seriously true article. I have girlfriends who tell me that their husbands complain about not having sex and the women can't stand to even be touched because they are so bored with their husbands. What is wrong with men? Why don't they see that they turn women off?
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Men measure their 'manhood' by their ability to have sex.. and when a woman isn't interested.. they try to blame her rather than take the responsiblity on themselves... then some have affairs to try and prove that they are still 'men and desirable.. when women have affairs it's usually for emotional reasons..
Some men aren't meeting women's emotional needs.. because they are lazy, unaware, plain ignorant, emotionally stunted or or don't know how.. I recommend the movie FIREPROOF as one good presentation to bring awareness..
Men who focus so much on sex are usually trying to cover up something that they lack.
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Good one
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Hysterical and true!
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What a good one! I am sharing it! Ann I love you! You get it! You get so much!
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Hate to admit it but it's a great article. Men must put a woman first. Most men are only about themselves then wonder why their women aren't happy. nailed it again beautiful!
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Maybe because the man they are with don't know what he is doing.
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Both man's and woman's job to stay in shape for each other. And just because your together/married doesn't mean you stop dating and romancing each other. Plus you will never find the perfect someone out there in the world.
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All I can say Ann, this was an excellent article, as usual. I wish all men could read it. All men are not good lovers, those are the men who are self centered. You are lucky if you get one that knows what he doing and has not been in every woman's bedroom.
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Thanks and isn't that the truth.. and the men who have been or claim to have so many lovers many times are lousy in bed. I can't abide promiscuious men.. they are so needy and desperate.
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Keep in mind it takes two to tango. And to make anything that is team sport a success it needs all players striving to gain the win. If not they lose for many reasons on all sides if they are pulling in opposite directions.
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sexiness isn't quantifiable; it is the sum of a LOT of different factors, and varies constantly.
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Sex is a chemical reaction.. and is changes and shifts with interaction of the individuals.. and if it goes bad, it's not always the women.. it can be the man.. just because he is horny doesn't mean, he is good at what he does or that a woman desires him. It's up to him to arouse her desire if she has lost it for him.
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Women need assertive men to tell them what to like. >_>
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What Jason? That is an absurd statemen.. women need assertive men to guide and who know how to make love and lead a relationship... no one can tell anyone what to like.. that is controlling and abusive..
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>_> (sarcastic eyes). Your are right and each partner should respect each others "likes" even if they disagree. That is why I need a strong woman in my life to tell me what to think and do, just like on 90% of tv sitcoms. O_o
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Jason, people don't tell people how and what to think. Geez, you are scary!
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This is a good article about men and sex...
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oops, forgot to leave the link... http://blog.womenexplode.com/2011/05/10/hes-trying-to-find-himself-through-a-womans-body.aspx
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Another good link concerning men and sex...
http://blog.womenexplode.com/2011/05/20/a-penis-is-only-as-good-as-the-man-connected-to-it.aspx
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Men with pot bellies are sickening.
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I agree with your rant, however, it applies to both sides. While it's always great to have that special connection, to me that connection doesn't replace physical attraction. If you can't stand broccolli, it doesn't matter that you know it's good for you. Courtesy and respect for others as well as personal hygiene are important regardless if you are in a relationship or not.
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That 'connection' encompasses physical attraction..
When you have that attraction that connection in the beginning.. unless one messes it up, it usually stays..
And of course, it goes both ways but this one is about men..
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I know plenty of women who complain that their husband's are dead in the sack!!!
Men who refuse to bathe daily, don't go to have their hair groomed and have bad breath are definitely NOT sexy!!!
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My mom has been dating for years and she tells me about these nasty old men who are after sex. They are fat and gross. Men think women have to look good but they let themselves go and think women will want them.. I think old men are ugly with their bald heads and big bellies. Only love could get past that. I an not having sex until I get married.
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Alexa, I think it is wise of you to save yourself for marriage and committment. And yes, there are many men who think just because they are male that they should get and deserve sex.. it's sad...
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Some men still blame women for the sex of the child. I actually like delving into the psyche stuff.
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Another good one Ann. I have been married for years and what you wrote is right. When I get to self absorbed my wife pulls away. In a long term relationship people go through up and downs but if the connection was once there you can bring it back. It is about the woman. If a man please his lady he will have it all. We have seen Fireproof. It is a good example and quide post. Again great post Ann.
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Ann, This is so ture, it has been true for me and a lot of women I know. Thank you for this one.
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well it takes two to tangle
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lol....so true...if they would take care of themselves like most women, maybe it would be more appealing. Who wants a fat belly sweaty man on them. I don't even want them to hug me. And they should be taught a class....they leave everything up to the women and some men do not know what making love is or just a you know what.....And making love is not just about intercourse. I swear there have been few....maybe one...in my entire life that knew how to truly make love. A man should start with wooing a girl anyway. And if your married you should still woo her. You don't have to all of a sudden fail to take care of your hygiene. Even a nasty toilet would not make me want the man!!!!!
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Tell me about it...this is gross you can delete it if you want. But once I dated a very hot man...so good looking...well I had to use his bathroom ....well first time I date someone I do this if I happen to be in their home and have to use their bathroom ....there was hair all in his tub.......never saw the dude again!
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I can't relate to this post at all - my wife and I have a great marriage, go to the gym together, go on lots of hikes, talk as much as we can, pitch in on chores and live our lives as a partnership. Rarely do we ever have anything resembling a problem with intimacy - imagine that!? 5 of the best years of my life.
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That's great. You must have great communication. Keep the chemisty going.. Good for you both..
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I agree ladies ...just check out his undies,.LOL!! ewwwwwww
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Some men have no hobbies, that is part of the reason, they are bored and think sex is a cure all. I am sure glad I am not married to a person, who thinks sex is a cure all. Just look at Newt, he must be bored when he was a congressman, his first wife once said he lived on adultery. Mitt to me reminds me of my husband, true, honest and trust worthy, loves one women. Man who complain, are unhappy with them selves.
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Agree.. they are unhappy with themselves and looking to project it on the woman.
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everyone has their problems ...its really elementray some are just better in bed then others ...
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I like men to be men....I remember the sexiest thing was when a man through me over his shoulder and just spinned a couple times in play....I don't like wuss men.....Real men...Clean men!!
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Men who blame the women if sex isn't happening.. are not taking responsiblity.. and that is not a man.. and that is what is wrong with many men these days...
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sometimes I see things that blow me away - it certainly explains the lack of leadership in society in general.
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Men are emasulating themselves and blaming it on the women.
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Awwwh....how I love a manly man!!!!
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Attention men: skid marks are nasty...if you can't clean yourself properly what makes you think anyone would want to get all hot and sweaty with you.
Beer bellies are nasty, so are scratching your privates in public or in a private setting...farting and blaming it on the dog...picking your nose...dirty fingernails...
(Yep...I'm happily divorced!)
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Cleaniness is a non-negiotable and so are manners...
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Sex is an active participation sport. Get active and involved. (
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Agree Robin!
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STEALING! Ann you do really incredible work, I am in such awe...RSB...thank you but I've come to steal once again...;P
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Thank you and steal all that you desire...
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perhaps some of us do not have the right chemistry or as you said just not worthy of the effort..
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I never said it wasn't worth the effort.. if it was there before it can be there again.. and it just may not be the woman as so many men try to claim .. it may be the man..
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Don't blame me I try to do my part.
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I agree completely . Sex is a Team Sport; it takes Practice, Communication , and Conditioning . You cant Play once a month and expect to be Good at Anything .
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Ann this article is so real and like it REALLY is. Men have a tendancy to blame women for everything when it them and the way that they treat women that turns them off. Men who are fat, don't take care of themselves and sit their fat butts on the sofa watching TV all the time are NOT sexy or attractive. They are BORING. It takes a long suffering wife to even stand to be around one of these bloats. Love this site. I just found it.
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Ann you have it right and boy are you cute!
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When I married we had incredible sexual chemistry. As my husband aged he got a bit overweight and just as you wrote sat on the sofA Soon I couldn't stand for him to be near me. He became whiny and complaining and I got more and more turned off. He tried to turn it onto me but I saw what he was doing. I got out of the marriage and am in a new relationship. I think many times women are much more sensual and sexual than men are hence the younger man older women hook up. When I was dating I even found men younger than me to be a sexual drag and turn off. What is happening to men? Many are becoming lazy pigs and this fat belly deal that so many grow into is plain gross. Great article tells the truth. Enjoy this site lots!
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Leslie.
I fully agree with Ann in this blog, it should be all about showing your woman how special she is. However, (not but) I was married for 25+ years and my heart died for some major relationship issues (not infidelity) - including the complete lack of physical intimacy. So, not all guys are so obvious. Nice blog Ann. You tell it like it is.
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Ann,
Well written, sorry I am so late! I agree with everything you said, and if a woman is not into her man, it might be because she is just not into him anymore period! :O)
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Hello beautiful how are you doing?I love your smile.Keep it up it brings your beauty out.What's the secret?I just can't take my eyes off you.Have a wonderful day.
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Me? But of course Not.
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Definitely a great post! When the romance in a marriage goes it can be just another chore for a woman and make the whole marriege a loveless sham. Too often guys marry the beautiful 'trophy' wife and simply get bored of her. What a disgrace. A woman's biggest sex organ is her brain!
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awesome article like normal. Thanks for writing and sharing.
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Men...just stay clean...don't be a pig.......don't live like a pig....have at least some manners.....if you are not interested then don't say you will call. And if you are married stay away and pay attention to your wife. My requirements are so low....I am very low maintenance and I can't even get a man to call me if he is late...
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This is a two way street Ann. Some people have more talent, desire, need, stamina, and enthusiasm than others (Male or Female). Some could care less. Just like in high-maintenance above, if it is that bad, give up and move on. What about the lady that replaces her hubby with her newborn? Or the lady that loses her self image and desire because of breast cancer scars? Or the spouse that has gained so much weight they do not feel sexy anymore?
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Sure.. it's a two way street.. but I wrote this because I interact with men who often say this.. and the truth is that they aren't sexy, fun, interesting or even have a clue how to relate to a woman.. example: A woman might lose both her breasts.. but if her man is sexy and knows how to treat her and talk to her .. she will feel sexy..or rather regain her sexuality.
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SOMETIMES some men think 'good sex' is just porn and videogames and want the woman to follow suit...i would shy away from guys who are too much into v'games just as much as those into porn. They would never make good lovers. I know its up to us to 'train' them and have them go slower at times..also a guy who drinks too much has a problem gettin 'ready' or drugs== prescrption or street
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I would happen to agree with all the statements that Ann has made about men. I would also have to agree with the statements about women and their sexual/emotional/spiritual character.
One thing I'd like to point out is that ALL of us are spirits that exist in the FLESH. The flesh is weak and it has control here in the physical world.
It is so important to focus on what builds our spirits and characters, which control our carnal natures, and live within the guidelines given to us in God's word.
That being said, all of us are flawed. Work for showing love, caring, respect for not only others, but for yourself. The opposite sex will notice when you show that you respect yourself, but are willing to defer to others.
I struggle with my love and lust for women all the time. I temper that with keeping my physical and spiritual sides in the best shape I can and that takes dedication. After that, I let the woman make the decision on yes or no, to proceed with a relationship.
Great topic, Ann...as always.
Logan
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Ok! Quit picking on us guys. I will say this to you. You are a very attractive sexual lady. Hope I'm not in trouble for writing that .
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Ann, I wish this message could go out to every high school in America and be broadcast on PSAs in every NBA and NFL telecast. The only sadness over here is that the males who most need to be faced with these truths are leadt likely to be man enough to let them in. You've done an AMAZING sercie here in a gentle, clear and authentic manner.
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I shared it again with the prefix "Looking in the mirror may be more effective than scowling across the bed".
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Its really interesting post thanks…………..
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It usually is the guy...
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good advice. However, the fragile ego of a man may not comprehend any of it.
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LMAO. That's not surprising. My ex and i often had this argument, he never got it and well, hence the term ex
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Men need to always be romancing a woman.. if they don't .. sex goes ba bye.. then they get a divorce,, and romance a new woman, marry her, stop the romance and sex goes ba bye.. Romance is not to capture.. it is to sustain..
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We often are but it is a two way street even when we are more to blame. bad communication and unrealistic expectations are most often the culprits. Television and romance novels don't help either as they show completely unrealistic fantasies for relationships.
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Ha! Impossible!
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Sharing Ann. This is good and to the point!
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Yep definitely a good article. So true.
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Romance is when you know the other person has your best interests at heart, and wants to do the right things for you to make you safe and happy.
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Agree Laura. An emotionally healthy woman must feel and be safe to fully let go sexually.. so guys!!! Get it?
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As a general observation of Men and Women in general I agree with your article. It is never as simple as it appears and it takes two to tango and seldom can you just pin it on just one person. But good article.
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I agree, Paul. This article is general.. I can't cover every detail in the complexity of sexuality and attraction in one piece.
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True. I think men forget that we don't just have sex for release or fun, necessarily. There is a big emotional component and if your man nitpicks away at you emotionally, that bond you once had just diminishes over time. Yup, guys, nagging exists on both sides. Men can be just as brutal, whether it is mocking, as happens to me, and then I am told I have no sense of humor, or criticism, it all has the same end result of no sex, boys. And just remember, if you are the only one in the room laughing, it isn't a joke.
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Being accepted for who you are is what we all desire.. and most especially in the intimate romantic one.. when that is diminished we shut down. That is if we are emotionally healthy. It's our human nature and we do it out of self-protection.
So I agree Susan.. love is respect and acceptance.. .. equals.. great sex...
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Some men have problems with photography.
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Decent article, BUT, porn is NEVER a good thing in a marriage. Ever. At least, not a healthy one.
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Love this! Too many times women are told we need to give it up more to our men. Thank you for writing this!!!!!!!! This is so important and all too often neglected.
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Interesting points here all from the girls. Yes men are pigs. Tut tut.
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There are no fridged women, just clumbsey men!
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Ann is incredibly naive to write such a juvenile article. Read the experiences of real men on websites like the experience project, and see what its really like for a man to live in a marriage with a wife who refuses to engaged in sexual activity. I live in a sexless marriage and at the age of 38, have no problem attracting other women. All I want is to be intimate with the woman I fell in love with 18 years ago. After 10 years of marriage, I am tempted to leave my wife, as the resentment from being refused for so many years is becoming insurmountable, even though my wife has apologized and wants to try and rectify our relationship. Its a very serious issue, and there are many women who live with husbands who also limit physical contact with them. If Ann was trying to be funny, maybe the sarcasm should be more apparent.
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Nothing about me concerning this issue is naive. You comments and they way that you wrote it shows and angry, furstrated man.. It is up to the man to create the environment and desire in a woman and he does that by what he does and how he interacts with her everyday. I know many women and have many tell me how unattracted they are to their husbands and for many reasons as in their hygiene, the way that they treat her and take for granted that she wants them.. just because they are men.. and it does not work that way. You need to look at yourself and your situation as they are all different and this article is accurate as to how many women think and feel. Perhaps, that is something you don't understand ... women.. Nothing funny is in this article..
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Chuck, "Women get tired of catering to a man's ego.... so they shut down....
and men, if she doesn't want you... she is shut down to you... she is turned off by and to you.... and it very well may be your fault...."
Ann is right on all points!
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My husband and I have problems along this line and though I love him, & he's in great shape/good looking guy, his life is all about him all day long. He lays there and expects to be "serviced" - a complete turn off to me. He never takes the initiative. I'm always expected to do that. A woman wants to feel "wanted" and this just isn't happening. We've talked about this so often that I'm tired of hearing it. Great article, I'll forward it to him. If he actually reads it, I'll be amazed, though.
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Men who 'expect' to be 'serviced' are of course not good lovers.. the man gives and the woman recieves .. it's evident in the anatomy.. If you don't feel wanted and desired.. why want and desire him.. you have taught him that it's okay for him to be as he is.. I hope he reads the article.. he is missing out on alot.. and he doesn't even know it.. the best male lovers are givers.. and in their giving they will usually recieve much.
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Good article Ann. Women are fragile in this area and men are like bulls. Very good points.
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Sexless marriages aren't gender specific, and your article speaks as if the problem doesn't happen to women. That is the reason I sourced a website of individual's stories. Are there jerks who bully their wives? Sure. Are there women who view their husbands as weak, and don't support their husbands? Yep, but neither seem to be the case in many sexless marriages. Yet your article paints men out as empty cardboard cutouts from some hokey Lifetime TV drama. I want to give you, Ann, the benefit of the doubt, that you aren't just a scorned woman looking to find fault in all men. Your response to my comment makes it difficult for me.
As a christian, I am the head of my household, but my wife is my helper. Without her bringing 100 percent in the marriage, it won't work. So the idea that I set the stage for every outcome is silly and again, naive, as I did not marry a stepford wife.
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Chuck, you are looking to place blame on your wife. This is one topic on this topics.. and others such as this.. I have many read around the sight.. I have ones about women and how they interact. You appear defensive and by what you write unattractive to woman.. I have lived much .. and this is nothing like or about some 'hokey' Lifetime drama... everything thing you write is insulting to me and women in general.. again look at you.. rent the movie FIREPROOF .. if you are a Christian as you claim .. it is an excellent Christian film about marriage.
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Also, this is not about me.. it's a generic article about men.. and most women I know and speak to agree completely.. so interesting Chuck you are one of the only critics.. Look at you..
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Ann, you are so patient. I can't stand men like this whiny ass Chuck. Defensive and pointing fingers away from him as to not take any blame. Just by what he wrote I bet his wife can't stand to be around him. Great article. True in everyway.
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I agree with a lot of what you said. Sometimes there are other issues. If a woman is honest with her husband and tells him what she wants that can solve a lot of the confusion. Men are often confused because they can't read their wife's/girlfriend's mind. Lol. Or they think the wrong things are important.
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I'll make this my final comment. I find it funny that you perceive me as being unattractive. As long as the Burt Reynolds, John Mayers, Brad Pitts, Jesse James', and George Clooneys continue to be the most successful at picking up women, then you finding me unattactive is more than likely a compliment.
I shared my story because I wanted to let others know that the lack of intimacy in a relationship is a very complicated issue and is a subject far above your paygrade. I can only assume that you Ann are divorced, and now single woman. I wouldn't be surprised if your husband was abusive, and if so I am sorry, but painting all or even most men with that same brush ultimately limits you, because its difficult to see through jaded glasses.
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Ann, I will answer this. First she was talking about emotionally unattractive not physically. How immature and defensive can you be to not see this? Of course, lack of intimacy can be complicated and with someone who can't think clearly or read with clear comprehension it would be even more complicated. You are assuming alot about Ann, a person that you have no idea about. She is not painting men with the same brush and I assure you she is not limited in anyway nor is she jaded. It is you Chuck that comes across jaded, defensive and angry. I agree with Ann you are emotional unattractive to a woman and that will limit any woman from wanting to be intimate with you. It is about chemistry not looks. Ann how did I do?
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Dude could you be anymore lame. Whining about the looks of other men. Ann wasn't talking about looks she was talking about exactly what Alicia said emotional maturity and even I can see being a 'man' that you are off base. Get a grip old man.
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Chuck from what you wrote it's above your paygrade. Your comments are immature and insulting. This article is great and even being a guy I can see this. Ann has insight and clarity on this issue and you my friend are muddled and as others wrote jaded. You are projecting your insecurities onto Ann.
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Chuck, yes I was talking about emotional attractiveness. This is what creates the real attraction to another not just the physical. In fact, emotional and intellectual compatibility and attraction is more important and enduring than appearance.. as appearance can and does changes through life.. I am sorry but you seem to not have the ability to comprehend.
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