Single, or in a relationship LIVE! Create new experiences!
Ideas!If you find yourself constantly aware of wanting to be alone and hibernate, to play the hermit, to sit home alone and feel sorry for yourself, you are pushing yourself down into a depression, illness, or worse. Be proactive, and you can make it through the holidays without the darkness claiming your happiness! Choosing to dwell on the more depressing aspects of your life can be dangerous.
I won’t be a cheerleader here, because I’ve been there, and I know how the pep talks can irritate when you feel like “hiding.” If you’ll hear me out, think about making the following choices during the holidays. Everywhere you look, they’re “selling” family and relationships on TV, in movies, on the radio… how can you avoid feeling lonely?
I won’t be a cheerleader here, because I’ve been there, and I know how the pep talks can irritate when you feel like “hiding.” If you’ll hear me out, think about making the following choices during the holidays. Everywhere you look, they’re “selling” family and relationships on TV, in movies, on the radio… how can you avoid feeling lonely?
Don’t automatically say no. When friends ask you out, or over, or to a party, don’t say no immediately, and do not melodramatically claim that they are “only” doing it because they feel “sorry” for you. No matter what, why, or how, this is an opportunity to enjoy the company of others, to find something funny and laugh, or to meet new people, or find new interests. If you stop that knee jerk reaction of “No, I just want to go home and be alone” and say, “Thank you, I’ll come for a while,” you may end up having fun.
Stay away from “downers” – sad movies, morose “he dun me wrong” music, people that are negative. If your family of origin is a downer… plan a trip to see friends or loved ones that you enjoy over the holidays instead! Or do something fun and invite a friend.
If it winds up that you happen to spend one of those “family days” when you are “feeling” alone, you can plan a special dinner and movie for yourself, dress up, make YOUR favorite food or just have dessert! To fill time, you can make calls to others that you haven’t talked to in a while just to wish them “happy holidays,” and if all else fails, you can volunteer somewhere. Helping others is an amazing way to get your mind off your woes!
In fact, that is one suggestion that I absolutely think is great. If you get to a place where you’re spending all your free time depressed, or feeling sad about your situation, you can use my trick. If I’m too much in my own head and life, too self centered, I go and volunteer. There are hundreds of groups, programs, homes and hospitals that can always use some help… and that, my friends, will bring you back to the world of living, and help you move your life forward again!
Posted by Ann at 12/15/2010 1:11 AM 
Categories: Self-help
Tags: experiences depression party holidays fun volunteer lonely family proactive friends helping ideas
Categories: Self-help
Tags: experiences depression party holidays fun volunteer lonely family proactive friends helping ideas
Right on! It doesn't matter whether you are single or in a relationship, you should do what you want to do and have a great life!
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Great article again Ann. A trip to a coffee shop, or treat yourself to a visit to a place you always wanted to see. Stop by and visit some long lost coworker or other friends you haven't seen in ages.
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Ann, you always look like you are having so much fun! I bet you are fun to be around!
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Yeah you do. Your smile is the best! I would love to just have an evening with you talking. Great gal1
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Thank you. I usually do have a good time! Life is what you make it!
But I certainly have experienced depression and unhappiness.. The key is to wallow for a bit then do something to get yourself out of it. It serves no purpose to stay there too long!
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WISH I COULD FIND THE RIGHT ONE....I'M SO-READY TO SETTLE-DOWN....BUT FOR LOVE THIS TIME....NOT BECAUSE SOME GIRL LIES TO ME AND SAYS SHE'S PREGNANT!!!
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Geez! Sorry about that. But is is easy to find if a woman is really pregnant ot not. And how about waiting until marriage to have sex or YOU make sure of the birth control.
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BEEN THERE...DONE THAT...AND I HAVE THE TEE SHIRT TO PROVE IT....REALLY!!!
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Living life and being content in christ can help one to get through the depression they may be experiencing.
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Agree Sam.. spiritual connection really matters..
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Volunteering is a great way to help you realize how lucky you have it and to take you out of yourself especially this time of year.
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Sometimes it's better and more fun to be alone. Sometimes, you can be the loneliest in a relationship.
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Ann you are one beautiful woman, inside and out.
I am not a stalker, only an admirer from a far..
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After a quick review looks like it is a site with a lot of thought and work given to it. Good job, my friend.
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You are the same person whether you are single or married. Good article.
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Everyone ought to be happy just where they are in life. Things can change for better or worse in a flash!
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Hi, Thanks for sharing such a wonderful piece of information. I must say that while reading your post I found my thoughts in agreement with the topic that you have discussed, which happens very rare.
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Thanks for sharing this article.That's very interesting.
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