What makes some women…

not care and others care so much? What makes one woman put effort into her health and appearance and another let herself go?

Is it energy, self-esteem, pride, habits, self-awareness, education, common sense, body-awareness, healthy narcissism, psychological make-up, genetics, mental health, a bit of it all, or what…?
 
Because you can have a woman with lovely features, physical health and bone structure, let herself go, and become a fat slob with no style, no muscle tone and rapidly declining health…
Then you can have an ordinary-looking woman, take good care of her appearance and she looks and feels great…and becomes almost like a ‘movie star’.
 
‘They’ say it’s genetics, until you are in your thirties and after that, it’s personal choice and lifestyle. I agree. Health and habits make such a difference in appearance especially as we age. 

Everyday, we make choices, about what we put into our bodies and our minds, whether we exercise, or don’t, what we wear, and if we maintain our hair, teeth, and skin health, etc.

So, what makes one woman want to look her best, while another lets herself go? What makes one woman get up off the sofa and workout and another sit there stuffing cheetoes into her mouth? When, if there is balance, you can do both.

It’s what you do everyday, not what you do once in awhile that creates who you are on most all levels. 

Is it her sexual energy, that almost ‘mystical feminine energy’ thatWH_fat_girls.jpg image by piernick manifests into enjoying being a woman and all it entails? Is it that she likes being a woman, or that she doesn’t? Because maintaining your appearance definitely has a feminine and sexual component to it…don’t you think?

I find that most women who care about themselves, their body and their appearance care about many things and also care about the well-being of others and their community…

Now, sure a person can go overboard about their appearance… because it is truly and ultimately the ‘inner essence’ that shines through .. but isn’t a ‘healthy inner essence’, one that will care well for their outer appearance?

After all, your hair is just a frame for your face, either complimentary or not…then there’s also the element of taste and style in all you do and put on and in your body. Some women destroy their looks with addictions, liquor, drugs, starving themselves, eating disorders, etc..
So, what makes that difference that one woman cares and does all she can to make the best of what she has and who she is, with the energy and common sense to put into it, while another does nothing, or even sabotages her health and appearance???…

To be a girlie-girl is…

fun, costly and time-consuming. My definition of a girlie-girl is a female who enjoys being a girl and all it entails. There’s workouts, make-up, hair and beauty treatments of all sorts and varieties…

One of my fav facials is Derma Culture… it was recently featured on the ‘Housewives of Beverly Hills’.  It’s steam, vacuum, special ionization fluid, then under the mask, hooked to electrodes… and all this stimulates and cleanses to give skin a healthy glow. I have gone to Peggy on Forest Lane in Dallas for about 20 years. Before that I went to Derma-Culture in another town for years… this system works and their products are fab! It’s great for healing breakouts to getting your glow on getting ready for a special event. I have a friend who was engaged to a pilot and on the days when he came home, she would have one of these facials to give a boost to her ‘in love glow’. They have been married now for years…Give Peggy a call, to give it a try…972-243-3901 and mention me if you do…

Next, we have hair, we color it, highlight it, trim, grow, perm and press it… Fannie Turner, stylist at Seven Salon, at Park and Preston in Plano…817.378.6729…
She will listen to your individual needs and desires, then execute them with care and expertise…I am picky, picky about my hair. So, you know, if I recommend her, she is worth a try. And on ‘black Friday’ the day after TG, she is offering services discounted at 50%. Can’t beat that! So, local ladies and gentlemen, shop, and then go be pampered. And if you say WomenExplode, Fannie will give you 10% off every visit for the next three months, that’s Nov 25 thru Feb 25th. Great idea for gift giving…

Then of course, women, like ‘us’, workout, watch what we eat (well, most of the time) because we want to look good, feel good and maintain our health and have our bodies running at optimum level… even when we don’t ‘feel’ like it, we push ourselves to stretch and to get our cardio up to keep our bodies running well. There are all sorts of workouts and I have done them all. I workout at least three times a week…Try Reanee Spratt’s yoga and stretch classes at Move Studio, Campbell and Preston in Dallas, 972.732.0206

And after your workout, or on a day that you want to relax and be pampered … try Jennifer Henderson at Stonebriar Spa… Legacy and 121 in Frisco..972.668.6108. I have been a guest for years and enjoy the deep tissue massage followed by a salt scrub. Afterwards, you will sleep like a baby and all girlie-girls know how important sleep is for our overall health and to keep us looking and feeling our best…..also makes for great gift certificates and stocking stuffers…  

So men, if you are ‘fortunate’ enough to have a lady who takes good care of herself, appreciate her efforts for doing so. You might want to tell her she is lovely, beautiful and the best thing that ever happened to your life, bring her flowers, take her to lunch, take her to dinner, if local, a good place is Cadot at Frankford and Preston 972.267.5700…and if you say WomenExplode and you will receive a complimentary glass of champagne and a tasty choice is to accompany it with a Grande Marnier souffle…

But just when a girlie-girl thinks she’s done, she decides that she needs more highlights…Check out, The Color Studio, at Preston and Campbell in Dallas for those ’emergency’ highlights…972.931.2220 along with many other services… 
I have been a client there for over 20 years and where I go for manicures and pedicures and have always felt pampered.
 
It may seem, at times, unrelenting and on going and it is..that quest for her ‘perfect girlie-girl look’..as she changes her mind… long or short, dark or lighter, layered, or blunt cut…

But men, count your blessings…because if you walk around a mall, or visit the ‘dreaded’ discount stores, you will view many, many women who must not give a care about how they look. Would you rather have that beside you, or a girlie-girl?

Think about it and if you are fortunate enough to have a girlie-girl, appreciate what you have on your arm… and the effort and energy ‘certain’ women put into looking and feeling great! 
Let’s hear it for the girlie-girls!…

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Brainwashed Liberals, OWS, MSM, Obama followers…

Suppose that every day, ten men go out for beer and the bill for all ten comes to $100. If they paid their bill the way we pay our taxes, it would go something like this:
 
The first four men (the poorest) would pay nothing.
 
The fifth would pay $1. The sixth would pay $3. The seventh would pay $7. The eighth would pay $12. The ninth would pay $18.
 
The tenth man (the richest) would pay $59.
 
So, that’s what they decided to do. The ten men drank in the bar every day and seemed quite happy with the arrangement, until one day, the owner threw them a curve. “Since you are all such good customers”, he said, “I’m going to reduce the cost of your daily beer by $20”. Drinks for the ten now cost just $80.
 
The group still wanted to pay their bill the way we pay our taxes so the first four men were unaffected. They would still drink for free. But what about the other six men – the paying customers? How could they divide the $20 windfall so that everyone would get his “fair share?”
 
They realized that $20 divided by six is $3.33. But if they subtracted that from everybody’s share, then the fifth man and the sixth man would each end up being paid to drink his beer. So, the bar owner suggested that it would be fair to reduce each man’s bill by roughly the same amount, and he proceeded to work out the amounts each should pay.
 
And so:
 
The fifth man, like the first four, now paid nothing (100% savings).
 
The sixth now paid $2 instead of $3 (33%savings).
 
The seventh now pay $5 instead of $7 (28%savings).
 
The eighth now paid $9 instead of $12 (25% savings).
 
The ninth now paid $14 instead of $18 (22% savings).
 
The tenth now paid $49 instead of $59 (16% savings).
 
Each of the six was better off than before. And the first four continued to drink for free. But once outside the restaurant, the men began to compare their savings. “I only got a dollar out of the $20,” declared the sixth man. He pointed to the tenth man, “but he got $10!” “Yeah, that’s right,” exclaimed the fifth man. “I only saved a dollar, too. It’s unfair that he got ten times more than I!” “That’s true!” shouted the seventh man. “Why should he get $10 back when I got only two? The wealthy get all the breaks!” “Wait a minute,” yelled the first four men in unison. “We didn’t get anything at al!. The system exploits the poor!” The nine men surrounded the tenth and beat him up.
 
The next night the tenth man didn’t show up for drinks, so the nine sat down and had beers without him. But when it came time to pay the bill, they discovered something important. They didn’t have enough money between all of them for even half of the bill!

Anyone who falls for this is STUPID!…
 
Because this, boys and girls, MSM, Liberals, OWS, Obamanuts, and college professors, is how our tax system works. The people who pay the highest taxes get the most benefit from a tax reduction. Tax them too much, attack them for being wealthy, and they just may not show up anymore. In fact, they might start drinking overseas where the atmosphere is somewhat friendlier.

The obvious ‘should’ be obvious.. but the stupid and brainwashed can’t see or get it… this is how countries are taken down and destroyed…

“The trouble with socialism is you run out of other people’s money.” Margaret Thatcher
… 
And soon no one is drinking beer or having any fun at all! Except the Dictator and his ilk. So ‘occupiers’ you are being played for fools…
 
When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends. – Japanese Proverb (or those he chooses to give positions in his cabinet, or appoint as czars.)

Not a Conspiracy — An Agenda!…

Al Lee — Texas Congressional Candidate…

I got to watch the movie, “Agenda”, yesterday. It was presented by the Frisco tea Party. I promised Ann, I would write my thoughts down and share. Here goes:

No horror film could be as scary as the real life story of what is happening in our world today. Communism is thought to be dead by many people because of the fall of the Soviet Union. Not so! It lives on and thrives. It does not usually call itself by that name any longer, it is called Environmentalism, Progressivism, or Liberalism. I wish every American would watch this 90-minute documentary. It is well-done, chock-full of relevant information, and very compelling.

Man! America needs to wake up. I know that millions of us have come awake in the past few years and have formed Tea Party or Grassroots or Patriots groups–but it is not enough. We need more people to wake up and those of us who are awake need to start acting effectively, not just chatting about the situation. We are at war with an enemy that is coming from within. It is a cancer that has spread throughout all our vital organs and we have very, very little time left to stop it from destroying us completely.

One chilling point they made in the movie is that when/if America falls, it does not just mean that our children and grandchildren will live in a miserable world, it will mean that their children for many, many generations will live like that because there is no opposing force on earth to undo the damage. America has always been that force that could provide a beacon of hope for oppressed people. America will be GONE!

At the end of the movie, Rafael Cruz, Ted’s father (Ted Cruz, Senatorial Candidate) and a new friend of mine because we meet at so many conservative functions and events, spoke of how what is happening in America mirrors what happened in his old country, Cuba. He told us how shocked he was at the speed at which Communism took over his country and at the misery and devastation it wrought. He pointed out that we have now got just five (5) months before the primary elections and that if we fail to elect real conservatives, not just republicans; but REAL CONSERVATIVES, we will have virtually no hope that America will stop the descent into Communism.

The fundamental strategy by which Communism plans to take down America is to undermine all of our traditions, values, and morality, thus weakening us spiritually so that we are unable to resist. Christianity and its values and morals are the main obstacle to Communism.

Communism has been implementing its strategy in America since at least the 1930’s–they are patient because they believe they will eventually win. Evidence shows that they will be right unless we can stop them NOW.

They intend to instill loyalty to the State to replace loyalty to God, parents, or family. The State consists of a ruling class that has absolute power over life and death of the subjects.

Regarding our speaking up and acting now, they quoted Abraham Lincoln as saying: “To sin by silence when they should protest makes cowards of men.”

Christianity is the ONLY religion that elevates the value of the individual. That is an obstacle to Communism which seeks to value The State above The Individual. That is why Liberals are opposed to religion–but only to one religion, Christianity. They do not object to Islam, Buddhism, or any other.

In some public schools already they are reciting the World Pledge instead of the Pledge of Allegiance to the America Flag.

The goal of Communism is not only to create a desire for a Communist State; but to create a dependency on The State. This is done by corrupting our education system as well as our churches and all other institutions that people could turn to.

There is more–so much more! I bought a copy of the movie and intend to show it, or at least portions of it (the movie is 90-minutes long) at campaign events in the near future. I will try to get a link to put on my campaign website so people can order the movie on DVD.
(
http://www.alleeforcongress.com )

To call all this a conspiracy would be an error. A conspiracy is done in secret. All of this was done in full view. They published books on their strategy to destroy America. They have an Agenda that they have followed for decades.

All I can say it that if all you are doing is forwarding emails, don’t stop doing that; but please find ways to do more. We are reaching the end game in this chess match with Communism and we can not afford to lose.

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Thank you, Al for sharing this important and urgent information.
For more info …
http://blog.womenexplode.com/2011/10/13/agenda-21.aspx

Being American!

???????????????????????????????Recently, I was in a conversation about illegals, immigration and what it means to be an American with a Russian lady who came to America about 20 years ago and a Hispanic man.

Anna: I am from Russia, but as soon as I could, after coming to America, I went through classes and became a citizen. I refer to myself as an American, not a Russian-American. I know where I came from and who I am, and I know where and who I am now and I am an American citizen.

Ann: You sound proud.

Anna: I am!

Jose: Me too. I am an American, not a Hispanic-American. I was born here. I don’t understand this African-American, Arab-American, Asian-American, and so on, all these hyphenated American identities. You are either an American or not.

Ann: I agree and it is so great to hear you saying this. Why do you think so many need to combine?

Anna: They don’t know who they are? And I think it’s stupid. And illegals make me sick. America needs to close their borders and send illegals back to where they came from.

Jose: I agree. Either you are here legally and you are an American, or you are something else and need to leave.

Anna: I am proud to call myself an American. It worries me to see what Obama is trying to do. It reminds me of Russia. It reminds me of what I left and believe me, America won’t like it, or be happy if it happens here.

Ann: I am English, Welsh, Scotch and Irish… I don’t call myself an English-American, or a Welsh-American. So, why do so many find that they need to do this and make such a big deal of it? Ummm…I wonder did it start with ‘Roots’, that book by Alex Haley that became a TV mini-series? It seems that after that TV show is the first, I recall such an emphasis on being called ‘African-American’. As if you didn’t refer to them in this manner, they became insulted.

Jose: Yes,could be and I remember that show. But it’s also liberal propaganda and individual insecurity and to try and feel different, when in the same breath, they are trying to say that we are all the same. Here they go and define themselves something other than, or trying to be more than, being an American. When being an American is the best thing that there is, or could ever be. If you live in America and are a citizen you are an American… period!

Ann: Great way to put it.

Anna: When you know your roots, you can become a real American and incorporate yourself into the best country that there is. You don’t need to lose your nationality, but become an American if you live here. We don’t want America to change.

Something to think about. When did this hyphenating American with other nationalities and countries start? I have always found it a bit offensive. How do you feel about it?

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A Woman’s Poem:

     ???????????????????????????????  Before I lay me down to sleep,

I pray for a man who’s not a creep,

One who’s handsome, smart and strong.

One who loves to listen long,

One who thinks before he speaks,

One who’ll call, not wait for weeks.

I pray he’s rich and self-employed,
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And when I spend, won’t be annoyed.

Will pull out my chair and hold my hand.

Massage my feet and help me stand,

Oh, send a king to make me queen

A man who loves to cook and clean.

I pray this man will love no other.

And will relish visits with my mother.

A MAN’S POEM: I pray for a deaf-mute gymnast nymphomaniac with big tits who owns a bar on a golf course and loves to send me fishing and drinking. And if this doesn’t rhyme, I don’t give a shit.

Obama’s class warfare and liberal hate affecting my life…

???????????????????????????????I was at the hair dressers, I had used this person, once before… a couple of us (myself and other clients) were discussing how we didn’t care for what Obama is doing to our country…
Then when the hair stylist was rinsing my hair, she got right into my face and said, “I love Obama!” The way that she said this was crazed and it triggered an alarm in me.

I responded, “Well then, let’s agree to disagree.”

She practically snarled.

She worked on my hair as I chatted on about trivial things, watching every move she made. She looked as if she could chop my head off and I couldn’t wait to get out of there.

When I went to pay. She had doubled the price from what the cost was originally supposed to be and from what it was the last time for the same service.

I said that I would pay what I paid the last time and not this arbitrarily doubled price.

Her response. “You better pay all the money or else!”

I was stunned. It was like I was being shaken down…like some kind of extortion. I have never been treated in this manner. I paid her the amount that was originally agreed upon and without a tip, gathered my belongings then exited. As I was walking out, she said. “I am calling the police.”

My response under my breath, “So, call them.”

I didn’t like my hair and the next day texted her and told her so. She responded that I could tell it to the judge that she had filed a ‘theft of services’ against me at the police department. I called the police and, sure enough, she had. I told the police what had occurred and was told that this is a civil matter between she and I and that there are no charges, or record, nor would there be.

Can you imagine how livid I was? Everything was fine, until she realized that I didn’t like her ‘precious Obama’.

This nasty liberal woman was out to ‘get’ me… she turned into a hate-filled person after realizing I wasn’t one of ‘them’… an Obama-NUT!

Of course, nothing happened or will it, as it was a trumped up, harassing and bogus charge…But what an INSULT to me for no reason, other than, I don’t like Obama.  After this, I have arrived at the conclusion that I will not do business with liberals. And will be more aware of what I say, to whom, and where. Only I recall when Bush was President, people would bad mouth him loud and clear and I never heard of this kind of a reaction. I have never heard of this kind of a reaction. Those who drank the Obama Koolaid are a different breed of human and not what I want around me or in my life. They are vicious, out of control bullies and don’t care who they harm, just like ‘their king Obama’.

Since, Obama has been in office, interactions between people have gotten tense and hateful. Liberals claim to be so loving. Well, what was this? But hate, harassment and an attempt at extortion and all because of Obama.

Has anyone else experienced this kind of bigotry, or something like it because of this Obama administration and his cult of hate, bullying, class warfare and retaliation?

Dancing in relationship to commitment…

 In relationship, a man leads and a woman follows, just like partners in a dance… there must be a leader and a follower. That doesn’t mean that one is more important than the other… as they must both be there and participating for the dance/relationship to flow and to be a success. A relationship is a dance… and if the man isn’t a strong, consistent, competent, trustworthy, responsible, and an ethical leader, the whole thing can get off track, or won’t go anywhere and can even fall completely apart.

A woman must feel that she can lean and will be held solid and that there will be strong arms holding her. She needs to feel protected, attractive, desired, appreciated, feminine and cared for. If not, she won’t and can’t express, bloom, shine, allow vulnerability and glow and certainly can’t relax to come into the full expression of herself. And that is where and what a man’s place is, to create the space for the ‘feminine’, ‘his love’ to bloom and by doing so, he will have an enduring, happy relationship and home filled with love, peace and abundance and a soft place to fall and re-energize. A woman, the feminine, leads a man to his heart, back to his heart and to his soft emotional side of expression. Many men can only open up emotionally to the woman in their life. But some are too fearful, or shut down, cold, cut off, angry or were never taught, or had this basic genuine element of the feminine.

But as in the dance, in a relationship, if the man, lets the woman fall once, she will question her trust and if he lets her fall too many times, trust will be completely gone and the purpose of the dance/relationship will cease and might stop altogether. Its flow stops and instead becomes stressful, without confidence, conflicted, even angry, and it is impossible to continue and unbearable to observe.  
As in the dance, most often the eyes are on the feminine lines and expression as the male supports her. She can’t do it, ‘her magic’, without his strength and support and he can’t express his strength, his manhood without her softness, flexibility and trust.

The intertwining of the masculine and feminine in the dance is a beautiful thing to observe…it’s like watching love…as it is in a relationship. But a man must lead.. and the woman have trust enough to follow. And this trust is up to the man to instill and demonstrate by his words, actions, deeds and behaviors.

Some males are needy and lost, flitting from partner to partner, trying to ‘find’ the ‘perfect’ fit, instead of ‘being’ the perfect fit. They are emotionally lost, unsound and not true to anyone, even themselves.  They don’t have the core and purpose of the dance in them. They don’t know how to lead… aren’t man enough … so they flit from one female to another until the women recognize his inability and either turns away, or he makes sure he is gone, before she realizes that he can’t lead, isn’t a man, can’t be a solid, strong male. He is afraid for being seen for what he really is…so he deflects and side steps to avoid in all sorts of ways.
 
Sure a woman can dance alone, as can a man … but there is nothing like the male/female dancing together. If a woman needs to take the lead and become too masculine in her behavior the balance becomes distorted and ‘off’. If a man becomes too feminine and follows unsure, the balance becomes off. The flow is disrupted. It’s the balance of the male/female that is the beauty and the flow in the dance… the balance. Sometimes, the dance is fast, sometimes it is slow, but with true partners and a strong male lead it always has its rhythm and jive…rockn’roll, two-step, waltz, cha-cha, free style or ‘whatever’ it is, it works…as some partners develop their own style that works just for them.

As in a relationship, a man is the leader in a family. He guides with strength and nurturing. The lack of this leadership creates chaos in the family. Sure, a woman can head a family and ‘act’ the part of man. And a man can ‘act’ the part of a woman, but it is not as complete as when there is both a man and a woman displaying, doing and honoring their respective God-given natures for the children to observe.

In this world today, many men seem to have forgotten how to lead. They have forgotten what a male is in relation to the female. And women have allowed this to occur, as they are behaving like men… sexually and otherwise. Men don’t respect women who behave like men. And women don’t respect men who behave like women… It’s not in our nature, our DNA to do so… So, respect is gone and so is the ability to love…

It’s being diminished to sexual exploitation. It’s been lowered to taking, instead of giving, sharing and honoring. It is an empty, lost and vapid existence to those who do this. They may think it is exciting at first, but look at the faces and bodies of those who do this…it shows everywhere on them and in everyway. 

The dance falls apart, families are without leaders, children are lost, love is gone and no one is content, at peace, living in the security of love and happiness and it affects the whole society. The way a society respects the feminine defines its nature. Diminish, disrespect, or suppress the feminine and the society becomes harsh, violent and without morality or true honor. 

It’s up to the woman whose hand she takes.  An ’emotionally healthy’ woman will not pick a weak leader, or she will break the dance when she realizes his lack of male character. Or she, not trusting him, will try, or be forced to lead and in doing so, she will become frustrated, bitter, and resentful as  this is not in her natural flow.

A man may pick, but a woman chooses.

I say we need to come back to the natural dance of male/female. You can watch a couple in love, who have shared much and when they dance they flow… the man leads out of love and respect and the woman follows out of respect, trust and love…And any man who has had a woman look at him in love and admiration know the glory and glow that emanates from her to him.
It’s an energy from the heavens…

And commitment is key to this dance… A man takes a woman’s hand and leads her to the dance floor and it begins…with his hand on the small of her back to guide her…

The dance is the perfect display and example of the male/female balance.
That is why it is so pleasing to behold just as it is to observe people in love.. it is an expression of joy… the perfect balance of the male/female in action…

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Interview with a never married 50 plus-old-man…

???????????????????????????????I wanted to interview a middle-aged man (pictured,but hidden. He asked repeatedly to be on my site.) who has never been married and has no children. I wanted to ask him questions in person, and he answer, but he ‘insisted’ that I write the questions down, so that he had time to ‘think’ about his answers. Bad sign right there…

My other interviews with men have always been me asking questions in person and they answer right there. They didn’t ‘need’ the time to ‘orchestrate’ their answers.

This man’s fully orchestrated ‘for effect’ answers reveal a man who has little to no connection to his heart, is in his head and without the ability to really connect, or to see himself in relation to another. He is ‘mother-controlled’ and looking for a woman to take care of him. I almost didn’t even put this up because I found it so trite and mundane, but then realized, it is great for awareness.

???????????????????????????????I have known this man for 14 years, so know what’s real and what’s BS. I have written what I know to be true in parenthesis, to reveal the self-delusional pretense in the blah, blah, ‘politically correct’ BS that he ‘thinks’ a woman ‘wants’ to hear. He ‘tries’ to be so ‘correct’ that this man doesn’t live fully and certainly doesn’t know how to love, or what love even is. He is looking to ‘feel good about himself’. So ladies, if a man gives you these type of BS answers run away. And men, if you identify with this too much, you are conning and fooling yourself…
1. Why do you think it is that you have never married?

Extreme financial instability for one and all that encompasses. I’ve had a lot of terrible luck with career layoffs and I never wanted to burden a woman with that. (When I first met him, he told me he had a significant amount of money. So, a con right off the bat and plenty of poor people are married. So, what kind of an answer is this really?)

I’m very independent and never really felt a need to get married during my youth. (He told me he was engaged when he was in his twenties and the woman cheated.) Having children wasn’t important to me either. (He told me he didn’t want kids then that he did. I think he got some woman pregnant, but she miscarried and, even then, he didn’t marry her. From what I observe, he is too self-centered to have children.)

Also, continually spending too much time with women who I knew were wrong for me early in the relationship, expecting circumstances to change. (Why spend time with women, he knew were wrong for him? Because his intentions are usury, not honorable. I wonder does he think about the woman’s time he wasted, if he ‘knew’ that they were ‘wrong for him’?) I am also guilty of not putting forth enough effort, not dating more, and that is my fault. (In the 14 years, I have known him, he is usually ‘hooked’ into some woman, then they break it off and he whines about something that was wrong with ‘her’. It was her family. She had cats. He hates cats. So, why date a woman with cats? She spent too much money on her horses, or something else that he found so distasteful.  He dated a woman that leased a Ferrari for him. I inquired, if he liked her. He shrugged, stating, “Not really.”  So, ummm, why was he with her? Then he will date older women who have money and when they break up, he will state that she is stuck up and too old for him.)

???????????????????????????????2. Do you want to marry?

Yes, as long as there is a healthy balance in every area of our lives, emotional, financial goals. (Ladies, this is a man that is after a woman to support him both financially and emotionally. He has no idea how to ‘support’ a woman in anyway. He is emotionally stunted and may very well have some severe personality disorder. Such as narcissist depression, bi-polar, narcissist/avoidant/borderline disorder). He is always all about himself. Something is always wrong with the woman and he doesn’t look at what is wrong in him. He is cheap, pessimistic and negative in his outlook and depression runs in his family of origin. Truth is, if anyone has never married and they are over 40, they are usually hiding something about themselves, have an inability to love and commitment or have personality disorders or all three and from my observances through many years, this man has all many defects both able to be seen and that he tries to hide from others as he tries to create a nice guy facade. “Hey nothing is wrong with me,  it’s the women.”

3. Why do you want a woman in your life, or do you really?

Men and women ‘should’ both bring positive influences to each other. I want to bring uplifting experiences to a woman, it ‘should’ be the same for her. I want to give love and receive it. Once again, if there is a healthy balance there, I think marriage would be great. I’ve been a very independent man. I don’t need a woman to make my life happy, I want one to ‘enhance’ it, as I would hope to hers. (This answer reveals it all… ‘politically correct BS’.  Wanting and doing are two different things.  Also this man has depression. He is negative and little about him is positive.)

4. Do you think after being single all of your life that you would find it difficult to adapt to being with a woman in a marriage?

Of course, some fundamental challenges like sharing the same space and becoming used to having another personality around would be the biggest. We are all creatures of habit, therefore, a period of adjustment involving each others daily routines would have to be addressed. A strong bond would make this period go smoothly rather than being a struggle. Small, quirky things would work themselves out as long as both are dedicated to the success of the marriage, that’s the easy part. (Easy? How would he know?) The honeymoon period would involve allowing for each others needs, their likes and dislikes, and making changes with respect and love. Sure, the daily interaction would be an adjustment at my age, but, that’s what the dating period is for: to see if it’s a good fit for both. (BS answer. He has revealed to me that he goes through times that he can’t stand being around people. He gets so depressed that he prefers being alone, so his answer here is politically correct lies including downright lying.)

5. Do you respect your mother?

Yes. She is a very caring person, was a wonderful wife, and an extremely hard worker during her career. She has her quirks like anyone else. (He has told me repeatedly that he hates his mother and his sister. He is jealous of how close they are and from what he says about his sister, he is jealous of her. She is married, successful and has two children. She is everything he is not. He gave this answer because he ‘knows’ having a ‘good’ relationship with his mother is the ‘politically correct’ thing to say. In my interaction with him during the years, I will say that he basically hates women and just uses them for an ego boost or to pass the time.)

6. What about a woman attracts you?

Emotional stability,(He often flips into deep depression. I have seen him throw tantrums when he was jealous of what another man has, or if he can’t get what he wants.)  financial independence, (He has financial issues, is cheap, and fearful.Any woman with him would have to support herself in all areas, financial and emotional) a confident attitude, a caring soul. (He is so insecure that he needed time to think about these answers.) A woman who is as comfortable in a bathing suit as she is in a Chanel dress. (Chanel ‘suit’… is that what he means?. He doesn’t even know what Chanel is. He said this to ‘appear’ sophisticated. He often dresses inappropriately and he wants a woman who is comfortable in Chanel.  I have never seen him in a properly worn suit and tie. This statement is laughable. What he wants is a woman who can buy these kind of clothes for herself. He takes a woman for burgers and to the movies. Where would she wear Chanel with this guy?)

A best friend as well as a lover. A big sense of humor. (He is usually droll, depressive and negative.) Someone who is relaxed and takes life as it comes. (He can’t handle the simplest of tasks as in picking up the correct thing at a grocery store. He is looking for someone to keep him lifted out of his depression. So, is this a man who would be there during some real life tragedy or trauma?)

7. What about a woman does not attract you?

Narcissism. Someone always thinking of herself before anyone else. A player. (He is the narcissist. Everything is always about him. All he ever thinks about is him self. He whines, He is depressed and negative. He plays at life and relationships. Example: He watches NIP/TUCK and identifies with Christian the playboy.) Confident women scare him. So, he calls them narcissists. It’s classic projection. He wants a woman who will put him first, like a mother would a child and will be there when he wants her to be. He cares little about what she would need or want).

8. What do you think that you have to offer a woman?

A warm heart, a trusting personality, ‘a giver of what he can’, (This is a big clue. Ladies, get it?) a good sense of humor. I am far from perfect, but as long as a woman respects me,( as long as she can’t see through his BS) I’ll do anything for her and do what I can to make her happy. (He has an ego as big as the world. So, he needs a woman to ‘make him’ feel good about himself and to continually fan his fragile ego.)

9. What do you want a woman to bring to your life?

To be a partner in every way, through the good times and bad. (He has never sustained a relationship through bad times. He has never sustained a relationship. At the first sign of stress, change, or trouble, he shuts down or runs or the woman leaves him because she realizes he will not be there for her but he expects complete attention to his issues.)

10. How do you think your life would change were you married?

I believe that finding the right person would positively enhance my life. I really want that bond and special friendship that comes with a terrific marriage. Too many couples allow other things to tear them apart, children, relatives, money, jealousy. I would want to keep my marriage strictly between my wife and I, not allowing anything or anyone to come between our personal relationship. Friends that share selflessly, lovers with a deep, respectful, passionate connection: that’s my idea of marriage. (This answer is all blah blah. He has no idea, but ‘tries’ to appear like an authority. He has no a ability to have this kind of relationship. He is emotionally fragile, weak and fake.)

This man re-connects with me after failed situations with women. He shares all that is wrong and how he ‘was’ going to marry them…blah blah. All BS, he will never marry. I told him this 14 years ago and 14 years later he is in the same place, only with a heart condition, overweight, depression, aging rapidly and only God knows what else? As I inquire about his relationships, I realize, they weren’t even anchored in reality. It’s like women date him between their real guys. My gut tells me that they all leave or break up with him.

This man doesn’t have the ability to connect and to endure the good, the bad, and the in between, in a long term, committed relationship. He rushes in, thinks this is it, then quickly pulls away, shuts down or the women dump him. He likes the rev up, but can’t, or doesn’t know how to sustain reality.

So, I wondered what makes a man remain single until 50-plus, while ‘claiming to want’ to be married. I wanted to investigate it  and be able to reveal more insights, but… as you can see…the man is a wall of BS. HAHAHA! But is this the real insight?

I have encountered several never married men and many playboys and they all share commonalities and traits very similar to this man.  Only this man is one of the worst concerning fear of commitment… never married, no kids, never even owned a house, except to redo and turn it for profit. After his mother died, he moved into her house. An isolated, dingy, depressing place, that looks like a grandma’s house and he is making it his own. He even drives the car that she drove.

For more insight into this type of man…

http://blog.womenexplode.com/2011/08/playboys-never-married-men-and-committment/ 

Love, relationships,  and marriage are messy, with up and downs, highs and lows. It takes self-evaluating and secure people to commit and to sustain a real relationship. And sure you need to be wise when choosing a mate, but if you never choose, or really ever commit….ummm…what does that say about you?…

So, from how this man answers, can you see who he is and what he is hiding from himself, what he is trying to hide from me and others, what he is afraid of, and what he is revealing with his trite, ‘politically correct’ answers? Have you interacted with similar men?

This man is now approaching 60 ,still never married, and still going from woman to woman… He rarely has photos of himself with these women or photos of the women. He told me none of them like photos. When it’s him that dislikes photos. He dislikes himself and has no ability to genuinely love another. I am wondering if  most of ‘his women’ aren’t all in his head.

(FYI…I have been married, divorced, had stepchildren, been deeply passionately in love and been hurt to my core and being around a man who has never risked for love, never really been committed is like being with an empty vessel of nothingness, a vapid void… They are always looking and never find. Always criticizing the women and even friend’s marriages. I got this man completely out of my life. I got tired of hearing his whining and knew none of my advice was being absorbed. It was a useless, empty interaction.)

Charity begins at home, not with the government…

???????????????????????????????If your neighbor is in need, would you rather take them a meal, or give them some cash, or would you rather have it filtered though some government agency that takes most of the money for ‘managing’ their bureaucracy, leaving what actually is given to be less?

Charity and giving begins at home, in the community, in the churches and in the goodness of person to person. We need no government ‘mandate’ to help others and no government agency to ‘manage’ it for us.

The government needs to butt out of our communities, our families and our lives.

Government agencies created to ‘give’, are ‘actually’ agencies created to ‘take’ money from the private sector for government use, to support itself, ‘government greed’, or to use as ‘they’ desire and to give to whom they want and choose.

Government agencies spend and waste more than they ‘actually give’.

Obama is trying to do away with charitable deductions. He wants to take one of the incentives away from private giving to have the government control everything.

Wouldn’t you like to choose who you give to and actually know who you give to and that they actually get it? The government takes away individual choice.

If a neighbor needs money for food, if you give the money, or food directly to them, you will know that they get it.

As far as the government goes, we know not where the money goes. It may very well go to Michelle Obama’s travels, or to some company that Obama is ‘gambling’ on like Solyndra or some other ‘green BS’.

Concerning American aid to foreign countries…many have dictators that for one example; build a palatial home, while the needy get nothing.

So, countries who are beneficaries of America’s money, have dictators that live extravagantly, while the needy starve.

And these dictators and rulers hide money in ‘foreign accounts’.

It’s a racket of dictator favors and dictators sucking and keeping benefits from the people for their extravagant lifestyles.

Consider all the American money given to Africa and it is still a third world country with wealthy dictators, intense crime, war, murder and poverty in the masses.

Government foundations and trusts of ‘charity’ and ‘giving’, are many times, just a way to take, funnel and filter money back to themselves and their causes…a little bit of good and a whole lot of something else.

Recall when Clinton and the elder Bush joined together to raise money for disaster relief? And oops! All the money was gone, no one could find it, who took it, or where it went… and this Ladies and Gentlemen, was giving prompted by two ex-presidents…

Money needs to stay in the private sector, so ‘we’ can choose who to give, or not give to, and to know that they ‘get’ what we are ‘giving’.

The more a government takes from the private sector in the ‘guise’ of giving and charity, the more corrupt the government becomes.

Inheritance taxes should be totally done away with. The money was taxed when it was earned, so to have it taxed again at death is double taxation. A person should be able to give their money, at their death, to whomever that they want, not have it taxed again by the government to distribute and use as they choose. It is
‘our’ money not the governments.

And America needs to pull out of the UN. It is going to implement taxes to take money from America to distribute to other countries as aid. Sounds nice… huh? Yeah right! Like that’s their real agenda…

Thoughts…