I asked for black olives, but I got...
While cooking dinner for a man that I had gone out with a few times, but had known for years, I called and asked that on his way over, he pick up a can of small black 'pitted' olives...
What he got was a jar of Greek olives...
"These are not what I asked for."
He cons. "But see, they're black."
"These are Greek olives and I am making an Italian dinner...remember, I said Italian?"
He inquires, "What does 'pitted' mean anyway?", with a blank look on his face.
Exasperated... "Without pits." Thinking this man is educated, not some backroad hillbilly, or is he? "Like what you have on a pizza, you know, black olives?"
He gets his usual pouty look on his face, plops down on the sofa and stares blankly at the TV.
I continue preparing dinner, as I state... "Okay, I'll run out and get a can of black olives." The store is minutes from my house... to which he replies. "Why do you even want some?"
Of course, I am thinking, 'Whoa, I ask for something. He brings me something entirely different then asks why I want what I want.'
I guess, he senses my displeasure. He motions me over and informs through pouting and tension. "I am not good at picking up things at the store. I dated a woman that was always sending me to the store when she was cooking and I could never please her, or get the right thing and she would get really angry. So how about in 'our relationship', if you don't ask me to pick things up for 'you'? You went to the store today, right, so why didn't 'you' get the olives?"
Anger wells up, as I think to myself, we are not in a relationship, Bubba. I reply. "Why couldn't you pick up what she asked for? What is wrong with you? Someone asks you to get something and you get it. I mean, big deal! People do this all the time. And yes, I went to the store, but I forgot the black olives. So what?! And what does, what another woman did, have to do with me? The store is two minutes away. Would you please exchange the Greek olives for what I asked for... a can of small, pitted, black olives...it's an ordinary thing...
"I couldn't find them. What I got is all I could find."
He goes back to staring blankly at the TV.
I continue, "I am making the effort to make dinner and you can't even pick up a can of black olives? What really is wrong with you?"
As I recall, most men and dinner guests usually have brought wine and flowers when I cook for them and are appreciative.
His reply with a shrug. "Cooking is no big deal."
My mind flashes to all the great meals that I cooked for this Bluto over the years, and how he stuffed his face on my cooking. Then my mind flashes to earlier today and my shopping several places for just the right ingredients...then the chopping and preparing. I say, "Cooking is no big deal? Really? So then, how about you leaving."
I kick him out of my house... as he stutters "But, but...duh...I was
just..."
I was so happy to see him go. Then I run out and pick up a can of pitted, black olives... took about 10 minutes. And later, I enjoy eating the 'no big deal' delicious spaghetti sauce over spinach pasta accompanied by red wine... all by my happy self.
I have known this man for years, we 'were' friends, but always after a few 'pleasant' dates, he tries to push into my life, while criticizing, degrading and whining. I think, I mostly felt sorry for him.
Something as simple as this 'black olive situation' is indicative of a person's character and tells you much about someone...
So, what does it say about this man?
(Clues, he has never been married. He is lazy. He doesn't like, or respect women, while wanting one so badly. He wants one to wait on him and care for him, like a mother would, while he puts her down. So, I am busy cooking, while his butt sits on my sofa staring at the TV and he tells me that what I am doing is no big deal.)
Okay, I don't want to hear that this is no big deal from some of you men ... because it is! His actions, disrespect and general disrgard for a woman is legend with this type of a 'clueless' man. Men that do not know how to interact with a woman in a respectful, caring and honorable way and when they can't, and when she calls him on it, they either put her down, or say that what she wants, or does is no big deal...
What would you have done in a similar situation and, of course, I want to hear from both men and women...
Because, I asked for black olives, but what I got was insulted...
Categories: Self-help, Dating
Tags: Italian dinner cooking immaturity disrespect black olives Greek olives insulting wine lazy
Jerk! Total Jerk! Glad you kicked him out! Cooking is not big deal? It's really big deal when someone goes to the trouble to prepare a meal and Ann I know how you cook. It is first class and fabulous!
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He told you that cooking was no big deal while you are cooking for him! Kick that Bozo to the curb! Just like you did! He's too lazy to get what the women asks for or he is passive aggressive and gets the wrong thing on purpose either conciously or not. Whatever it is this guy has deep issues. I would've kicked him out like you did.
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I would do just as you did. Kick him out!
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I was just wondering why you would prepare dinner for a man you obviously don't care for . . . curious.
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Lisa, good question.. we had been friends off and on for years and would reconnect every so often.. and will have fun for about two encounters.. I love to cook and it was a Winter's Day and I was in the mood to make Italian.. so I invited him.. and it showed me once again that this man is a clod.
After being around him for say two dates.. a dinner and movie we have then the is 'good' behavior desolves and he turns into the clod that he is.. I was just being nice.. as I look back I realize that I felt sorry for him on many levels.. but no more.. this man will never have me cook for him ever.. The funny thing is he continually tries to reenter my life.. he apologizes and says that he has changed.. which of course, he will never change and tries to re-enter my life..he's a completely clueless, rude, lazy and hasnt' a clue how he is observed by others.. I write these experiences for others to observe... you know how when you look back and think.. what as I thinking even spending two seconds with this person..
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You being what you are, I cannot imagine a man not caring. Hopefully you do not seek out scheisskopfen deliberately?
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All sorts of people enter a life then leave.. this man and I were only friends.. it is just an experience.. I attract lots of men.. and men ... well, many haven't a clue.. it's interesting watching them.. and I do have a good heart..
And this particular man claims to be in love with me and that he can't live without me... HAHAHAAH!
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I eventually had to block him from emailing me, etc...He's a sad and pathetic character..
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Yeah he is a sad and pathetic character. Ann you are not only gorgeous but intelligent, kind and a great cook. I have read your cooking blogs so for this idiot to treat you in this manner he is an ass hole a triple ass hole. If you were a friend he would never tell you that cooking is no big deal. Cooking is an art. It takes time and effort and not everyone can do it. How many men would love to have an invite from you. I bet many! Again what an asshole!
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Especially since you already recognize he was lazy in the past, and would not change (choosing the wrong type of olives meant he took the easy way/lazy way, and you already knew he tries to push into your life, while criticizing you. I wasted some time on men before like that but -the kind that just sat around waiting to be catered to... and it won't ever happen again. I've learned to say 'forget it'. And will again.
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I felt sorry for him..it's like the no god deed goes unpunished..
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I meant to write no 'good' deed goes unpunished...
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Excellent example of a total creep. Your take on him accurate of course. Self centered, doesn't like or appreciate women or friends and takes advantage of kindness. Better to be alone than with a man or freind like this. I can see that you are kind Ann. This website shows it all the time, caring kind intelligent and see right to what is real and what isn't. I give people the benefit of the doubt and I bet that is what you were doing with this nobody good for anybody. Glad you kicked him out. Maybe, he will learn something but doubt it. Love your site!
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any man that treats a woman like you like this is no man
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great post i liked it.. this guy is a thick headed dud
I'll bring you black olives or anything else you would like along with flowers, wine chocolate, etc.
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...the pits!! lol
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Wow, never cooked dinner for me! 8(
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This bloat has a gorgeous woman like Ann cook for him and he can't bring the right kind of olives. Then he sits his ass on the sofa and watches TV and tells her that cooking is no big deal. You should've done just what you did thow the bum outon his ear! Ann you should not be around a lowclass loser like this man. I see where you said that you felt sorry for him but help the homeless. A man like this does hate women. You got it right! You saw and did the right thing.
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Look at this woman she is beautiful and this man pitches this crap about olives. Dumb F
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Any guy knows you get the wrong thing then you go out and get the right thing. This guy sounds like a lazy bubba as you described not to add rude. Glad you kicked him out. If I was was invited to a beautiful woman's house and she was cooking for me I would bring her flowers, wine and whatever she requested. He lost out and you won.
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I can't stand to be around a whiner. Why cook for him unless dish soap is part of the recipe?
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He is a loser Ann,I would have told him that without the olives there is no dinner, offer him a PBJ sandwich and a galss of milk and send him home,lol
You are too good natured and good hearted
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I agree with the others what a bastard! He doesn't know how to treat a woman. You got rid of him and had a better time by yourself.
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I would've brought you the pitted black olives, wine flowers and chocolate. This guy is clueless and a clod and you rightfully called him Bubba. Had I gotten the wrong thing I would've gone out and got the what you needed. Duh!
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Ann you are a visible personification of an absolute perfection. I have been reading your site for months. Any man that is as stupid as this one was is not worth being a man.
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Good move getting rid of the unappreciative jerk Ann. Whether he'd ever been married or not.
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Personally, I think it's fun and a bonding experience to help in the kitchen. How about another glass of wine, dear? Grabbing stuff at the store is just a part of the whole thing. He's a dumbass. Previously married or not.
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I've heard stories like that several times. Usually about guys that had been waited on hand and foot by their ex-wives.
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Bad apple. He had the opportunity to turn a stupid thing into a funny thing. Fail.
Is he dealing with menopause? :~)
And stop on this never married thing. I've heard from more women than I should admit that the formerly married guys were the ones who expected to waited on. This guy sounds dumber than mud.
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....i realized that my eyes witnessed the best ever sight for the first time when I look at your photos
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Good riddance!
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This azzhole tells you that cooking is no big deal Ann!!! His head is up his butt. I agree GOOD RIDDANCE! And he doesn't know what a pitted black olive is. Is he well I won't get to mean but I would have done just as you did and probably what the other woman did. My boyfriend picks up things for me all the time helps me cook and cooks for me and would never say cooking is no big deal.
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IDK,,,i wouldn't have gotten so upset...you should have sent him back to the store. Had him NOT, come back until he had learned what "black olives" are. By then, you could have wasted his time,,,like he has obviously,and repeatedly,wasted yours.Upon returning,take black olives,
give him the brown bag,which you prepared for him while he was shopping.(bag contains a can of dog food).Send him on his way,informing him 1st. you packed a portion "he has coming" of the supper.Then return to sofa,and wine.Have a great evening,knowing you never need to suffer,, thru that again.
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HAHAHA! Diane.. okay.. I just kicked him out...
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Are you kidding me right now? I couldn’t even read the whole blog! What an a55! One of the reasons why I married my husband is because, he is the type of man who would have apologized and gone right back out to exchange the jar or get me new olives! I wouldn’t even have to ask!!! That man is a moron and what is worse is that he does not deserve you cooking dinner for him! Hit the road JACK! That would be my response.
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I calmed down and read the rest of the blog! Glad you kicked him out! :O) Never think about him or talk to him again...he is a loser!
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Arina, yes, he is a loser.. it was like bizarre as I think back .. the rudeness and arrogance of this guy..
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I could barely read it also Arina. What an embarrassment to mankind this jerk is. This guy is a total jerk. Why was he at your house for dinner in the first place? You are a knock out Ann and some sleaze talks like this to you and treat you this rudely. KICK HIM OUT FOR GOOD! I bet you did. If I pick you the wrong I take it back and get what she wanted. It's not a big deal!
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I know you see what this jerk is Ann. you are the kind of woman a man dreams about being with. This man is stupid, rude and well I will stop there. But it pisses me off to see class women treated like this.
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I'm happily married. For 26 years now. I've never heard my man utter that cooking is"no big deal". If I need him to bring something home for me from the store, he'll call from the store if he can't find it. This "friend" of yours was just as you said, an immature, whiney man-boy. I might have put up with a guy like this in my 20's, but I wouldn't have EVER wasted my time with him once I hit my 30's. Women need to wake up and start demanding more out of their relationships and the men they date. Men wouldn't do most of the things they do if women didn't let them get away with it. Not that you're to blame, but the women in this loser's past didn't ask for much and got exactly what they asked for.
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Ha! Men can be stupid, period. Not me though. Yeah, right. :~)
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The man's a schmuck, pure and simple...a blight on our gender. If black pitted olives is confusing subject matter...ask a CLERK? The truth is, he didn't care. You have him pegged, Ann. It's not thecluelessness...it's the care-lessness. I have had people like that in my life, and it does...it speaks volumes about who they really are. Good riddance.
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Exactly Duane..he's a lazy, self-serving clod and this is why he at almost 50 has never married.. no woman could stand being with him. He is like a child.... man/boy and this type of man is revolting.
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I hate going to the store to pick something up. I have the most difficult time finding stuff or choosing between something not exactly what she called it and what the label says.
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doesn't work at our house. i have to make a lot of return trips good think the market isn't far
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Having lived in Greece, I know the difference. a BIG difference.
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I would have done exactly as you did Ann only FASTER. KICK THIS CREEP OUT! Let him eat fast food or starve!
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its a good test, of the man's seriousness, commitment, and humility, you describe here. He failed.
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He's a failure at everything. I felt sorry for him and he wasn't worth my time or effort.
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The world does not teach those virtues to men. God does.
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True.. this guy voted for obama.. so that says lot... HAHAHA! anyway..
He is a liar like Obama and a circle-talker and a pagan..
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Liberal women are bad; liberal men are worse than the women...
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He's a lazy clod.. I had dinner with him once years ago.. and he cooked steak and baked potatoes and he had no salt and pepper and was too lazy to run get some.. He's just a clueless clod but thinks he's God's gift to women.. He's never married and aging fast..
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It is so easy to do it right that I wonder how anyone does it wrong? Or are clueless, self-absorbed men somehow more attractive?
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No.. nothing about this man is attractive.. he is nice and sweet at first.. he is just a friend..I was helping him stage a house when he cooked me dinner.. and I might add that he never paid me for my services..I shared this story for awareness.. I saw through to his character ... like I said, I felt sorry for him..
He's a nasty fellow on many many levels..
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Oh my gosh I wondered if he was a liberal when he pointed out that the Greek olives were black. That's just like a liberal talks and how Obama is deflecting and lies. NO see this is really that. lol how funny I mean this is really making me laugh when I read that I thought wonder if he's a liberal lol~! and he is! I agree with you Ann I wouldn't have lasted past hearing that other woman that he couldn't please. I ask like you what IS wrong with this guy? A big baby! Who need him
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Ann, I sure enjoy reading your blog and your ability to articulate about boorish man behavior and why we as women should see it for what it really is and thus illustrating why we shouldn't put up with them. I wish I would have had this wisdom given to me right out of the cage instead of having to live through years of disappointment first. Of course...school of hard knocks is the only way I usually learn. Keep up the fantastic work, Ann!
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thank you Brandy.. I figure by examples others can learn and become aware...Men like this need to learn or get out of the picture and women need to kick men like this to the curb.
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He would have been leaving my house on a stretcher
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I would have done exactly as you did. I married someone like your "Bluto" and your assessment is absolutely spot on. Lazy, Selfish, Self absorbed, and complete disregard for anyone and anything outside of their own needs and desires.
Recognising this does NOT make you a "man hater" or any other derogatory classification that people come up with when you point out their character flaws. You're simply someone who is just fed up with being taken advantage of.
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you can invite me in for dinner with you and i'll make sure you get a can of black olives. is this guy color blind or he just don't care about dinner?
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I need to tell or write down specifically for my husband when he gets things for me but he does it and if he gets the wrong thing he goes back and gets the right thing. This guy is a dud. A stupid ass! Go for you kicking him out without eating. He doesn't deserve to have a woman cook for him.
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When he tried to make you think that they were the right kind of olives by sayin see they are black it made my skin crawl. This man is a real ass hole! saying cooking is no big deal. My husband has single friends that would love to have a woman cook for them and when they have this they appreciate it. This guy deseves to be alone and is why he has never been married. I bet he can't give a woman what she wants in any way.
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My God this man is invited to your house for dinner and he can't bring a can of black olives! A beautiful woman asked him to dinner and he tells her that cooking is no big deal! He's insane. If he didn't want to be there why did he come and why did he bring the wrong kind of olives. This man is an idiot complete and final. Good that you kicked his sorry ass out!
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I love to cook and it is important to me I always buy my own ingredents so I'll do it my way. As the old Blue eyes sang it.
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I never show up empty handed and if it is something special I have to bring I will even if I have to go to serveral Food stores but it will be cause it is a big deal.And I would have brought you several choices in olives if I wasn't sure. This man was off his rocker.Rude and who needs him? Certainly not you,Ann!
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I am the same way Micheal.. I put so much effort into making things right .. so that is another reason that this was so offensive to me..
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You don't have to worry about it any more it is behind you now, Don't take shit from anyone show them the door. like you did. Life is to damn short to have to deal with loser lazy people and you are one great lady in all ways.
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I am a man and when my girlfriend asked me to pick something up I do it with out question. I read the labels to be sure its the right thing and if I don't see what she wants I call her on the cell phone to be sure. Now me and her have been together now for about 5 years and now live together and she cooks for me all the time and I tell her how good it was and love her cooking and thank her for doing so. I would say that this guy doesn't know how lucky he is to have a woman put forth the effort to make a dinner for him. If I was you I wouldn't cook for him anymore and see if he misses the cooking then. You had every right to be upset because he just didn't care what you wanted and for at least making a effort in getting you the right stuff. If I came there with the wrong olives I would appoligized of the mistake I made and went back to the store right then and got the right olives. No big deal. He just seem to create a big deal out of it.
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Wise man Jim. When you treat a lady right as should be, she will treat you the same in return.
He did create a big deal out of it. He is a big baby. Men/babies are not enjoyable to be around. I have even seen him throw fits. He has emotionally issues. I am glad he is out of my life.
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When someone cooks for you it is a blessing and a gift. This guy is not deserving. He doesn't know when he has a blessing. Good for you kicking him out.
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this guy is a worthless piece of you know what. A guy gets a lady what she asks for and this was a simple request.
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A man provides that is what he does. This man can't pick up the right olives. Never been married. Dump his sorry ass and never let him near you again.
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One word for this joker LOSER!
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Another word LAZY!
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ok i can see some one who does not cook or shop get the wrong olives. he should have made the effort to correct it when given the chance. when my woman cooks i cook with her and vise versa. the meal is much more than sitting down to eat. it... is sharing the experience of preparing the meal and making something special together. alot of men i know only work the grill but many of us in louisiana love working in the kitchen with the women. leads to dessert and other after dinner benefits.
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He did what? Then said what? Not worth the time this geek!
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Hey Ann this guy said that to you? I have eaten at your house many times and you are the best cook in the world and it is a big deal to be a good cook. Who is this guy? Do I know? I can't believe this? And he brought you the wrong olives! God! I bet you told him off. Creep! Love you!
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I would have brought the correct olives, or ran back out for them if I'd have brought the wrong ones. I would have helped you in the kitchen or set the table or something. Why were you friends with this lazy narcissist, anyway?
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Yes, he is a narcissist and interestingly he always calls others this. Looking back I felt sorry for him.
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dont blame ya for kicking him out but since you know him already why do you keep trying?
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I felt sorry for him.. known him a long time.. but no more.. this last go around and I will never see him again ever.. makes me sick thinking about him..
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Ha Ha! Love you, Ann. I was told that laundry was no big deal because the machines did all the work. I was asked if I knew how to clean out the dryer vent. Of course, not! The maid always did it.
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cooking comes from the heart,, also i never net any one who dont know what black olives are sliced or not if the things are whole and thats all you can find,, open the can take a knife and cut them uo in the can same result,, this man is a buffoon,,,
sorry typos
to me i might serve hime 1 lb of spaggetti with sasuce but with 18 ouces of minced garlic as a topping,, and tell him to piss off
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Agree Patrick a buffoon describes him perfectly..
and you have me laughing...
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good!!!
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some or many ppl just don't listen n concern themselves with details that may be important. listening and taking note of details show others that they are important and have value thos guy doesn't listen and he show you that you, what you want and what you do aren't important he is a loser and all about himself good that you kicked him out he is not good enought to eat your cooking you are wonderful he is nothing and he knows it
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LOL reading this and all the posts I am appalled at how dumb this guy was. I mean DUMBO! Ann, you are drop dead good looking, intelligent, funny, wise, have a beautiful smile, a drop dead body, dress cool, can cook and have many many talents So what are you even doing being around a dumb man like this? One that can't pick up things from a grocery store and even admits that he can't. Then I think about this dumb man. I bet you intimidate him to death. His behavior is like a child. It was funny reading this but kinda strange too. You and he could never be friends he is like brain dead or stunted in developmental skill or something. But hey, if you have the time and inclination to cook me dinner I will bring you anything that you want or better yet I would take you out to the restaurant of your choice. You are a rare find and any man would be honored to have you cook for him or to even be in your life. That man was like some neanderthal.
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then you have this good heart and kindness to even put up at all with a man like this, Wow! you are so great!
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This man if you can call him that is stupid on several levels. He gets the wrong thing, then doesn't go get the right thing. THEN he puts a woman that is cooking for him down. I read through the thread and agree with the person that said he is passive agresssive boy is he and Boy is more what he is. He sits on the sofa while you cook and marginalizes cooking. DUMB ASS!
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Too many never married older men, like Liberals, they need to be avoided. They're depressing, and generally unfixable. They do not know how to committ and care for another while wanting someone to cater to them.
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Could never understand why smart women put up with men like this. It's almost like you're picking up stray dogs in hope of providing them with a better life. I am continually preaching to my daughters to avoid men who are losers. If a man is unwilling to put you on a pedastal and treat you like you're special -- show him the door --immediately!!
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Agree Lou and why I wrote this as an example..
This man is definitely a loser...
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Amen! Ann this kind of man is exactly who we women need to kick out. Thank you for your efforts and revealing all that you do and you do it so well!
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You are very special... glow on girlfriend
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The guy is a lazy fool.
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That was very funny,you sure pick some weiners.
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Thank you for sharing your experiences Ann. I have meet men like this and they are takers and not good for anyone to be around. They whine and try to make you feel like you are asking for too much like this man did when he said look these are black. He was being a jerk and he knew it. I am glad that you kicked him out.
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I just wanted to tell You that I think You are one Very Beautiful Lady! Just to see Your smile brightened My whole day!
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Ann excellent story about an experience that reveals the character of a man that is lazy, passive agressive, demeaning, hates women and is an abuser.
Thank you for sharing.. I love your site!
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the guy is a lazy loser and a boor
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Men are who they are and this one is a jackass.
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Crikey, you gotta start hanging out with a better caliber of men!
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I think you handled his rude attitude beautifully. If I was cooking especially for a man and he told me that crap about how another woman had treated him, I would have quietly finished cooking his meal, then poured his freaking pasta in his lap and said, "I have this thing about men telling me cooking is no big deal".
I'm glad to hear you remained a lady and kicked him to the curb.
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Unbelievable!!! What a tool he is!!! You did the right thing sending him packing.
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this guy is a complete and utter jerk off
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If it had been me, I would have been doing the cooking and had a glass of wine for you. A man who cannot find black olives, surely will not find what is necessary in the dark.
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HAHA! Good point Jack. This man is too lazy and ineffective to be with a woman. He is looking for a mother.
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That is the LAST time that I would've cooked for him, too! This also irritates me, you make a good meal, and someone gets up and gets the ketchup, or ranch dressing. The only time that I've ever done that is to drown out the taste!
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Certain things show clearly and immeidately the character of a person.
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Ann, I love it when you share your experiences with men. THey are so accurate and show how cluelss some men are. It's like a mind field out there. This man is plain dumb. Who can't pick up a can ob black olives? He's not worth being around for any woman and why he has never married.
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Uhh, I do know what "pitted" means as I would think most guys do. But if he didnt know it isn't hard to ask. I would have asked her if there was anything else I could grab for her while I was there and tell her I couldn't wait to see what she was up to. A home cooked spaghetti dinner just for me? I would have brought the olives along with something special all wrapped up with a little bow for the cook. Then while she was slaving in the kitchen I would have at least "offered" to help as I put my arms around her waist from behind and whispered "mmmm what is that you are wearing?" After pigging out on her delicious cuisine I would have thanked her profusely for putting so much in to making it a great evening. And of course the next time I would be inviting her to my house to check out my hand at her favorite fare! Ha! I just heard somebody say.."Is that guy gay?" No. I just like spaghetti.
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This man is stupid and rude and does not deserve to be cooked for. He will never marry no woman would put up with his crap.
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Black olive are tasteless but I would have found them . I had to call a girlfriend from the store once for directions to the item she wanted me to bring . lol . Frustrating but worth it .
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It's not really about the item.. it's about the man not being able to bring a simple item.. then his behavior afterwards concerning his lack of ability...
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The olives you needed will be found in Italian specialty stores..oil-cured..Sicilian style..for the dish you were making..I always make sure that I am the one to make the first meal for a new friend..only to intimidate! You can bet your ass, that when invited to share their cooking, they will Not be asking you to pickup something for the recipe. I don't believe your story because you are too bright to be fooled by a fool that you described..but it was a fun read.
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Pasquel, HAHA! exactly and, of course, I saw that this guy is and was... but I was being kind..
Yes, he is a fool... and not someone to be around and certianly not to cook for... glad you enjoyed...
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You said it perfectly! That Child is lazy, Disrespectful to Women and he is looking for a Maid to take care of him. In other words.....He is a Loser!
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Sounds like someone needed a good spanking... or flogging.
Actually many men and women act inept so they will never be asked to do certain things.
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Agree Edie, he was trying to set you up and making it where you wouldn't depend on him to pick up anything. What a lazy clod. You saw through him. I bet that dumbo ends up alone.
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Unless he grows up. he should forget getting a Girl Friend and just get a Dog.. Imagine his fun Walking the Dog at all hours of the Day and Night!
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The man has never been married, had a child or cared for anyone in regard to responsiblity. He doesn't like pets. He's a loser.. and am really glad I will not ever see him again. He is highly immature, lazy and whiny.
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I think what you did was what I would have done. Toss his butt out the door! Good for you Ann!!
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If I were so fortunate to have you fix and invite me to dinner, and I brought the wrong Olives, I would have asked you what brand do you prefer, and I would have returned to the store and picked up what you asked for, and we would have laughed and shared good conversation and a great Italian Dinner. Your former friend sounds a lot like the Resident, does not care, does not listen, and full of himself, wouldn't know a good thing if it slapped him in the face. My highlight this year is when The resident got popped in the mouth Playing Basketball, or so they say.
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Ronald, who is the resident?
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i cannot bring myself to call him President, it is a respected position and I have none for Him, But I can see you might have been confused with the real meaning, of what I meant I hope this clarifies.
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Okay gotcha.. Good name for him. I just call him the jerk. This man voted for Obama and he is very much one of those dumb liberals. And yes, circle talking blaming and deflectong.
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LOL Ann you are such a great writer that I can visualize this fat man sitting on your sofa. Creep!
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I would always bring Black Olives.....Why? Because Italian Food and any Food tastes much better with Black Olives!
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he was a dickweed ,ya did right ,where is chivilry today , gone ,where are manners ?? gone ,where are brains gone the man is a fk up
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first of aliI want a man to stand beside me, not in front and not behind...if he cant get in and at least offer to do what has been asked then ta ta for now!!!nd of guy. forgive him and second, you did the right thing...He is typical of a lazy do nothing for his woman kk
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yea...I have this weird rating thing lol...guys like that would turn out to be the slob sitting in his tighty whities and a wife beater...stinking like a sweat hog, burpin and passin gas and tellin ya to get him a beer lol...I know it is weird but ya kinda just see it that way when you see some men lol
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Well, men like that disgust me.. I like the more elegant and sensitive type... this man and I could barely make it through one evening..shortly after saying hello, he begins to bore me.. I am a giver and want things to be nice.. so a man like this is the opposite of me and I don't want to be around him.
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I married that guy. I've learned not to ask him for anything, not to expect anything and not to give anything in return. It's dysfunctional, but it works.
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Well, if it works for you...
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Well, I wouldn't say it's a good thing. It's just the way it is, lol.
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I hope the article on my blog will be useful for you and we can share each other.
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You totally missed the point here as did most of your readers. You are giving way too much credit that a man is capable of 1.Finding his keys 2. Finding the store 3. Findining the correct olives 4. Finding your place and being on time. These things are not really important nor if the olives are black or green, pitted or not, Greek or Italian. Men just want something to put in their belly and go on to the next conquest. We don't even care if the food it is good or not.
If we get kicked to the curb there will still be hundreds of you gals calling us again to come over and asking us to pick something else up along the way. And we will, because we'regood at it - after-all we picked up you didn't we!
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No! You are totally incorrect.. men that think like you do are not worth the time of day.. Real woman kick you to the curb as I did this goof.. and pretty soon all that's left are woman you don't want if any women want you at all. Wait and see.
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Gag! Men like you and the guy Ann wrote about are losers and no one wants them but loser women. So have fun with the lowlies Alpha idiot!
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Men like you are losey in bed and out. If a guy is so stupid that he can't pick up the correct item at the store and bring flowers with it, he is a dog
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You sound like a slob, Alpha dork.
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Alpha pig men like you give us good guys a bad name. You are insecure and arrogant. I agree with Ann you will find that you have no one who can stand you at some point.
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Alan - Greg - and now Jim
You guys need to get a room somewhere and discuss your feminine feelings for each other!
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HA! Alpha, you're a real sick twist huh?
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Alpha male just referring to himself in this manner shows how lacking he is. A man gets what a woman asks for and appreciates her effort to cook for him. A selfish child doesn't appreciate anything. The way alpha male talks about women and men he doesn't have respect for anyone.
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You're kidding right. So you are just looking to stick your limp dick in whatever you can?
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Is this the man in the article that you wrote about? He sounds as dumb and rude. This man doesn't like or respect women.
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This man isn't a man, he's a little whiny boy and an abuser. He's lazy and dumb and doesn't know how to treat a woman. Men like this are stupid add to this that he has no manners. He will have trouble getting any self respecting woman. Like you did Ann they will kick him to the curb and that's where he belongs. Let him keep on looking for his momma, woman after woman until he ends up alone.
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