Interview with a never married 49-year-old-man...

I wanted to interview a middle-aged man (pictured,but hidden. He asked repeatedly to be on my site.) who has never been married and has no children. I wanted to ask him questions in person, and he answer, but he 'insisted' that I write the questions down, so that he had time to 'think' about his answers. Bad sign right there...

My other interviews with men have always been me asking questions in person and they answer right there. They didn't 'need' the time to 'orchestrate' their answers. 

This man's fully orchestrated 'for effect' answers reveal a man who has little to no connection to his heart, is in his head and without the ability to really connect, or to see himself in relation to another. He is 'mother-controlled' and looking for a woman to take care of him. I almost didn't even put this up because I found it so trite and mundane, but then realized, it is great for awareness.

I have known this man for 10 years, so know what's real and what's BS. I have written what I know to be true in parenthesis, to reveal the self-delusional pretense in the blah, blah, 'politically correct' BS that he 'thinks' a woman 'wants' to hear. He 'tries' to be so 'correct' that this man doesn't live fully and certainly doesn't know how to love, or what love even is. He is looking to 'feel good about himself'. So ladies, if a man gives you these type of BS answers run away. And men, if you identify with this too much, you are conning and fooling yourself...


1. Why do you think it is that you have never married?

Extreme financial instability for one and all that encompasses. I've had a lot of terrible luck with career layoffs and I never wanted to burden a woman with that. (When I first met him, he told me he had a significant amount of money. So, a con right off the bat and plenty of poor people are married. So, what kind of an answer is this really?)

I'm very independent and never really felt a need to get married during my youth. (He told me he was engaged when he was in his twenties and the woman cheated.) Having children wasn't important to me either. (He told me he didn't want kids then that he did. I think he got some woman pregnant, but she miscarried and, even then, he didn't marry her. From what I observe, he is too self-centered to have children.)

Also, continually spending too much time with women who I knew were wrong for me early in the relationship, expecting circumstances to change. (I wonder does he think about the woman's time he wasted, if he 'knew' that they were 'wrong for him'?) I am also guilty of not putting forth enough effort, not dating more, and that is my fault. (In the ten years, I have known him, he is usually 'hooked' into some woman, then they break it off and he whines about something that was wrong with 'her'. It was her family. She had cats. He hates cats. So, why date a woman with cats? She spent too much money on her horses, or something else that he found so distasteful.  He dated a woman that leased a Lamborghini for him. I inquired, if he liked her. He shrugged, stating, "Not really."  So, ummm, why was he with her? Then he will date older women who have money and when they break up, he will state that she is stuck up and too old for him.)

2. Do you want to marry?

Yes, as long as there is a healthy balance in every area of our lives, emotional, financial goals. (Ladies, this is a man that is after a woman to support him both financially and emotionally. He has no idea how to 'support' a woman in anyway). 

3. Why do you want a woman in your life, or do you really?
 
Men and women 'should' both bring positive influences to each other. I want to bring uplifting experiences to a woman, it 'should' be the same for her. I want to give love and receive it. Once again, if there is a healthy balance there, I think marriage would be great. I’ve been a very independent man. I don’t need a woman to make my life happy, I want one to 'enhance' it, as I would hope to hers. (This answer reveals it all... 'politically correct BS'.  Wanting and doing are two different things.)
 
4. Do you think after being single all of your life that you would find it difficult to adapt to being with a woman in a marriage?

Of course, some fundamental challenges like sharing the same space and becoming used to having another personality around would be the biggest. We are all creatures of habit, therefore, a period of adjustment involving each others daily routines would have to be addressed. A strong bond would make this period go smoothly rather than being a struggle. Small, quirky things would work themselves out as long as both are dedicated to the success of the marriage, that’s the easy part. (Easy? How would he know?) The honeymoon period would involve allowing for each others needs, their likes and dislikes, and making changes with respect and love. Sure, the daily interaction would be an adjustment at my age, but, that’s what the dating period is for: to see if it’s a good fit for both. (BS answer).

5. Do you respect your mother?
Yes. She is a very caring person, was a wonderful wife, and an extremely hard worker during her career. She has her quirks like anyone else. (He has told me repeatedly that he hates his mother and his sister. He is jealous of how close they are and from what he says about his sister he is jealous of her. She is married, successful and has two children. She is everything he is not. He gave this answer because he 'knows' having a 'good' relationship with his mother is the 'politically correct' thing to say).
 
6. What about a woman attracts you?

Emotional stability,(He often flips into deep depression. I have seen him throw tantrums when he was jealous of what another man has, or if he can't get what he wants.)  financial independence, (He has financial issues.) a confident attitude, a caring soul. (He is so insecure that he needed time to think about these answers.) A woman who is as comfortable in a bathing suit as she is in a Chanel dress. (Chanel 'suit'... is that what he means?. He doesn't even know what Chanel is. He said this to 'appear' sophisticated. He often dresses inappropriately and he wants a woman who is comfortable in Chanel. This statement is laughable. What he wants is a woman who can buy these kind of clothes for herself. He takes a woman for burgers and to the movies. Where would she wear Chanel with this guy?)

A best friend as well as a lover. A big sense of humor. (He is usually droll.) Someone who is relaxed and takes life as it comes. (He can't handle the simplest of tasks as in picking up the correct thing at a grocery store. He is looking for someone to keep him lifted out of his depression. So, is this a man who would be there during some real life tragedy or trauma?) 

7. What about a woman does not attract you?

Narcissism. Someone always thinking of herself before anyone else. A player.
(He is the narcissist. Everything is always about him. He plays at life and relationships. Example: He watches NIP/TUCK and indentifies with Christian the playboy.) Confident women scare him. So, he calls them narcissists. It's classic projection. He wants a woman who will put him first, like a mother would a child).

8. What do you think that you have to offer a woman?

A warm heart, a trusting personality, 'a giver of what he can', (This is a big clue. Ladies, get it?) a good sense of humor. I am far from perfect, but as long as a woman respects me,( as long as she can't see through his BS) I’ll do anything for her and do what I can to make her happy. (He has an ego as big as the world. So, he needs a woman to 'make him' feel good about himself and to continually fan his fragile ego.) 

9. What do you want a woman to bring to your life?
 
To be a partner in every way, through the good times and bad. (He has never sustained a relationship through bad times. He has never sustained a relationship. At the first sign of stress or trouble, he shuts down or runs.)

10. How do you think your life would change were you married?
 
I believe that finding the right person would positively enhance my life. I really want that bond and special friendship that comes with a terrific marriage. Too many couples allow other things to tear them apart, children, relatives, money, jealousy. I would want to keep my marriage strictly between my wife and I, not allowing anything or anyone to come between our personal relationship. Friends that share selflessly, lovers with a deep, respectful, passionate connection: that’s my idea of marriage. (This answer is all blah blah. He has no idea, but 'tries' to appear like an authority).

This man re-connects with me after failed situations with women. He shares all that is wrong and how he 'was' going to marry them...blah blah. All BS, he will never marry. I told him this 10 years ago and 10 years later he is in the same place, only with a heart condition, overweight and aging rapidly. As I inquire about his relationships, I realize, they weren't even anchored in reality. It's like women date him between their real guys. 

This man doesn't have the ability to connect and to endure the good, the bad, and the in between, in a long term, committed relationship. He rushes in, thinks this is it, then quickly pulls away, shuts down or the women dump him. He likes the rev up, but can't, or doesn't know how to sustain reality.

So, I wondered what makes a man remain single until 49, while 'claiming to want' to be married. I wanted to investigate it  and be able to reveal more insights, but... as you can see...the man is a wall of BS. HAHAHA! But is this the real insight?

I have encountered several never married men and many playboys and they all share commonalities and traits very similar to this man.  Only this man is one of the worst concerning fear of commitment... never married, no kids, never even owned a house, except to redo and turn it for profit.

For more insight into this type of man... http://blog.womenexplode.com/2011/08/04/playboy-and-commitment.aspx.

Love, relationships,  and marriage are messy, with up and downs, highs and lows. It takes self-evaluating and secure people to commit and to sustain a real relationship. And sure you need to be wise when choosing a mate, but if you never choose, or really ever commit....ummm...what does that say about you?...

So, from how this man answers, can you see who he is and what he is hiding from himself, what he is trying to hide from me and others, what he is afraid of, and what he is revealing with his trite, 'politically correct' answers? Have you interacted with similar men?

(FYI...I have been married, divorced, had stepchildren, been deeply passionately in love and been hurt to my core and being around a man who has never risked for love, never really been committed is like being with an empty vessel of nothingness, a vapid void... They are always looking and never find. Always criticizing the women and even friend's marriages. I got this man completely out of my life. I got tired of hearing his whining and knew none of my advice was being absorbed. It was a useless, empty interaction.)
 

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  • 11/1/2011 11:07 AM Candy wrote:
    Good interview and yeah the insight is how delusional this man is. All politically correct and no real substance. I have met men like this and women too. They are walking around on empty. That Clooney guy is one of them.
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    1. 11/1/2011 1:08 PM Janie wrote:
      He's read too many self help and relatiohship books and not enough living. He comes across scared to death and scared of life.
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    2. 11/1/2011 1:17 PM Lizzy wrote:
      The impression I got from his answers is that he wants a woman to have it all then he might want to commit and share what is hers. Good interiew Ann. This guy is not for women or marriage too clinical. No emotion and yes, he give the politically correct crap.
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    3. 11/1/2011 1:26 PM John wrote:
      ROFLMAO.... He's a child!!!! Hasn't got a clue, never had one!!!
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      1. 11/1/2011 1:36 PM Ann wrote:
        Pretty pathetic, huh?
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        1. 11/1/2011 1:39 PM John wrote:
          How long did it take before you slapped him???
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          1. 11/1/2011 1:49 PM Ann wrote:
            Ha! Pretty clueless man.. that's why I posted this. I waited a year, but thought it might be informtive to show how dimwitted some men are when it comes to marriage and relationship.
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            1. 11/1/2011 1:50 PM John wrote:
              Some idiot men are. This guy is a clueless child
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              1. 11/1/2011 1:58 PM Dave wrote:
                Excuses Excuses Excuses he's full of sh-t!
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                1. 11/1/2011 5:01 PM Kay wrote:
                  the guy is a phony I bet Ann was laughing outloud at his answers
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                  1. 11/1/2011 8:54 PM Ann wrote:
                    Kind of .. yeah!
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                    1. 11/1/2011 10:52 PM Leslie wrote:
                      Hysterical. The man is a con. He has no idea what he wants or who he is. Marriage no way.

                      Ann,you must've just put this up. I just saw it. It's great.
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          2. 11/3/2011 7:24 PM Karon wrote:
            I want to slap him too! He's terrible.
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    4. 11/2/2011 1:06 PM Lila wrote:
      His answers were empty. He shared nothing about his emotions. Interesting Ann.
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    5. 11/2/2011 3:07 PM Jim wrote:
      His description of his mother was telling. How does he know if she was a good wife or that she worked hard at her job and what does that do their relationship? He told nothing personal. He was distant and cold. He can't stand his mother or women. It's clear from his answers. Your question was "Do you respect your mother?" And he didn't answer that. He might've said something like. She was always there when I got home from school and helped me with my homework or taught me how to dance. She showed me she cared about me in many different ways. Like .. so on and so on.. this guy is dead and yes, could be he's a latent homo.
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      1. 11/2/2011 3:16 PM Kathy wrote:
        Jim, I thought the samething. His answers are like a robot. My mother is a caring person, a good worker and a good wife. Geez! Do you respect her and why? Ann!!! Where did you meet this guy?
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        1. 11/2/2011 7:09 PM Elizabeth wrote:
          That guy is sitting on a little park bench somewhere thinking about the Perfect Match........well I got news for you Mister......your BUTT is going to get mighty sore!!!!!
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    6. 11/2/2011 5:16 PM Arina wrote:
      He is damaged.
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    7. 11/2/2011 5:54 PM Dana wrote:
      Character issues.
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    8. 11/2/2011 7:33 PM Tom wrote:
      some guys need to grow a set, before they can be men......
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      1. 11/2/2011 7:46 PM Tom wrote:
        Bravery, Honor,leadership, there just not slogans. It's what men should aspire to.
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        1. 11/2/2011 7:50 PM Ann wrote:
          It takes a real man to love and to commit to it. Otherwise, it is just playing house. A committment is when it really begins.
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          1. 11/2/2011 7:53 PM Tom wrote:
            Agree Ann otherwise it's pathetic....... selfish...... self centered...... nonsense.......
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            1. 11/2/2011 7:59 PM Tom wrote:
              Listen Ann, My father always told me, Tom you cant live in your own house like your wife is your mother and your the her oldest son. It's not going to work. A man has to take a leadership role.
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              1. 11/2/2011 8:31 PM Tom wrote:
                Commitment is the special ingredient, the secret sauce and a man must be the leader.
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    9. 11/2/2011 8:30 PM Elizabeth wrote:
      Wow......he really doesn't Get It!!!! I would be just as afraid as him, if I was as insecure and self-centered as he sounds!!! He definitely has a lot of counseling to get under his belt, before he should even try to attempt a relationship with a woman!!! Sometimes I can't help but wonder if some could actually be saved from themself at an older age like this!! Not once did he mention anything about romance and fun!!! Going on about money, respect, and something was mentioned about others interferring with his relationship..Ugh!!!
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      1. 11/2/2011 8:51 PM Elizabeth wrote:
        This sounds like a man who could be very controlling, and maybe even violent!!! Can't help but feel sorry for him and sick at the same time....ugh!!!
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    10. 11/2/2011 9:51 PM Dave wrote:
      Here's a concept for the selfish SOB. How about him being the right kind of man for the woman. This guy is an arrogant fool.
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    11. 11/3/2011 9:53 AM John wrote:
      You called it Ann. This man is full of bullcrap. What attract you to a woman? His answer emotional and finanacial stabilty. He is looking for a business partner or someone to take care of him. He didn't say her smile, sense of fun, style, grace, how we interact and she makes me fee or that she triggers my wanting to care for her and make her happy. This man is fu-ked up bad
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    12. 11/3/2011 11:03 AM Dana wrote:
      Some men just aren't cut out for love and marriage and this guy seems to be one of them. They don't have the emotional make-up to connect. They try and say that they want it but it is too much for them so they sabatoge it or run away from it. They are emotional vegetables and don't have the depth or capacity to connect.
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    13. 11/3/2011 11:13 AM Curtis wrote:
      He said nothing about love, romance, fun, sharing experiences. Stupid dead man.
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    14. 11/4/2011 10:41 AM Susie wrote:
      What's this guy waiting for? He is 50! He has little money and is getting older and he is not a good person. He uses people. He's getting worse by the minute.
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    15. 11/5/2011 10:23 AM Jan wrote:
      Gross guy. He has no money but want fancy sports cars and Chanel suits. Con artist and he tells it in his answers so he's dumb too. In the photos I can barely see him but he looks fat. He one of those gross loser guys that think he is all that because he thinks women want him when women don't want him when they see what he is. Ann this site is great.
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    16. 11/6/2011 10:43 AM Lisa wrote:
      I have met men like this. No woman is good enough for them when in reality they are worth a woman's time. This man is stupid. Everyway he answered was canned and superficial. He is one of those men that takes from women.To stupid and weak to really have a relationship. Good example Ann and the way he answered the questions was like a robot.
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    17. 11/6/2011 2:30 PM Dona wrote:
      Ann Oh my this is hysterical. I laughed outloud reading it. His answers are like what? Canned, by rote, BS, politically correct crap. This man doesn't have a freaking clue how to love or to be in a relationship. I agree with what others said GOLD DIGGER!
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    18. 11/6/2011 7:39 PM Connie wrote:
      This man/boy doesn't want marriage and love and all the goes with it. He wants a woman that looks good makes him feel better about his insecure self and takes care of herself and him. What a pig!
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    19. 11/8/2011 12:50 PM Lizzy wrote:
      This man is a sociopath. He only cares about himself and what he can get. He never mentions love and the things that make up a real connection in a relationship.
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    20. 11/13/2011 11:33 AM Jamie wrote:
      He's toxic. His answers are stupid. He doesn't know what he wants and he is trying to sound like he does.
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    21. 11/15/2011 6:17 PM Sharon wrote:
      Kinda made me sick reading this. Reminded me of a man I dated for awhile who was always telling me that he wanted to get married but didn't have the resources to give me what I deserved. It was an excuse. I broke up with him. I realized that he would always have excuses. Reminded me of this man in the interview. A talker not ever ready for a commitment not man enough.
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    22. 11/16/2011 6:12 PM Aidan wrote:
      I am dealing with this right now. what a mind f@%K it's been too.
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    23. 11/16/2011 9:08 PM Loraine wrote:
      This man will never go the distance.
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    24. 11/20/2011 5:56 PM Kay wrote:
      Crappy men like this make women never want to date again.
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    25. 11/20/2011 8:14 PM Barb wrote:
      This guy is toxic waste.
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    26. 11/26/2011 12:18 PM Littleboy wrote:
      Little boys are scared of real women
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    27. 12/10/2011 2:37 PM Sharon wrote:
      he is a fool. has no idea what he is talking about.
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    28. 12/11/2011 3:38 PM Kim wrote:
      What a laugh. This guy is looking for some fairy tale that doesn't exist and he's no prince. He has nothing to offer but talk and hot air. He'll never marry is my take and he will be an old lonely man heck it is old already and he is still looking for his princess or mother to take care of him. Poor thing. pathetic really.
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    29. 1/14/2012 11:36 AM Chuck wrote:
      How to tell if he is lying: he is breathing.
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    30. 1/15/2012 5:50 PM Warron wrote:
      This man is a coward with a capital C.
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    31. 12/17/2012 12:25 PM Carrie wrote:
      I loved reading this again. This guy is a joke. He gives PC answers that are empty. He has no idea who he is or what he wants. Men like he is as you wrote go after the girl and when they get her run. Something is always wrong with the girl and not them. This guy also looks like a fat head. Ann I love your site. This interview was a riot.
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    32. 12/18/2012 12:12 PM Frank wrote:
      This isn't a man it's a boy. He isn't man enough to be married. I would guess women dump him. Men like this go from flower to flower and never settle. When they get older and this man is really nearing old age not middle-age, they get more frustrated. These are the men you see living alone with no history of a life. They are all about themsleves not anyone else. Reading his answers was laughable. He is looking for perfection when he is one of the most flawed.
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      1. 12/18/2012 12:16 PM Lori wrote:
        He is not a man and doesn't deserve a woman.
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    33. 2/4/2014 4:27 PM Jeff wrote:
      All about nothing but himself. Nothing in his comments about love or caring about a woman. I pity any woman that gets him but doubt that one will. This child does not want marriage. Who knows what he wants? Does he?
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    34. 2/5/2014 1:01 PM Kay wrote:
      This is sad. I read it years ago. His answers can't be redeemed. He is looking for a woman to make him feel good about himself. I pity any woman he hooks up with if he ever does. He will be her child like a son and he will whine and complain. Men like this one make me sick.
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  • 11/1/2011 11:31 AM Terry wrote:
    A lot of my friends swoon for George Clooney, but I don't (and they think I'm crazy). Yeah, he's good looking. He also looks great in a suit, but as
    of this writing, he's 50 years old and still bouncing from woman to woman. (Right now, he's with former Dancing With the Stars contestant Stacey Keibler on the heels of his
    breakup with another DWTS contestant, Elisabetta Canalis). There's nothing wrong with this, really. It's a free
    country, and George and the rest of us can date whom we want.
    If a guy looks good but has a track record of leaving women in the dust, he probably will make you seriously
    unhappy. Also, a guy's willingness to stop playing the field and commit.

    Ann excellent interview, the guy is full of fear and BS as you called it and he has nothing going for him or to offer a relationship.
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    1. 11/1/2011 4:48 PM Gina wrote:
      Ann you never disappoint. LOL what a stupid emotionally stunted headcase.
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      1. 11/1/2011 5:21 PM Katie wrote:
        This guy is not only scared he is petrified of becoming a responsible man. He wants a woman to do it for him. Glad you posted it. Stupid, sad and funny all at the sametime.
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        1. 11/1/2011 6:57 PM Jennifer wrote:
          It is sad. This man has no idea what love is.
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  • 11/1/2011 11:44 AM James wrote:
    LOL Ann where do you find these guys? This dude is a BS artist but easy to see through. What a block head.
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    1. 11/1/2011 8:23 PM A man wrote:
      We humans generally don't look great when we wake up in the morning. We don't look great when we're sick. Some
      people's looks do not improve with age. We want someone to be there and care for us. This guy is a shallow nothing.
      All superfical and he is a narcissist and from what I can see in the photo not attractive. So he has little money, and can't answer from his heart but wants a "terrific" marriage with a woman who is passionate and wears Chanel. Who uses the word terrific as he did? His answers are as cold as ice. He's a wanna be but will never get there.
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      1. 2/9/2014 12:12 PM Heather wrote:
        fat is protective so he's hurting. It's a good sign when they show interest in caring for themselves, no matter the reason. So there's hope. He may take a life time to get that we're all imperfectly perfect.

        women are guilty of this too. I know plenty of unmarried 40 somethings. And they are very much like him.....pitty party all the time.
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  • 11/1/2011 12:13 PM Bob wrote:
    All BS and excuses not to mention blame.
    He doesn't want a marriage. He wants to whine and complain. Ann you are so great, funny and real.
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  • 11/1/2011 12:16 PM Amy wrote:
    HAHAHAHAHA! What an idiot. Scary! He's arrived at this age with so little self insight. Poor thing! Great points Ann!
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  • 11/1/2011 12:20 PM Mark wrote:
    Ann you nailed him accurately from what he answered in the questions. Empty BS.
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  • 11/1/2011 12:44 PM Cindy wrote:
    yes, I have met men like this they are all full of themselves like this one is. Boring as all get out and a drag.
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  • 11/1/2011 1:10 PM Kenny wrote:
    Lives in shoulds and not what is. I agree Ann this man will never marry.
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  • 11/1/2011 1:30 PM Carrie wrote:
    How stupid! He has money problems and wants a woman who wears Chanel. He's a delusional fool. There's a reason he's never married who would want him!
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    1. 11/1/2011 1:46 PM Ann wrote:
      Carrie, I would've asked him if he was going to buy her the Chanel clothing but I would've had to email him the questions. He answered nothing without thinking about it. He doesn't even know what Chanel is.. probably heard some woman talk about it.
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      1. 11/1/2011 10:31 PM Angie wrote:
        I was thinking that. He has money problems but want a woman that is comfortable in Chanel. Doesn't make sense. Nothing he answered rings honest or true.
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  • 11/1/2011 1:54 PM Joe wrote:
    This man is clueless. He doesn't know who he is and isn't fit for a relationship. Like others said he is a kid. He's living in a dream world too scared to live in reality.
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  • 11/1/2011 2:05 PM Don wrote:
    This goof will never be a happily married man like I am. What canned answers, no depth all superficial, psychologically void, like you wrote politically correct BS.
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  • 11/1/2011 3:46 PM Jon wrote:
    All his answers were stupid. Which one is the stupidest???? LOL
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    1. 11/1/2011 3:50 PM Ann wrote:
      So it all was stupid, huh? When I read his answers I thought this isn't even worth putting up.. it is all propaganda.. then later thought .. that's what makes it worthwhile...the propaganda that he is selling himself in order to not commit.
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  • 11/1/2011 4:26 PM Curt wrote:
    "I would want to keep my marriage strictly between my wife and I, not allowing anything or anyone to come between our personal relationship. Friends that share selflessly, lovers with a deep, respectful, passionate connection: that’s my idea of marriage." Sound like bull. What does he think life is a romance novel? This is why he has never gotten married. He is living in dream land. He is like a teenage girl. Ann, this was priceless. I laughed then showed my wife and she laughed. This man is 50? He'll never marry. He's clueless. Love your site!
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  • 11/1/2011 4:29 PM Jerry wrote:
    He is hiding from himself, commitment and any kind of responsiblity. He's a total loser. I concur with what someone else wrote. Who would want him? Not my daughters.
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  • 11/1/2011 4:46 PM Sherry wrote:
    Stupid man! What a lying dummy. He doesn't know anything about a woman. I think he is too whimpy and frightened to make a real committment. He is looking for beyond perfection and he has nothing to offer. No money, weak, runs away, incompetent. You have written about this loser before, right? The one who can't pick up black olives.
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  • 11/1/2011 5:03 PM Loser wrote:
    What a loser! Ann LOL where do you find these guys? Under a rock
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  • 11/1/2011 5:24 PM Dan wrote:
    Good questions Ann. Stupid answer, like they were copied from some self help book of BS. How to date. How to pick a mate. What a dumbass!
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  • 11/1/2011 6:48 PM Keith wrote:
    Not really! This financially and emotionally challenged man wants a woman who wears Chanel. Too funny! From his answers, he comes across a golddigger.
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  • 11/1/2011 6:49 PM sam smith wrote:
    Interesting article Ann. Seems to me he does want an American woman? I am sure he would find a foreign woman to suit his tastes. I am not mad at him for going that route. Many American men are going that route & they have valid points for going overseas to find a wife.
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    1. 11/1/2011 6:56 PM Ann wrote:
      Not sure I understand. Are you saying he needs to go foreign to find what he is looking for or actually not looking for and couldn't handle it if he tripped across it.
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      1. 11/1/2011 8:00 PM sam smith wrote:
        He does not want an independent woman Ann in the mode of America. He is 49 & never married & had some issues with American women. When he has to script his answers that can be a covering to give you what you want to hear. I do not think he will be transparent with you Ann. That is my estimation.
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        1. 11/1/2011 8:04 PM Ann wrote:
          I agree he is too insecure to answer questions from his heart and to be vulnerable, that is why he isn't married. But he would not want to take care of a woman. He wants a woman to take care of him. He wants no responsiblity, no dependance.
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  • 11/1/2011 7:06 PM Roger wrote:
    This guy doesn't want to get married. Just read his stupid childish answers. He's still a teenager.
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  • 11/1/2011 7:36 PM Carnie wrote:
    A classic woman hater. It's all if she is this and the relationship is that. Like others said, this man doesn't want a woman and certainly not marriage. Could he be gay? I mean the reference to Chanel. Most men would say jeans to ballgown not a specific coutouier.
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  • 11/1/2011 8:14 PM Jeannie wrote:
    Funny really funny dumb answers.
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  • 11/1/2011 8:27 PM A man wrote:
    And I might add, Ann you are so pretty and fun and quick witted.
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  • 11/1/2011 8:35 PM Cathy wrote:
    Good Lord yes I have met men like this. It's always that they haven't met the right woman when the truth is that they aren't the right man. This one doesn't want marriage or commitment. He wants to boo hoo.
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  • 11/1/2011 8:38 PM Rob wrote:
    The chances that this kid will ever be married are 1 in a billion.
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  • 11/1/2011 8:55 PM Bill wrote:
    Screwed up mental gymnastics, all in his head, not his heart.
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    1. 11/1/2011 9:05 PM Ann wrote:
      Exactly. He is never in his heart and honest feelings that is that I ever saw.
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  • 11/1/2011 9:07 PM Julie wrote:
    I bet he wouldn't be with a women that his mamma didn't approve of. It gave me the creeps reading this. I have met men like this. They make buddies nothing more.
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  • 11/1/2011 9:39 PM Steve wrote:
    Ann what I see in you is an incredibly beautiful woman.
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  • 11/1/2011 9:54 PM Karon wrote:
    Laughing here. His answers show he is all about himself. Gracious and he is 49? What has he been doing all his life?
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  • 11/1/2011 10:11 PM DavidK wrote:
    All lip service this guy is. He doesn't want marriage or even a woman. His answers are like you said BS.
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  • 11/1/2011 10:15 PM Ann wrote:
    This is from the body of my site..
    Love…

    When a selfish lover says, “I love you”, what they are saying is, I love the way that you make me feel or worse, they are saying, “I love you’, to try and ‘get’ something from you. Selfish love recognizes certain needs must be met in order to maintain its happiness. Real love is free of these restraints and demands.

    Love is never ‘perfect’. Demands bring obstacles to love. Unnecessary expectations about love make it rigid and inflexible. We all change from birth to death, and if we are not willing to accept these changes and grow with them as both an individual and as partnerships, then we are neither ready or worthy of love’s full attention.
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    1. 2/5/2014 1:22 PM Stella wrote:
      Ann, that is a great quote. Reading through this thread is eye opening. I think your interview with this man was very telling. His answers were like scripted nothing real all hype.
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  • 11/1/2011 11:03 PM John wrote:
    I have a son in law similar to this head case. I usually walk away laughing after talking with him.
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  • 11/1/2011 11:31 PM Elizabeth wrote:
    He will die a lonely old man. I pity him.
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  • 11/2/2011 11:11 AM James Guest wrote:
    He's grown up with FEMINAZIS and he wants to KEEP his masculinity intact.
    That, or he's GAY and still in DENIAL of it
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    1. 11/2/2011 11:38 AM James Guest wrote:
      Ann, I've had WOMEN, esp the FEMINAZI types in education, pushing me to get in touch with my FEMININE side for years. Thankfully, my DAD and Grandfathers got between me and then and made sure I knew how to use GUNS, TOOLS, and that when I wanted to touch a feminine side, it wasn't my OWN
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      1. 11/2/2011 11:41 AM Ann wrote:
        Well, nothihng is wrong with a man who is in touch with his emotions that doesn't make him feminine. This guy isn't in touch with who he is.. he trying to give a facade of something he thinks is 'correct' or how it 'should' be..
        I have often wondered if he was suppressing being Gay. He hates women so much... wants one, finds things worng with them then off to the next... and there are other things I know about him that I wouldn't post.. but he is off in many areas.
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        1. 11/2/2011 11:49 AM James Guest wrote:
          This guy may have gender confusion. He doesn't come across as a man but a confused boy and like he doesn't like women at all. If he wanted to be married by the age of 50 he would be. It is off I agree.
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      2. 3/23/2014 3:10 AM Scott wrote:
        OK, I've spent about an hour reading this interview, and most of the comments. I do not know this man, but I have to admit I will be 49 this summer, and never married...nor do I have any human children. I do have nieces and nephews whom I love very much, and I live with my cat. Someone please tell me...am I also a hopeless, fake, cold, selfish, immature, damaged loser who is not worthy of a woman's love? If so, I can handle it. But I need to know. The impression I'm left with is that ANY guy my age who never married is one to run from. So again I ask: am I condemned to live out my days as a lonely, celibate, isolated man with only my tuxedo cat for companionship? I'll take to heart all comments directed towards me, thank you.
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        1. 3/23/2014 10:43 AM Alan wrote:
          Look at yourself. Only you know those answers but a 49 year old man, never married and who talks about his cat, doesn't sound too promising to me. By a certain age people have set up their life. Most people partner up in their late twenties or thirties. Those who don't must not really want it. How many never married people do you hear about marrying in their 50's ? My guess it's you and your cat, bubba. Ayn's insight in this article is right on accurate.The man talks a good game but shows no real desire to be with someone. And the only children there are Scott are human children. Pets are not children. Dude you are scary and you know your answers or you wouldn't be asking.
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          1. 3/23/2014 10:59 AM Scott wrote:
            Alan, I don't "know" my answers; that's why I was asking. It appears I "know" scarcely anything when it comes to interpersonal relationships; I'm aware that my poor social skills got me here. I'm not attempting blame Ann or anyone else; I take full responsibility. I do find it unfortunate that you have such contempt for someone who has love in his heart, and shares it the only way available to him. I'm not the only person for whom pets are like children. I find your labeling me as "scary" as quite troublesome...almost as troublesome as being written off summarily because I tried and failed to do in my 20's and 30's what most people successfully do. Perhaps not every man is meant to marry.
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            1. 3/23/2014 11:06 AM Karen wrote:
              So if you aren't meant to marry why worry about it? Enjoy your life with your cat but to be reading about it you do want to marry or you are curious about it. Some people can't commit like Ayn wrote in this article. Some people delude themselves like the man in this article. Some men and women think they are too perfect to be married. Marriage is a lesson in communication and tolerance. Some people can't communicate and can't love. So be who you are and kiss your cat.
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              1. 3/23/2014 11:15 AM Scott wrote:
                Karen, I do not know if I'm meant to pair up with someone or not, but yes, I am curious about it. Unlike this guy Ann interviewed, I'm not some arrogant prick who thinks he's the greatest gift to women. Did it ever occur to you, Alan, and anyone else on here who wants to dump on me that maybe I feel adrift, alone, depressed, confused, and out of options? But then, as I read more articles on this blog about men, women, romance and sexuality...it occurs to me that what I'm reading is nothing more than a hit piece, with searing contempt directed at single men beyond a certain age. That contempt is portraying lonely guys like me as anti-social, toxic, disgusting losers who are to be avoided by women at all costs, and who deserve to live and die alone and in misery. Again, thanks for your support.
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            2. 3/23/2014 11:17 AM Alan wrote:
              I meant scary in your lack of self awareness. If you don't know why then find out. Date, fall in love, take a leap of faith. I have been married and divorced twice. I will say that even through the rough times being married is a great way to live. When you have someone who cares about you and someone to come home to, a person not an animal. It's the greatest feeling. I wish I had not gotten divorced from my second wife. I was selfish and only thinking about myself. She went through a rough time and I wasn't there for her and I lost her. Now I can see what a creep I was and I regret it. Marriage is the best way to live bar none.
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              1. 3/23/2014 11:34 AM Scott wrote:
                Alan, since you bring up those issues, I'll reveal: Has it occurred to you that I've been TRYING to attain awareness? As in, counseling. Yes, I have. Has it occurred to you that I've been TRYING to date, trying to meet someone who will take the time to get to know me, and allow me to not just fall in love, but also feel the same way about me? Has it occurred to you for one moment that I've been at this for over 30 years, and simply failed? How can I say this in the simplest way possible? THEY DON'T WANT ME. Yes, I work, I support myself...I clean up after myself, pay my own way, cook and clean for myself, and give back and offer to help people when I can. But for whatever reason, to single and eligible women (the few that remain in my "old" age group), I either offer nothing, or appear to offer nothing they want. So they take a pass and move on, without so much as agreeing to a cup of coffee. What's worse, many react as though I'm a hostile invader into their lives when I so much as approach and try to talk to them. Bottom line, Mr. Alan: marriage is not something you simply decide to do. Someone else has to agree to do it with you. Fail to find such a person, and you're dead in the water, no matter what age.
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                1. 3/23/2014 11:49 AM Alan wrote:
                  How about asking them, why they aren't intersted in you and really listen to what they say.
                  In this artticle that Ayn did. It is clear to many that the women leave this man. He may not see it because he is so arrogant. So you admit that women aren't interested in you then ask them why? People connect or they don't. When you have a connection and lose it is one thing but if you never connect that is different. I have blown connections because I was stupid and thought it wasn't that important when it was. Connections are rare and if you blow it you are stupid because they don't happen all that often. Maybe not ever for you Scott and that is sad. Only you can know what's going on with you or find out.
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                  1. 3/24/2014 1:58 AM Scott wrote:
                    Alan, I appreciate your suggestion, and I can tell you I've tried many times asking women who simply freeze me out why they chose to do that. They then exercise their right not to tell me a damn thing about why, which leaves me scratching my head and guessing. And that's fine, I suppose...women I have attempted to connect with have NO obligation to assist me in finding answers or bettering my life in any way, just as they have no obligation to accept a proposal to go out with me. Hell, they don't even have an obligation to even reply if I attempt to communicate with them. Replying is a nice and courteous thing to do, but it's no longer typical in today's impersonal world. And sorry guys, but if you're not in an already established interpersonal relationship with someone who knows and loves you, then you are unloved. And trying to find love in this impersonal world is monumentally problematic. Many men FAIL at this, as I have, and many will fail in the future. The women in the world are not to blame; the man who failed can blame only himself because he IS a failure. That's just the way it is; plainly spoken. Just as the world does not owe any man a living, the world does not owe him love, romance, or even a date. He has to WIN those things, if he can. If not, then his only acceptable role is to slink away, tail tucked between his legs, and go about his life by himself. This is how I feel, anyway.
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                    1. 3/24/2014 10:52 AM Eric wrote:
                      Yes, a man wins a woman's heart. So he needs to learn how to do that. If he is insecure whiny and thinks he isn't good enough. Why would a woman want him. He has to be the man and lead and risk. Love is risk and sometimes you have to risk many times before you find it. It takes a secure person to be in a relationship. The man in this interview is inscure and looking for a woman to make him feel good about himself. Women don't want that job. They attract to a man who feels good about who he is and shares himself with her. Not one who is needy and needs her. Men like that lean on a woman and drag her down. The man in this article I would guess does that. I also would guess that women dump him. Nothing about him says success, strength, I am the man who will be there for you. Instead he says to a woman be there for me then maybe I will be there.
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                2. 3/23/2014 11:57 AM Angie wrote:
                  GOOD POINT! You need to have someone who wants to marry you and agrees to it. It's not all about you. With the man in the article it is all about him. The woman is like secondary unless she meets 'his' criteria. Scott, no one knows your life but you. Look at yourself. Would you want to be with you? Are you fun, happy, interesting, kind or what are you? I have women friends who complain all the time that there are no good men. I have been married for 30 years and can't imagine not being. My husband isn't perfect but I love him and we knew it fast and we acted on it. I think when you are young you tend to act and when you get older you become more cautious. Maybe that is why when a certain age is passed, people tend to not marry. This is an interesting discussion. Good luck, Scott.
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                  1. 3/24/2014 2:09 AM Scott wrote:
                    Angie, I'm pretty much on the same page with what you said there. In the big picture, there are MORE men than there are women, at least in the demographic category of single and of dating age. Given this, SOMEONE has to lose in the death struggle knows as the dating arena. Not everyone can come out a winner, just as not every guy who tries out for the high school football or basketball team can or will make the cut. As for me, my answer to your question is YES, I would want to be with me. Fun, happy, interesting, kind...yes, I can honestly say I'm all those things, but no one ever gets to see it. How can they? No one's around to see it. Finally, back to your original point...a man like this guy Ann interviewed who thinks it's all about him IS completely delusional about his own perceived importance. This guy is nothing more than a dime a dozen middle aged guy, attainable by nearly any woman in any venue where men are typically found. This is why I scoff when someone, during discussions of issues like this, insists that it's all about "what I want." Um, it's not. What I want is irrelevant, unless I somehow find myself in the status as a recognizably attractive and desirable guy, with women going out of their way to meet me. Perhaps THEN it's about "what I want." Absent that, it's about what WOMEN want, and about what I have or appear to have that THEY want. If I don't have or appear to have something they want or need, any woman in the marketplace who herself has choices and options when it comes to meeting men will simply ignore me and continue to look for a guy who does appear to potentially meet her needs and desires. This is the way nature intended the competitive game of mating and love. It ain't pretty and it ain't fair, but it is that way.
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                3. 3/23/2014 2:30 PM Ann wrote:
                  Scott, we all have felt unwanted at times. It's just apart of being a human being. I agree with what Alan suggested. Ask the women if they aren't interested to go further if and when you are dating and hear what they say.. not that their opinion is lawy but it might give you some insight. The deal is to love yourself and to enjoy your life and what you are doing while reaching out to make friends. Have women friends and get to know them while learning about yourself. It's fun. Look at it as an adventure. Hang in there and don't get down on yourself.
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                  1. 3/24/2014 2:19 AM Scott wrote:
                    Ann, I would reply to your remarks in the same manner I replied to Alan's...to the women who have simply taken a pass on me, or "frozen" me out, I have tried to ask why. They have exercised their right to refuse an answer. I can only assume they don't want to risk involving themselves in dramatic dialog or a possible argument with a guy they neither know nor care about. Much easier on them for me to simply disappear; so at least on that count, I give them what they want and I comply with their wishes by leaving them alone. The few women friends I have had can't explain why I've failed in this aspect of life, either. At this point, I can only surmise that I'm simply not man enough for the women seeking love, and that's OK. Not every guy can be the superhero. I'm convinced that for a man to attract the type and level of positive female attention which would open up romantic doors, in the women's view he must either offer, or APPEAR to offer something(s) she wants and/or needs. Simple as that. My advice for other men like me (including your interview subject from a few years ago)...GIVE UP, and try to make an interesting life based on work and leisure activities which are done SOLO. I hope that sounds reasonable enough.
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                    1. 3/24/2014 10:44 AM Eric wrote:
                      Both men and women are looking for someone that offers something... love, communication, sex, adventure, commmittment, honesty, intelligence. beauty. It goes both ways. Are you looking to and for women who are above your level then get hurt when they are interested in anything more than a casual fling? The guy in this interview does that. Are you picking women who would not have an interest in you for some reason then get disappointed when they don't. People need to be equally yoked and offer something the other needs. Like the guy in the intervew wants a woman who wears Chanel when he has financial problems. So he's looking for a rich classy woman when he can't support that or be that. So he fails before he begins. There's got to be glue that holds people together, a similarity of lifestyles or there will be no connection. Most strong women can't abide a needy man. The man in this interview comes across weak and needy. Are you like that, too? I don't know just chiming in here so take it for what it's worth.
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                      1. 3/24/2014 12:40 PM Scott wrote:
                        Eric, here's your answer: I'm not weak or needy. I take care of myself, top to bottom, day in and day out. I don't know what my "level" is, but I have to assume I'm at rock bottom since it seems every woman is "above" my level, as you put it. So, the answer is "no," not weak and NOT needy. I haven't been with a woman in 2 1/2 years; does that sound "needy" to you? Didn't think so. Don't buy the pop culture crap, "needy" doesn't always come into play. It about what you said in your first sentence, "looking for someone that offers something... love, communication, sex, adventure, commmittment, honesty, intelligence. beauty." Based on my RESULTS (the only thing that matters), I have to assume I offer NOTHING whatsoever. I thought I offered several great qualities which would have made a woman happy, but my opinion on that count does not matter. It's the WOMEN'S opinion on that that matters, and they have made their choice. Unfortunately, it ain't me. I wish it would have been.
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                        1. 3/24/2014 1:06 PM Craig wrote:
                          Dude, so you suffered a bad break up and have a broken heart. It will pass.
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                          1. 3/24/2014 3:02 PM Scott wrote:
                            Craig, that breakup was nearly 3 years ago. This won't pass, this is a character and/or personality defect that I have. This is permanent.
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                            1. 3/25/2014 12:19 PM Craig wrote:
                              So you state that you have a character or personality defect. Get help. You can help yourself no one else can do it. Women detect this defeat and don't want to be around you is my take. Good luck dude!
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                              1. 3/25/2014 9:45 PM Scott wrote:
                                Craig, thanks...I already consult with a professional weekly. But there's not way to fix character flaws. That's why they are flaws. Just as nature has done her job in keeping single this bozo that Ann interviewed, I cannot exclude myself from this dynamic, either. Nature probably had good reason for preventing the scourge known as Scott from being inflicted on a woman.
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        2. 3/23/2014 10:53 AM Karen wrote:
          Too funny! You had to ask!? It's you and your cat Scott for eternity. An old man with a cat asking if he will find love. LOLOLOL! Too too funny!
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          1. 3/23/2014 11:01 AM Scott wrote:
            Thank you for your support and encouragement, Karen.
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            1. 3/23/2014 11:11 AM Karen wrote:
              People who can't commit or never marry, I find lacking in something and as they get older they get weirder. I have a man friend who has never married and he has gotten more aloof and strange. He has dogs and they are his family but dogs are not people. Cats are not people.
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              1. 3/23/2014 11:25 AM Scott wrote:
                Wow, quite a judgement from someone who has never even met me! That's incredibly sad and unfortunate. Dogs and cats may not be human people, but they ARE family members, and share many of the same qualities which allow people like me to share the love we have, and to care for someone in an otherwise bereft life. I don't need you to tell me about the things I'm missing out on; you think I don't already know? It's really quite clear now that a man like me, whose life found its way onto a different track, can never be considered in any way decent, good, kind, ethical, or lovable because I failed to fulfill the duties in the script of life. My guess is most people who read this material feel the same way as you and Alan. I don't even know what you are.
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                1. 3/23/2014 11:44 AM Karen wrote:
                  Maybe that's the problem. You don't know what people are? Dogs and cats are not human. They are pets. A marriage is between two humans. I don't know you but you got on here and asked.
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                  1. 3/23/2014 5:07 PM Scott wrote:
                    I'm aware that dogs and cats are not human, Karen (though they are family members...to me and to plenty of other humans). My meaning when I said "I don't know what you people are" is what type of people condemn someone like me as a bad apple and a shallow, worthless human being just because of a failure to win my way into a woman's life as a romantic partner for her. That was what I meant.
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                    1. 3/23/2014 10:38 PM Jeremy wrote:
                      For some goofus reason I reason all the comnents on here. Scott you seem so insecure and easily offended. The man in this interview is triple goofus.
                      Scott, you are correct. A man must win a woman's heart and he must earn her respect and his right to be with her. A woman's love it a gift to a man and not all men are deserving. Lot'sa men these days have it backwards.
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                      1. 3/24/2014 1:50 AM Scott wrote:
                        Jeremy...I'm not easily offended, though I will admit I was a bit offended by some of the things the commentators on here said about me. But not anymore, because they are probably right. I am encouraged by the fact that you concluded I got something right about this subject. I guess I can take that to mean I'm not so dumb and not so clueless after all; thanks. Because in the *real* world, ABSOLUTELY a man must WIN a woman's 1)attention, 2) attraction, and finally 3) heart. If he fails, he's done. If he fails repeatedly over a long period of a time, he's done for good. Washed up. Toast. Finished. Not everyone in life wins, even the important things which society has come to think every man should have, like a loving partner and family. Some men just don't measure up; those are the breaks. I have no plans to run home to mommy and cry about it, that I'm one of those men. I know in my heart I did my best before getting defeated by the competition; that's all that matters in the end. I tried.
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  • 11/2/2011 11:34 AM JamesL wrote:
    From his answers to your questions he is definitly a narcissist. He is all about himself as he tries to make a person think he is so wise. This man is emotionally sick. He is manipulative and fake.
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  • 11/2/2011 12:20 PM Sharon wrote:
    Ok I am a therapist and Ann this was so revealing. Your questions were great and this man's answers were as you stated orchestrated drivel. He had no connection to what he was answering a bit like a puppet. He is trying to say and be what he thinks is 'correct'. Anyone of the women that he dated probably would have made a fine mate for him. He doesn't want a mate. He is insecure and confused. This site is amazing. So many diverse articles. Love it!
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    1. 11/2/2011 12:26 PM Sharon wrote:
      Also, I have delt with men such as this one and they throw up a smoke screen by blaming everyone but themselves for relationship failures. He does appear a narcissist personality. Dating a women with cats when he doesn't like cats then dating older women and later saying that they are too old. He is purposefully dating women that he doesn't really find acceptable in order to not have to make a commitment. His mother's approval is all that matters to him. He is an immature boy. All playboys are.
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  • 11/2/2011 6:05 PM Mike wrote:
    I am 45, and never married. I will NOT be divorced so i will not marry 'till I'm sure it's right. I've seen enough in my life to know that divorce devalues relationships and I won't go there. The "one" will be the one not "just like all the others".
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    1. 11/2/2011 6:09 PM Ann wrote:
      If you think like that you might never marry.. there is always risk in loving and commitment and you can always find a reason to not do so.. It takes courage to love, make the commitment and take the leap.. I would rather be married and divorced than to never marry.. even as divorce hurts like hell... I mean what 'defines' the one.. ?
      Also, you might think she is the one and years later she might decide you aren't her one.. you can't control everything in life and when you try to, you can block even stop some really good living and experiences in life.
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      1. 11/2/2011 6:58 PM David wrote:
        Some are so afraid of dying that they never live and some so afraid of divorce that they never marry. When you love.. you love and you go for it...
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  • 11/2/2011 7:21 PM Kurt wrote:
    Some people just don't have it in them to love and to feel passionate and to go with life and love. They are too afraid and don't trust themselves.
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  • 11/2/2011 10:26 PM Candace wrote:
    The guy is emasculated and neurotic is my guess. Cold as ice and no emotion towards much anything. Falling in love is fun and getting there and exploring what it all about. Good article Ann Terrible guy
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  • 11/3/2011 9:35 AM Steve wrote:
    The man is cold, alof and doesn't have a clue. Oh, but Ann, you are so delightful and captivating...What you project is...les mots m'echappent...a combination of beauty, wisdom and that capacity that only a few of us have to translate two dimensional words in all their complexities...into a reality that one can move within...as a spectator or a protagonist.
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  • 11/4/2011 10:34 AM Susie wrote:
    The man who answered these questions has no passion or love in him. He is in his head not his heart and I doubt he ever finds love. I wouldn't want to date him. He says things like out of some book. Like others have said he is too afraid to take a risk and commit or maybe it is a cover up because women don't want him. I don't like him just from reading his answers.
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  • 11/4/2011 6:29 PM James wrote:
    That is sad. I think one of the worst ways to go is to die utterly alone, unloved or unwanted.
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  • 11/4/2011 6:51 PM james wrote:
    His responses were pathetically canned.
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    1. 11/4/2011 7:07 PM james wrote:
      I was looking for any sign of self awareness or understanding on his part as to his true nature as a result of your influence. Guess that would be too much to ask for with him but I see you cut him loose. Strange guy.
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      1. 11/4/2011 7:27 PM Ann wrote:
        Through the years, he would thank me for helping him.. and many times, would tell me that he had changed.. but as I observed as he aged he was getting more self-centered and lifeless and negative. As in these answers he talks 'canned' about most everything. Now he thinks he's this spiritual guru type, but he shifts in and out of it. From what I can tell, he just wants to marry a rich woman. I cut all interaction off with him off.
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        1. 11/4/2011 7:30 PM james wrote:
          He is terrified of rejection and being alone, yet perpetuates his own loneliness and isolation because he cannot be honest with himself about who and what he is, and the shallowness in his soul.
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  • 11/5/2011 10:37 AM Michelle wrote:
    is this a result of the feminist movement? and by feminist I mean femiNazi...
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    1. 11/5/2011 10:39 AM Michelle wrote:
      usurping the natural role of men as protector and provider, perhaps
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      1. 11/5/2011 10:44 AM Ann wrote:
        yes.. so men want women to be the provider and they don't know how to lead and be the man... so everyone is frustrated.. and unhappy...
        And a woman doesn't respect a man who can't or doesn't provide and protect. If she has to be both the man and the woman who needs him.
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        1. 11/5/2011 10:47 AM Michelle wrote:
          Exactly, there is a natural division of responsibility in the home that needs to be restored or nenewed.
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          1. 11/5/2011 10:50 AM Dale wrote:
            ‎... he seems to have Poor Self Esteem .... you have got to Love Yourself before you can Share with someone else.
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  • 11/5/2011 10:53 AM Ann wrote:
    I agree...it is so off balance that no one knows who they are.. doesn't mean women can't work, have careers or whatever.. but a man like in this article, a woman doesn't respect so she dumps him. And he is wandering around trying to be a man but wants a woman to take care of herself.. he's twisted... and he wants respect while she takes care of everything..

    And yes, he does have poor self-esteem, because he doesn't know how to be a man.. I felt like the man when I was with him. Like I was with some child that I needed to guide and to teach and as a friend it's exhausting. I ended up with absulutely no respect for him.
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    1. 11/5/2011 10:59 AM Michelle wrote:
      That's it - have your cake and eat it, too. Men want their women to treat them with respect, cow-tow to their opinions, but bring home the bacon, fry it up, serve it, clean up and take out the trash. Oh, and bring him another beer.
      As an adult woman in the dating arena, I find a threshold interest of men is whether I am self sufficient... why is that among the most important 3 questions? "Are you single? Are you healthy? Are you financially self-sufficient?" Not necessarily in that order.
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      1. 11/5/2011 11:01 AM Ann wrote:
        Exactly Michelle.. they want a woman who doesn't need him but treats him like he is her everything.. I am a very feminine woman and if I don't feel like I am with a male.. it disgusts me.. I can't stand these feminized men...this man is like a woman.
        then there are the men that are threatened if a woman doesn't 'need' him or a man.. it's really twisted..
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        1. 11/5/2011 11:04 AM Michelle wrote:
          but these men have only the weaker parts of a woman, none of her strengths!
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          1. 11/5/2011 11:09 AM Michelle wrote:
            This kind of a man makes being single more attactive. I don't need the weight of him leaning on me to make him feel like a man when he isn't a man.
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  • 11/5/2011 11:18 AM Michelle wrote:
    If a man cannot step up in the tough times, physically, emotionally, an economically to protect his family, he is not a good catch. Like it or not, women bear the children and provide within the home. Whether or not they extend that outside the home, they need a man who will. A man needs to stand between his family and the dangers of the world. He may not always succeed, but he must always try.
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    1. 11/5/2011 11:20 AM Ann wrote:
      Exactly and a woman needs to feel this in her man.. if not she loses respect .. and love.. and it all falls apart...
      and men these days don't get it.. they have forgotten what it is to be a man in relation to a woman.. as this man has.. he wants her to take care of herself then he will hang out with her. It's stupid. And unmanly.. then some men as this man goes farther and wants a woman to provide everything. Why would any womn want this man? They don't.
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      1. 11/5/2011 11:46 AM Michelle wrote:
        Leading, providing and protecting is what it is to be a man in relation to a woman and men have forgotten and women have allowed them to.. and it has become a disaster.
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        1. 11/5/2011 11:47 AM Michelle wrote:
          Does any woman want a man who is just another kid pulling her apron strings? she needs a true partner.
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        2. 11/5/2011 11:52 AM Ann wrote:
          Good grief no.. and this man in this article is like that.. he is like a kid.. a big whiny kid.. and he thinks the issues are with the women .. that 'he' just hasn't met the 'right' one.. He need to try being the 'right' kind of a man.
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  • 11/5/2011 1:51 PM Linda wrote:
    He's out to marry above his pay grade and wants the woman to know it so she doesn't expect much. What a loser! He wants a woman on his arm to make him feel like a man and this man is no man! Ann you're interviews are the best. I recall a couple from last year.
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    1. 11/5/2011 2:29 PM Carolyn wrote:
      I agree he's wants to marry about his pay grade, good way to put it.
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  • 11/5/2011 6:08 PM Dawn wrote:
    I have met so many men like this it is sad. I feel bad for the woman that would "settle" for him. He has no clue. I have been with my husband 21 years and it's about the giving not the getting. His idea of marriage is such a fantasy. Wives at times have to be different things for their husbands but it is the man who gives back that is worth it. If you make it through the "bad times" your love grows even deeper. He'll never get that. There will ALWAYS be bad times. Makes the good times sweeter.
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  • 11/6/2011 11:54 AM Jim wrote:
    "A woman who is as comfortable in a bathing suit as she is in a Chanel dress." He is saying that he wants a woman with a good body and who can dress classy. So he is looking for arm candy that he can show off. Before that he says that he has had extreme financial instablity and that is why he hasn't married. A woman that wears Chanel wouldn't be with someone like him. This man is unrealistic and lives in some sort of a dream world.
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  • 11/12/2011 7:20 PM Tammi wrote:
    A Woman would be much better off if she could distinguish the difference between a man that flatters her & a man that compliments her. A man that spends money on her & a man that invests in her. A man that views her as property & a man that views her properly. A man that lusts after her & a man that loves her. A man that believes he is God's gift to women & a man that REMEMBERS a woman was God's gift to man. Know your self worth.
    This guy thinks he is God's gift to a woman and he would only be a drag on her.
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  • 11/13/2011 2:48 PM Rose wrote:
    If I had a dollar for every man I've met like this one...In fact this describes my brother too
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  • 11/13/2011 2:55 PM Rose wrote:
    Curtis wrote:
    He said nothing about love, romance, fun, sharing experiences. Stupid dead man.

    That sums it up. This type of person doesn't care about shared experiences. It's all about what the other person can do to fulfill their needs and wants. If they are not 'behaving' according to what suits them, they are quickly discarded.
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    1. 11/13/2011 3:51 PM Ann wrote:
      Agree Rose, this man is what I call a 'sucker'.. he is looking for a feminine place to hook in and and tosuck off of...he has no concept of love, commitment and real caring.
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  • 11/13/2011 4:11 PM James wrote:
    Coward!
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  • 11/13/2011 5:11 PM Crissy wrote:
    What a catch this dude is....Not!!!!
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  • 11/13/2011 5:13 PM Crissy wrote:
    I would run as fast as I could.....I would rather have a dog! lol
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    1. 11/13/2011 5:19 PM Crissy wrote:
      I like men..alot...but this guy is purely delusional! Not something I would want to catch...and sadly he does not have a clue....LOL
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      1. 11/13/2011 7:34 PM Ann wrote:
        Crissy, this guy thinks he is such a catch. It's hysterical and he thinks he's an expert on relationships and spirituality and now health. He has health problems, is way over-weight and takes medication and he takes medication for many things to function.
        So his 'acting' like he is such an expert is pathetic and so mis-leading.
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  • 11/13/2011 8:03 PM Danny wrote:
    this man still sucks on a baby bottle
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  • 11/14/2011 4:29 AM Rose wrote:
    LOL at Danny's comment!

    Has this 'man' (using the term very loosely here) seen this blog about himself and the comments?

    A little feedback might do him good
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    1. 11/14/2011 3:38 PM Ann wrote:
      Rose, I sent him the link.. but he is so arrogant.. I don't know if he will read or if he does read will he even comprehend.. as you can tell he is delusional and clueless.
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  • 11/14/2011 4:01 PM Dona wrote:
    This man is into serious impression management. He's very manipulative.
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  • 11/14/2011 4:17 PM Patricia wrote:
    Wow! this man is so clueless that it's funny but it's not. He's a sad sack and I pity any woman that he tries to lure into his phony life.
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  • 11/14/2011 4:21 PM Suzanna wrote:
    He's never been married because no one would want to deal with his preaching BS.
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  • 11/14/2011 7:05 PM Crissy wrote:
    he looks like that guy on modern family (that fat one) that is gay if you ever saw the show..........just like him in the picture...LOL...that is why I laughed...what a catch!!!!!! LMBO
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  • 11/14/2011 8:09 PM Crissy wrote:
    Ann.......I just love ya!!! You are a trip! I bet you get so much weird
    mail you could write a book just on the mail itself. I really admire you
    that you stand so strongly for what you believe in. It is a quality that is lacking in our society today. I really love your blogs........
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  • 11/15/2011 12:57 PM Karen wrote:
    This man comes across as a Narcissist. He's cold and manipulative in his answers.
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  • 11/17/2011 9:46 PM Elaine wrote:
    this dude can't even fake the talk he is pathetic no feeling no reality no love no passion no anything a dead fish
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  • 11/17/2011 10:19 PM Bjorne wrote:
    Reading this middle-aged-man-never-been-married interview gave me the chills.
    Ending up like that would be my biggest fear because of committment
    phobia. This is something I'd like to do something about.
    Reading your posts and looking at your pictures I think you can be the
    one who can cure my committment phobia. And I'm not kidding.
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  • 11/18/2011 11:52 AM Sherry wrote:
    It takes awhile to read these fabulous articles. This guy is a screw up from the word go. LOL!
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  • 11/18/2011 10:21 PM Janice wrote:
    Bullshit from him all the way! Loved it.
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  • 11/20/2011 12:53 PM Jeannie K wrote:
    Total asshole!
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  • 11/26/2011 10:54 PM Leanne wrote:
    This man wants nothing to do with a woman really? He is like a robot or a person just running off at the mouth.
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  • 11/27/2011 12:29 PM George wrote:
    I found this interview a bit sad, and it was probably because my romantic life has been a rather naive one. I was married once before (my present marriage is on its 26th years), and my take was that my 1st wife and I were both too immature for marriage (I blame myself in many ways, but she was no angel either); she gave me a painful, but beautiful present by leaving me (I wouldn’t have ended up with the right woman, had she not left!). Still, I never went looking for marriage; generally, friendship bloomed into love and things took their course. My present (and for life) wife and I had a rather volatile relationship for about 10 years, and then I discovered education (I went back to school); that’s when everything began to change…We started pulling together, in the same direction, raising two kids (I had never wanted children, but when they arrived, I discovered that the dad was in my soul). Whenever a decision must be made, we make it together; when it’s time to clean house, we do it together, and when either of us wants something, the answer is always: “You’ve worked for it, why not?” It’s not perfect, but we don’t spend too much time considering our relationship, we just live it. So all this intellectualizing over relationships and values just makes me feel that there is a lack of trust (if I worried so much about my marriage, and its minutiae, it would feel like a burden…I couldn’t share a risky story or an off color joke with my wife if I was worried about how she was going to take it). Of course, we do share some very set core values, so we don’t have to “install and reboot” every time a crisis comes along. Naïve, I guess.
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    1. 11/27/2011 12:32 PM Ann wrote:
      I agree George, this interview is sad. This man is sad. You are loving and living. This man is afraid to love and to live. He talks about it, intellectualizes about it and plays at it, but never really does it. He is too afraid to.
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      1. 11/27/2011 12:39 PM George wrote:
        No question about it...He should free himself from all the intellectualization or he will end up a very lonely old man. It's good to think, but love requires a degree of surrender (on both sides) you have to give before you can receive.
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  • 11/27/2011 12:41 PM Ann wrote:
    Agree.. This man is already a lonely old man. He is immature but acts old. He's pathetic.. That is why I posted it. So that perhaps, someone else would see it and realize what they are doing. This man never will.
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  • 11/28/2011 10:36 AM Coward wrote:
    He is an emotional coward. He is afraid to love. He is afraid to live.
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  • 12/10/2011 10:59 AM Lena wrote:
    He's looking for pie in the sky. He has no idea how to be in a relationship. His answers are stupid! THis man is 50 He talks like a 20 year old who know nothing about life.
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  • 12/16/2011 4:58 PM InkDemon wrote:
    OMG! I loved it. It reminds me of my a priod in my life when I was between marriages. His answers sound like the classic dating service questionnaire answers.

    I am currently writing a part-fiction, part-autobiographic short story on my experiences dating in North Dallas. I really believe it may be funny. I often think back and laugh. Of course, my yarn ends when I meet and marry my darling wife, Jean.

    However, our meeting got off on a shaky start.

    Here's the short story dialogue from our first meeting:

    “Hi, are you M.D.?”
    “Yes! Hi!” She was a petite woman with beautiful red hair. Her eyes were green and wide. Her lips were very full and ruby red. Her makeup was immaculate. She was dressed in a short skirt. Her legs and thighs were like a fashion model. She wore patent leather pumps with medium heels.
    “I’m Jane!”
    “Hi Jane.”
    “No! I’m Jane.”
    “Hi again, Jane,” I said. I was really confused. Was she Jane or not! This was not going well.
    “No I said Jane,” she said with a bit of irritation.
    “Please spell it for me.”
    “Sure! J … E … A … N, Jane!” Oh! My god! It was her English accent. I laughed.
    “I am so sorry Jean! I’ve been living in America all my life. I have a problem with REAL English.” I laughed. I wanted to make a joke out of a very awkward moment. She didn’t look amused. I suddenly had a feeling I wanted to buy her the obligatory cup of French coffee, chat with her, and go back to the nightmare in North Dallas....
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    1. 12/16/2011 6:37 PM Ann wrote:
      Agree this fellow is 'trying' to say what he 'thinks' he should and it comes off fake and shallow.. and he is.. I know.. sad but true..

      glad you found your lady...
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  • 12/18/2011 12:21 PM Mel wrote:
    This sad sack doesn't know how to be a man. He isn't a man. He's a woman in a man's body.
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  • 12/19/2011 12:01 PM Sherry H wrote:
    WOW! I didn't even know you were interviewing my ex-husband! (LOL) Not really him, but those would be his answers almost word for word. 16 years of marriage and he never changed. If it hadn't been a completely long distance "dating" relationship, I like to think I would have seen through his BS and not married him, but once married, I felt I needed to make it work.
    Ladies, it will never work with a man like this. Never. He will suck the life right out of you and leave you as a dry, empty husk. Everything, every money issue, every extramarital affair, every disappointment in his life will be your fault. There is never any compromise. There is never any emotional support. Get out now, before it leaves you horribly distraught. It is possible to become the you that you used to be, but it takes time...
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    1. 12/19/2011 12:45 PM Ann wrote:
      Agree Sherry. He comes on strong and romanntic with women at first then they see who he is and either leave him or cheat on him... not that their cheating is right but this man is empty and looking to suck the life out of a woman. When I was his friend even being around him for a few times made me drained. I tried to make him aware of how he treated women but he didn't get it and always blamed the woman. He thinks he's perfect and something is wrong with the women when it is him. As I said in the article if a man gives you these kind of reponses or anything close to them run... and men if you identiey with this man too much you need to take a long look at yourself.
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  • 2/4/2012 1:27 PM Joe Aro wrote:
    Talking to this guy is a waste of time. My head would explode or burst in flames. I proposed to my wife 3 weeks after out first date 44 years ago. The moment I saw her she took my breath away...I truly had a hard time breathing and my feeling for her grew with each word she said. It has only gotten better over the years. I definitely married up.
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    1. 2/4/2012 2:58 PM Ann wrote:
      Agree Joe. I think this man does realize that he is damaged goods. Glad you met your love ... when you just know .. you know and you act on it...
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      1. 2/4/2012 3:33 PM Stacy wrote:
        Do you think he does realize that he is damaged and zombie like? He has nothing to offer and talks like some self help book that offers really bad self help. All I can say is Loser!
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        1. 2/4/2012 3:50 PM Ann wrote:
          People who have never attached in their life and are in their late forties and fifties.. that says something right there... damaged... and many times, they may act or say that they did the dumping.. but in actuality people leave them....they can't connect and are aloof and it's not fun, enjoyable or fulfilling to be around them.
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  • 2/4/2012 3:40 PM Crissy wrote:
    Ann, I like this. I talked with someone about another 49 yr old man that all the red flags were there but she still stepped into not only a toxic relationship, but a very dangerous one. She told me he is a sociapath. Strange I tripped across this today...we just talked yesterday about him!
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    1. 2/4/2012 3:41 PM Ann wrote:
      Interesting Crissy, people who can't commit have issues...
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  • 2/5/2012 12:14 PM Lisa wrote:
    I would have walked after I heard 49 and never married. If you get to that age and you've never married, there's a reason.
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  • 2/5/2012 2:29 PM Kerry wrote:
    Men who can't commit alway blame the women when it is their insecurity immaturity and selfishness. I agree Lisa anyone who hadn't been married by this age is a loser and something is wrong with them. Something is wrong with this man his answers are stupid. He's focuses on material things and physical things and from the photo he looks fat and not attractive. So what's his deal? He needs a woman who wears Chanel and looks good in a swim suit Toxic man run away women run
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    1. 2/5/2012 3:06 PM Kerry wrote:
      Another thought and truth if a man isn't successful when he is this old he never will be. THis guy is a loser anyway you look at him and he is looking to hook onto a woman with resources and to make him look good and to feel better about himself. A scum and a scam.
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      1. 2/5/2012 3:18 PM Ann wrote:
        Kerry, exactly... this man is looking for money. While he has nothing to offer but hamburgers and debt. He is really in debt, I forgot to add that. But his woman should wear Chanel.. he's pathetic..He wouldn't know Chanel if a woman was wearing it sitting before him.
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  • 2/5/2012 10:07 PM Samsara wrote:
    Interesting his answers, how he is evasive, and doesn't seem to think anything is his fault. And also, your interpretations of what he's really saying.
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  • 2/7/2012 6:16 PM Lenora wrote:
    This is so revealing. This man is a fraud. Nothing about him is sincere. He's looking for a woman to take care of him. He admits that he has financial issues but wants a woman who dresses in designer clothes. He's a fake.
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  • 2/7/2012 6:25 PM Jimmy wrote:
    Too funny he had to think about his answers and they were all so trite and empty. He'll never marry. Who would want him?
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  • 2/12/2012 2:09 PM Ansley wrote:
    This man is a slug. He is obviously a golddigger type and he has nothing to offer. Predator and he's sickening.
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  • 2/12/2012 2:32 PM Prophet wrote:
    Selfish, shallow and emotionally unavailable.
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  • 5/20/2012 1:13 AM Karen wrote:
    He's just a jerk.
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  • 7/4/2012 1:03 AM red77star wrote:
    It is funny how everyone call this guy jerk and what not. Looks like all people who made a comment here including a lady who did an interview are actually pathetic losers, people who have fucked up damage life and never got anything right for the most part. Fucking hypocrats...
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    1. 7/4/2012 11:26 AM Robert wrote:
      They call him a jerk because his answers are that of a jerk. He is all about himself and from his answers has no idea how to relate to a woman. The word is 'hypocrite' and it appears from what you wrote that you are an angry foul mouthed person who can't spell.
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  • 10/9/2012 12:30 AM Female wrote:
    Umm, everyone wants to love and to be loved. If someone can't seem to get there, I don't think they should be laughed at or called losers - I felt bad for the guy. He sounds like he needs some counseling to overcome whatever childhood issues may be keeping him from connecting with women. Maybe he felt rejected by his mother in favor of his sister, who knows. Whatever it is, he needs to find it and let it go. I have learned that love takes a lot of courage - that you have to get over that fear of vulnerability, of putting your emotions on the line. And someone who is still in training, I dunno, I wouldn't call them a jerk for it. I wish him the best and hope he gets some counseling so he can get to where he wants to be.
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  • 12/4/2012 3:52 PM gw wrote:
    great information! I think this nut only represent most of the guys out there his age. When you get to be his age and you are single with no kids or family then it's all on you because you have no intention of getting a family started by now. You like what you are doing, it is what it is, NOTHING and thats the way you will be when you are older and grey and alone.
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    1. 12/4/2012 7:45 PM Cindy wrote:
      I agree with you gw. This guy wants to be alone and will stay alone. He can't love and is unloveable.
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      1. 12/17/2012 12:58 AM Robert wrote:
        I agree. I only hope that the interviewee can point him in the right direction (i.e. psychological help).
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  • 12/16/2012 5:35 PM Logan wrote:
    Interesting interview.
    I'm attracted to women; how your bodies were built by God, the innate combination of strength and kindness (most of you ladies have) and most of all, if the one lady that I'm interested in, has made a commitment to Christ.
    I'm far from perfect and really enjoy a beautiful woman to help point out my imperfections just as I point out hers. Love and mutual respect via a relationship with Christ, is a great place to start that relationship. I loved being married and having ALL of the beautiful and kind women that I've been blessed to have in my life!
    Sorry, taking the risk of being hurt is worth the gain. Grow up, "no-married, scaredy cat"!
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  • 12/17/2012 12:56 AM Patrick wrote:
    I don't care what any of you say, this guy is living the american dream! BOSS
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    1. 12/17/2012 11:14 AM Robert wrote:
      This guy is living the Americn losers dream no responsibity and no commitment to anyone but himself. He's a loser.
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    2. 12/17/2012 11:17 AM Randy wrote:
      He's a loser in love with his mother or some fantasy that cannot be attained. He is avoiding living and real commitment because no one is good enough for him.
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  • 1/6/2013 1:58 PM Scott wrote:
    Scott writes: I would agree that this guy is self absorbed. I also feel like you need to interview more than one man. I myself am 56 and never married. I'm sure the reason for that is totally on me.It doesn't mean I don't want to be married. All it means is I for some reason have some problem connecting with someone on a level that makes them interested in me. My only fear of commitment would be that I might hurt them by rejecting them if my feelings for them weren't what they had hoped they would be. I must be a very boring and unatractive person because I have never had anyone show any intrest in me as a companion. I think anyone who is honest will say that physical attraction is the first thing that draws them toward someone. However actually likeing someone is the thing that is most important in a relationship. There is no way I can cover all of the jumbled up mess that has built up in my life in this amount of space. I just wrote this because you seem to be talking about a man who has had plenty of oppourtunity to be in a relationship and be married if he desired. I'm sure I could be married if I just advertised on the internet for a wife. Being married for the sake of being married isn't what I'm looking for. I'm wanting someone I can share my life with not someone who will obey my every command or me theirs. Just be fair. Every guy out there who is alone isn't a jerk. You know all unmarried women out there aren't gold diggers either.
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    1. 1/6/2013 6:02 PM Greg wrote:
      I think the interview with this guy is pretty accurate. People who are never married and can't commit are pretty much the same and self-absorbed on one level or way or another. They are all about themselves either their weaknesses or they think they are too good for others. It's really the same side of the coin. Low self-esteem just manifested differently. If you want to share you have to be ready to share and to give and not expect anything in return. The guy in this interview is all about himself and he never talks about love really loving a woman. He is too into self needs and self protection.
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  • 1/7/2013 12:03 AM Gary wrote:
    Good interview. Ann, that guy is so out of it. I agree with you he will never marry. He is in another world some kind of a dream he saw or read about and he said nothing about love. Bad new guy! Girls stay away and something tells me that he does tell fish tales. The girls might leave him and he doesn't have a choice. Something is off with him.
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  • 1/12/2013 10:57 PM Matt wrote:
    I just read this interview with the never married man, then tried to read this one (I'm a chocoholic), but couldn't actually get to the article. So, let me just say that the completely narcissistic "never married man" would scare the hell out of me. I'm keeping that around in order to evaluate my daughters' boyfriends. After reading about him, I need a chocolate fix
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  • 1/13/2013 5:23 AM Craig wrote:
    Empty and useless pretty much describes this man. I mean boy. He will never marry you are correct as usual, Ann. He is immature and almost delusional.
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  • 1/19/2013 12:59 PM Douglas wrote:
    Loser. This guy is nothing but a loser. My take is women dump him and he has come up with this storyline to make himself feel better.
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  • 1/20/2013 10:13 PM Rachel wrote:
    Lol! I just say this one. What a joke this guy is, a jerk and a joke. I like others think women dump him and he comes up with his reasons as to why he leves them. He's looking for a caretaker. He needs a ba ba.
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  • 2/5/2013 10:35 PM Andy wrote:
    This guy is a child, very immature. I agree that women probably leave him. Who would want him?
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  • 2/5/2013 10:38 PM Joey Donovan wrote:
    I can easily answer this question as if it were posed to me- because I am mentally and emotionally f---ed up to be a grown-up. I take the blame.
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  • 2/5/2013 11:08 PM Vanessa wrote:
    I'm SHARING it!!

    ROFL!!!... I - *know* - this GUY!!!... There are HOARDS of these emotionally vacant veneers - out there!... It's creepy.

    Then - on the other side of the coin - here are women who never decide who they are/what they want ... Marry - do the thing - get what they DON'T want - get divorced - & proceed to make everyone around them *miserable*.
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  • 2/6/2013 9:19 AM Monica Hess wrote:
    Hilarious! Reminds me of "You're So Vain" by Carly Simon. Would love to hear his take on this blog. I bet it's even funnier than the blog! haha
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    1. 2/6/2013 11:22 AM Ann wrote:
      I think I sent it to him. I put this up a year after he wrote out his answers. When he gave it to me when I read what he had answered, I thought it so shallow that I just shelved it. Then I realized that was the lession and awareness, how shallow he is. Nothing about him is genuine. It's all out of a book or something he 'thinks' He doesn't feel. I haven't seen this man in several years. But he is on the Internet as a persona he created. It's actually creepy. He 'think' he's an 'inpirational' writer of sorts and writes about 'love' when from what I can see he hasn't a clue what it is. He holds himself out as an authority without ever getting his skin in the game.. I find many never married older men are like this and I also have disvoered that the women in their life dump them and the men 'pretend' it's the other way around. Men that I have interacted with late forties and fifties who have never been married probably never will be. They have an in ability to love, and commit and they come up with all sorts of reasons why they can't...
      My best guess is that he has read this... he snoops around my blog and steals ideas. He would come up with all sorts of excuses and why he wrote this or that.. but I still have his paperwork and he wrote it exactly as I shared it.
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  • 2/8/2013 2:48 AM Ike wrote:
    He's a large husk of a man, empty a Peter Pan man. Child man
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  • 2/15/2013 10:03 PM James wrote:
    If he's that old and never married, he's GAY.
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  • 2/15/2013 10:49 PM Letica wrote:
    this man is a complete creep
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  • 2/15/2013 11:41 PM Cici wrote:
    I know who this man is. He is a fat pig and arrogant.
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  • 2/15/2013 11:46 PM Randy J wrote:
    u nailed it Ann. So many peeps out there just like him. Men and women.
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  • 2/16/2013 12:06 AM Claudia wrote:
    I am a 39 year old divorcee with a teenage child. I ran into a guy like this at work who showed interest in me. When I commented this to some friends they told me to be careful. If he is 49 and never married and no kids, its probably not for a good reason, they told me. He is either too self-centered, a fustrated homo, or a socio-path. He has more of a weird personality. I decided to cease the flirting. He's just too weird for me, and makes less money than me anyway.
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    1. 2/16/2013 12:46 AM Kent wrote:
      Any guy who gives answers like this guy and is that old and never married will never be. He is looking for a sugar momma.
      Men that old who haven't committed probably never will. They are used to living alone and can't adapt to another person. Just this guys Bs is not reality and like others have said not one word about love. You get married because you are in love not because they wear a certain outfit. This guy is lame.
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  • 3/10/2013 9:06 AM Lisa K. wrote:
    I'm running into plenty of this on match.com. Old men in their late forties and fifties who have never been married. No kids/or kids but never married the mother of their children.

    These people have no relationship skills and when it's time to be in a real-life, real-time relationship, that's when everything goes left. They don't last 3 months. Some try to fake it like this dude and act like they are still capable of being in a healthy long-term relationship (at this late stage of the game), when that is the farthest thing from the truth.

    They get set in their ways, get comfortable with living their life based on their own terms, not use to another person around them on a regular basis. They don't know how to resolve issues and move-on, relationship has to work around the life they already built for themselves, etc. I agree that many have personality disorders and/or a mental illness, some are closet homos, have commitment phobias, the list goes on. Basically they are just damaged in some degree or another. Biggest reason whey they are still single after all these years. If a woman who has good common sense, not codependent, mentally balanced, and when she meets this guys she is running in the other direction, I'm going to do the same.
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    1. 3/10/2013 12:40 PM Kermit wrote:
      we have one who lives near by...
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  • 3/10/2013 1:21 PM Cindy wrote:
    These men are products of the "me" generation!!!! Dating has changed so much from the days of when I was dating(16 years ago). I know computers are THE THING these days, but that seems so scary.

    Honestly, I went through A LOT of stinkers before finding THAT GUY!! I wouldn't expect it to be any different now.

    I believe the advice that my father gave me rings true regardless of what age you are!! That advice would be..."The guy you're going to want to spend the rest of your life with is the one you won't be able to beat off with a stick"!

    Best advice I ever got when it came to men. And...that's THE GUY I ended up marrying. (-;
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  • 3/10/2013 4:37 PM Janet wrote:
    I have a friend of 4 years with commitment phobia. Describes a girlfriend that he doesn't like in graphic detail, how fat she is, & how he cheats on her. Heartbroken by an earlier relationship, he wants nothing but sex. Oddly, he fell for one of those white models stranded in Africa, until they asked him for 70K. He'll never get married & owns a farm, with no one to help him except his aged parents. No one is good enough & no on can meet mother.
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  • 3/12/2013 12:51 AM Suzanne wrote:
    I related to everything you said. I met a great guy, so I thought, he got engaged at 25 and he caught her cheating, yea, right! Made a bee-line from that one.
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  • 3/16/2013 4:13 AM Fbag wrote:
    There's something manipulative, insincere and wrong about this article...The article's tone feels like a hate speech and kinda like bashing...

    The author of the article seems to be pumping up her own ego through this bashing and through her perceived holy crusade of exposing the imposter man, a man who does not fit to her script of how men should be and behave for the benefit of women...

    I think this is a sexist article...and a product of a flawed mechanism of thinking...one that cannot internally focus on its own shortcomings...

    Regards
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    1. 3/16/2013 10:13 AM WomenExplode wrote:
      Think what you want. This man answered as he did.. it was copied verbatum. The man is a liar, never been married and is emotionally immature. Nothing about this article is sexist except what is coming from the man's viewpoint. It he that is commenting about what he thinks a woman should be that he might consider good enough for him to marry. I think you read with flawed perception. Regards!
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    2. 3/16/2013 10:17 AM Mike wrote:
      Hate speech? Sexist? LOL!
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    3. 3/16/2013 10:39 AM Craig wrote:
      There is something wrong about your comment. There is no bashing in this article. It's what the man wrote and Ann's wise and humorous comments after knowing him for years. I know Ann and I know the situation.
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  • 3/16/2013 10:43 AM Gary wrote:
    RED FLAGS! This man is full of red flags. He isn't looking for a relationship. He is all about himself.
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  • 3/16/2013 10:52 AM Joni wrote:
    This man is full of insecurity and arrogance. I have met men like this. They are empty shells looking for a woman to make them feel better about themselves and if she isn't perfect and if she doesn't they run. They are not worth it.
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  • 3/16/2013 11:02 AM Bruce wrote:
    It is sad that you use this loser to generalize about the population of men out there.
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  • 3/28/2013 1:58 PM Shara wrote:
    Men that old never married loser. Can't commit and never will. I have met some and they are pretty much all the same. Something is missing in them and yeah very self absorbed. Can't love, can't commit, might want sex if they can perform. Some are hiding secrets.
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  • 3/28/2013 1:59 PM Sherilyn wrote:
    Men that old never married loser. Can't commit and never will. I have met some and they are pretty much all the same. Something is missing in them and yeah very self absorbed. Can't love, can't commit, might want sex if they can perform. Some are hiding secrets.
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  • 4/21/2013 6:56 PM Darryl wrote:
    This man lives and plays in the shallow pools of life, never taking his life preserver off to experience the depths of commitment or the very essence of life itself. He appears fearful and unwilling to take chances and guards his words carefully. He appears to be the center of his world and any threat of that becomes a hinderance with entanglements. A lot of times relationships aren't equal, but the determination to be committed allows growth at the expense of devotion and hard work. If he is willing to be vulnerable and honest with himself, he just may see that all roads do not lead to a cul-de-sac of denial, guarded-ness and lonliness.
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  • 4/22/2013 10:47 AM Ann wrote:
    Only in relationship can you know and get to know yourself...
    To be in a committed relationship of marriage takes courage and security because in doing so you will have who you really are revealed.. and if you are fortunate you will love, surrender, release, become a better aspect of self and have the blessing to share your life with another.
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  • 4/22/2013 10:54 AM Ron wrote:
    These posts are so ..correct..I find my self .at a loss for words..because I have nothing to add to them..because they encompass. .all the points..of true absolute. .wonderfulness. And no I am not gay!
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  • 4/22/2013 11:04 AM Hayward wrote:
    What he has sounds like a form of un-diagnosed autism spectrum or other issues.
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  • 4/29/2013 11:24 PM Jeff wrote:
    As a man who is about to turn 45 and never married I find these articles interesting. I have been in love and wanted to marry but I did not choose the relationships wisely. I am definitely not a player. I go to other peoples' weddings and I wonder what it would be like for someone to care that much about me. Gosh, I would trade years for that experience. The thing is, not all men over 40 who have never married are losers or players any more than women that age who have not married.
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  • 5/6/2013 10:57 PM Cheryl wrote:
    What a "tool"
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  • 5/6/2013 11:00 PM Cheryl wrote:
    What a "tool"
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  • 5/7/2013 4:15 AM Shawn wrote:
    I wouldn't take sex advice from a priest either. This guy is all talk.
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  • 5/18/2013 7:41 PM David Byrne wrote:
    At the end in your footnote you say ;
    “(FYI...I have been married, divorced, had stepchildren, been deeply passionately in love and been hurt to my core and being around a man who has never risked for love, never really been committed is like being with an empty vessel of nothingness, a vapid void……etc)”
    Then you complain that “none of my advice was being absorbed” ????
    What qualified advice exactly are you offering …………….ha, ha  I think you are being a bit judgemental here

    Still thanks for this very interesting article, the insight I gained from it is ‘Tolerance and an open mind are probably the most prudent positions to adopt in trying to understand another’s point of view’.
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  • 7/8/2013 10:48 PM Stuart wrote:
    He appears insecure and emotionally vapid as you stated. Also he is unrealistic and never meantions love. He's look for a suga momma.
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  • 7/8/2013 10:50 PM Stuart wrote:
    He appears insecure and emotionally vapid as you stated. Also he is unrealistic and never meantions love. He's looking for a suga momma.
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  • 11/29/2013 8:56 PM Mona wrote:
    This man will never marry. He talks like he's reading from a book. No heart. No love. No passion. Boring NADA!
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  • 11/29/2013 9:02 PM Tommy wrote:
    Gotta be a faggot!
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  • 11/30/2013 5:42 PM Dulouz wrote:
    I'm a 52 yo male, I've never been married. I've displayed weakness. American women, at least the ones I've met or were drawn to were pretty picky. I always did want a Carpenters-We've-Only-Just-Begun relationship but after running into materialism, a sex only relationship without introduction to mom and dad, an "I'm married to law school which starts in three years" and I just want a cute guy to show off to my friends relationship, I really snapped. Both sides started thawing at about age 35 but I ran into the perpetual "no" girl one last time and I snapped again very much to my regret. Later her car got demolished and she needed help. I turned her down and that night I saw her selling herself on the corner. I've spent lots of money on prostitutes. A few of them were actually pretty nice and became some of my best memories. I ran into date excuses when were started seeing each other as other than a business transaction. I dated a young woman for six weeks and then I tried to kiss her she screamed loud enough for the dorm security to come and knock on the door. We never dated again although she tried. I guess I'll try again, it's be nice to bring someone to Christmas dinner finally.
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  • 11/30/2013 11:28 PM Kelly wrote:
    Really well written. I thoroughly enjoyed this piece.
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  • 12/22/2013 2:11 PM Laura wrote:
    "Do not learn to desire what you do not deserve."
    ~ Chinese Proverb
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  • 12/22/2013 2:13 PM Laura wrote:
    Some men keep breathing, but have never been alive. They have locked themselves up in their own little crypt of "me-me". No woman, in her right mind, would want to exist in that crypt with him.
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    1. 3/24/2014 11:27 AM Cynthia wrote:
      Men like this are in a crypt. Good description.
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    http://www.quickmeme.com/p/3vqrsz
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  • 1/6/2014 11:00 AM Jeff wrote:
    This man is a child. He sounds like a gold digger also. I bet knowing you Ann it was difficult not to slap him. An idiot for sure!
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  • 1/6/2014 11:55 AM Mike wrote:
    You almost have to pity him.
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  • 1/6/2014 12:03 PM Carolyn wrote:
    Gross man! He wants her to have everything and he offers nothing but what he can. He doesn't have money but wants her to wear Chanel. Gold digger!
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  • 1/10/2014 10:26 AM Beth wrote:
    I just cut off contact with one of these. Talk about dodging a bullet...WHEW!
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  • 2/4/2014 12:01 PM Marc wrote:
    this man loves himself no one else.
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  • 2/4/2014 5:17 PM George wrote:
    Your interaction with this fellow seems like an unhealthy dynamic between two people with less than optimal personal lives. He has never been married; you have been married more than once, but for whatever reason have not been able to stay married. That doesn't make either of you bad people, just imperfect like the rest of us.

    Although you seem contemptuous of him, not the normal attitude of one friend for another, you referred to him as a friend, and chose to spend time with him. A reader might speculate that you did so because you enjoyed your feeling of superiority over him.

    And he chose to spend time with you, despite your contempt for him (which I imagine you never went out of your way to hide). Perhaps he enjoyed the feeling of being lectured and reprimanded by a strong woman.

    This almost has the flavor of a dominant/submissive relationship, but without even the satisfaction for either of you of being able to act on it. I wonder if there is more to your feelings for him, and his for you, than you let on. Your comments have a depth of anger that wouldn't be common for someone just talking about the mistakes of a casual friend.
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    1. 2/5/2014 12:39 PM Sara wrote:
      Iknow Ann and this story. I think over 10 years ago this guy approached her to buy her car and they become friends and he came onto her. She wasn't interested in him other than friendship but he persisted . Then they had a thing for a few weeks. Ann went back to a man she had been in love with for years. Then as the years went on this man comes in and out of her life as friends. He goes from woman to woman and complains what is wrong with them. Ann thought he was a good example to use as why a man never marries or commits and he is. I have met men like him and they are pretty much all the same. Looking for the perfect woman when they aren't the perfect man for any woman.
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    2. 2/5/2014 2:59 PM David wrote:
      I like to look at new comments and this one caught my attention. Ann, was not contemptous of this man. His answers to questions were off putting. He said nothng about his need for love or a commited partner or what he had to offer a woman.
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      1. 2/5/2014 3:25 PM Jody wrote:
        Reading this article and response is eye opening. I dated a man like this and it was a horror. He would get close to me then pull away. Talk marriage then pull away. Finally I left him and he has tried to get back with me. He wants what he can't have and he misses what he lost. Men like this don't appreciate a woman when she is with him. My ex boyfriend talked just like this one and when we would argue he would blame me and leave. He was a child just like this man.
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  • 2/4/2014 8:25 PM Connie wrote:
    Oh my! I have met several men like this one. Know it alls that think when they meet the right perfect woman it will be like magic. It never does and never will. I won't date men who have never been married. I am in my mid forties and if by mid life a person hasn't married they probably never will. I really enjoy this site.
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  • 2/4/2014 10:52 PM Rickie wrote:
    He is disconnected from his heart and focuses on material things. Very cold answers.
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  • 2/5/2014 1:46 PM Ron wrote:
    "healthy balance in every area of their lives" LOL This man is delusional. He i have no words to express how rank he is I am laughing so hard reading his answers. tHis was a great article and interview Ann. I hope many women read it and avoid men like this one. He comes across like a verbal even physical abuser. The ones like in the movie Enough. If she isn't perfect she gets attacked on some level either verbally or physically.
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  • 2/5/2014 11:44 PM Suzy wrote:
    Should he commit and marry then he would have to grow up instead of living in his should be's and dreams of what he thinks everything should be like. He's lives in his head and is too concerned with image and maintaining his image of controlling and thinking that he knows everything. While I was reading this, and it's very good Ann in explaining men like him so thank you for deciding to post it, I couldn't help but notice how full of live and fun that you are. Your smile is great and your energy. His on the other hand, even though he can barely be seen is that of dead weight and that pretty much is what his answers are. Dead and cold.
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  • 2/6/2014 1:46 PM Jon wrote:
    LOL! He is too afraid to put his money where his mouth is. He is an example of an image based on the crap in his head.
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  • 2/6/2014 2:13 PM Candy wrote:
    I so enjoy reading this article. I run from men like this. I bet he still spends every holiday with his mommy.
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  • 2/6/2014 5:59 PM Carrie wrote:
    This guy is all about image.
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  • 2/9/2014 12:06 PM Heather wrote:
    Did you notice in this interview that he describes everything he wishes he was? He's looking for a better mirror. lol
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  • 2/9/2014 12:17 PM Heather wrote:
    suckubos. lol
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  • 2/9/2014 12:21 PM Heather wrote:
    He felt rejected by his mother. It sounds as if his sibling relationship was strained. Too much competition. Perhaps it's his life lesson to not have to be the best to be loved.

    That pain seems very real and deep to him.
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  • 2/9/2014 1:10 PM Heather wrote:
    Arrogance is a protection mechanism. It's what people do when they think they aren't worth loving. He blows the entire idea off.
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  • 2/25/2014 11:39 AM Jimmy wrote:
    There are people whose psychological problems prohibit them from having a relationship. These people are married to their pathology.
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  • 3/2/2014 11:29 AM Lois wrote:
    This was one of the saddest and funniest things I have every read. He is delusional. A person who thinks like he does will never find love and can't love and who would love him? Just sad!
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  • 3/21/2014 11:51 AM Jamie wrote:
    He's a fake. He's about his image and noting else. Cold as ice. No wonder he's never married.
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  • 3/21/2014 2:57 PM Christina wrote:
    Laughing hard. I have met men like this one with their excuses. They say the samethings. I had to just laugh when I read his answers. I have heard them all before. He's a LOSER and making excuses for being a LOSER! My guess is no woman will have his fat head in her life for long.
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  • 3/23/2014 12:06 PM Elizabeth wrote:
    I have read this several times and it always makes me laugh. He has extreme financial instablity but he wants a woman that wears Chanel. He's a gold digger and clueless about what marriage and a man are. Run ladies! Run! If a man talks like this one Run!!!! I have been married twice and marriage to a great man now. He read this and laughed too. The man in this ariticle will never marry because who would want him?
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  • 3/23/2014 12:16 PM Diana wrote:
    Good article! Sadly, one of my long-term friends has become just such a man.
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  • 3/23/2014 12:55 PM Jeff wrote:
    Ayn, you are so cute, DANG! You laugh and smile while this man blahs on! Knowing you the way I do how did you not slap the sh-t out of him. It is full of it!
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  • 3/23/2014 2:15 PM Kent wrote:
    The bozo wants to marry above his pay grade and class level. He gets a foot in the door and the women reject him then in makes it that something is wrong with the women when it is him. I have seen this many times. Have a couple of guy friends like this. They come on strong to classy women then can't keep up. Women are smart these days and don't fall for this BS like they once did. They kick losers to the curb. The guy in this article has been kicked to the curb. What women wearing designer clothing would want a man who can't support her with financial instablity. No one I have ever met.
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    1. 3/23/2014 2:39 PM Greg wrote:
      I concur. When a man wants to marry, he does. When he is playing he doesn't. He dates women he knows are suitable in some way. This guy is a wanna be and a never will be. If he wanted to marry, he would find a suitable woman for his life and do so. Instead he tries to have a trophey on his arm and soon the trophey has no interest in him. My take anyway.
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  • 3/24/2014 11:00 AM Cynthia wrote:
    So many comments on this blog and all interesting. IMO the man in the interview is a faker. He intellictualizes and his answers are more about his image then anything real. He's a phony and with his attitude will never marry or if he does it will end fast. He is looking for the perfect woman in his eyes and it's all about him and how she looks. From what I can see and that's not much he is not attractive and looks fat. Mu guess is not many women are attracted to him and not the ones he wants. He wants a trophy wife with money and he's a pig in a poke.
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  • 3/24/2014 12:22 PM Jeff wrote:
    The nature of a woman is to want to be with a man who care take care of her and protect her. When a man needs a woman to protect and take care of him, it stinks. The man in this interview is looking for a woman to take care of him. He stinks and women smell it.
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  • 3/24/2014 2:53 PM Sam wrote:
    Marriage is a great way to live. I love it. I wasn't really living until I married my wife. It can be hard at times but it is worth it. Anyone who had never been married hasn't lived in full and are missing one of the greatest pleasures.
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    1. 3/24/2014 3:00 PM Scott wrote:
      Sam, thanks for rubbing it in...for those of us unable to attract a date, much less a potential spouse. Thanks for hammering home how horrible our lives are.
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      1. 3/25/2014 11:14 PM Skippy wrote:
        Scott, are you for real. You are a sad Sort. You get upset if a person says they are happy to be married. No wonder you are not. I read through this whole thread. What a ride. Is it a character flaw if you never find a person that will marry you? Could be!
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        1. 3/26/2014 10:47 AM Scott wrote:
          Skippy, Sam wrote "Anyone who had never been married hasn't lived in full and are missing one of the greatest pleasures." He was saying guys my age who have never married (and never will) are losers with pathetic lives. Re-read the comment for yourself if you don't believe me. And I already accepted responsibility for being rejected universally, and for being un-dateable and un-marriageable. I already admitted I have a character flaw; I'm not sure what is the point of asking again, even if the question is only hypothetical. I'm sorry you disapprove of the fact that I kept replying to comments directed at me, rather than shutting up and rolling over. Just another character flaw, I guess.
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  • 3/26/2014 10:58 PM Daniel wrote:
    Sounds like a scumbag to me.
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