Ever had this happen???
You pine over the loss of some guy or gal in your life. You cry. You dream about them returning. You ache in the pain of the breakup and go over each and every detail of how it might've gone differently and you beat yourself up for your part in it...Then one day, you run into this person that hurt you so badly and that you miss so terribly and you wonder what you ever saw in him or her?
Never fails. Can you relate?
Sure have had this happen. And after I saw him and it meant nothing, I felt like a fool for wasting so much time over him.
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Yes, I can relate! 5 years after my divorce, I ran into my ex-husband. He hurt me very badly, so it was good to find out that I had NO feelings for him. I looked at him with disgust. Forgiven, but NOT forgotten!!
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Dana and LaRue.. it's amazing isn't it?
You can be so hurt and pine over someone then when you see them later there is not only no feelings for them, but you can wonder why you ever even cared for them. So anyone that is in this place of hunt and pain.. go through it and no while you are dreaming that they return to you. If they did you most probably wouldn' eve want them.
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Dang you're rigth
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Geez, what typos.. LOL
When you are in that place of hurt and pain realize that if they returned or you were with them again, there is a good chance that you wouldn't want them.
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I had this happen a few years back. I broke up with a man and was heart broken. I cried and cried and wished so badly that we could get back together. Then I ran into him at a restaurant and I felt nothing. He was with a plain looking girl and he had gained weight and looked unhappy.
I was with some girl friends and I was at a good place in my life. It was a strange feeling. He broke up with me. And I was slim, trim and happy and he looked miserable.
I relate totally. He taught me that if it didn't work out that it wasn't meant to be and what I can want in my life might be better that it is gone. I was a blessing that he left my life. And that night he kept looking over at me like he wanted me back. He was just great.
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I had this happen. A girl that I adored dumped me. I couldn't get her out of my head. Then I ran into her and for a second my heart pounded then we talked and it was nothing. I felt nothing. It was good to see her but I didn't have the same feelings for her. It helped me to get over her and to be open to meeting someone else.
I like this site Ann.
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hell i say move on and get something better
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I had a break up and was miserable and saw him and still love him and am still broken hearted. I wish that I didn't feel anything.
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I am sorry Lulu give it time.
I have had what Ann wrote about. I was so in love with this guy and he broke up with me and I cried my eyes out. Then about a year later he called me and asked me out. We went out and it was terrible. I couldn't wait to get home. I looked at him with new eyes and I did wonder what in the world I ever saw in him. So I relate, Ann.
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yeah this has happened to me several time so if they leave forget 'em
they were meant to be gone
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Not me, at least not the ache of the breakup. Normally, by the time the breakup happens for me, it's overdue. I'm ready to move on. I don't consider myself an insensitive heel, but I've never understood the pining over someone that doesn't want you. Get over it, get ready for the next phase, I say.
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Shawn, I think everyone is different and every break up different.. and the way one feels and handles things different.. and women sometimes, not always, seem to have more difficulty letting go.. or at least, women will more readily admit that they miss someone.. guys sometimes, seem to be able to close the door easier.
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Yep I have had this happen and when it does it makes me wonder where my taste buds were when I met him. Was I captured under some spell? What I temporarily insane? Goes to show ya need to stand back and really make sure what you are falling for.
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I think we all, at one time or another, have had this experience. One reason I think this happens is because many times people think the other person feels and thinks EXACTLY as they do. Consequently, one person is being misled, intentionally or unintentionally, and one person puts much more into the relationship than the other. We have a hard time recognizing this, and there is no defense since you're either all in or you're not...and when you've put it all out there only to have it handed back to you...you can't or won't believe that you could have been that wrong. So you're hurt on many levels, and its not until you rebuild the walls you tore down to let this happen, that you realize that the other person wasn't helping you build a new relationship at all, instead they were more concerned about tearing down your walls. When they've achieved this, they become bored and have to move on to tear down someone elses walls. The next time you see them, they are not the same person you saw the first time, in reality, they really never were the person you saw the first time, and you wonder what you ever saw in the first place.
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Agree ...it's like you were temporarily blinded or something..
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yeah I have had this happen before and it pissed me off the time I wasted wondering and upset and tormented I saw him again and he was a disgusting overweight man every wonder if when there is a break up that's it's the best thing that could happen?
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You made some good points there. I did a search on the topic and found most people will agree with your blog. Thanks!
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yes i have and very glad some of them never came back...
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